Guys I date turn me on for awhile..then I get 'turned off' quickly! Is this normal?
Q. is there something wrong with me? whenever i get involved with a guy he can turn me on like hell for a while but after a while what he does loses its affect and does little to nothing for me when it used to do loads. Is there something wrong with me ...
A. 10 August 2006: Nah there's nothing wrong with you, you just haven't found the right guy yet. You will tho' and probably when you least expect it. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I am having an affair and I don't know why he is doing it
Q. i started this affair with this guy 8 years younger than me,he lives with his partner and 2 kids i asked him why he was doing it but he wont give me a answer,there was some guilt on his part so i said lets end it because of this but he still wants ...
A. 10 August 2006: You don't need to try and figure out why he's having the affair but rather why YOU are having this affair and why YOU don't feel any guilt. Look deep inside yourself and figure out why you wouldn't be happier with someone who isn't already taken. ... (read in full...)
Engagement concerns related to moving
Q. I want to get engaged to my wonderful partner of 8Yrs. The problem is I want us as a couple to move across the country. He says he is willing to move, but he says it just seems so far away from his family and friends. His parents are very backward...
A. 10 August 2006: This sounds like you want to isolate him, it also sounds very controlling on your part. Hummm. I don't think he needs to "realize and adjust to this idea". If he doesn't want to move that far away then why would you want to make him?... (read in full...)
I realise hes now not the one, but how do I break it gently!?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half. After a lot of soul searching, I realize that he is not "the one" for me. In fact, I have been hanging onto the relationship, thinking that it's okay for now, but not what I want ...
A. 9 August 2006: It's a very unpleasant task to undertake but you must do it as soon as you can make new living arrangements. He'll hurting and having you around will make it worse I think. Just be honest and non-judgemental but more importantly don't leave him with ... (read in full...)
There are 2 woman interested in me, I'm thinking of dating both at the same time until I know which one I want!
Q. I've been single for a couple of years and wasn't thinking much about dating. Now I have 2 women that are interested in me and both "relationships" are about at the same place. Woman 1 is at work, she is tall and thin and beautiful. She is I...
A. 9 August 2006: Well I think you CAN date both as long as you don't make any false promises to either of them. I don't think it's "two-timing" it's playing the field. You can have lots of fun and get to know them both better. If you behave in a forthright manner ... (read in full...)
Ladies, tell me why you would want to have sex with a man who looks at porn and gets horny over other women?
Q. It is totally incredible to me that some women will still want to have sex with a man who uses porn. Ladies doesn't this make you sick? Why would you want to have sex with a man whos gets horny over other women? I dont understand. To the argueme...
A. 9 August 2006: Porn is necessary for men with little or no imagination.... (read in full...)
His friend is freaking me out!
Q. My bf and i have been together almost 3 years, the problems is not with our relationship (its great) the problem is with my bf's male friend. my bf's friend has stayed at our home countless times in the past and my bf has recently told me some thi...
A. 9 August 2006: All I can say is that I would not allow this "friend" to stay at your place in the future and to definitely make sure you are never alone in his company. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I have a dating-phobia!
Q. hi wondered if u could help me it sounds really stupid but i think ive got a phobia of dating and i want it to stop i havent been out with anyone for 2 yrs i get asked out on dates most weekends but when it comes to the day i cant do it im 21 so its ...
A. 8 August 2006: I certainly think you would hugely benefit by seeing a counselor. He/she will be able to get to the root of your problem and help you to get beyond it. You may have poor self-esteem, or fear of rejection stemming from your previous relationship, or ... (read in full...)
What's a romantic way to ask my girlfriend to marry me?
Q. Hi, can anyone tell me a nice romantic way to ask someone to marry you? I love my girlfriend and want to ask her to marry me. I can't take her away becasue of the kids, and I don't have the most money in the world, but would like to really romance ...
A. 8 August 2006: Very, very nice! Best Wishes!... (read in full...)
He wants a relationship with no strings attached!
Q. Hello- I have been seeing "Luke" for about a month now. He was my first kiss back in the 6th grade. Now we are both 20 years old. In this past month we have hung out a lot, going to movies, beach etc. Within the first week of us se...
A. 8 August 2006: There are no guarentees that any relationship will last. Just enjoy yourself now and don't worry about what "might" happen. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks she is fat!
Q. My girlfriend thinks she is fat. She really isn't though. Her weight comes from all of her muscle from dancing for 20 years. I have noticed that since she started her diet, that she has been pretty distant. I want to help her, but I don't know what ...
