Have I done the right thing by asking this younger man to come over to my house?
Q. Having met a much younger man who I have no doubt is a JAck The Lad and am well aware BUT he looked at me several times in a fancying way. He e mailed me to say he has a short summer contract in the same area as where I live (a few miles away). ...
A. 21 June 2012: Agreed. As long as you can't be arrested for statutory rape, what have you got to lose?... (read in full...)
How do I tell the man I love the awful truth about my past?
Q. When I was 12, I found out that I was the unfortunate result of my mother's adultery. My "dad" was disappointed and extremely disturbed by it. Growing up I had always felt different and I was never given the love I felt my 2 half sisters were and it ...
A. 21 June 2012: You said yourself you need to seek professional help and we agree. You need to love yourself before you worry about whether someone else loves you. Baby steps.... (read in full...)
He liked me, but I realised my feelings for him too late and he has already given up on me!
Q. So theres this guy, who liked me for a whole year before I ever even took notice to him. I didnt really think anything of him, I didnt think he was ugly but I didnt fall head over heels for him either. (A little bit of info on me: Ive never re...
A. 21 June 2012: Sorry but I'm afraid you will just have to back off and see if somewhere down the line he decides to come back. If you try any further you will indeed look pathetic and needy. Get busy with your life and other friends and perhaps this terrible ... (read in full...)
Very frustrated with the men I am meeting, and to make it worse the one guy that I like has a girlfriend and is a lot younger than me!
Q. Oh, where to start? I am 54 years old, work 2 days in a beauty shop and 3 or 4 days as an in home health aide. I am struggling, even working 2 jobs. After going from couch to couch for 6 months last year, I finally saved enough to get my own tiny ...
A. 21 June 2012: Why not try something else? Instead of online dating site, go join a volunteer group, or community organization, or club that has an activity you enjoy? Those are great ways to meet people plus you stay busy and are "out there" and visible.... (read in full...)
How do I help my boyfriend overcome his dependence on Xanax?
Q. My boyfriend admitted that he has been taking un-prescribed xanax for about 6 months . He said began taking it because he has trouble sleeping. We've been getting into a lot of fights and I always thought it was because I did something wrong....
A. 21 June 2012: Xanax usually works just the opposite, lessens anger and anxiety. No matter, the issue is whether your boyfriend wants to get off the drug. There is nothing you can do for him if he doesn't. So does he?... (read in full...)
My husband always brings his daughter into our conversations, what should I do?
Q. I love my husband and my step-daughter. The problem I'm having is that when me and my husband get into adult conversations, he always feels the need to bring his daughter into the conversation to get her opinion, mainly when he is trying to prove ...
A. 21 June 2012: Is there a huge age difference between you and your husband? How old is the step-daughter?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is controlling! Help!
Q. my boyfriend is controlling! hi me and my boyfriend has been together for about 4months and so far so good/bad. he gives me a cut off time to talk to my guy friends. only at 6pm. he tells me when i may do anything. but when it comes to sex oh hes ...
A. 21 June 2012: Dump him and get out there and enjoy yourself. Don't waste your youth on some ball and chain boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Why do people always judge a book by its cover? I want women to see me for who I really am, not just how young I look!
Q. It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me. I'm 39 I'm a straight male with beautiful blue eyes, but I look a lot younger than my age I look to be about 16 ish maybe 20 tops I ...
A. 21 June 2012: "It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me."
Asked and answered. As far as the judging people by the way they look some people do some do not, just a fact of life, you need... (read in full...)
Have I done the right thing by asking this younger man to come over to my house?
Q. Having met a much younger man who I have no doubt is a JAck The Lad and am well aware BUT he looked at me several times in a fancying way. He e mailed me to say he has a short summer contract in the same area as where I live (a few miles away). ...
A. 21 June 2012: Just curious, what kind of age difference are we talking about here?... (read in full...)
Irrational fear of my boyfriend masturbating
Q. Over 2 years ago I was sexually assaulted. A few months later I met my current boyfriend. After maybe 6 months of us being together, I found that he had looked at porn. I dont know what happened in my brain but I totally lost it and honestly it ...
