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writes:Hi all,I'm miserable at the moment and wondered if some of you could help me. I'm wondering if my situation is beyond repair or not. Can't say I know which way I'd rather it comes out.It does feel like my relationship with my wife is over. I'm petrified by the thought of this, not so much because of losing my wife but more because of what it will do to me financially and also to my 2 kids who are still quite young.My wife and I havent slept together for at least 18 months. Before that it wasn't that often and this is a problem for me. My wife isn't bothered and at my last attempt just told me 'I can't be bothered'.I've been asking to speak with her for a while, trouble is in the past when I've badgered her to talk it sets the whole thing off very badly and then it is pointless. This time I haven't badgered her but all that has happened is weeks have gone by with me occasinally reminding her about my request and her just not allowing me an audience. If I get down about it I am accused of being miserable, if I try to cheer up it is assumed I have got over my desire to talk and further delays ensue. Either way she wont talk and at my last re-request just to make a time slot for a chat was told ' no we cant make a slot as I dont want some big build up'. Really our problems have been going on for years but it proves too easy to just let it trudge on rather than argue. I think that time has ended. I'm fed up of being unhappy.But I am petrified.Welcome your views Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 It may hurt financially but what price is happiness? Start your separation immediately. If you behave with honor and integrity, give your children all the support you can they will be okay. They most likely have picked up the bad vibes between you and your wife. It may come as a sort of relief to them. See how things go with your separation and you will know if you need to file for divorce or whether there might be a reconciliation. Good luck.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (11 September 2006):
 You're petrified because you are afraid of the unknown. You've been wallowing in your mundane existence for so long it feels normal. You've got to force yourself to get out and meet new people, go to new places, and explore new horizons.
In other words, get a life! (And I mean that in a good way.)
Good luck!
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