Should I go out with this guy that is only asking to keep me happy, or date a guy and feel like I've betrayed the guy I'm seeing?
Q. I have a really sensitive issue - I've been seeing this guy that is completely commitment-phobic, he refuses to even consider dating me, but he's all over me, can't manage a single night without cuddling up in bed with me, it's not sex, it's ju...
A. 14 November 2012: Date the new guy, the other sounds like he has too many issues.... (read in full...)
How much do you normally spend on Christmas gifts for in laws and parents?
Q. I have a question regarding Christmas gift giving. How much do you typically spend on parents and in laws for Christmas? I can only really use my own family and my husbands family as examples and we do things pretty differently so I'm curious what ...
A. 13 November 2012: A thoughtfully purchased gift that cost $20 is worth much more than a gift card worth $50. I mean get into the SPIRIT of of season, girlfriend.... (read in full...)
Do guys really prefer girls with long hair?
Q. do guys really prefer girls with long hair? I have really long dark hair down to my waist, but most the time I leave it naturally curly/wavy because it looks nicer and has more texture. But the amount of guys who mention my hair on a night out is ...
A. 12 November 2012: These kinds of questions have no RIGHT answer so it really is moot. So by all means do what SVC suggests and wear your hair to please yourself.... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife
Q. I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife. She is too dependent on him for jobs and advice and see`s him as her best friend. Yes, granted, I think if there was any chance of getting him back she wouldnt waste a moment. I have told him my ...
A. 12 November 2012: It's not your place to tell her. If your boyfriend doesn't think she's a pest then you will just have to adapt. I don't think you have to worry about her motives though, he sounds pretty much done with her to me.... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 12 November 2012: I think you should start the divorce proceedings, that way your husband will know you mean what you say about never getting back together. As long as he thinks he still has a foot in the door he'll be a problem. I'm glad you have begun to feel the ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with my best friend's husband and I don't want it to end
Q. Last few months my best friend's husband and I have been sleeping together, last night he tells me he loves her and wants to break it off with me, I got mad and told him I don't want to end our relationship. What do I do? how do I keep him from ...
A. 8 November 2012: I'm a firm believer in duct tape. I use it all the time for all sorts of minor nuisances. Hopefully your bed has both a headboard AND a footboard. That will make the taping more secure. Get good quality duct tape and I guarantee, he won't be going ... (read in full...)
Are there any women or men who can tell me how their sex life has been after a hysterectomy?
Q. Im back.. I'll call this part 2. Are there any women or men who can tell me how their sex life has been after a hysterectomy? Women has your mate cheated? or men do you get your pleasure somewhere else? I have a sex partner over 10 years off an ...
A. 7 November 2012: I'd recommend you go get that "Sucker" tat removed from your forehead. Then, if I were you, I'd proceed to do whatever it takes to get my life and marriage straightened out. ... (read in full...)
Biological Clock?
Q. I can't stop thinking about having babies. I'm 25 and in a stable relationship - we are only together 6 months but we're very happy and know we're going to be together for good. That in itself sounds a bit crazy but I've had long relationships and ...
A. 7 November 2012: Why not just get a chest, you know like a "hope" chest, and just every so often buy a baby item and put it in the chest. I respect you for knowing that this isn't the right time to start your family, plenty of time for that down the road.... (read in full...)
Menopause Questions
Q. Does a woman in menopause orgasm? Does her sexdrive diminish during or after menopause? I'm at the age where women in my age bracket are menopausal and find it difficult to find women over 50 interested in sex. I'm a very attractable guy for 52 and ...
A. 7 November 2012: I started menopause at age 50 and am now 60 but still have an occasional hot flash, gotta love those on a humid 95 degree day! But in the bedroom it's been business as usual and I still get a kick out of the old man.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has dyed her hair and looks more European, how is this possible?
Q. This is probably a very unusual question that i'm sure nobody would think to ask or notice, especially a man. This girl that I have been seeing for quite a while is very beautiful. She's mixed race and has long black hair, it was obvious she was ...
A. 6 November 2012: Beats me. Is she happy with her new look?... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife's 22 year old niece that I want to be with her?
Q. For the past year or so I have dreampt of being with my wifes 22 yr old neice, Her and I spent a weekend together in July and the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife. Ironically, I do believe it came from her too as when she was ...
A. 6 November 2012: I just like the part where you say you are hoping for some comments...you must be a first timer to DC...heh heh... (read in full...)
Is serial dating a bad thing to do? There's no sex involved but is it wrong?
