Why is my dad so negative about everything I do? What can I do to change this?
Q. I don't know what to do about my family. They constantly compare me to my sister and to other people not even related to us. I'm fine with being compared to people, that really doesn't bother me. However I've noticed my dad seems to like my sister's ...
A. 2 September 2011: Yeah being a parent is the toughest job on the face of this planet. I figure he's just trying to keep you focused and putting forth your best effort. You might want to let him know when he's hurt your feelings though.... (read in full...)
I need advice for dealing with my menopausal mother
Q. I need advice with my menopausical mother. She is in that stage and I try not bother her and just please her and go along without arguing. Sometimes she does things that are hurtful, for example I have spent 3 days painting all the flower pots ...
A. 31 August 2011: Do you have to live with her? Is your Dad around? Do you have any brothers or sisters?... (read in full...)
Why is my dad so negative about everything I do? What can I do to change this?
Q. I don't know what to do about my family. They constantly compare me to my sister and to other people not even related to us. I'm fine with being compared to people, that really doesn't bother me. However I've noticed my dad seems to like my sister's ...
A. 31 August 2011: I know when bosses give employees an evaluation there ALWAYS has to be someplace that has room for improvement. Your Dad is making the mistake of negative criticism without the positive incentive that should accompany it. But my question to you is ... (read in full...)
Are all woman like this? Or are some more faithful and genuine than my ex?
Q. I'm just wondering if I'm too trusting or maybe too innocent. I've only been involved in a relationships, on two separate occasions, each time with the same person. In each case she cheated on me with an ex boyfriend. In fact it turns out that s...
A. 31 August 2011: You've only been involved with one woman, correct? Nobody wants to get hurt so you aren't alone there Buddy. You really shouldn't be so jaded just yet. Keep looking, she's out there.... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to get fillings before he meets my mother
Q. How do I ask my boyfriend to please get his fillings back? It's two of his front teeth. He had told me he lost them again from very bad gritting of his teeth during sleep. He had always been very cautious with his mouth until I asked him. I told him ...
A. 31 August 2011: Fillings are for cavities, are you talking about extensive tooth replacement? Can be pretty costly, maybe he can't afford to have it done. Are you willing to help pay for it?... (read in full...)
How does one get over a past abusive relatonship?
Q. I have a question that is been bothering me lately and would love to get opinions on it. I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship about a year and a half ago.(To make the story short I was never good enough) even though people say i should ...
A. 31 August 2011: "Normal" is a relatively vast territory. Of course you are normal, you are just suffering from low self-esteem. Google it, there are all kinds of books and websites dealing with building self-esteem. One of the techniques will certainly work for ... (read in full...)
My ex moved in with his new girlfriend so quickly!
Q. Its so hard to explain how I really feel.. I just recently found out that my ex bf of five years, just moved in with his new gf.. We broke like a year and a half.. He's only been with with this girl a couple of months and he's already living with ...
A. 31 August 2011: You were right to break up with someone you couldn't trust, so pat yourself on your back for that decision. You would have been more miserable than you are now if you had stayed in that relationship. I know you are still hurting but you need to pull ... (read in full...)
Do I ask my co-worker if she wants to be left alone?
Q. I was just wondering how best, you ask a female work colleague if she would like to be left alone? Dont get me wrong, it is not like I am harrassing her, however lately sensed that on the occasions when I have tried to strike up a conversation, ie...
A. 31 August 2011: Hey you aren't the guy who is chasing after a married lady at work are you?... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 30 August 2011: Looks to me like you've made up your mind. Cut her loose and keep looking.... (read in full...)
My step son leaves everything to the last minute and leaves me to pick up the pieces, and my husband expects this of me too!
Q. I am extremely frusterated about something that keeps happening and I don't know what to do.. My step son always waits for the last minute to do everything then it is just expected that I will jump through hoops to take care of it. My husba...
A. 30 August 2011: They expect you to jump through hoops because you've been wearing springs on your feet. Sexless and Birdy are totally on the money, next crisis tell them you are going to the movies.... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still have feelings for me even though he has a girlfriend now?
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored ...
A. 30 August 2011: Hang in there Honey, your teenage years and all the drama will soon pass. We all survived.... (read in full...)
How can I show my boyfriend that his violence toward me is wrong?
