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writes:So I posted about really liking my FWB and we have had an open chat about what we both want and we're going to stick with each other which has made me really happy. But now he wants to take things a lot further, not relationship, but more erotic like handcuffs, and being tied up! Omg I am dying inside cos this is so exciting yet really scary as well! Neither of us have done it but I am willing to do it with him and I trust him 100% and I have just ordered a few things, handcuffs, slapping thing and a blindfold. but i don't know if I can feel sexy enough, has anyone ever done this and how can I be more sexier and and feel confident. Thank you :)
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Ok, that's better then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCiar I said I'd take the role first meaning I would restrain him.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Also I suggest you read Stephen King's "Gerald's Game".
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reader, Ciar +, writes (3 October 2012):
Hang on a minute...you will take 'the role' first to prove your trust? You mean you will allow him to restrain you first to prove to him that you trust him?
That is NOT how it works, my dear. If he wants to play with handcuffs that badly, HE can be restrained first. Let him prove his trust to you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 October 2012):
At your tender young age, I'd be concerned about burn out. Also when you do meet a guy who wants a REAL relationship with you, will you tell him about all the whips and chains you've participated in with your fuck buddy? We get posts from guys who were very upset about their girlfriends' rather tame sexual histories, yours might be a deal breaker. I think FWB is a bunch of whooie to begin with but to add handcuffs, and "slapping things" is just nuts. However you really don't need to buy a blindfold, it appears to me you already are wearing one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHonestly I respect all your answers, I do completly trust him alot, and we already discussed everything, from emergencies, to stopping and things like that. I know I can trust him, it's not just me who is going to be restraint, cos I will take the role first to prove my trust as well ;). Thank you for your answers, And I can resure you I will be okay. :D
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reader, Ciar +, writes (2 October 2012):
Before I answer this question, how long have you know this friend with benefits and when did you become involved with him? How often do you see him and when you do, do you always have sex? How old is he? What, if any, experience does he claim to have in this area?
I do not recommend allowing ANYONE to restrain you and it's not just because of any potential threats that person may or may not pose, but how effective they would be in the event of an emergency, such as a fire, home invasion or medical emergency. How quickly could he get you out of the restraints and how likely would he be to risk his own safety to secure yours?
Some of these things are best left for someone with whom you are in a secure relationship with and have long term plans for the future.
I'm sure this answer isn't the enthusiastic endorsement you were hoping for, but I prefer to err on the side of caution when it comes to one's well being.
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reader, Agneta  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Wow, I wish I HAD! ;-)There are probably other aunts out there who can give better advice on how you feel more sexier and confident, but I got one thing that crossed my mind, which I wanted to say about this. If you go into more serious bondage things, you should be absolutely clear in between you two how to know if the other one wants to stop. And respect this in such a case! If there are any signs he might not listen carefully to your signals, get out of it.Other than that, have fun!
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