Is it possible to resign yourself to a life without love?
Q. I just want to say this and get it off my chest really. Comment if you wish. I'm getting on for fifty, and have been married for twenty years, most of them unhappily. My wife suffered from serious post-partum depression after our children were bor...
A. 12 October 2012: To answer the only two clear questions you asked: Yes I do think it's possible to resign yourself to a life without love but why do it? and Your wife is saying she's happy because she is most likely afraid of the unknown and/or of being lonely. ... (read in full...)
Is my ex trying to tell me he is gay but won't come right out and say it?
Q. This morning I received a text from my ex of a man giving another guy a blowjob and for one split second my mind went blank. I am saying to myself I have kids by this man and he turns around and sends me this picture of two men in a sexual act. I ...
A. 12 October 2012: Gay/Straight/Bi who cares, just as long as those child support checks keep rollin' in.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend really hurts me during sex
Q. My boyfriend hurts me when we have sex. I'm a small built girl and quite skinny and he's a whole lot heavier than me. He lies down ontop of me and puts all his weight on me. He grinds his chest into my boobs and literally drags my nipples down my ...
A. 12 October 2012: Boy Howdy you actually have allowed this to happen more than once????? And since I suspect the rest of your relationship is less than stellar I'd either use the door or show it to him.... (read in full...)
He changed his status to "In a Relationship" on Facebook. Does this mean I should move on now?
Q. Hi everyone. I am interested in some opinions on this subject. How much credibility should we give to what friends post on Facebook? For example, if your friend updates his status from "Single" to "In a Relationship" does this really...
A. 12 October 2012: You are just wasting precious time, listen to the Aunts and move on. Nothing here for you anyway.... (read in full...)
Does my college crush like me or was he just being a gentleman?
Q. Dear Cupid Aunties and Uncles, I have got a crush on a guy and I would like to know if you think I am correct to think he is not just being friendly. He is in all of my classes. If he sits next to me, we sit quite close together, almost tou...
A. 11 October 2012: I would like to weigh in on the "Likes You" side.... (read in full...)
What was my ex thinking when he wrote this message?
Q. Some background information about me: I'm 22. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me more than a year ago (yes, it's been a long time). There's a 17 year age difference between us and we were together for about 4 and a half years. We were happy toget...
A. 11 October 2012: I think you ARE hoping for a reconciliation. He made it very clear that your relationship is over. He was perhaps just too polite. Do not contact him again. Force yourself to keep moving in the opposite direction. You will get over this if you ... (read in full...)
How to stop my friend interfering in my relationship?
Q. My friend is starting to really tick me off! I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and though I wouldn't say I'm in love with him, I know I'm really crazy about him. He and I made a pact that we wouldn't just throw the "I Love You" around b...
A. 10 October 2012: Distance yourself for awhile, she is way too involved in your private business.... (read in full...)
I have never wishes to be unfaithful to her. But I think I have to leave as she's breaking my heart. I need your advice please, on what to do?
Q. I love my wife but I think I need to make a break as I'm worried that the way I feel could be damaging for both of us. For the past few years she has rejected me so often for sex that I stop making any moves towards her. I like to think I'm rom...
A. 9 October 2012: I agree with the little chick. Your wife has to know just how seriously the lack of intimacy is affecting your marriage. Make sure you explain it to her just as you have here. She has to know this is a deal-breaker. In my opinion, you have every ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to go about keeping in touch with a former teacher?
Q. For those who stayed in touch with their former teachers, how do you so (write, phone, meet up or go for coffee with them)? How often do you contact them? Are you on a first-name basis with them and did you ask for contact details or did they giv...
A. 8 October 2012: Do you have a crush on this teacher by any chance?... (read in full...)
My mother is being passive-aggressive because I'm finally moving out! How do I deal with her?
Q. Long story short, I'm finally moving out of my parents' house and couldn't be happier. It's been a long time coming. I'm finally getting serious about my future and a career after years of slacking off and procrastinating; and my dad is very sup...
A. 8 October 2012: She WILL get over it. Just go about your business when she starts acting all weird about your leaving. Are you the first birdie to fly?... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 6 October 2012: It must be a British thing because here in the US, married ladies go by both interchangeably. Most of my mail is addressed Ms. not Mrs. I apply the the Dr. Gara philosophy to it.... (read in full...)