Q. Dear Cupids, Please help! My boyfriend seems to think there is nothing wrong (technically) with pushing/shoving me and grabbing things out of my hands if he is angry. He also does this motion where he makes a fist and comes at me as though he will ...
A. 30 August 2011: I would just like to emphasize what the aunts are trying to convey to you. You can't tackle this issue because it isn't YOUR issue, it's his and once you leave him he will pull this crap on the next female in his life and the next one after her. It ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to brush me off or maybe she's playing hard to get?
Q. Hi everyone, I've written various questions of a theme about a married woman at work to whom I am very attracted, and her attempts to brush me off, ignore me etc (successfully i might add) I had a fairly off the wall thought in relation to this...
A. 29 August 2011: Whoa Buddy you really are sporting those rose-colored lenses aren't ya! Leave her alone before her husband stops by work and slips you a "convincer".... (read in full...)
Finding a unique name for a baby boy
Q. Dear all...hope you all are fit and fine. I needed you guys help. My sis has just given birth to a baby boy and we are looking for a sweet unique name starting with either A or S. Can you all please suggest some unique names....Thank you...
A. 29 August 2011: Safak... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and I've been harrasing her by e-mail
Q. Okay there is this teacher that I am like really obsessed with and I harass her lot on email sending her stuff saying I love her I'm not a lesbian or anything it's just every time I see her at school I just think she's everything. I know it's ...
A. 29 August 2011: Either she is unbelievably patient and tolerant or you aren't really sending her lots of emails. This behavior wouldn't be tolerated by anyone for very long let alone a student harassing their teacher. I think you are handing us a bunch of hooey.... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 29 August 2011: Any time a person has doubts, for any reason or about anything, they should never get married. Pure and simple.... (read in full...)
Squirting--I don't know what it is or how to do it
Q. I'm not sure this is the right place to ask this question but I'm desperate for an answer. My boyfriend keeps asking me if I've ever 'squirted' during an orgasm....he says he really wants me too but I don't know what this means or how to do it, any ...
A. 29 August 2011: Besides thinking this is now become one of the biggest non-issues in sexual relations thanks to porn, my only advice would be to go buy a squirt gun and tuck it under the sheets.... (read in full...)
What help is available to give us some support? My Step son is terrorising the family with his behavior.
Q. This is very long but there is no way to shorten it. I have been in this relationship with my GF for 3 1/2 years now. She has both a daughter (8yrs) and a son(11yrs). My relationship with the daughter couldn't be better. It's the step son. H...
A. 29 August 2011: There is no maybe about it, he definitely needs to get in therapy ASAP. The kid sounds totally out of control. Do him a favor as well as the rest of you and see that he get in treatment.... (read in full...)
It is normal to embrace having a phobia?
Q. I have just found that I suffer from a phobia known as Philophobia which is the fear of falling in love. Now I do not have all the side symptoms such as nausea, sweating and such but the problem here is I like having this phobia. I see all the time ...
A. 26 August 2011: If you are happy then you are there is nothing to change.... (read in full...)
Spring V Autumn. Does she like me? she's 19.
Q. There is this girl, she's 19 i'm 57. she always calls me sweetie when she sees me. The other day at the gas station she called out at me to get my attention. Does she like me or am i just thinking this?...
A. 26 August 2011: For crying out loud, get a grip. Everybody calls everybody "Sweetie" where I come from. She's just a friendly 19 YEAR OLD. Don't read anything more into it. And try your best to act your age, don't let yourself become that creepy old man. And just ... (read in full...)
I don't get it! Am I being unreasonable? He excludes me from parts of his life.
Q. Ive just ended my relationship with my boyfriend because we want different things but now im doubting my decision! Weve been together nearly a yr her 30 im 28 I have a daughter and he has a son. The thing is he doesnt want no more children and I do...
A. 26 August 2011: I would have done exactly the same thing if I were in your shoes. I don't think you were getting the fair end of the stick. If he comes around to your way of thinking and changes his behavior, well fine, but I wouldn't waste any more time on this ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship with someone, but in love with someone else,
Q. have a relationship question, i am in a relationship with someone, but in love with someone else, i dont want to hurt either people, so i stay in the relationship and this person is very clingy and reliant on me, i feel resentment and frustration ...