A. 21 June 2012: Do you ever masturbate?... (read in full...)
He is not looking for a relationship - should I go out with him anyway and hope it turns into something more? Could we end up as a happy couple?
Q. hi cupids I have this dilema and would like some advice were possible. I have over the past year had a crush on my bus driver ( I know pretty out there ) lol and one day I became a bit brave after a few dutch courage drinks and wrote my phone n...
A. 21 June 2012: As long as you keep sex out of picture I would meet up with him. See what happens. Stay sober and don't leave your drink unattended for a second. At your age you should be able to tell what his intentions are pretty fast.... (read in full...)
Why is he being so complimentary?
Q. the last two days ive worked with a guy i have worked with for over two years. it was so weird because i have really enjoyed working with him and this is whats weird, hes highly complimentary of me makes me feel really good about myself as i have ...
A. 20 June 2012: Sounds like he likes you but just be careful about dating someone you work closely with every day. If things go south it can be hell on wheels.... (read in full...)
We're fighting alot, starting college in the fall and I'm afraid he's going to find someone else
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to be starting college this August. We have been together for four months now.It seems like we are always fighting or I am always pissing him off. It seems like he only wants me for my body, although he claims this to be ...
A. 20 June 2012: Are you going to the same college?... (read in full...)
He is mormon, I'm not....but I really like him! Should I get involved? Is this a bad idea?
Q. To make a long story short, there is this guy that I met and I think I am starting to fall for him. I get a really emotional feeling every time we part ways after hanging out and I am starting to really care about him. The very very tricky part is ...
A. 20 June 2012: If you are having fun, you aren't wasting your time, especially at your age. If I were you I would enjoy my summer and just relax.... (read in full...)
My parents have banned me from sleeping with my boyfriend!
Q. hi, im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, my parents found out we was sleeping in the same bed and have now banned me from staying there, i wanted to know if they are aloud to do that?...
A. 19 June 2012: That's "allowed" not "aloud". If you are living under their roof you are living under their rules. And for crying out loud stay in school.... (read in full...)
I have to go to College but we want a baby together. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been best friends since middle school. I am 17 and about to start my senior year of high school. We want a baby but I have to go to college. What do I do?!?!?!...
A. 19 June 2012: First thing you should do is to make sure you don't live in North Carolina. Then you should listen to the aunts and uncles. Thank you.... (read in full...)
Dating/sex between super skinny guy and UK size 20/22 girl
Q. Hi, Please help - I'd really value some objective opinions! I joined an online dating site a few weeks ago and have since then met a lovely guy, who i have started going on a few dates with after exchanging emails and text messages. We've ...
A. 19 June 2012: Well thank you for the happy ending! We don't often get to hear how things turn out, especially when they turn out great. ... (read in full...)
I can't fall asleep without drinking alcohol
Q. i have a problem with alcohol and i can't stop, i feel i must drink it. every time i don't i can't fall asleep at all. i always drink to sleep or forget but i don't know what to do now. it has gotten somewhat bad for me and i need advice....
A. 14 June 2012: "its about the entire bottle of alcohol a little less" Are you talking pint or fifth or gallon? Where are you getting it from? Where are your parents? ... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 14 June 2012: "I guess I blamed her cause she knows he's married."
So does your husband know he's married?... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who just cares about you as a friend?
Q. how do u get over a guy that u really love, thats told u that the two of u could never be more then friends because u arent compatible enough? i dont want to lose his fruendship either. but i hurt when i c him. how long am i gaba hurt like this?...
A. 14 June 2012: Honey, I think you are beating a dead horse. He has told you how he views your relationship. I think you should take him at his word. But if you decide to still hang out with him be prepared to prolong your pain.... (read in full...)
How can I stop the need to cry anytime anything emotional happens?
Q. Hello everyone. So, I need some help with something. You see, my mother(step mother) believes that I do not love or appreciate her because when my dad said that she and him were getting hitched, I didn't really say much. Let me say that I th...
