She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 10 July 2006: Well Vlad I agree...you should stay in the hospital for a while. And please stop pestering the kid.... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 22 June 2006: Vladimer Nabokov...is that you?... (read in full...)
I'm married and attracted to someone else, even though I know it's wrong!
Q. Falling In Love With Someone I Should Not I am married and have a child. I love both of them. I am a Christian and know what is right and wrong. I know that having an affair would only hurt everyone involved, but... I can not stop thinking a...
A. 17 June 2006: I agree with the rabbit, if you are coming here for approval, you won't be getting it. Turn all that energy towards your family.... (read in full...)
Do I say something about how I feel to the girl who jokes that we're lesbian lovers?
Q. Just please help me. Yes I have typed this many many times but the answers I have got aren't helping! This girl I like, we are both girls, she recently made a couple of jokes about me being a lesbian and she is my girlfriend. I used to really ...
A. 17 June 2006: The answer to your situation is the same for about 90% of the problems people write in with...just sit down with her and have a nice long talk about how you feel and listen to each other. 9 times in 10 you can straighten things out. Give it a try. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to stay friends with an ex?
Q. Is it possible for ex's to ever become friends after a devastating heart breaking break-up. I was dumped a month ago and if I could, I'd erase the memories of what we had, because I feel that it was all lies, and betrayal and that I was the pathet...
A. 17 June 2006: In your case I would say that friendship would be highly unlikely. It certainly doesn't sound like you desire a frindship with the guy so I guess you just need to move on to greener pastures. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What is an orgy?
Q. What exacty is an orgy?? Help, I feel so stupid for not knowing....
A. 12 June 2006: There is a big difference between ignorance and stupidity. Now you know what an orgy is, you are no longer ignorant unless you attend one that is.... (read in full...)
My fiance went out with friends, then home with his ex-girlfriend!
Q. Hi I am due to get married in 4 weeks to the man of my dreams but I have found out that last week he went out with his friends and ended up going home with an ex g/f. I know this because his friends took a photo of them both and he was also seen ...
A. 12 June 2006: It's a really good thing this happened BEFORE you got married. Have a nice chat with the lad, but it certainly merits postponing the wedding until it's all sorted out.... (read in full...)
I need information about pregancy!
Q. How do you know if you are pregnant? Can you give me a list of signs, please. Oh, and if you are pregnant then do your periods continue? Is your first one since becoming pregnant early or late? Please help. Any information will be grateful...
A. 12 June 2006: Get a home pregnancy test, they are cheap and accurate. You can't go by signs alone. You usually don't have any periods or spotting during pregnancy but it can happen so that's not a reliable way to tell. Go to the drug store and buy a test. Good ... (read in full...)
I have some bizarre fetishes-does that mean something is wrong with me?
Q. is it weird to have a fetish for people with no legs? i mean its like sooooo sexy and i get horny just thinking about it. is there something wrong with me? i always have these weird dreams about people like that and i always get wet dreams. i also ...
A. 8 June 2006: Oh yes this is wierd but not wrong. And the only advice I have is that you might want to do some volunteer work at the nearest VA Hospital, the fellows will be glad to see you!... (read in full...)
Want to look good for the guys but I have a sweaty-back problem!
Q. I'm trying to stay cool and look good for all the guys in the summer coming up but i have an embarassing problem. My back sweats uncontrolably. I'v tried everything to prevent this from happening but it just keeps happening every time i go outside. ...
A. 8 June 2006: Talk to your doctor, there is a medication that reduces excessive perspiration. I even think it comes in pill form so it's very simple to use. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
My BF of two years just confided that he's actually married!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years now and we have plans of getting married. One day he told me he has a secret to tell me. He said he is married back home and is planning to divorce. He also said he is crazy ab...
A. 7 June 2006: Tell him to look you up after the divorce and mean it. You think you're hurt now after investing two years of your life, just imagine wasting even more precious time only to find out he will never leave his wife. Tell him now. Good luck!... (read in full...)
he left his family for me...but he insists on paying all their bills! The strain is taking it's toll on me.
Q. After a 2 and a half year affair, my partner has just left his wife to be with me. However, he insists on paying for all of the bills still in his former house as well as the mortgage and future CSA payments once that's been calculated. He's...
A. 7 June 2006: Has he filed for divorce? If not then legally he still has the same financial responsibilites he did before he just moved his clothes out of the house. You on the other hand have have right to say what happens with YOUR money. Until he is divorced ... (read in full...)
