Poor Ratings Query
Q. Can anyone tell me why I have such poor ratings?? I thought I was giving good advice. Please answer....
A. 27 September 2006: My ratings suck big time but I'm still hangin' in here and enjoying myself.... (read in full...)
Why is my daughter acting in this way? We dont approve of her boyfriend, but that is no excuse.
Q. My daughter is 25 years old, she is a medical doctor recently graduated. She has been involved with this man for some time now, and did not say anything to her 2 sisters or her father nor me until early July this year she told her father and I about ...
A. 27 September 2006: Your daughter is an adult and deserves to be treated as such. If she didn't ask you for your approval or advice you should have kept quiet. Now all you can do is let her know you regret what you did or said then sit back and wait for her to cool ... (read in full...)
Is it a good sign or a bad sign that my ex finally answered the phone and spoke to me ?
Q. I posted a note on here a week ago about my bf/ex bf being so distant. He has been ignoring all my texts/phone calls for about a month now besides 2 texts he sent that were basically telling me he'd call me when he wanted to get back w/me and that I ...
A. 26 September 2006: All of it is a "bad sign". Let him move on with his life, problems and all. YOU need to move on with yours. There is no future for you here. You must accept it or he just might get a restraining order out against you. Give it up and good luck.... (read in full...)
I caught my 12 year old son masturbating. How should I handle this?
Q. i am a father of a twelve year old boy, and i saw him masturbating,and i blew up, what should i do?...
A. 26 September 2006: You must have a very bad memory. Apologise to the boy and tell him you'll knock next time. No harm done here if you address this right away.... (read in full...)
Husband is registered on various online dating agencies. Should I confront him?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 2 years. I know I shouldnt but I read his e-mails, I have found out that he has registered for various online dating agencies and is chatting to several different women! Should I confront him?...
A. 26 September 2006: You bet your booty you should talk to him! Best come up with a reason for reading his emails first though. Then lay down the law, gotta train these husbands from the get go! Good luck!... (read in full...)
what do guys like in girls..tall, slim, blonde or short, petite, curvy, brunette??
Q. hi... im a teenager and wanna know, y would teenage guys want a tall, thin blonde girl to go out with? Wouldnt they prefer someone who is shorter than them? Cos my boy mates all always say "oh theres this really fit girl, she's tall and ...
A. 26 September 2006: Teenage boys like any girl they can get their little hands on. Be careful 'cause they don't start shaping up until mid-twenties, just walking testosterone! God love 'em!... (read in full...)
Why do I keep getting pregnant to men I don't really love?
Q. I am 23 years old and have a 4 year old child. At the age of 17 I had an abortion and it was a really harrowing experience as I didn't tell anyone. Then earlier this year, I had another, but this time felt able to tell family and friends, although ...
A. 26 September 2006: Birth control definitely, but maybe in your case a tubal ligation would be in order. ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel that white women are more beautiful than black women like me? Do I need professional help?
Q. i am a single black woman and i have issues with beautiful women. my self image was destroyed a while back and now when i see that black women are not as beautiful as white women so basically what im saying is what could be wrong with me or do i ...
A. 26 September 2006: I think you would find great relief in talking with a professional. Self-esteem can be built up but it is a slow process, a good therapist may help to speed things along. Good luck, you deserve to be comfortable recognizing your own beauty.... (read in full...)
He has a great personality but I don't like his looks! Physical attractions means a lot....right??
Q. hi, i met this guy on myspace and we have been on a date! i love everything about his personality and we get on well! its just his appearance, i'm not attracted to him! i'v kinda turned him down because i dont find him attractive, it may seem ...
A. 22 September 2006: I never found Donald Sutherland to be ugly ;)... (read in full...)
Its all about her and what she wants, but I cant end it or I will look silly to others!
Q. I am trapped in the marriage that I never ever thought will turn out to be like this (just married 6 months). Basically the core of the problem are many, among them is that she is so obsessive about money, she sees everything as money, lives and...
A. 20 September 2006: You received excellent responses to this problem when you posted on Sept. 12th. Maybe you are just venting and not really looking for advice???... (read in full...)
I need ideas on how to keep my jealousy under control!
Q. Hi there, I'm hoping you can help me out here! I'm in a 9-months-and-counting long-distance relationship with a girl quite a bit younger than me. By long distance I mean, an hour drive and I only get to see her on weekends (this is very hard on ...