A. 26 August 2011: Do her a favor and end your relationship. She'll recover. Do it like removing a band aid, and be firm, don't leave her hanging to any false hopes. You are only postponing the inevitable. Good luck.... (read in full...)
It is normal to embrace having a phobia?
Q. I have just found that I suffer from a phobia known as Philophobia which is the fear of falling in love. Now I do not have all the side symptoms such as nausea, sweating and such but the problem here is I like having this phobia. I see all the time ...
A. 26 August 2011: You are who you are. I don't think anything will be crashing down on you. If you are happy why try to fix anything if it ain't broke? ... (read in full...)
Alarm bells are ringing. Is he making money or gambling away our relationship?
Q. just wanted to get people's opion on this to see if I am being completely irrational or whether I am right in asking my boyfriend not to gamble anymore... my boyfriend recently started "making money" on gambling websites. he uses free introductor...
A. 26 August 2011: My college roommate’s father was a professional gambler. Her life growing up was up and down and totally insecure. One day there was money and the next day none. She resented her father big time. Her mother finally divorced him and remarried a nice ... (read in full...)
Does he love me? Need to know. Will he leave his wife?
Q. I am sleeping with a married man who I have history with. He has other women in other towns as well. He says his wife doesn't sleep with him and treats him bad. He says he wants to leave her but he says she is crazy and probably would do something ...
A. 26 August 2011: Aren't you a little long in the tooth not to be able to figure this out for yourself? A wife AND other women? Jeeze Louise.... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with teacher...I want to know if he loves me back
Q. I'm 15 and this teacher is almost 40.But i think I love him.I'm going to be a Sophomore this fall,and I met him the fall of my freshman year,he was my science teacher for 2 sememsters.I have alot of emotional baggage in my life including my mother ...
A. 26 August 2011: Of course it's a crush and that's exactly why you are not thinking clearly at the moment. Mistaking concern for your well-being for LOVE is what most school girl crushes have in common. He doesn't love you romantically, he's just doing his job as a ... (read in full...)
Is my ex making a mistake by getting married to someone else?
Q. me and my ex were friends before we started dating.he broke up with his girlfriend cuz they didnt get along.we dated soon after and i got prego.too much stress happened and i left him.he decided i could stay gone and got back with her.we r finally ...
A. 26 August 2011: It's his life let him live it. Just make sure you allow your son to benefit from his father's attention and support. If you feel lost then get busy finding a life for yourself.... (read in full...)
I dreamed of having sex with fat men
Q. For two nights I dreamed of having sex with 2 different fat men. They were of average attraction and one a doctor and the other a celebrity. Both were of different race. Can you tell me what this means?...
A. 25 August 2011: You ate too much pizza before you went to bed?... (read in full...)
I've always had a crush on her. Why will she not consider me instead of her B/f?
Q. i love a girl very much but she doesnt love me she loves her boyfriend...i always had a crush on her...it all started a year ago...she used to tell me that she loves me but it was just to make me happy...she told that she will never love me...but i ...
A. 24 August 2011: Sorry Dude, but you are just a kid, try to relax and see how you feel when you aren't wet behind those ears.... (read in full...)
Why did my boss do that? Is it a sign of love?
Q. hi,im an accountant in a private company.my boss was four grades senior than me and he looked very appealing and warm all the time...its been 6 months I got my job there. yesterday my boss sent me a message asking me to come to his cabin..it wa...
A. 24 August 2011: Well looky what we have here...a troll with a "vergina".... (read in full...)
I feel trapped. What should I do? I've had a threesome and my husband does not know.
Q. Hi i'm 32 year old wife and a mom with a kid of 3 years old . I'm feeling confused and trapped with a dilemma all because of my mistakes. Almost 3 months before I met a nice and good looking girls who's 23 years at the gym. We had the same gym ins...
A. 24 August 2011: You are cheating on your husband whether you are having sex with a man or a woman. If you aren't willing to face the repercussion from cheating then knock this nonsense off immediately. But if you are willing to ruin your marriage then by all means ... (read in full...)
Is my penis size considered big, small or average?
Q. Hello all, im 19 and im basically a shut in and this is why im asking this because i cant ask no one else. its about my penis size i am not sure if its average or big my penis is 7inches with 6.9 girth.. is this considered big or averag...
