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writes: I have been in a relationship for over 12 months and my boyfriends ex will not let me have anything to do with his two children. I understand that she feels we may have moved too quickly as they had only been separated for no more than 7 months but he had reassured me that she would be fine. It is also very hard on my 2 children who also had a good relationship with his children. His ex has now made it worse by telling his children that I am the reason he will never come back and I am the cause of their divorce when this is totally not the case. When I met my bf his house was on the market, had moved out and their divorce in progress. It is absolutely gut wrenching. He loves his children very much and I try not to nag but what about my children?? I have tried to talk to her but she will not have a bar of me. I dont want to go and knock on her door as I am afraid she might abuse me infront of the children. My bf and I are great communicators and he has tried every avenue (apart from legal) to have his children see me but the ex just wont give in. He wants to move in with us but cant because miss ex wont let the kids near my place and have made them promise her they wont either. So he rents a room off two other single guys just so on the odd nights he see his kids he has a place for them to stay. Yes its ridiculas!!! I dont know what to do im loosing weight and getting depressed over it. I am so in love with my bf but cant handle the pain much longer. please help us with any ideas.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 September 2006):
 You say you've been in the relationship for over 12 months but he has only been separated from his wife 7 months? He started the divorce proceeding before he moved out and before he met you?
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (12 September 2006):
 You say you've tried every avenue but a legal one. Well, I suggest you try the legal one. I don't know the law in BG but I would think that separation papers (I assume they are legally separated) stipulate the parents rights. One parent doesn't dictate to the other. If it's not written up in the separation papers, have your boyfriend contact his attorney and find out exactly what each parents rights are. I seriously doubt that the mother can legally restrict your being around his children.
Good luck!
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