How do you get approved for a sex change?
Q. I never felt as if I was a woman born in a male body however I have always wanted to be female. Can one get approved for a sex change operation based solely on the fact that one would rather be the other sex? ...
A. 5 October 2012: To get "approved" for a sex change you just need big bucks and a greedy doctor. For YOUR well-being you should talk to a qualified sex therapist to make sure you are truly ready for this permanent surgery and an equally qualified surgeon to perform ... (read in full...)
What would you do if you got home from work with a woman wanting to take control and knowing you will have a good night?
Q. okay Gentlemen this is for you? and I want an honest answer. I recently ordered handcuffs and a spanker for my lover and I to enjoy, I didn't realise it would come so soon. And I like the whole 50 shades of grey idea and my love does too! I sent...
A. 3 October 2012: This your FWB right? ... (read in full...)
My younger girlfriend suddenly left me and I cant get over it. What do I do?
Q. She is 27 and I am 44. We met at work and were together 5 years through good and tough times. Just as it seems everything is finally settling down, as we can finally move on together,she dumps me saying its not working, a week before she moves into ...
A. 3 October 2012: It's been 8 months, do you really want to live the rest of your life in somebody's back pocket? It always amazes me how people willingly waste the precious time they have on this planet.... (read in full...)
Is he using me? We never date, just have sex in the woods!
Q. Iv been seeing this guy for 2 months now and we meet up once a week, he seems nice but he never takes me out on a proper date. We only meet up for sex or heavy petting. He doesn't book a room up, we do it in the woods, Im feeling a bit used. He does ...
A. 3 October 2012: Really? You are in your 30's and have to ask this? Sheesh. Sex in the woods? Come on....... (read in full...)
I stripped down to my boxers on a webcam. Now I'm afraid I'm on a porn site!
Q. Hello, Please help me, I can't get this out of my mind. I guess I did something very stupid. About a year ago I went to a chatbox and chatted with a girl. We continued on msn-messenger and then she asked me if I wanted to use the webcam. I agreed...
A. 3 October 2012: Heckfire boy, you can see guys wearing only boxer shorts on TV commercials! I think the only thing that could possibly come out of this is an offer from Hanes or Fruit of the Loom.... (read in full...)
Planning to try new things in our sex life, but how can I feel more confident?
Q. So I posted about really liking my FWB and we have had an open chat about what we both want and we're going to stick with each other which has made me really happy. But now he wants to take things a lot further, not relationship, but more erotic ...
A. 3 October 2012: Also I suggest you read Stephen King's "Gerald's Game".... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to show anger like a normal person?
Q. My girlfriend never gets mad. She just never gets impatient or annoyed or frazzled or frustrated. It's come to the point when I just want to instigate fights to get a reaction out of her. I push her, and push and push, but she nevers gets angry. W...
A. 2 October 2012: Or putting gum in her hair?... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to show anger like a normal person?
Q. My girlfriend never gets mad. She just never gets impatient or annoyed or frazzled or frustrated. It's come to the point when I just want to instigate fights to get a reaction out of her. I push her, and push and push, but she nevers gets angry. W...
A. 2 October 2012: Have you tried water-boarding her? I hear that breaks people very effectively.... (read in full...)
Because of an open relationship I may lose my gf
Q. a year ago, i asked my gf for an open relationship. i really wanted to experience more sexually from different types of women. We had been together for three years before i asked her, and after five months she told me she would give a try, though s...
A. 2 October 2012: Yep, you've only yorself to blame for losing her. I'm afraid your deciding to try monogamy is just a little to late.... (read in full...)
Attracted to my fiancee's older brother.
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for almost three years now, and we have a 1 1/2 year old daughter together. I'm about to be 20, and he just turned 19 in August. We're going to get married here in the next month or so. Now, my problem is, I've...
A. 2 October 2012: Do not tell him about your crush on his brother. Do not act on your crush on his brother. Do not marry him until you only have eyes for him, not his brother. ... (read in full...)
Planning to try new things in our sex life, but how can I feel more confident?
Q. So I posted about really liking my FWB and we have had an open chat about what we both want and we're going to stick with each other which has made me really happy. But now he wants to take things a lot further, not relationship, but more erotic ...