Q. I've asked a similar question before but I think people got the wrong end of the stick! Anyway. I split up with my boyfriend of seven months about a month ago, he really didn't treat me very well and I'd just had enough of him having tantrums all of ...
A. 5 November 2012: I agree with the idea that it will actually help you realize just what traits and characteristics you truly find attractive in a partner. As long as you don't hide the fact that you are playing the field and are honest with the guys then why not? ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone and have feelings for someone else?
Q. I have been in a relationship for three years now and i believe i still love him but im not sure. See he pays half the rent and im a full time student and mom and i been thinking lately that im just using him as a crutch. i really like someone else ...
A. 5 November 2012: Where is your son's father?... (read in full...)
Can I ask to spend a day with him WITHOUT his family?
Q. Question about boyfriends family and how to split the time. My boyfriend is in the military, and got a leave to come home this weekend. I had not seen him in 3 months. He arrived Friday evening and left again Sunday evening, so not much time. I...
A. 5 November 2012: Sorry chickie but I don't think you have much leverage here. His family has loved him all his life. As you say, you are a NEW component in his life so you will need to relax and and let things slowly develop. Some families are very close and I think ... (read in full...)
Financial situation with husband's kids, ex and myself is making me want to leave the marriage!
Q. My stepdaughter has been living with us for 4 months. She does not pay rent, clean house or buy food. She has a full time job but spends her money on wine, clothes and going out. That brings me to my problem. Her mom and dad have the wackiest ...
A. 5 November 2012: Best of luck to you, I expect you will not ever regret closing this chapter and will in the end find the happiness you so deserve. Definitely his loss.... (read in full...)
I'm married, he's married. I guess I'm stupid and need help in trying to end things
Q. I am a married woman having an affair with a married man that I have reconnected with from college. I am in love with him and he says he is in love with me, but seems to not want to commit to a timeframe for leaving his wife. His elderly father has ...
A. 3 November 2012: He's most likely quite content with his marriage except the wife doesn't like giving him blow jobs so he found someone who will...you. But know this, after he leaves you, he goes home and says "Hi sweetheart what's for dinner?" and nuzzles her neck ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my B/f in my parents' room and they got to know about it and are mad at me!
Q. Hi everyone, I need some help. Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for the past 4 months, we're both 17 and consenting so there really isnt a problem. But my parents found a condom wrapper on the floor of their room (the only double bed in the ...
A. 3 November 2012: Attach the letter to a new set of sheets, really, really nice ones.... (read in full...)
Financial situation with husband's kids, ex and myself is making me want to leave the marriage!
Q. My stepdaughter has been living with us for 4 months. She does not pay rent, clean house or buy food. She has a full time job but spends her money on wine, clothes and going out. That brings me to my problem. Her mom and dad have the wackiest ...
A. 3 November 2012: You are at the bottom of his priority list and so you will remain. It's entirely up to you if you want to stay there or move on and find someone who will put you at that number one spot. The view is much better from there, trust me.... (read in full...)
Financial situation with husband's kids, ex and myself is making me want to leave the marriage!
Q. My stepdaughter has been living with us for 4 months. She does not pay rent, clean house or buy food. She has a full time job but spends her money on wine, clothes and going out. That brings me to my problem. Her mom and dad have the wackiest ...
A. 2 November 2012: If he's just a boyfriend what's keeping you around? This situation is whacked. You are at the very bottom of this food chain.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to find others unattractive even if you find only one person attractive?
Q. I asked these kind of questions in many different ways but i could't get satisfying answers so i'm asking in an easier way to understand.believe me or not i only find my husband attractive and beautiful and my husband says he feels the same way. But ...
A. 1 November 2012: No offense but you must have a lot of time on your hands. This is a total non-issue to me. If you find your husband to be the only attractive man on the face of the earth and visa versa...what's the problem?... (read in full...)
I think I like a guy my friend used to date and had a recent break up with. Where do I go with this?
Q. Hey, I have this friend who i've only ever seen as a friend but recently i've started to think differently about him. I think he's pretty attractive but he makes me laugh all the time and ive started to think that maybe i do fancy him and am inter...
A. 31 October 2012: Yep, you better be prepared to lose your best friend if you make a move on the guy.... (read in full...)
What are your best survival tips to help you and your loved ones in a Super Storm like Sandy?
Q. to all the wonderful people in Dear Cupid affected by Super Storm Sandy my Good Wishes to you. Such natural events can have repercussions on family life, relationships, friendships and cause personal pain. Wherever you are, if you've missed fl...