My best mate is dating my ex but I still like him
Q. my best friend is going out with my ex but i still have a connection with him, what should i do?...
A. 7 June 2006: What should you do? Why do you feel you need to do anything? Did you break up him or visa versa or was it mutual? If you were hurt by the break up and your friend knew it then she isn't much of a friend to you after all and you are better off ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps ignoring me, what is wrong?
Q. my boyfriend keeps ignoring me, what is wrong with me?? ...
A. 7 June 2006: We need much more info in order to give any advice or help.... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 7 June 2006: Ah ha! I knew that guy was a loser! All suspicions confirmed! To the wife: As soon as you can after you have your baby, get a lawyer and file for divorce, making sure that you get every single cent that's coming to you and your children. You will ... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 7 June 2006: What a good Daddy you are!... (read in full...)
he was so in to me..then he went cold, suddenly. Was it really our age gap or something else?
Q. First off I will tell you that there is an age gap between me and my man, I am 34 and he is 20. We met last August and to be honest when we first met I didn’t know his age and he certainly didn’t look 20! He thought I was a lot younger too! But by ...
A. 7 June 2006: After your talk on Sunday you'll know more about what's going on in his mind. He's very young and just may want to sow a few wild oats before he settles down. You may have to give him more freedom, and even though you guys hardly see each other to ... (read in full...)
Found a condom wrapper, of a type we don't use. Does it mean something?
Q. I need some advice about something I found the other day in my boyfriends room. I was looking for something I'd lost and found a part of a condom wrapper, a type we've never used before. We've been together almost a year. He is untidy but surel...
A. 6 June 2006: Yep I think the surprise attack is probably going to get you the best results. Come straight out with the "Are you cheating on me" and then bring out the wrapper if he denies he is. Remember one thing however, you may not like the answer to the ... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 6 June 2006: You should leave the kid alone for 4 more years. In the mean time, divorce your wife so she doesn't waste any more time on you and can get on with her life. Then take up a hobby to keep yourself busy for the next 4 years. If it is the true love that ... (read in full...)
I have a big mole and I don't want anyone to see it
Q. hi, i am 16 and am so self conscience about my body. it is nice and toned, the only problem is i have a big mole on my back and i never want anyone to see it! i never wear strappy tops or never wanna wear swimming costumes cos i dont want anyone to ...
A. 6 June 2006: They used to put fake moles or "beauty marks" on starlets because of Marilyn Monroe's having one on her face. But if you are so self-conscience about yours that it is affecting your life, you should get it removed as soon as you can arrange it. ... (read in full...)
Am I in danger of unfairly spoiling my niece?
Q. There are some wonderful, smart people on this site, and I sure hope you can help me. My hubby and I have no children, but I have two brothers-one has two boys,19 and 13 y.o.; the other has one girl, 12 y.o., and is divorced from her mother. Since ...
A. 6 June 2006: I guess I would probably either stop any "reward" money unless I doled it out to the nephews as well. If they ever get together and compare notes there may be some hurt feelings otherwise. As a mother of three, grandmother to five, and aunt to ... (read in full...)
I can't dump her just because were not having sex
Q. Dear Alice, I'm 21 years old, and i've been dating my girlfriend for about 1 year and 1/2. Aprox 8 months ago we stopped having sex. WHY? She has something called "vaginisme". Basically it means that penatration hurts a lot, she can't enjoy it ...
A. 6 June 2006: Zadzia1127 said it magnificently, I hope you can help your partner, the best of luck to both of you.... (read in full...)
How do I end this mental torture??
Q. I have this boyfriend who i have a feelings cheating on me people have told me they see him with other girls at clubs even though there just dancing it hurts. He calls me names and tells me i can never do anything right i feel like i'm no longer g...
A. 6 June 2006: I wasn't trying to be unfriendly but you got to admit you are just using him for a meal ticket and you said you couldn't leave him because you can't afford it. What kind of help do you expect if you have pretty well closed all the options available ... (read in full...)
Am I an alien or is it the alcohol?
Q. I keep having a recurring dream. I'm an alien, I recently landed in this country and have found everything to be so different from home. There is something called grass in places thats green (weird or what) and there's all this crazy stuff ever...
A. 6 June 2006: Maybe the guy with the hair problem on his upper legs and arm wasn't so strange after all.....!... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me or is it just sex?