A. 20 September 2006: I really don't think your girlfriend has anything to do with the problem. If you broke up with her you will still have a problem in the next relationship. You need to get some therapy to improve your self-esteem and anger management. A little ... (read in full...)
He's my boss, he's married and i love him
Q. i am 23 years old girl in love with my boss. He is married and has 2 kids. He's ready to leave his family for me. We are so much in love that we want to be together as soon as possible. We kissed each other passionately and that resulted in sex. Now ...
A. 19 September 2006: I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for him to leave his family if I were you. Unless blue looks very good on you.... (read in full...)
My bf has to marry his ex gf because he got her pregnant. It's tearing me apart!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend early this year, but we have known eachother all our lives. He breaks up with me because he has a moral duty to an ex girlfriend he got pregnant. He now has to marry her. My boyfriend comes from a strict christian...
A. 18 September 2006: He as financial obligations to the mother but he doesn't have to marry her. In the Bible God commands the man to love his wife like Christ loves the church and commands the woman to respect her husband. If he can't/doesn't love her that much then he ... (read in full...)
We're both married to other people but we are unable to let each other know how much we like each other. How do we do this?
Q. HI ALL I AM WORKING IN A COMPANY, I AM MARRIED ALSO, I LIKE ONE OF MY LADY COLLEGUE, SHE IS ALSO MARRIED. SHE LIKES ME AND TALK WITH ME ETC. BUT BOTH OF US UNABLE TO TRANFER OUR WISHES OR MIND.. SO HOW CAN I DO IT...
A. 18 September 2006: Geees Louise, man. Grow up. If you are so unhappy in your marriage then do something about it. Don't start muddying the water and acting like a randy goat. Either pee or get off the pot. Fix it or divorce. ... (read in full...)
We've talked on the phone for 18 months...but he doesn't want to me me! What's wrong?
Q. My boyfriend and I have talked on the phone for 18 months;he says he loves me but doesn't want to meet?...
A. 14 September 2006: married...Married...MARRIED... (read in full...)
Can a man be in love with his mistress and wife at the same time???
Q. Can a man be in love with his mistress and his wife at the same time? But is torn between the two....
A. 12 September 2006: I agree with Lostandalone, lust and love are being confused. Love involves respect, this guy apparently doesn't respect either woman. So no matter which one you are, you deserve so much better.... (read in full...)
She takes prozac but I don't want to give up on her...
Q. does anybody have any experience of having a girlfreind who has/is taking prozac. how does this effect the relationship. The reason i am asking is that there is this young lady who i have been trying to get her to be my girlfreind at various times ...
A. 12 September 2006: My husband has been taking Prozac for years. It takes the edge of his mild depression and OCD. It's no biggie. Really you act like she's hook on heroin or something, sheesh!... (read in full...)
Why are guys afraid to date virgins???
Q. Why are guys afraid to date virgins? What's your view on this?...
A. 12 September 2006: Whose Afraid of Virgin Wolfe? Sorry couldn't help it...... (read in full...)
Would it be silly to leave my husband over his use of porn ?
Q. Is it silly to leave my husband over porn? I feel a bit foolish but cant accept the fact he enjoys looking at other womens bodies. I feel like I am a beautiful woman so why should he want to see any other female naked. It hurts my pride and I th...
A. 12 September 2006: You have obviously made up your mind already so why are you asking us whether you should leave?... (read in full...)
My male friend is gay, we had sex, now im pregnant!
Q. I have been in love with a male friend for a long time, but he's gay. I intentionally got him drunk and seduced him. Even though we had really great sex, he said that he still prefers men. I just found out I'm pregnant with his child. Part of me ...
A. 12 September 2006: I tried writing a supportive response a couple times but just couldn't do it. You should be strung up for the horrible thing you have done. Sorry but when people do stupid, mean things intentionally it makes me so angry, especially when it involves ... (read in full...)
His ex wont allow their children anywhere near me, this is heartbreaking for me and my partner!
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 12 months and my boyfriends ex will not let me have anything to do with his two children. I understand that she feels we may have moved too quickly as they had only been separated for no more than 7 months but ...
A. 12 September 2006: You say you've been in the relationship for over 12 months but he has only been separated from his wife 7 months? He started the divorce proceeding before he moved out and before he met you? ... (read in full...)
Desperate to get my wife to care about me, and to put us first, I am so miserable and not the man I was!!!
Q. Hi, I just need help because I feel so let down in this marriage which has become all about my wife and her needs and her requests, etc. I came here before for advice and it has been very helpful. This is just a very brief idea of what is going ...