A. 2 October 2012: At your tender young age, I'd be concerned about burn out. Also when you do meet a guy who wants a REAL relationship with you, will you tell him about all the whips and chains you've participated in with your fuck buddy? We get posts from guys who ... (read in full...)
Can blood tests detect an eating disorder?
Q. I haven't been eating properly and have been making myself sick for a few years now. I've recently had a blood test done at my doctors and i'm worried the blood test can detect eating disorders. I'd be way too embarrassed to discuss this with my ...
A. 1 October 2012: Depends on what they are testing for, but it can show abnormally low levels of certain key nutrients. I wonder if Karen Carpenter was embarrassed to talk to her doctor?... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? He only comes around when he wants sex!
Q. I am a heavy set woman that is very attractive and has had no problems finding ppl. But this one guy that I have been with only calls or comes around when he wants sex. How can I know if hes ashamed of me? Ive asked him over and over is he ashamed ...
A. 1 October 2012: I have a quick question...the place where you live, do you have a functioning door?... (read in full...)
Should I send the evidence of his cheating to his wife? I wasted a year of my life with him and want revenge....
Q. I met a guy on a dating site who told me he was seperated, he told me he loved me after 2 weeks, he then told me he was still with the wife and begged me not to finsh it with him, he left her the week after, we had been seeing each other for over a ...
A. 1 October 2012: She either can't or won't put a stop to his antics but I'll bet the farm she knows about them. You already said you were upset about the wasted time, so stop doing it.... (read in full...)
An overprotective mother, how can I get her to be reasonable?
Q. Hello. My question deals with an overprotective mother. I am 22, going on 23 in 3 months. I never dated in high school because of how she over reacts about boys. It was just easier to not date then to constantly argue with her. So yesterday, I ...
A. 1 October 2012: I totally agree with the advice to move out and get your own place. Your Mom needs to have those apron strings cut and she obviously isn't going to get out the scissors herself. Do what you have to do to make it happen. Your relationship with your ... (read in full...)
Does my ex still love me? Is my best friend right?
Q. okay so my ex and i have been broken up 6 months. oct 7 would have made it 2 years. we have a daughter he got married to a girl after being together a month and as from what i hear they have alot of problems, anyway when me and him were dating when ...
A. 1 October 2012: He's married, leave this alone. Other than dropping off and picking up your daughter, you should leave this alone. That is the classy way to do things. I repeat, he's married.... (read in full...)
Should I send the evidence of his cheating to his wife? I wasted a year of my life with him and want revenge....
Q. I met a guy on a dating site who told me he was seperated, he told me he loved me after 2 weeks, he then told me he was still with the wife and begged me not to finsh it with him, he left her the week after, we had been seeing each other for over a ...
A. 1 October 2012: The wife already knows. You'll get no revenge by sending her the emails. It will just be yet one more bad decision on your part. I wouldn't waste another second on the guy.... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 1 October 2012: Much Ado About Nothing if you ask me.... (read in full...)
I like my friend, I don't like his uncle tagging along
Q. Ok, so I have a male neighbor, younger than me, that I have been spending a lot of time with since I moved up the street 6 months ago. Before I became a neighbor, we were casual friends, as he brings his grandmother into the beauty shop where I ...
A. 28 September 2012: But we are talking about a very large age difference, right?... (read in full...)
I need a way of telling my boyfriend that I want exclusivity and a serious relationship without him feeling like he has to give up his freedom
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 5 weeks and one week ago we had a talk about where our relationship was going. He said he "cant commit" until college finishes up in one or so months because everything is so busy etc. and asked me what I would ...
A. 28 September 2012: Are you guys having sex?... (read in full...)
I like my friend, I don't like his uncle tagging along
Q. Ok, so I have a male neighbor, younger than me, that I have been spending a lot of time with since I moved up the street 6 months ago. Before I became a neighbor, we were casual friends, as he brings his grandmother into the beauty shop where I ...
A. 27 September 2012: How much younger than you is your friend? I think you've posted about this relationship not too long ago. This isn't a romantic relationship, right?... (read in full...)
I wish I had stopped her wedding but I didn't so how do I move on?
Q. looking for any advice about this situation. i have been friends with this girl since we were 8 years old, we have grown up together same schools and friendship groups. we got close at 15, seeing each other all the time, skyping and texting ever...