Q. Hi im a 19 year old girl whos had a bit of a "thing" with a guy for the last 8 months. We've recently started sleeping together, but always only when we're both drunk. Last night my friend heard him slagging me off and saying he has me wrapped ...
A. 6 June 2006: You have to be drunk to sleep with this guy? Wow, you should try totally sober sex with someone you truly love, it's the bomb! As far as the power thing, obviously he does if just saying what he said gets your panties in a bunch. Move on to greener ... (read in full...)
Is it true that you can get over a heartbreak?
Q. Is it possible to never get over someone? They say time heals and all that, but is it a definite thing that heartbreak will end?...
A. 6 June 2006: Yes,definitely.... (read in full...)
He takes advantage of my feelings for him, how can I help this?
Q. How do you stop yourself from loving someone? I'm in love with this guy who i seem to think is the nicest guy in the world. I want so badly to stop loving him, because even though he makes me the happiest person in the world when i'm with him, ...
A. 6 June 2006: Hardly seems like the nicest guy in the world to me. Pull yourself up by your boot straps, close the door on this guy and move on. It's up to you and only you. Get out there and get involved, you'll forget about him in short order. No sympathy if ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to get married?
Q. do you think im too young to get married? i am 19 and me and my boyfriend are thinking of getting married pretty quick but is it the right decision dont get me wrong i love him to pieces but.......
A. 6 June 2006: If you are wondering about this then you most likely are. Everybody is different. Marriage should never be entered into unless both parties are 100% sure about it. What harm could waiting do?... (read in full...)
What turns a man on about a women?
Q. Im needing a mans opinion on this, women are welcome. What turns a man on about a woman. Im wanting to spark up my relationship with my husband and I want him to desire me the way he used to when we first started dating. I try to do the things that ...
A. 6 June 2006: You don't say how long you have been married or how old you may be. Maybe he needs to get a check up and see if there is any physical problems and whether a medication (viagra) could help out. He obviously appreciates your loveliness and thinks you ... (read in full...)
I fancy this guy.. go for it?
Q. Hey everybody.. I got my other problems sorted thanks so much to everyone who helped... but i have another and i'd really appreciate any help! The guy I like has been dating his previously ex girlfriend, one of my best friends for a few weeks no...
A. 6 June 2006: All's fair in love and war...get going!... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but does'nt want anything serious,I just don't understand him!
Q. hey im 17 and went with a guy for almost 4years. we broke up in 2005 and recently got back together just seeing each other. He told me he loved me and we spent some more gr8 times together. Now he says he loves me and always has but doesnt want ...
A. 6 June 2006: I think he made it quite clear when you stand. He wants you and he wants the freedom to pursue any other female who catches his attention. Saying "I love you" can mean everything or nothing, it depends on the person speaking. If he were madly in ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friends girlfriend!
Q. Hi, I have a major problem. My best friend's girlfriend recently told me that she is in love with me, and I feel the same way about her. I know that they had been having a few problems of late and that she wasn't happy with the relationship. Sh...
A. 6 June 2006: What's your rush? I'd let the pot simmer down if I were you. The girlfriend should be willing to wait for you out of respect for your friendship with the ex. He needs to recover a little bit before you move in. I'm not saying waiting a lifetime but ... (read in full...)
What is going on with my fling?
Q. so im 22 and after a couple of years of mutual attraction with a friend, we hooked up (no sex--everything else) the other night. now we've been very clear before hand that there will be NO relationship or attachy feelings (im hooked on another guy ...
A. 6 June 2006: It's up to him now to respond. Don't contact him again until he does or you'll look too needy. He'll let you know if he's interested.... (read in full...)
When we argued, my BF started spreading around copies of my sexy photo!
Q. Hi I am 13 years old and I have a 15 year old boyfriend. We don't do anything sexual or anything and we aren't ready for that yet. I had a picture took of me in my sexy underwear and I was laying in a sexy pose. He swore to me when he took it he wo...
A. 5 June 2006: People will think whatever they want to think. Just hold your head up and wait for it to become old news. Nothing else can be done. Be a tad more choosey next time picking your boyfriends might help as well.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sister, her husband and their son are living with us and making my life a misery...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 6 years, the 1st year his sister and her husband lived with us, they gave me hell,spreading gossip, u name it they did it. Anyway they moved out,life got back to normal. Two years ago they came back ...
