He's 56 and in a loveless marriage. I'm 40 and he and I have had sex..am I doing the right thing?
Q. I am 40 well nearly 41 is it right to date a man of 56 (old enough to be my father) he is in a loveless marriage and loves me no worships me, we meet when we can in secret of course, we make wonderful love, we have so much ic common. We live in ...
A. 23 October 2006: Wow! You don't have problem with the fact that he's married but rather that he looks really old to your wonderful youthful appearance! You truly are a piece of work.... (read in full...)
Trapped
Q. I'm 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, things were great when we were first together, but recently I've been trying really hard to work and save money and do something big with my life. He doesnt have the same feelings, he ...
A. 23 October 2006: Is he on medication? If he is and he still is making life miserable for you then you may want to end things with him. You have given him 2years of your life so it's not like you haven't tried to help him. Life is too short to not live it the way YOU ... (read in full...)
Life's a bitch... And then I married one - help!
Q. Hi everyone, well I have been here before and some very kind people have given me some very good advices. my story is very sad, it is like what it only happens in the films and I can't get over it, I think I am going mad. I married about six ...
A. 21 October 2006: Since there are no children involved you can divorce the witch and walk away never to see her again. Time is your best friend here, your bad feelings will fade and you'll be able to get on with your life. Let this be a reminder in your future ... (read in full...)
My sister is addicted to ice meth and we don't know what to do to help!
Q. I'm not sure if this is the place to ask, but maybe you can direct me. I have a 33 year old sister who is addicted to ice meth and has has 2 children. Children Protective Services will not help unless the children are being physically abused. We've ...
A. 20 October 2006: Check and see if there are any Intervention programs in your area. These of course work best if the addict has reached a low and can be convinced they need to go into rehab. Just another suggestion, hope things work out for your family.... (read in full...)
What does oral sex mean?
Q. everyone keeps talking about having oral sex! i dont know what it is! my bf even asked me if i wanted to have oral sex and i couldnt say yes because i dont know what it is! what is it?...
A. 19 October 2006: Exactly, if you have to ask then you have no business doing it.... (read in full...)
Trapped
Q. I'm 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, things were great when we were first together, but recently I've been trying really hard to work and save money and do something big with my life. He doesnt have the same feelings, he ...
A. 19 October 2006: He needs to get himself to the doctor and get on some meds for his OCD. They are very effective and he'll be able to function just fine and hold down a job if he truly wants to work. Maybe he is using his illness as an excuse to freeload? Only you ... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because of what people thought. I still love him, but he won't get back with me.
Q. i broke up with my ex because what people thought and i broke his heart, i still love him and he still has feelings for me but doesn't want to get back with me. does he still love me and will we get back together? i love him so much it hur...
A. 19 October 2006: If you burn your hand with an iron, next time you pick it up, you handle it much more gingerly. After a time using it without getting burned you are much more relaxed handling it. However you will never forget the painful burn. Give him time.... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my middle aged neighbour seems to follow me wherever I go!!!
Q. Um…how can I start this? This problem started long time ago. There is this guy who follows me a lot, he’s middle aged man. I know him, because he’s my neighbour. He has a wife and two lovely kids. He seems to follow me a lot-everywhere. ...
A. 19 October 2006: You absolutely need to tell your folks. They will be able to do what needs to be done, plus they need to be aware if you have other 14 year olds in the neighborhood. Also I would try to be with other people whenever you leave to go somewhere. Try ... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 19 October 2006: Humm I think I was single about 32 years ago! I agree with Irish and the others who are a little nervous about this idea. Helpful for some but dangerous to others. Especially the dirty underpants guy ;)... (read in full...)
I have long hair and it seems that most women find this a turn off!
Q. I'm 23 and have had long hair (past my shoulders) since I was 17. Is it just me or do all women, apart from a small sample of goth/metal/rock followers, dislike, or more intensively are turned off by, long hair on a guy. For me my hair has always ...
A. 19 October 2006: As long as it's clean most girls will not give it a moment's thought.... (read in full...)
Update on why the unhappily married man asked me for "a happy ending'. Advice appreciated
Q. p. Don't forget the happy ending ! Your readers asked for more background into why an unhappily married man had sent me a letter asking me for a happy ending . The answer ....he was my Doctor and I was temporarily his patient when I had glandula...
A. 19 October 2006: You obviously didn't like the advice the six aunts gave on your first post. You want us to give you the green light and the first response does just that. So now that you have one person who encourages you go ahead and let your life slide right down ... (read in full...)
He wouldn't marry me and make us a family but he is making me feel guilty by saying leaving him split up his family!
