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female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 October 2012):
 It must be a British thing because here in the US, married ladies go by both interchangeably. Most of my mail is addressed Ms. not Mrs. I apply the the Dr. Gara philosophy to it.
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reader, Ms.Maureen  +, writes (6 October 2012):
Ms.Maureen is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello everyone,
This is not a foolish matter. It has been quite a big change to contemplate, and the number of items that have needed to be updated has been considerable, so there will definitely be no return to the old and boring Mrs. title. It is sexy Ms. Maureen on everything now.
Thank you for your interest.
Ms.Maureen.
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male
reader, Serpico +, writes (3 October 2012):
Sounds pretty foolish to me, but to each their own...
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 October 2012):
Much Ado About Nothing if you ask me.
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female
reader, Ms.Maureen +, writes (30 September 2012):
Ms.Maureen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone,
I am now legally Ms.Maureen, and gradually all my mail is coming addressed to ms.Maureen, and I love it. I travel under the name Ms. and book into hotels as Ms. I also love the attention it gets me.
Thank you all for your interest.
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female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 Besides, you can always change it back or to something else if you want.
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female
reader, Ciar +, writes (31 August 2012):
I don't know what you need input for. You're doing something you want to do. Something that is harmless and has zero impact on anyone else. You're not being coerced and the process seems pretty painless and straightforward to me.
I don't see a problem here.
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reader, Ms.Maureen +, writes (31 August 2012):
Ms.Maureen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy husband has now given me three copies of a legal Deed of Change of Name form. These require me to sign them in the presence of a witness, my old name Mrs.Maureen Hisname and also my new name Ms.Maureen Hisname. The witness also has to sign/date and address. The witness does not see the content, but merely witnesses my signatures.
I am hoping to do this sometime next week, and then it will be final, and EVERYTHING will legally have to be changed. This is not optional but compulsory by our Law.
I am not being pressurised in anyway by my husband, he has requested this, and I said that I would comply if that was what he really wanted me to do. Quite exciting really.
Any input from anyone would really be appreciated.
Thank you.
Ms.Maureen.
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female
reader, Lucky786 +, writes (28 August 2012):
 What's in a name?
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 August 2012):
Must really clog up the court system over there!
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female
reader, Ms.Maureen +, writes (28 August 2012):
Ms.Maureen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI will legally change my name from Mrs.Maureen Hisname to Ms.Maureen Hisname.
Thank you for your comments and interest.
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female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 August 2012):
 are you changing your prefix or will you legally change your name to MsMaureen...
there's something more going on here...
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 August 2012):
In Great Britain you have to LEGALLY change the prefix to your name from Mrs. to Ms.?
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reader, Ms.Maureen +, writes (28 August 2012):
Ms.Maureen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there all you have answered me.
Thank you so much, andI understand your concerns.
We have been very happily married for twenty years, and
are both very compatible and extremely happy together. I do not see any problems. It is a way to further spice things up a bit, and I am quite getting to like the idea of being Ms.Maureen. I think that I would sign a Deed of Change of Name to make it completely formal, but once done, I will never revert back.
Thank you all again.
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female
reader, Basschick  +, writes (28 August 2012):
 If you are married you shouldn't formally or legally change yourself to Ms. But when you go to the doctor's office, or other places you can refer to yourself as Ms Maureen. You didn't really say how long you've been married to him, so I wonder why now does he feel the need to push you into using Ms? A few other questions come to mind as well, i.e. if you are legally titled Ms. it's easier for him to appear "single". Hmmm, makes you wonder doesn't it?
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female
reader, Ciar +, writes (28 August 2012):
As long as it is something YOU want then you simply start using it. It's not an official/legal title so you don't have to apply for anything or file any paperwork.
I like 'Ms.' as well as it sounds a bit more mature, sophisticated and worldly somehow (to me anyway). When I hear 'Miss' I think of Little House on the Prairie.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): i'm with sageoldguy1465... sounds like he would only care if he was up to something. i don't see any other reason anyone would even think anything of it at all.
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 August 2012):
Well for god's sake don't him move to North Carolina! Every female is called "Miss" down here! From 2 months to 90 years, you are Miss this and Miss that. He'd die from all the sexiness.
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male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2012):
 Frankly, your hubby sounds a little like a JERK to me... and there's no reason for him to bring this subject up... UNLESS he has some ulterior motive.... AND I wouldn't expect that motive to be in your best interest...
RESIST....
Good luck...
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male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 August 2012):
I think that you can just start using it. But, to be honest, you should do what you want. If you want to be Mrs, then be Mrs. If you want to be Ms, be Ms.
It's your title, and your name.
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 August 2012):
 Say what?
Why would MS (as in unwed/old maid) be more sexy then Mrs *hislastname*? lol that just sounds weird.
Anyhow the Mrs/Ms is not a "official" legal title. You just use Ms from now on instead of Mrs.
I know here in the South the "title" Ms (first name) is used for elderly ladies and schoolteacher, not sure why. I think it's a sign of respect somehow.
Do as you please though.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2012):
just start using MS.
I personally hate the term Ms. and even though my fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks and I'll be using my "maiden name" as he's taking my name I still plan to go by MRS.. funny thing my fiance already calls me MRS....
you say your husband is very keen on it but you are ok with it.
he thinks MS. is sexy? in what way?
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reader, Inspiration! +, writes (27 August 2012):
Why would he want you to change your title to "Mistress"? Ask him why, besides sexy. But ultimately it won't affect you, so if you're happy to do it - then go for it! And to do it you would go to a registry office or phone them, and they send you paperwork. Its the same process as when you get married and change your name :-) xo
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