A. 5 June 2006: "You can pick your friends but you can't..." yadda yadda You may be stuck with them as relatives but you sure as hell don't have to live with them in the same house. Let your boyfriend know just how miserable you are living with them, and I'm sure ... (read in full...)
I need to get rid of unwanted body hair so the girls don't think I'm a freak! Any suggestions?
Q. i want to get rid of unwanted hair on my upper legs and arm, is their any cream that does that, i mean i dnt want that hair to grow again, ever agen, becoz i dnt feel confident and am scared girls might think im a freak when they seee me...
A. 5 June 2006: Guys have hair...what's the big deal? You say arm, does that mean you have more hair on one arm than the other? Then you may want to try to even it out. And what's with "upper" legs don't you have unwanted hair on your lower legs as well? All joking ... (read in full...)
Would it be best if I had an abortion? Your views wanted...
Q. I'm 21 and in a 6 month relationship with my partner who is 30. Last year whilst in an unsteady relationship i became pregnant with my daughter, my ex demanded an abortion and left me. Im now in what i feel is a secure and happy relationship but i ...
A. 5 June 2006: Whoa...you say he has trouble with your daughter, how can someone have trouble with an infant/toddler? This does not bode very well for bringing yet another child into the picture. And he thinks he may not be able to accept his own new baby as well. ... (read in full...)
How do I end this mental torture??
Q. I have this boyfriend who i have a feelings cheating on me people have told me they see him with other girls at clubs even though there just dancing it hurts. He calls me names and tells me i can never do anything right i feel like i'm no longer g...
A. 5 June 2006: Well obviously you aren't interested in finding a way out of there, you are just whining and letting off some steam. While you are putting up with his shenanigans watch out for the STD's he may be bringing home to you. It's a long way to the end of ... (read in full...)
Having sex with my best friend's husband..but his 16 year old daughter caught us in bed! Help
Q. Please help I've been sleeping with my best friends husband with her consent. It was a sex arrangement that suited us all and no1 knew, til now. Her 16yr old daughter caught us and don't know what to say. We all want to stay friends but have agreed ...
A. 5 June 2006: Yep you must sit her down and tell the absolute truth...something like this "Honey, we three adults are idiots to have made this stupid sex arrangement and even more amazingly idiotic to do it where you could walk in on us." Anything along those ... (read in full...)
A question for the guys, why does he get so jeolous?
Q. hey i just wanna know what the guys think. ok i have a bf for almost 10 months and things do seem to be pretty ok but one thing is his jealousy. i have a guy friend ive known for almost 4 years now and we were startin to think we should do a ...
A. 5 June 2006: Your boyfriend suffers from low self-esteem most probably. If you give him no reason to feel threatened by your relationship with your friend and if you give him plenty of attention and reassurance he will feel better about himself and the jealousy ... (read in full...)
I played strip poker with my Bf and his mate but he now ignores me!
Q. i have been seeing this guy for well over a year now and we split up a while ago but i met him a few nights ago and we had sex and played strip poker with him and his mate as a laugh but he hasnt botherd texting me since..what should i do? I have ...
A. 5 June 2006: He will continue to ignore you until he gets horny again. He is using you as a booty call and that's it. If you want to settle for the cheap seats then be there when he comes around. If you feel you have much more to offer then look for a guy with ... (read in full...)
I think I have caught my BF cheating.
Q. dear cupid, i really am very down at the minute. while i was pregnant i found a photograph of a mystery girl in my boyfriends wallet, on the back of the pic it said i hope you like it keep it with you claudia!! i thought this was very disrespectful. ...
A. 5 June 2006: Make sure you line up the child support that's due you and hand that cheater his walking papers. You can do much better.... (read in full...)
I slept with a new guy after the shock of a break up
Q. Did I give the wrong answer to his question? I have posted a few questions on this website before as have had a very difficult three months trying to get over the shock of my 4 year live in boyfriend dumping me out of the blue. Following advice I ...
A. 5 June 2006: All the aunts are in agreement here, you are doing just fine, hang in there. It's takes time to regroup after a break up and you might have gotten alittle too involved with this guy too fast but as you said you were having a great time together. If ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 5 June 2006: You did the world a huge dis-service by reproducing, shame on you.... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 2 June 2006: Man, you sure don't know anything about women do you!? First off, the correct answer to her question was "NO, I don't fancy anybody but you, sweetheart." Doesn't matter if it's not entirely true,that's the only answer to that particular question. ... (read in full...)
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