A. 8 August 2006: Just be attentive and supportive, she probably could use some positive feedback every so often. Just let her know that you love her. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes into chat rooms to get to know other women, sex-wise!
Q. my boyfriends been blatently lieing to me for the 2 years we have been together. he goes in to chat rooms trying to get to know other women intimatley. Every time i catch hin he'll just change his name or move to another sight, he has secret emails ...
A. 8 August 2006: You need to snap out of it, no one is listening to you because you seem to enjoy the whining. Tell the guy to get lost and mean it. Don't let him back into your life. Show your kids you have a backbone and get back the self-respect you've lost. Then ... (read in full...)
We got back together on the condition that she would not see or speak to this man again... Now I find she's been emailing and texting!
Q. A few months ago me and my partner split. It was over her being interested in another man. We got back together and I told her she was never to see or speak to this person again. I have recently discovered she has not only been emailing and texting ...
A. 8 August 2006: You said you told her to cut all contact with the guy but did she agree to do it? If she agreed then she has broken the agreement in spades. You obviously can't trust her so ultimately you are going to have to decide whether you are better off with ... (read in full...)
His friend is freaking me out!
Q. My bf and i have been together almost 3 years, the problems is not with our relationship (its great) the problem is with my bf's male friend. my bf's friend has stayed at our home countless times in the past and my bf has recently told me some thi...
A. 8 August 2006: This simply doesn't jell. Your boyfriend sounds like a nut case if what he's telling you is true. Why hasn't he punched the friend's lights out? My guess is that your boyfriend has made it all up. Time for a long chat and maybe issuing some walking ... (read in full...)
I slept with my best friends boyfriend,how can I show her I'm sorry?
Q. dear cupid. Am i a bad person? ive made the biggest mistake of my life by hurting the one best friend ive ever had. by haveing sex with her bf and i knew she really loved and liked him. do you think i could get her back? how could i ...
A. 8 August 2006: You have done enough to your "friend", leave her alone. Focus your attention on yourself and start trying to figure out why you made such a poor decision in the first place. ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex, is it too late to be together?
Q. I'm still in love with my ex and he still loves me but my parents wont let us be together so they had me marry one of the friends of the familys sons but i dont love him, what do i do or is it to late?...
A. 8 August 2006: I have little to no knowledge of the cultures that arrange marriages and make their daughters marry someone they don't love. If you can stand up to your family without being shot, then by all means get out of this marriage as soon as you can. ... (read in full...)
He won't answer my text's anymore
Q. how do i get this boy to answer my text. he used to but doesnt now. what should i say to him?...
A. 8 August 2006: Sounds like you're talking to the hand, give it up.... (read in full...)
Is my ex having doubts about me?
Q. i need advice so ladies please help. I was with my girl for a about a year but about 2 months ago she broke up with me saying she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. I have left her alone have never tried once to contact her. She told me that ...
A. 8 August 2006: I think you should leave the ball in her court. She'll let you know if she is interested. Stay busy and good luck!... (read in full...)
In love with my bestfriends boyfriend and I'm married.
Q. I am in love with my best friend's boyfriend. I am 24 years old and married and I am deeply in love with my best friend's boyfriend. They have been together for a little over a year, and we have had a sexual relationship, for just about as long. Be...
A. 8 August 2006: Ha ha ha you certainly know how to push the aunts' buttons! Go pedal your wares some place else before Martini blows a synapse!... (read in full...)
A question on using people...
Q. Is it possible to use someone you dont feel anything at all for? i know that i couldnt but could some people?... ...
A. 6 August 2006: People that are used allow it to happen. If you think someone is using you you need to investigate. It's always up to the individual to determine.... (read in full...)
My wife says the reason we've had sex twice in three years is her, not me. But I don't know what that means!
Q. I am 36 years old and have been married for five years and have three kids. My wife is five years older then me. My question is that over the last three years I think we have maybe made love only twice and when I try and initiate things I get the ...
A. 6 August 2006: Making love is a cornerstone in any marriage. She owes you an explanation. You can't fix the problem if you don't know what's broke so get her talking. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I came inside my girlfriend...
Q. Me and my girlfriend of 1 1/2 months, had unprotected sex. I came inside of her and she went straight to the bathroom to pee. Does she still have a chance of getting pregnant?...
A. 6 August 2006: Of course she could have gotten pregnant! Going pee doesn't flush out the vagina, it's a whole other set of plumbing! People having unprotected sex better know their human physiology just a tad better. Whatever were you thinking?... (read in full...)
My overprotectiveness is driving my wife away!
Q. Dear Cupid I have been married to my wife for 9 years and been together since high school (we are now 31)and have two young kids. 2 months ago we had a fight because she went drinking at a friends house (and didnt come home). I took off and sl...