A. 23 August 2011: Like I get to say so very often...A day without a penis size question is like a day without sunshine.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend complains when I eat his food!!!
Q. Hi. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years and we are about to buy a house togther. He is fronting all of the deposit and paying for most of the fees (around £20,000). However, sometimes when I go round to see him and want to eat his food...
A. 23 August 2011: Your feelings shouldn't be hurt, after all he's doing all the buying. Start chipping in for the food at least. Don't be Minnie the Moocher.... (read in full...)
Anyone understand the reasoning behind making high schoolers wake up so early?
Q. This really isn't a good dear cupid question but i have no where else to ask this. Does anyone know why they make high school students wake up so early as opposed to middle schoolers and elementary school students? In my school district, th...
A. 22 August 2011: So go to bed early, that's what I have to do.... (read in full...)
I want to try to be a vegetarian. Any advice?
Q. Hi. I'm considering becoming a vegetarian. There are many reasons behind this, but I need some advice. I'm an animal-lover and a bit of an environmentalist. I don't like our general lifestyle either. I know that people have always relied on meat a...
A. 22 August 2011: FYI for those people who call themselves "vegetarians":
tomatoes, cucumbers, squash, zucchinis, pumpkins, peppers, eggplant, tomatillos, christophene, okra, breadfruit and avocado, green beans, lentils, snow peas, soybean are actually fruits. So m... (read in full...)
I really want a Mexican guy to marry but I don't know if I can!
Q. Every day on Dearcupid, there are multiple posts from students in love with their teachers, and now the tables have turned. I'm from Florida, and a TEFL teacher in Mexico, and I have feelings for a student. Before you freak out, it's NOT...
A. 22 August 2011: Wow you need to make yourself an appointment with your doctor immediately. Have your health checked out and get a referral to another doctor for some therapy. You sound like you are slipping into severe depression or some kind of related psychosis. ... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 22 August 2011: My initial response was spot on. You aren't here for advice, you just want to try and justify bad behavior. So rant away my dear, you aren't going to find many in your court. When you decide to take the blinders off let me know.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a relationship with a much older man?
Q. An older man contacted me. He is older by a lot but likes me and wants to have a relationship. I like him but he is old! and i am waaaay younger. He wants me sexually but is it wrong to like someone with a 50 year difference? Is something wrong with ...
A. 22 August 2011: Is he rich?... (read in full...)
I cant get over the fact I'm not going to be her first kiss!
Q. I've never been kissed. My girlfriend has. We met in person, now long distance, it has been almost a year. She was kissed years ago, and it still makes her feel used to me. It hurts so bad, and I am so depressed. I've waited my whole life for h...
A. 18 August 2011: What the hell does "My whole family is vomit inducingly slutty, and some of my friends are too." mean? Is English a second language for you? Are you using some kind of speak and type application?... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 17 August 2011: ha ha ha ha I hope you feel better after your little rant. ... (read in full...)
I am virgin, but do not fit the description of most virgins.
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old, male, and still a virgin. With my ex-gf of 2.5 years, all we did was have oral sex countless times, almost every time we hung out. We never had sex because she didn't want too for some reason. But this isn't the problem. The ...
A. 17 August 2011: A lot of people you meet usually ask that question? I can see "Have you seen the newest Transformers movie?" or "How's your summer going?" even "Are you seeing anybody special these days?" but "So have you parked the beef bus yet?" not so much. ... (read in full...)
In love with guy who doesn't like me, or even respect me. What can I do?
Q. The guy I like was telling me and another girl who likes him about a girl that he really likes and she likes him back and they have history together or something because they were together for 3 days lol but she is proper stunning and I am seriously ...
A. 17 August 2011: Whoa, whatever you do, do not tell him how you feel about him. Instead put him on the back burner and start working on you. Your self-esteem is in the toilet, sweetheart. I'm sure you are being way too hard on yourself. Google "self-esteem", there ... (read in full...)
I cant get over the fact I'm not going to be her first kiss!
Q. I've never been kissed. My girlfriend has. We met in person, now long distance, it has been almost a year. She was kissed years ago, and it still makes her feel used to me. It hurts so bad, and I am so depressed. I've waited my whole life for h...
A. 17 August 2011: Like k-c said...More Info is needed. You cry every night over this??? Wow... (read in full...)
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