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writes: Hi all,I was wondering whether you thought a 7 year age gap is a big deal or not? (If both are of legal age). We were born in the same decade, just 7 years apart. Everyone says that the age gap will cause problems, and so far I haven't encountered any. I was just wondering if maybe I would eventually notice the gap somewhere down the road or if it's not as big a deal? Reply to this Question
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reader, 1xltx1  +, writes (22 December 2010):
Well I am currently in love with a girl who is 7 years older than me "/ I'm a girl also ( thats a whole other story ) and I think she likes me too but because of our age difference she keeps on ignoring it :( its not cool to me age is just a number but I don't know anymore x LT x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): hi
just thought you'd like to know that my boyfriend and i are 7 years apart (me 20 and him 27)..we thought at the beginning of our relationship that age wouldn't affect us but we were so wrong..its been about a year now and hes not the same person i fell in love with..every time i ask him a question i don't know he yells at me..he expects me to know everything that he does..he works as a telecommunication person and im a hairstylist..there are plenty of things hes asked me about his hair and skin and i don't get mad i tell him and help him understand..if i ask about how to buy an apartment or a car he yells at me..he does realize that i haven't had a dad since i was 7..and my grandpa just died...and my mom doesn't care..ive been doing everything by myself since i was 16..i have no one..hes the one person i can rely on to help me out because hes been there and has 2 loving parents..he doesn't give me any credit of what i do know only what i don't..its so frustrating and im so in love with him..i cant let him go..i want him to be the man i fell in love with again..its very hard..i spend so many hours crying myself to sleep crying to him crying to friends and it makes me realize more and more that hes not the man of my dreams..he says he cares about me and loves me..and sex AMAZING..he takes care of me so much..does my laundry buys me tampons..he has so many loving caring qualitys and is a big mush..but its the EVIL ANTHONY that comes out that makes me have doubts about us...
understand this is just me..some of my friends made a 10 year difference last for 4 years..they were very happy together..some got married..it all depends on if you believe that the problem is going to be the age difference down the line..thats what your main focus is on then it will happen..
i wish you the best of luck..
3 Ashley
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): Hun, there are a few very crucial aspects to remember about age gap relationships. First of all, both people should be old enough to have experienced life. Both people definitely need to be adults. Secondly, neither party can have a problem with the difference in years. And finally, the two must have that connection between them which makes them absolutely right for each other. In other words, compatability is a must. So if you both respect each other and are committed to making this work...I say, don't listen to the naysayers and just go for it, dear! Best wishes.
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reader, bonym +, writes (7 September 2006):
 Hi babes, I cant see any issue at all with the age gap, and even if I was so ignorant as to think there was a problem, would it make any difference? Of course not, you live your life and forget anyone else. You are both mature, so whats the problem? Stop listening to the negativity of others and be with who you want to be with. Take care. xXx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 September 2006):
 Been married over 30 years to a man who is 7 years older then me. What does that tell you?
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (6 September 2006):
 Honey, it doesn't matter what we think about the age gap. We are not part of your relationship, or at least you should not let us be.
Conducting your life based on what others think may be a symptom of low self-esteem. Don't fall into this trap because you end up being surrounded by people who use you and/or have no respect for you.
It is best to listen to your inner voice on this issue. It is the only one that matters. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): Seven years doesn't sound like too big a gap at all and is probably more common than you think. The time when such a gap is probably more likely a problem is when the younger person is under 20. If you are both mature adults then age is really quite irrelevent. As it happens there are seven years between my parents and they have been together for well over 20 years. There are plenty of couples who have a similar or even much greater age gap and they are happy together because they love one another. At the end of the day it comes down to love, not how old you and your partner are. I don't think it's a big deal at all.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (6 September 2006):
 Hey girl,
Don't live your life listening to others who know nothing of the future - are the people telling you it won't work clairvoyants? Seven years is nothing in the grand scheme of things! I am 8 years apart from my man, me 23 him 31 and we are still going strong after 5 years together! I never ever even think about our age - it never comes into it!
You won't notice the age gap unless you listen to all the people outside your relationship telling you you will! Listen to and follow your heart. xxx
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