A. 6 August 2006: This isn't overprotectiveness, this sounds more like possessiveness. I agree with shania about the panic attacks. Your reactions to your wife's absences is over the top and could be helped with medication. See your physician ASAP. I think your wife ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex with my hubby
Q. How do I avoid having sex with my husband for some time?...
A. 6 August 2006: We need more details here in order to try and advise.... (read in full...)
He no longer finds me sexually attractive so he wants my permission to find a f*ckbuddy
Q. I have been married to my husband for 12 years, and we have been faithfully together for 16 years, Renently I was diagnoised with cancer, we made it through the post op and everything fine, unfortunatly I put on about 170 lbs and he dosn't find me ...
A. 3 August 2006: If you hadn't put on the weight would you then consider the swinging? Is weight the only thing stopping you? Just curious.... (read in full...)
He met a younger girl, why has he thrown away 20 years for someone so much younger ?
Q. I am fifty one and have been with my partner about twenty years. I am still attractive and vivacious. My partner has just told me that he has met someone else. He mentioned that she is 27 and that she makes him feel young. I know that this happens a ...
A. 3 August 2006: She may make him feel young at first but I'm sure he'll be feeling pretty damn old in due time! Yes you should make him move out, I'm surprised you haven't yet. I'm glad you have not taken a huge hit in the self-esteem department. You go girl! If he ... (read in full...)
He met a younger girl, why has he thrown away 20 years for someone so much younger ?
Q. I am fifty one and have been with my partner about twenty years. I am still attractive and vivacious. My partner has just told me that he has met someone else. He mentioned that she is 27 and that she makes him feel young. I know that this happens a ...
A. 3 August 2006: She may make him feel young at first but I'm sure he'll be feeling pretty damn old in due time! Yes you should make him move out, I'm surprised you haven't yet. I'm glad you have not taken a huge hit in the self-esteem department. You go girl! If he ... (read in full...)
Im in love with a married man, I know hes unhappy with his wife, but people are telling me to stay away!!
Q. I'm in love with a married man. I've had so many ppl tell me to stay away from him..that he will never leave his wife. But he is so unhappy with her. He only married her because he thought that was what was right for their child. They do NOT love ...
A. 1 August 2006: Permit me to join the crowd...he will never leave his wife.... (read in full...)
I'm interested in two men... who are older and younger versions of each other!
Q. I not sure when all of this started, but I met the most amazing man in the world. I've been having relationship toubles for so long and decided just to take time for myself, when I notice him. I've known him for years but never really saw him. ...
A. 1 August 2006: As long as nobody's married, then why can't you date both?... (read in full...)
Is it just me, or do other guys cringe when their girlfriends pledge undying love?
Q. I have been in my relationship now with my GF for over 8 months and I do love her. However whenever she talks about the future I cringe and don't like it. When she talks about 'in a few years' etc etc I don't like it. I have always been the type too ...
A. 1 August 2006: She sounds very young and immature with a touch of insecurity thrown in. Ignore the forever promises and just enjoy the relationship. No biggy.... (read in full...)
If my BF has stopped telling me he loves me, is that a bad sign?
Q. My boyfriend used to always say he loved me and just compliment me all the time.... however recently he has been less affectionate ... and I get the feeling it's because he is either angry with me or is going off me .... I am confused. It might no...
A. 1 August 2006: How do you respond when he tells you he loves you? Do you say right back? When he gives you a compliment you you show your appreciation? If he isn't getting any response to his shows of affection then maybe he thinks they're not worth it. If you do ... (read in full...)
I've cheated on my husband, gotten pregnant and now I'm not sure who the father is!
Q. Hi ppl, I have quite a serious problem here and I know I am to blame but I stirred it up and it's time to face it. I am in a marriage of 4 years but I had been having an affair with a guy for around 5 months. I was having this affair as my hubby wa...
A. 1 August 2006: I think you should be honest with your husband. He has the right to the truth and can make his an educated decision as to what he wants to do about the situation. Once the baby is born they can do a paternity test to determine the father. If he ... (read in full...)
We met online and are now in a loving relationship, but I cant get past her antics on webcam and so on previously!
Q. I met a girl online almost a year ago and I fell in love with her over a short period and thought she felt the same. Things eventually got serious with us and she started to develop stronger feelings for me. As our relationship is fairly long dist...
A. 1 August 2006: Since you are determined to get this relationship to work then you'll just have to forget about her past, let it go. If you can't stop harping on it then you really need to move on, for her sake as well as your own. I really don't know what else to ... (read in full...)