A. 12 September 2006: Gee whiz, are you a man or a mouse? It's only been 6 months into the marriage and you are whining and miserable. What do YOU think you should do about it? I think it's just too obvious. Unless you enjoy the misery GET MOVING. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My partner eldest refuses to like me, and now wont see his dad because of it, what to do ?
Q. I get on exceptionally with my partner's children except the eldest son, mind you I have treated him exactly the same way as I have treated all my partners children. It has now gotten to the point where he refuses to have anything to do w...
A. 11 September 2006: Is there some reason you don't want your partner to visit his son without you? Couldn't you go shopping or to the movies while he sees his grandkids? You aren't going to make any headway with this son, at least not for near future. Why can't your ... (read in full...)
I think our marriage is over, but this petrifies me, what can I do when she wont talk to me ?
Q. Hi all, I'm miserable at the moment and wondered if some of you could help me. I'm wondering if my situation is beyond repair or not. Can't say I know which way I'd rather it comes out. It does feel like my relationship with my wife is ove...
A. 11 September 2006: It may hurt financially but what price is happiness? Start your separation immediately. If you behave with honor and integrity, give your children all the support you can they will be okay. They most likely have picked up the bad vibes between you ... (read in full...)
he called me nasty names but claims he loves me!!?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend of a year gets angry and starts calling you names when you are arguing and he makes you cry, by calling you a "slut", "hoe", "dirty" and that hes had better than you, even though he is in love with you???...
A. 11 September 2006: It means you have wasted a year of your life. Life is precious, don't waste anymore. Good luck!... (read in full...)
She broke up just to keep her parents happy, surely she cant carry on like this ?
Q. Hi, Ive just broken up for the last time with my GF. Its been on and off for 2.5yrs. I'm 37 divorced with 2 kids. She is 24 and still lives at home with her folks. They are very controlling and want to dictate her life. Because of that most of our ...
A. 7 September 2006: I guess you don't really have any choice but to start the healing process as you move on with your life. She needs to do alot of growing up if she is still letting her parents dictate to her at 24 years of age! Good luck.... (read in full...)
I got together with the guy I had the affair with, it seems hes not as comitted.. does he love me ?
Q. 5 years ago I fell in love with someone and we had an affair for over 2 years and then left our partners, our partners never found out that we had an an affair. We then dated for about a year and then moved in together. Now he says he doesn't know ...
A. 7 September 2006: Hard to say whether he loves you or not. But he obviously doesn't want more children now or ever (at least you're not childless). He may not want marriage for a lot of reasons other than he doesn't love you enough. You need to find those reasons out ... (read in full...)
She asked me who is the prettiest of her friends and I told her. Now I am regretting it!
Q. i was in bed with my girlfriend about 2 months ago, she was asking me lots of questions about her female friends, who is prettiest e.t.c bar a couple of questions i could only answer with 1 girl's name as she wouldnt let me just pick her the whole ...
A. 7 September 2006: You got suckered into one of the oldest traps, a true "heads I win, tails you lose" kinda thing. There is no way to answer questions like that without repercussions. Next time say you don't want to play that game. Stop apologizing she'll forget ... (read in full...)
Sex in the shower... Any tips ?
Q. I've heard making love in the shower is a very romantic thing to do. I've tried it with my boyfriend and I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but I don't find it enjoying. I don't like the idea of water in my eye and we can never get into a position ...
A. 6 September 2006: Just be careful if you drop the soap ;... (read in full...)
I dont like where she wants to live, and she doesnt like living here.. what to do ?
Q. I am engaged to be married next April. Her and I moved back to my home 4 months ago, now she wants to move back to her home, but I hate it there and she said she hates it here. What to do?...
A. 6 September 2006: Time to do some house shopping. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to use wax on your armpits ?
Q. hiya im becky i was just wonderin is it normal to wax on ure arm pits because even wen i shave them they are still really hairy ? plz help xx...
A. 6 September 2006: I'd use a depilatory cream instead. Man that sounds way to painful to me!... (read in full...)
His family control him, why won't they let him have a normal relationship
Q. I have been dating an older man for almost 2 yrs. i am older too. we are both widowed and his family as he has said it--- is trying to protect his freedom. they are against me and they do not want him to have anyone but to be available to do for ...
A. 6 September 2006: This is a very tough situation. I do think it is up to the father to tell his kids that he loved their mother very much but now he is alone and needs your companionship. They may raise a stink at first but will gradually come around when they ... (read in full...)