A. 13 June 2012: Partly it is your age. Your body is kinda whacked during your teenage years and mood swings can be gigantic. Lots of drama. Things will settle down in a few years and I think you won't need a box of tissue by your side 24/7.... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: One can only hope Em.... (read in full...)
How often do you phone your partner?
Q. how often do you call your partner? looking for answers from people who are in: 1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother) 2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's) 3 and live in relationships (living together) ...
A. 13 June 2012: My husband is retired but I still am working so I usually will call him during my lunch so as to catch him before his naptime...my day is coming ... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 13 June 2012: It screams married or attached to me. What does he say his status is?... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who just cares about you as a friend?
Q. how do u get over a guy that u really love, thats told u that the two of u could never be more then friends because u arent compatible enough? i dont want to lose his fruendship either. but i hurt when i c him. how long am i gaba hurt like this?...
A. 13 June 2012: Interesting, the friend zone is male specific? I disagree. Any person can view others as ONLY friend material not ever to be a romantic possibility.... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: Can I borrow those rose-colored glasses? They seem to be very powerful...... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who just cares about you as a friend?
Q. how do u get over a guy that u really love, thats told u that the two of u could never be more then friends because u arent compatible enough? i dont want to lose his fruendship either. but i hurt when i c him. how long am i gaba hurt like this?...
A. 13 June 2012: You would be wasting your time I'm afraid. He's made it very clear he only sees you as a friend. The friend zone is practically escape proof. ... (read in full...)
Can you like a person and yet have sex with someone else?
Q. this girl wants to have sex with me because she told me, she also told me she had been hinting at it before, this is just a no strings attached casual meeting for sex (i think/hope) seing as we both find each other attractive and know each other ...
A. 12 June 2012: I think she is a tease, I would take what she says with a grain of salt. I also would try to find a relationship first before thinking about the sex, not with her, but in general. ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who just cares about you as a friend?
Q. how do u get over a guy that u really love, thats told u that the two of u could never be more then friends because u arent compatible enough? i dont want to lose his fruendship either. but i hurt when i c him. how long am i gaba hurt like this?...
A. 12 June 2012: You'll most likely be hurting for a very long time if you try to stay friends with him. The only way I know of to get over unrequited love is to to avoid contact of any kind with the object of your affection. The out of sight out of mind principle ... (read in full...)
Why is sex such a problem for me?
Q. I tried having sex for the first time two years ago, however the guy couldn't seem to fit it in and gave up. A year later I tried again with someone else and the same thing happened, we had done a lot of foreplay first and when then when it came to ...
A. 11 June 2012: Some women are born with an industrial strength hyman. See your Gyno and see if he can take care of it for you. It's no big deal and you won't have to worry about again.... (read in full...)
Do you have to be physically attracted to someone to have sex with them?
Q. I think I worded a question wrong the other day, but what I really wanted to know is do men sleep with women that they aren't physically attracted to, especially more than once. I think my suggested question title got changed and people basicall...
A. 11 June 2012: Put a bag on her head and do it for Old Glory...Roll her in flour and find the wet spot...there's a million of them... (read in full...)
21 and want pay a prostitute to take my virginity. Is this illegal?
Q. I'm 21 and I want to lose my virginity soon, I don't want to drift into my mid-late 20's early 30's and still be a virgin. I am aware of the protection needed and please don't try and sell me any of the disneyland wait for the right girl and l...
A. 8 June 2012: You have a computer, google it.... (read in full...)
My fiancé calls me selfish? I'm so confused!
Q. Hi I need some advice. Me and my fiancé have been together for almost 2 years. We had a awesome relationship and sex life the first year. We were always doing things together and always thinking about each other. We have had a few hick ups lately ...
A. 7 June 2012: If you think you aren't her first priority NOW, just think what things may be like a couple of years after you marry each other. Do not go through with the marriage if you are still having these "hiccups"; and this sounds like a very serious case of ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for my b/f to get a divorce?