Why do men complain about the changes to women's bodies after childbirth?
Q. Why do men marry and have children with a woman only to later complain that her body has changed? I'm not talking about weight but rather the changes that come with pregnancy that are pretty much out of our control, like stretch marks and breast ...
A. 1 August 2006: Tell him how much the plastic surgery will cost him to fix problems he may find with your body. That will most likely shut his whining little mouth.... (read in full...)
We went out for drinks and he told me he hated me... Now he says he had just been angry and tired but I don't know how best to resolve this?
Q. Hello, I am a 40 year old woman who has been married to a 40 year old man for 19 years. We were both virgins when we began dating and we married six months after. We have a 17 year old son and a two year old son. We have always had a tumultuous ...
A. 1 August 2006: How much had he had to drink the night he said he hated you? If he had had a lot to drink he may have said it but didn't really mean it and is embarrassed by it now. Why don't you work on your housekeeping so he can't complain about that anymore. ... (read in full...)
I can't leave him - there's hope he'll change?
Q. kris and I have been together for 6yrs and we live together. We both own the property together. Kris used to smoke dagga and he became lazy and sloppy, I found myself doing every thing around the house, well he just sat on his computer playing ...
A. 1 August 2006: Move out and take him to court so he will have sell the property and give you your share. This relationship is not going anywhere and it needs to end before you waste anymore precious time. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years treats me like trash, now there is this guy at work!!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years and i am feeling that we dont belong together anymore he treats me like im trash unless i tell him that i cant take it anymore. Well i couldnt take it and i dumped him and he thinks it is all a ...
A. 1 August 2006: You say,"Listen, this relationship just isn't working out for me. I need to move on with my life and I wish you good luck with yours." Then turn around and walk away and don't look back. ... (read in full...)
Do men really think stretch marks are okay ? Or do they say they dont mind to be kind ?
Q. i just wanted to know what men truly think of strech marks?? i had my second child 6weeks ago, my first child is 15months, as you can see i didnt hang about, and from having two 9lb babies close together and a miscarriage in between them , i have ...
A. 31 July 2006: My husband calls my stretch marks my battle scars. I don't think most men give a rat's ass about them and if they do they should be reminded that they help make them happen. They do fade with time. Every time you feel bad about them look at your ... (read in full...)
Do men really think stretch marks are okay ? Or do they say they dont mind to be kind ?
Q. i just wanted to know what men truly think of strech marks?? i had my second child 6weeks ago, my first child is 15months, as you can see i didnt hang about, and from having two 9lb babies close together and a miscarriage in between them , i have ...
A. 31 July 2006: My husband call My stretch marks my battle scars. I don't think most men give a rat's ass about them and if they do they should be reminded that they help make them happen. They do fade with time. Every time you feel bad about them look at your ... (read in full...)
I feel very insecure and not sure what to do, one minute we were to buy a house together, now he doesnt want to do it jointly!
Q. I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for 18 months, I moved in with him after just two months on the condition that he sold his house because his ex used to live with him and I didn’t want to live in the house where she had been, now the house has sold and ...
A. 27 July 2006: Buying a house together when you are not legally marriage can still leave you with nothing if he were to kick you out. If I were you I'd start up a savings account on my own for just that sort of event. Let him buy the house himself. Who knows down ... (read in full...)
Is alot of Body hair normal ? And does it stop growing ?
Q. i am a 15 yr old boy and i would like to know is it normal to have a lot of body hair, meaning chest, stomach, back legs and bottacks, and i would also like to know when does the body hair stop growing????? plzz help me as im worried...
A. 27 July 2006: Because I have been involved with this site for a year now and I recognize him. But go ahead and give him advice and comfort he'll just ignore you and come back again in a few weeks.... (read in full...)
Is alot of Body hair normal ? And does it stop growing ?
Q. i am a 15 yr old boy and i would like to know is it normal to have a lot of body hair, meaning chest, stomach, back legs and bottacks, and i would also like to know when does the body hair stop growing????? plzz help me as im worried...
A. 27 July 2006: This has got to be the forth time at least he has posted this, check it out. He has gotten all kinds of wonderful advice and reassurances but just keeps coming back. What more can be done for him?... (read in full...)
Is alot of Body hair normal ? And does it stop growing ?
Q. i am a 15 yr old boy and i would like to know is it normal to have a lot of body hair, meaning chest, stomach, back legs and bottacks, and i would also like to know when does the body hair stop growing????? plzz help me as im worried...
A. 27 July 2006: Good lord, you have posted this hair question over and over and get the same responses each time. Sheesh!... (read in full...)
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