Life is hard at the moment and I think I just ruined the best thing I have, on our 6 month anniversary!
Q. Dear Agony aunts, today was my 6th month anniversary with a guy i have been seeing. We had been best friends for years and had feelings for each other for just as long but only got together a while ago. I love him but i've been going through ...
A. 6 September 2006: Put some cucumber slices on your eyes then talk to him tomorrow and apologize for hanging up on him. See if you can make him realize that you just were being overly emotional. Smile sweetly and he'll forgive you. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is a 7-year age gap too much?
Q. Hi all, I was wondering whether you thought a 7 year age gap is a big deal or not? (If both are of legal age). We were born in the same decade, just 7 years apart. Everyone says that the age gap will cause problems, and so far I haven't e...
A. 6 September 2006: Been married over 30 years to a man who is 7 years older then me. What does that tell you?... (read in full...)
Worried about my sons odd diet!!
Q. Hi there Apologies if this seems weird or odd, but it's a problem which I can't seem to find much advice for. My 14-year-old son is having an odd diet; he ate spaghetti, ice-cream and mashed potato in one meal washed down with Coca-Cola. Then...
A. 6 September 2006: Typical teenage behavior nothing to fret about. My son used to make himself an onion sandwich (2 pieces of bread and 1 large onion, that's it) and wash it down with chocolate milk. yuck... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and in an abusive relationship with my soon-to-be husband
Q. hi im 18, supposed to be marrying my fiance of nearly 3yrs in June. We have a 9 month old son. I dont know what to do about my fiance. He has absolutely no respect for me whatsoever. He knows i hate porn and when he got a porn video emailed to h...
A. 6 September 2006: Do not even consider marrying this guy. It's bad enough that you had a child together. Don't tie yourself any further to him. He will only get worse with the abuse and eventually will turn it towards the child as well. Get out now before something ... (read in full...)
How will breaking up affect my son??
Q. Have been with my wife of 10 years for 11 years and have a 9 year old son. Have come to realise recently that I no longer love my wife i've just got the feeling that i am going along with the pretense because it's easier. I have met a girl at work ...
A. 2 September 2006: If you are absolutely positive you want out of your marriage then you need to sit down with your wife and talk about it. Make sure you do this out of earshot of your son. The both of you will have to tell him eventually but it needs to be done as ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant by giving a blow job???
Q. Is it possible to get pregnant by giving a guy a blow job?...
A. 2 September 2006: If you have to ask this, you should still be playing with your Barbie dolls not giving head to some guy. Sheesh! And people wonder why there are so many teen pregnancies and the epidemic of STD's. grumble...grumble... (read in full...)
Why is my husband doing this to us??
Q. Dear cupid, My husband left me and the children last week for another woman who is 20 years younger than me his excuse was he did not love me anymore. I had no warning this was to happen he took all his things this week he came to see the children...
A. 1 September 2006: What an absolute jerk. On your way home from the lawyer's stop by the hardware store and pick up some new locks for your doors. When you look back on this in the future you may just consider this to be a very fortunate turn of events after all. Best ... (read in full...)
This older woman at work is copying my style, its awful, how can address this ?
Q. Could somebody please give me some advice on how to handle a situation at work, im 25 years old and have my own sense of style, recently i have noticed as well as many others an older women of about 40 is buying cheap copie of my clothes and wearing ...
A. 1 September 2006: Meow... (read in full...)
The girl I love cheats all the while and is destroying me, my wife is great but I dont love her...
Q. My life has been turned upside down. I was in an unhappy marriage and eventually seperated and went to stay at my mums. My wife was supportive and was always willing to take me back and make it work between us. She loved me unconditionally. My ...
A. 31 August 2006: I certainly hope you are taking an anti-depressant. If not ask for one to help you through this rough patch. That's all it is, it's not permanent even though you think so at the moment. Buck up buddy, keep your chin up and keep plodding along with ... (read in full...)
The girl I love cheats all the while and is destroying me, my wife is great but I dont love her...
Q. My life has been turned upside down. I was in an unhappy marriage and eventually seperated and went to stay at my mums. My wife was supportive and was always willing to take me back and make it work between us. She loved me unconditionally. My ...
A. 30 August 2006: Glad to hear you are getting some help. You did the right thing concerning your wife. Now concentrate on yourself and iron out the wrinkles so you can forth from all of this a better person with a brighter future. Good luck.... (read in full...)
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