A. 31 October 2012: I live on the coast of NC and we didn't have too much damage since Sandy stayed out to sea. New York/New Jersey are a mess though. We alway say down here that it's the price you pay to live in paradise.... (read in full...)
Vitamin supplements that could help improve my memory?
Q. Hey everyone, Just a heads up its not a relationship question,but they are so many wise people out here,so I thought I would reach out to you guys.. So I have a very very important and life changing exam in december,and I'm putting in a lot of work...
A. 29 October 2012: I live in America and I vaguely remember taking that stuff but I can't remember if it helped or not. One thing I do know for sure is that studying every day and the night before the exam make sure you get a good night's sleep and you'll do the best ... (read in full...)
If your 15 year old daughter had a boyfriend, how would you react?
Q. Okay, so i am 15, and i want to tell my mom about my boyfriend. If your daughter came to you and told you this, how would you react? How would you want to be told?...
A. 29 October 2012: My daughters where not allowed to date until age 16 and that was only on double dates. No single dates until 18 and then they made their own decisions.... (read in full...)
My lover just got engaged and I'm devastated!
Q. i love my lover a lot... more then everything but now he got engaged with someone else... so what should i do ? how can i forget him? in these days i am suffering from very bad condition i want to forget him now... plz help me soon......
A. 29 October 2012: Get busy and stay busy. Don't let yourself sit around a mope, just stay active and involved. Time is the physician here.... (read in full...)
Is it strange for a good looking 24 year old girl to be a virgin?
Q. is it strange for a 24 year old , good looking girl to be a virgin? Some of my friends laugh about it and have told their guy friends who then called me the virgin mary. I like the way I am and am proud, why do others think it strange?? They think i ...
A. 29 October 2012: If you REALLY are confident and proud of your virginity, then why would you give a rat's ass about their opinions anyway?... (read in full...)
Do I stay and hope he can contain his love of gambling? Or do I go?
Q. me and boyfriend have been together a year, we now live together and i love him very much. i have a daughter from a previous relationship who he is great with. the problem is he likes to gamble, hes currently awaiting his date to join the army, s...
A. 25 October 2012: My college roomate's Dad was a professional gambler. She said growing up it was feast or famine. One day they'd be rolling in the bucks and a week later the electricity would be cut off for non-payment. The ups and downs were too much for her mother ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises?
Q. Should I tell my Wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises? I was doing them a few years ago and stopped at her request. I finally decided that this is something I want, even if she doesn't want me to. I am small down there and she has had ...
A. 24 October 2012: As long as these "exercises" don't require a spotter or a personal trainer I don't see why she should care one way or another. Why not ask her why it matters to her if you pursue your body building?... (read in full...)
What are these sexual urges?
Q. Hi friends, I always have sexual urged every time I am alone, so to this extent, I lost my virginity to a prostitute and since then I haven't had sex again, but I only masturbate myself. What could have been the problem?? I would not mind girls ...
A. 24 October 2012: huh?... (read in full...)
Why do I keep on wanting what I can't have, namely: married men? Is there something wrong with me? What can I do?
Q. Why do I go for married men? Even though I know it never works! I really like this guy, who is quite a lot older than I am; and married! He confessed he had fallen for me, I tried to convince him he hadn't because he was married, but I knew that ...
A. 23 October 2012: Honor, integrity, and good self-esteem are traits that you appear to be lacking. However it looks like you have tons of selfishness, preoccupation with self, and refusal/inability to learn from previous mistakes. Anyway that's my best guess at ... (read in full...)
Can I stay close to my BF's family if we finish our affair? Life with my husband is not good. And My BF now has a new GF.
Q. I am married without children and i have a lover. we have been seeing each other for 4 years now and for the the first year we were only friends. I am not happy with my husband but i dont want to leave him as he is a handsome guy and it ends ther...
A. 23 October 2012: So you've been cheating on your husband for over half of your marriage? It may have been your first time but that was 4 long, full of cheating, years ago. And all you are worried about is your relationship with your ex-lover's FAMILY? Don't you ... (read in full...)
Was inviting him to a movie, as just a friend, the wrong thing to do? I have a crush on him. He does have a GF as well.
Q. Dear cupid, I really like this guy at my school, but he is a going out with a friend, of mine right. I reassured him that I don't mind being just friends and that I wouldn't dare interfere with his relationship because I care about him and I care a...
A. 23 October 2012: This was a bad idea for EVERYONE involved, you, him, and your supossed girlfriend. To correct your actions in the future all you have to do is to put yourself in other people's shoes first. And you are right, this is high school, trust me you will ... (read in full...)
14 going out with a 12 year old?
