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anonymous
writes:I really don't understand this and I feel so hurt. I know i don't deserve this but I just want to understand why.This guy I've known a long time, hes always been odd with me, sometimes abit negative but people said he was shy. He had gfs and then 2 and half years later we started seeing each other and doing stuff. It ended, he ended it. He wanted someone else apprantly.Thing is we are still friends, but whenever the subject gets brought up, he gives me a different story each time. When we speak normally he says he just realised he didn't feel as strong as I did and thought it was best to end it before we couldn't return to friends, but when hes mad he always says I was just there at the time, we just had abit of fun. And he NEVER gets with a girl unless he feels something and wants them. Hes a very nice lad, christian and has never used anyone.Thing is apprantly the two gfs he had before me afew years ago meant something, even though one was a massive mistake. His last gf meant something and his current one means something. In other words he really likes them and wants to be with them. Yet I meant nothing?! I don't understand it. Why is this? Is this true or is it likely to hurt me? But why would it be? I don't know what to think.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 September 2012):
 You are wasting too much time dwelling on this. He IS a user. He also seems like a crappy friend. Move on my dear and try not to give him another thought, or you will be wasting even more time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2012): Basically the situation is the same, just said in different context.
He didn't feel as strongly for you as you did for him, he just used you because you were there. He had his needs filled, and called It off before you became TOO attached to the idea of a relationship with him.
I'd be weary about this friend because its not usual "Friend" behavior. I think he sees you as more of a "Friends with benefits" when it suits him, and he may expect similar from you again in the future.
Either that, or he used you for a rebound at the time.
He doesn't seem the nice type of guy not to use a girl that you described in your post.
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