Q. im with this man for long 9 years and we have one son,our relation is not that bad only im hoping for him to marry me but he never did since he is married still in his wife.after long years i decided to separate thinking that i am hoping for ...
A. 19 October 2006: What do you care what this adulterer says? Your part in the sordid affair is in the past so put the whole ugly thing behind you. You have moved on and now have a chance at decent future, don't blow it by having anything to do with your ex-lover ... (read in full...)
His behaviour tells me he doesn't love me anymore and I know I don't love him!
Q. I have been with my husband for five years and married for two. At first our relationship was great and had a lot of respect and love for eachother, but soon he started taking advantage of me financially and this year he started to act violently ...
A. 19 October 2006: Put your money in a new bank account, pack your bags, stay with family/friends until you can get your own place. Find a lawyer and file for a legal separation. Get started today. This guy sounds psycho do not waste any time. Good luck, keep us ... (read in full...)
She's broken my heart three times! How do I deal with this?
Q. I have been seeing this lady for 7 years. She is married with three children. Her husband has in the past treated her badly. When we met in the begining there was an instant spark between us. We made each other laugh we enjoyed all the good things o...
A. 18 October 2006: You must love the misery. Go ahead and keep seeing her and getting your heart broken. You know what you need to do, you just don't want to do it. Good luck, you're going to need it.... (read in full...)
His ex wife cheated on him and I'm now suffering for this!!
Q. been married for 1yr.no sex unless husband wants it if i do tuff know love or effection treats me like grap.all he says is its me.but hes been hurt of woman his ex wife slept with his bestmate.and i suffer for it im 33 good looking sexualy ...
A. 18 October 2006: I agree with the rabbit. Why DID you marry him? Get rid of him! Be a little more selective in the future.... (read in full...)
she doesn't want him to have any contact with me!!!
Q. I have been involved off and on for the past four and a half years with this man. I know our relationship didn't get started out on the right foot because he was at the end of his marriage. Well, the last year was more off than on. We both dated ...
A. 17 October 2006: You were his bit on the side at the end of his marriage now he wants you sneak around behind his girlfriend's back? Ding Dong hear any bells?... (read in full...)
I have raised my grandaughter for them and now they won't to ruin everything I've done just because it suits them!!
Q. my son has a resident order on his daughter he since found a new g/friend with 5 children who are under supervision from social services he left to live with her and left his daughter with me she is 2 1/2 i have looked after her sinc eshe was 8mths ...
A. 17 October 2006: You could talk to a lawyer about getting soul custody but it may not be very easy. The mother's drug addiction works in your favor but your son being the natural father definitely has an upper hand. A good lawyer will be able to advise you as to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sister has got the girl my boyfriend cheating on me with coming round do we go??
Q. Just wondering what to do in this situation. I’d been going out with my boyfriend for a year when he two timed me (snogging a girl at a club) but it was a girl from his work. We split up and nearly two years later we are back together but I have ...
A. 17 October 2006: I think you and your boyfriend should not go where you may run into her until you've had a chance to heal completely from your first break up. In time you won't have such a problem bumping into her. If your really have to attend for some reason then ... (read in full...)
I want another baby, but now my husband says no to that! What should I do?
Q. My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years. our daughter is 3 and we always talked about having other children, but now my husband is adamant that he does not want another. I am gutted, but love my husband and daughter too much to ...
A. 17 October 2006: Why does your husband not want to have another child? Is it financial or just that he doesn't like all the hassles involved with child rearing?... (read in full...)
How can I move on from him, been having an affair for a year, but he wont leave his girlfriend, but cant stay away from me!!
Q. I was seeing a guy from work for about a year although he has a girlfriend of 3 years. They have a weird relationship and hardly see each other and he has always said to me and others that he has never thought she was the one but he has been with ...
A. 17 October 2006: You are in for a world of hurt if you stay involved with this guy. He is just using you. There is no future with him. You'll never be able to trust him. He's a player, walk away. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm 21-she's 13. I fallen in love with her and I think she likes me. She's self-harming to get my attention! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I’m a 21 year old lad who has fallen deeply in love with a 13 year old girl! I asked for advice on here a couple of months ago, read what people said and tried it but with no success and now the situation has got worse! Some people sa...
A. 17 October 2006: Irish is right as rain, you are looking for validation not help so try a pedophile forum you aren't going to find any support here.... (read in full...)
Gambling, misogyny, porn...all he does makes me feel low down and bad. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I are always on/off. He looks at porn all the time but ONLY lesbian porn.. sometimes mature women sometimes younger. Sometimes I have gone to bed and he is still at it.. I have unfortunately caught him with his trousers down. I ...