Q. hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and just yesterday, I was asked out by a 12 year old boy that I liked. I'm really scared that people will make judgements about the age difference and my mum fears I will get bullied for it. He is really sweet and caring ...
A. 23 October 2012: A 12 year old? Where are the parents these days? Sheesh.... (read in full...)
I'm so good looking, its annoying! How can I approach a guy for sex without getting into anything serious?
Q. I am good looking to the limit of annoyance, it caused me a great deal of trouble looking the way I do. I had major psychological issues because of my looks, I isolated my self thinking everyone interested in me because I am pretty I felt li...
A. 22 October 2012: I totally agree with our maverick. I don't see a problem either. When the next guy hits on you just be honest, say you are in it only for the sex and no strings. I think your dance card will fill up quick, fast, and in a hurry. However if you want ... (read in full...)
Our daughter has admitted she's marrying for money and we are very upset!
Q. I have issues with my daughter marrying. Not her partner, but her motivations for marrying him. Our daughter's 19, and her boyfriend's 22, she told us she's fairly wealthy - we had no idea when we met him, in fact he lives in a fairly normal...
A. 22 October 2012: The very wealthy know that if they are going to stay that way they must be very careful, especially when it comes to marriage. I'll bet his parents will be making sure the money is guarded. Have you met his family? Has your daughter?... (read in full...)
Can I stay close to my BF's family if we finish our affair? Life with my husband is not good. And My BF now has a new GF.
Q. I am married without children and i have a lover. we have been seeing each other for 4 years now and for the the first year we were only friends. I am not happy with my husband but i dont want to leave him as he is a handsome guy and it ends ther...
A. 22 October 2012: Just curious, how long were you married before you started cheating on your husband?... (read in full...)
He's perfect -- except that we can't have kids
Q. Ok - I have a slight issue... lol I really like older men - like REALLY like them. 3 previous relationships have always had a 20 year age gap. Is this normal?? Now I've started seeing a guy who is early 40's and he's everything I am looking...
A. 16 October 2012: If your relationship is "perfectly" happy then you wouldn't be asking this question. So now you just have to decide how important raising a child(ren) is to you. Many couples decide not to and many couples can't but they love each other and that's ... (read in full...)
I got too sexual with my flirty texts, now she doesn't want to know me.
Q. hi, I really like this beautiful young lady that goes to my church and she has told me that she likes me also .The problem that I have is we have been talking to each other and texting other for the 4 or 5 months and everything has ...
A. 15 October 2012: Just how old is this young lady? Very important detail.... (read in full...)
Messaged an old high school b/f and now can't get him out of my mind
Q. Hi, I got nostalgic and looked up and messaged an old high school boyfriend on a social networking site a couple of months ago. He was someone that I would have really liked to reconnect with but I did not get a reply from him. I have looked t...
A. 13 October 2012: My point was just to emphasize that you are just wasting you time, but if you are just asking an idle question then yes, it is quite possible to see a picture of an old high school boyfriend and have it illicit no real emotion other than a fleeting ... (read in full...)
Messaged an old high school b/f and now can't get him out of my mind
Q. Hi, I got nostalgic and looked up and messaged an old high school boyfriend on a social networking site a couple of months ago. He was someone that I would have really liked to reconnect with but I did not get a reply from him. I have looked t...
A. 12 October 2012: He's most likely is married with a passel of kids and doesn't have time for this nonsense. Get yourself busy and try to get your mind off it.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to resign yourself to a life without love?
Q. I just want to say this and get it off my chest really. Comment if you wish. I'm getting on for fifty, and have been married for twenty years, most of them unhappily. My wife suffered from serious post-partum depression after our children were bor...
A. 12 October 2012: To answer the only two clear questions you asked: Yes I do think it's possible to resign yourself to a life without love but why do it? and Your wife is saying she's happy because she is most likely afraid of the unknown and/or of being lonely. ... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: I hate it when that happens...... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: "I want to do right by everyone but I dont know how to thats why I keep posting"...that's just it. You can't always do right by EVERYBODY, but you CAN do right by your children and yourself. ... (read in full...)
He's mean and controlling and my children don't like him. Will he revert to the same monster again if we purchase a home together?
Q. I have posted on here so many times as I dont have anyone to talk to. What would you do in the following scenario? I am on the verge of buying a house with my second husband who I ended up having a seperate house from for the last 4 years as we had ...
A. 29 November 2011: "I want to do right by everyone but I dont know how to thats why I keep posting"...that's just it. You can't always do right by EVERYBODY, but you CAN do right by your children and yourself. ... (read in full...)
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