Q. I m in love with 41 bf, enstranged from his wife. My bf stays with 2 kids, since wife left. I m 41, divorced with 2 kids. He wants 2 get divorced and marry me. We are madly in love for 3 months. I caught him on site dating, which he admitted he has ...
A. 7 June 2012: First he isn't your boyfriend, he's somebody's husband at this point. Has he actually begun the divorce procedure or is he just telling you what he thinks you want to hear? If he has filed then you just wait until it is finalized. What country do ... (read in full...)
My friend is betraying my trust by telling my secrets to our other friends!
Q. Help!! One of My best friends keeps getting me to tell her secrets and then tells some of my other friends!! I feel like i can't trust her anymore but she is having a hard time right now (shes having counselling) and I don't want to talk to her ...
A. 6 June 2012: Stop telling her any secrets or at least stop telling her anything you don't want everybody else to know. Some people are terrible about keeping secrets.... (read in full...)
My friends broke up but still love each other! Do I help them or stay out of it?
Q. Guys, What do I do? I'm really good friends, like best of friends with a guy and a female who use to be a couple. They had been together for 9 years and they were just totally mad about each other. We use to do like the couples thing. Like nig...
A. 6 June 2012: If you want to remain friends with both of them then stay the heck out of this situation. Think Switzerland.... (read in full...)
I met a guy, and we hit it off. Does he have feelings for me, or is he just being friendly?
Q. I met this great guy at a private house show this past weekend. He actually is a member in the band that played. I immediately found him attractive but was sure he wouldn't see me the same way. As I was talking to two other females and one of the ...
A. 5 June 2012: This is one of those wait and see situations I'm afraid. Just try to relax and see what develops.... (read in full...)
G/f and I want to go away together but parents don't know about us. What excuse can we use?
Q. Hi, basically me and my gf are dating and we are deciding to go on holiday together for 5days. Our relationship is secret though and it's kinda like a romeo and Juliet story. No one knows. Now I want to take her away, but She needs an excuse to get ...
A. 5 June 2012: Book separate rooms and then just be upfront with the parents. If they know you aren't staying in the same room they shouldn't be too concerned. She's old enough to go on vacation wherever she wants and with whomever but this might smooth the waters ... (read in full...)
I just want an innocent relationship, but guys run when I say 'no sex'
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex... But I don't! I'm only 14. I'm an attractive girl, but every guy asks for sex anywhere I say no they run.. I just want an innocent relationship. I we can touch, and kiss but not sex.. How do I get a guy I be ohkay ...
A. 5 June 2012: I suggest you hold off on the boyfriend idea for awhile. Just hang out with your friends and have some fun, make those teenage memories for you to enjoy later in life. Sex and teenage boys...tis the nature of the beast, with only the odd exception.... (read in full...)
Dating/sex between super skinny guy and UK size 20/22 girl
Q. Hi, Please help - I'd really value some objective opinions! I joined an online dating site a few weeks ago and have since then met a lovely guy, who i have started going on a few dates with after exchanging emails and text messages. We've ...
A. 5 June 2012: If he coming back for a third date I would say you are worrying over nothing. He's obviously attracted to you. Try to relax and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
Would it be safe to ask for a Fwb relationship with the neighbor?
Q. Hi, I always have sexual urges to have sex with my neighbor. We're both 15, she's very cute and has a creamy complexion. We're classmates in elementary. And I know that she has a major crush on me. She flirts with me all the time but in the past ...
A. 5 June 2012: Whenever you feel one of those urges jump in the shower and turn it to "C".... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is paying for all of his ex's bills and I don't think its right
Q. Hello everyone! I need some advice on a situation. I’ve been dating this guy for 1 month but I’ve known him for 5 months. I always said I would never date a guy with kids and when I asked him in the beginning if he has kids, he said he’s doing a DNA ...
A. 5 June 2012: Well if you broke up with him today, then it's moot at this point. I think you are very wise about not dating a guy with kids, you obviously can't handle that senario.... (read in full...)
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