A. 26 September 2012: Sorry Buddy but this ship has set sail. You have no other option than to turn around and walk away. If you stick around and try to pretend stuff you will be just be postponing the inevitable. ... (read in full...)
My best friend and ex-boyfriend: inappropriate friendship?
Q. Hey Everyone, I found out some information last night that is bugging/hurting me and i just would like opinions here. I was with this guy for three months(who i still really like) and he had hung out with my best friend a few times i guess...
A. 26 September 2012: Okay he's your EX so there's that at the git go. Secondly you don't know whether anything happened between them anyway. SOOO you really shouldn't be borrowing trouble on this. Remember he's your ex and you only dated a very short time so no biggie.... (read in full...)
Why does he get an iPad? It's not fair!
Q. Today I came home from school and found my little brother with a brand-new iPad. I am so freakin jealous of him! My parents said its only "because he needs a certain app for social skills." (he has aspergers so he needs help) I still don't ...
A. 26 September 2012: Did you try stamping you foot and holding your breath until you turn blue?... (read in full...)
How to figure out men in their late 50's?
Q. I've been seeing someone in his late 50's and I have no idea what sort of mind games he is playing. Sometimes when I tell him I miss him, he would reply my text with a smile icon. Sometimes even though he read my "I miss you" text, he wouldn't reply ...
A. 26 September 2012: Who ya callin' cranky? I'm not cranky, sure my joints ache but I'm NOT CRANKY...okay maybe irritated, bitchy, and intolerant, but I'm NOT CRANKY..humph... (read in full...)
How to figure out men in their late 50's?
Q. I've been seeing someone in his late 50's and I have no idea what sort of mind games he is playing. Sometimes when I tell him I miss him, he would reply my text with a smile icon. Sometimes even though he read my "I miss you" text, he wouldn't reply ...
A. 26 September 2012: I hate texting, I'm simply too busy to be bothered. Why do you expect him to drop eveything to a simple text like "I miss you" maybe you are playing the games here, not him?... (read in full...)
I cant handle all this drama anymore, is this normal behaviour for a man?
Q. My boyfriend is interested in buying a second hand suit (not really a suit, but just for the story's sake we'll say it's a suit). I went to look at it with him. It seems nice. I have a seamstress whom I trust very much. I told my boyfriend that ...
A. 26 September 2012: Maybe he feels you are too controlling, too helpful. Let him plant his own vegetables, let him buy his own clothes, only help when you are asked to help and see how things go.... (read in full...)
My married lover has moved on to another girl and I am so hurt, what should I do now?
Q. I have been cheated by my married Lover, he has moved on to a "new girl"(another victim).he has completely removed me from his life,We both are in the same office, spend 8 hrs together, sitting besides each other, but we dont speak at all. he cut ...
A. 26 September 2012: Once again I must point out that YOU ARE NOT THE VICTIM, his wife is. You were an active participant in this mess, YOU caused this pain in your life, YOU and only YOU allowed this to happen. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and vow to never ... (read in full...)
Why did I mean nothing to him?
Q. I really don't understand this and I feel so hurt. I know i don't deserve this but I just want to understand why. This guy I've known a long time, hes always been odd with me, sometimes abit negative but people said he was shy. He had gfs and then...
A. 26 September 2012: You are wasting too much time dwelling on this. He IS a user. He also seems like a crappy friend. Move on my dear and try not to give him another thought, or you will be wasting even more time.... (read in full...)
Should I let go and move on or fight for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now. He is an Anglican while I am a Catholic. Met his parents on three occasions and they looked forward to having family lunch/dinner with me to also get to know me better and more. The problem is ...
A. 25 September 2012: Are you sure he isn't just using hie parents as an excuse to break up? I mean it really doesn't make much sense. Now I can see that STAYING with you might be a way to teach his parents a lesson but breaking up? I think he just found an easy way out ... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 28 August 2012: Must really clog up the court system over there!... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 28 August 2012: In Great Britain you have to LEGALLY change the prefix to your name from Mrs. to Ms.?... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 27 August 2012: Well for god's sake don't him move to North Carolina! Every female is called "Miss" down here! From 2 months to 90 years, you are Miss this and Miss that. He'd die from all the sexiness.... (read in full...)
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