A. 16 October 2006: Yep you need to leave, he is only bringing you down. At least take a time out to see how absolutely lovely other men can treat a woman. It will build that self-esteem right back up. Good luck, Chickie!... (read in full...)
I'm 21-she's 13. I fallen in love with her and I think she likes me. She's self-harming to get my attention! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I’m a 21 year old lad who has fallen deeply in love with a 13 year old girl! I asked for advice on here a couple of months ago, read what people said and tried it but with no success and now the situation has got worse! Some people sa...
A. 16 October 2006: Go speak with her parents and tell them of your concerns. They are her parents and she is their CHILD. However, I wouldn't mention your "love" for her you may get your damn head blown off.... (read in full...)
He's 56 and in a loveless marriage. I'm 40 and he and I have had sex..am I doing the right thing?
Q. I am 40 well nearly 41 is it right to date a man of 56 (old enough to be my father) he is in a loveless marriage and loves me no worships me, we meet when we can in secret of course, we make wonderful love, we have so much ic common. We live in ...
A. 16 October 2006: I double dog dare you to do what shania said!... (read in full...)
If I know she really doesn't want kids and I do is that a big enough issue to think twice about our marriage?
Q. I know I want kids, she's not 100% sure nowadays. We've been married for 6 years now and were starting to get serious about having kids. Yes, we probably should have been on the same page before we got married, but I thought we were. She's got...
A. 16 October 2006: Unlike marriage there's no divorcing your kids. If you KNOW and she KNOWS she doesn't want kids then I guess you'll have to live with it unless she changes her mind down the road. You will need to see if you love her enough not to be resentful of ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex-husband and is now getting a divorce from his new wife.
Q. After our 21 year marriage ended in divorce approximately 2.5 yrs ago, I still love him and want him back in my life. We've both hurt each other deeply, he re-married quickly and has now filed for divorce, he knew he made a mistake and jumped to ...
A. 16 October 2006: You need to think over what broke your marriage up the first time. Are any of those issues still out there? It had to be something pretty major to break up a 21 year marriage!... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the best position to help in conceiving a baby??
Q. iam trying for a baby with my partner we both have children from past realtionships but now want one together but been trying for a few months nothing as hapend so does any one now wat is the best sex postion to be in wen trying to concive and when ...
A. 15 October 2006: Have lots of sex right around when you are ovulating (if you can't tell when that is take your temperature in the morning, it is slightly higher than normal) then any sexual position is fine but elevate your butt and legs after you finish and don't ... (read in full...)
His ex wife can't get over the split from my bf and calls him constantly. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend's ex-wife calls him constantly! They have no kids together, no property. He gave her $30K to move. She now lives in GA. We are in FL. We are planning to move in together. She cannot get over him and calls his cell 3x a day (sometimes ...
A. 15 October 2006: He needs to change his number and stop communicating with her. And send her the damn cats. She is not going to leave you guys alone if you don't.... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married yet...so do you think this man I like is backing away because I am married or is there another reason?
Q. I am currently married but v unhappy in my relationship - we are in the process of splitting up... Aside from this, a few months ago I met a man who I also have some business dealings.. The first time we met we were both very drunk and he made a pa...
A. 15 October 2006: Don't start a new relationship until you've sorted out your old one. The other guy probably feels the same way and that's why he's reluctant to take any action towards you. Do the honorable thing and get out of your marriage first.... (read in full...)
He's unhappily married and wants me to give him "a happy ending"! What should I do with this guy??
Q. a man that I really like wrote me a letter which was vague and said "that he wanted a happy ending". I know that he is unhappily married, and like him too but would never want to break up a marriage. He ended the letter with " p.s Don't forget the ...
A. 14 October 2006: Doesn't matter what the "happy ending" means. The fact that he's unhappy in his marriage is HIS problem not yours. Tell him to look you up after the divorce and not before. Leave him alone until then.... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with my married gym-teacher!
Q. i graduated high school a couple of years ago and in my sophmore year i fell in love with my gym teacher. not just because i had raging harmones, but i feel like there can possibly in the future be something between us. he doesnt outright flirt with ...
A. 14 October 2006: You don't have snowball's chance in hell. Get busy with your life. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to trust me again?
Q. My wife thinks i have had an affair, but i havnt. I work from 8.oo to 6.00 and spend weekends together with her and my daughters, nightimes we are also all together, so how can she think this. She says she doesnt trust me anymore ever since i told a ...
A. 13 October 2006: She sounds like she has some self-esteem issues. You have every right to visit your mother, if she doesn't like your mom then she can stay home. You shouldn't be forced to lie about it anyway. As far as the affair idea she just venting her own ... (read in full...)
I feel lefted out by my Dad's new family!!
