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writes:Hello,Please help me, I can't get this out of my mind.I guess I did something very stupid.About a year ago I went to a chatbox and chatted with a girl. We continued on msn-messenger and then she asked me if I wanted to use the webcam. I agreed. So we started webcams and she was in her underwear. I couldn't see her face. I stripped down to my boxers because at that time it was good fun. She saw my face at the start of the session. We chatted and then she took off het top and asked me to get naked. I didn't do that and she went offline. It didn't bother me the but after a while I read that it is possible to record webcams and blackmail or embarras people with the recordings. I am so scared I was recorded and put on a pornsite!I am searching the internet for recordings but I haven't found myself yet. I did not gave her my full name. I set up Google Alerts but until now it looks like I am safe. But still it keeps bothering me.I feel so dumb and ashamed. I am so scared that there is a recording out there of me in my boxers. I tried to contact the girl but she is offline. Please help me what to do....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Thanx a lot for your help!
I guess I am over-worried because I read some text about people who were recorded on webcam by criminals.
Maybe I was watching a pre-recorded video.... But I will try not to worry about it. If I was recorded and uploaded I guess it is really not that interesting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): I know a guy who did professional porn with the intention of it being put online, and he told me he can't even find the pictures now whilst knowing roughly where they should be. I think you'll be fine, man. Also, a dude in his boxers is not going to spread far on the Internet, no matter whether you did it on webcam where the odds of it being recorded were very low, or whether you did it as a model.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): Look, we all do dumb things. You're definitely safe, and you're worrying WAY too much. Just don't ever do it again, and you'll be fine. The whole webcam thing with a complete stranger is never a good idea, anyway. You don't know what their motives are, so it's best to just avoid them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill
haven't you seen the ads for underwear... men in tight boxer briefs...
it's over a year ago... it's not anywhere yet.
I think you can relax.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 October 2012):
 You're okay. You were in boxers. Porn sites usually involve genitalia and sex acts. Another thing that's in your favor is that it was a year ago, and she's likely deleted it by now. If you haven't heard anything by now, a year on the internet is like 10 years in real life.
Person12345 is right. It's a lot less likely for a girl to do it to a guy, because typically people assume that guys are exhibitionist by nature (trust me, I never figured out why guys strip naked and "waggle" at their wives/girlfriends in the first place!).
Just allow that feeling of embarrassment to keep you from repeating what you did, and you should be 100% safe. No one's going to think anything bad of you anyways even in the event of worst case scenario.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Why would she blackmail you by putting you on a porn site? She doesn't even know you or who you are AND she was in her underwear as well. Not just you. Not to mention it's pretty rare for women do to this to men. It happens, but pretty infrequently. Even more infrequently if you had your underwear on. I really don't think you need to worry.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Heckfire boy, you can see guys wearing only boxer shorts on TV commercials! I think the only thing that could possibly come out of this is an offer from Hanes or Fruit of the Loom.
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 I've been there but unfortunately i was black mailed with the video. I found out they had done it to a lot of girls. I was exactly like you got so paranoid thinking 'am i on a website' and when i got junk emails saying 'omg is this you?' i felt sick!But i learnt from my mistake and i guess you just can't keep yourself worrying over it. Some people may not even think to do that and she may not have put you on a website at the end of the day she went topless you still had your boxers on, i doubt it's going to be a porn website... please keep your mind at ease don't let this hold you back!! Live your life still but DON'T get into anything like that again because next time you may not be so lucky!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Don't do it again.
I doubt anyone would be interested in seeing a man stripping down to his boxers though. Online porn needs to be.. porn, in order for people to bother clicking it. And a guy stripping down to his boxers isn't porn. Hence I doubt anyone would have found it interesting enough to put online, and I really doubt anyone would bother looking at it even if it was put online. Not to kill your ego, but it's just not that interesting.
Guys aren't really what's popular to see online. Had you been a girl flashing her tits on the other hand, it'd be spread online like wildfire.
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