Q. I FEEL LEFT OUT AND PUSHED OUT i have tryed to tell my dad a thousand times that i feel he puts me to one side when it comes to his girlfrid of ten years for exsample they may go out for a meal with her kids ,and i never get asked .when i go down ...
A. 13 October 2006: Yep, you need to have a heart to heart with Dad and tell him how you feel. It is his place to tell his girlfriend to be a little more accommodating towards you. Hopefully she will ease up on the rude behavior and act her age. Good luck I'm sure ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married yet...so do you think this man I like is backing away because I am married or is there another reason?
Q. I am currently married but v unhappy in my relationship - we are in the process of splitting up... Aside from this, a few months ago I met a man who I also have some business dealings.. The first time we met we were both very drunk and he made a pa...
A. 13 October 2006: What does "in the process of splitting up" mean? Do you still live together?... (read in full...)
My married man has not called me yet?? I'm so confused!
Q. well i started talking to a work man, he asked for my email i gave it him ,then couple days later asked for my phone number, then i didnt see him for 4 days wen i did he said ill be getting phone weekend ill phone u,but still nothing after,5 days he ...
A. 13 October 2006: If you get involved with a married best get used to waiting by the phones sometimes for days on end. You will never have his full attention or concern. He will call or see you whenever he feels like it, your needs will never be a factor in his ... (read in full...)
We've broken up now he wants a casual relationship with me!!
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years six months ago because he cheated. It wasn't the first time, so all my trust was broken and I had a bad time of it. I found it hard to move on but am in a place now where I quite enjoy being single. Not that I am ...
A. 13 October 2006: Stick to your guns, he just wants sex from you. You'll find out just how much he cares for you if sex is not involved. If he has cheated on you in the past he probably will again. I say move on.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with naughty 2 year old twins?
Q. Trying to cope with twins age 2 who are a nightmare with not listening and in general being naughty ...
A. 13 October 2006: It's important to try to deal with them separately meaning when you discipline do it on an individual basis. Having two at the same age is never easy. Make sure that when you give them a "time out" that they are in separate rooms. If you spank them ... (read in full...)
How do I reach out to my adult son, who appears to despise me? What can I do? Please help!
Q. I am a woman in my early 50's. After 25 yrs married, my husband up and left me and our family in Nov. 2000, which had rocked our lives to the core. I have a teen boy, (still at home), one adult son (25) and one adult daughter (27). When the initial ...
A. 13 October 2006: I don't think you have lost your son forever. He is just going through a rough patch and is probably taking his break up out on you. As he heals he'll come around I'm sure. Be patient and keeps the lines of communication open but just leave him his ... (read in full...)
He stayed at her house and his excuses were pretty weak. What's he really up to..any advice?
Q. Need advice. Don't know if I am being cheated on, or if I am just in denial of the whole situation. My man and I have been together for over 3 years. We got pregnant early on in the relationship and unfortunately our daughter was stillborn at 36 ...
A. 11 October 2006: If the baby is his then he'll have to start paying child support and you'll find out then for sure. It doesn't look good I'm afraid. You may want to cut and run on this one. Three years is a long time to throw away but then how will you feel in ten? ... (read in full...)
I am in love with a boy, but he hits me and spits in my face.
Q. i am a teen and i am really in love with a boy, i have performed oral sex with him and he has done things to me but after it he says he doesnt fancy me anymore !! when we was alone he said he only said he didnt fancy him because i annoyed him. so i ...
A. 11 October 2006: Jeeze Louise! Spits at you, throws gum at you, hits you!What's the question here?!... (read in full...)
How do I secure my finances prior to divirce?
Q. My question is about what happens in a situation where a couple are not yet divorced, but have come to a decision re the finances. My husband gave me a deposit for a house 2 years ago as our marriage broke down. I left him and needed somewhere...
A. 11 October 2006: I hope this all works out well for you, you do have more coming to you so see that lawyer again. You go girl!... (read in full...)
He spends time with his ex and round her mom's house!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been been together for a year now. But when we first started seeing eachother, he was in a relationship with another woman. He stopped seeing her so that he could be with me. Everything was going good, or so i thought, a ...
A. 11 October 2006: Tell him in no uncertain terms that he is to stop seeing her and her mother or you are going to hand him his walking papers. He is absolutely out of line here. Good luck which ever way it turns out.... (read in full...)
It's been 3 years since he asked me out--do you think he might still like me?
Q. I know this boy who's a really good m8 to me, he did ask me out in yr7, Ever since then i started likeing him and i jst woundered if he still likes me(it's 3 yrs now since then). I do catch him looking at me all the time, n wen ever he has the ...
A. 11 October 2006: Hard to say, why don't you ask him out and see what he says?... (read in full...)
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