The girl I love cheats all the while and is destroying me, my wife is great but I dont love her...
Q. My life has been turned upside down. I was in an unhappy marriage and eventually seperated and went to stay at my mums. My wife was supportive and was always willing to take me back and make it work between us. She loved me unconditionally. My ...
A. 31 August 2006: I certainly hope you are taking an anti-depressant. If not ask for one to help you through this rough patch. That's all it is, it's not permanent even though you think so at the moment. Buck up buddy, keep your chin up and keep plodding along with ... (read in full...)
The girl I love cheats all the while and is destroying me, my wife is great but I dont love her...
Q. My life has been turned upside down. I was in an unhappy marriage and eventually seperated and went to stay at my mums. My wife was supportive and was always willing to take me back and make it work between us. She loved me unconditionally. My ...
A. 30 August 2006: Glad to hear you are getting some help. You did the right thing concerning your wife. Now concentrate on yourself and iron out the wrinkles so you can forth from all of this a better person with a brighter future. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He cheated, I will forgive, I ask if he still wants me, he doesnt know!!!!!
Q. Hi. I've been married for 2 years and recently discovered my husband has been cheating. It started 1yr ago almost to the date of our anniversary. He has been lying to me for the past year about this and I learned last month he has been "miserable"...
A. 30 August 2006: I think you are going to be miserable with this guy if you decide to stay in the marriage. He sounds like a complete idiot. People who absolutely have no sense of honor or integrity are pretty much irredeemable. You won't be changing his ways, trust ... (read in full...)
I love my friends husband!!
Q. I'm struggling with the same thing as before...My attraction to my friend's husband. I have tried to avoid him like the plague, but we still end up seeing each other coincidentally, our kids are very good friends,etc. I have no problem seeing him, ...
A. 29 August 2006: If life is so great why do you keep writing back on this thread? Just wander off into that lovely fantasy world you live in and forget about this site. Please.... (read in full...)
He says he won't get a divorce for 2 years and wants no strings sex. Should I go for it?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about four months, however he still lives with his ex, I wanted to wait till he moved out before we became serious, but he said he didnt want me to throw away what we had. I thought i loved him and things progress...
A. 28 August 2006: You already feel cheapened by his proposition, think how cheap you'll fee down the line say a year from now. You have a right to the number one position not the sloppy seconds. Hold your head up, take a deep breath and walk away. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I love my friends husband!!
Q. I'm struggling with the same thing as before...My attraction to my friend's husband. I have tried to avoid him like the plague, but we still end up seeing each other coincidentally, our kids are very good friends,etc. I have no problem seeing him, ...
A. 27 August 2006: and again...sigh... (read in full...)
My husband of 30 years took one of our cars and hid it from me!
Q. I reside in california and married 30 years. We have three vehicles, my husband took one of our vehicles and stated it is in a safe place. I want my vehilce returned, what can i do?...he wont tell me where it is...both names on registration..can i ...
A. 25 August 2006: Not sure about filing a police report, but I'm pretty sure that filing for divorce may be the ticket here. At least he'll have to cough up the vehicle when you split up your property in the settlement. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I love my friends husband!!
Q. I'm struggling with the same thing as before...My attraction to my friend's husband. I have tried to avoid him like the plague, but we still end up seeing each other coincidentally, our kids are very good friends,etc. I have no problem seeing him, ...
A. 24 August 2006: She's back...sigh... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's "friendship" with an ex?
Q. I am divorced and have been in a "serious" relationship for 3 1/2 years with a woman is also divorced. About a year and a half into the relationship, it was going great, and I was madly in love. I had taken her to Italy and believed that she love...
A. 21 August 2006: I certainly can understand where you are coming from, I'd feel like yesterday's baked goods if my partner did this to me. You will have to decide whether you will be better off if you stay with her (and mind you she isn't going to change) or if you ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my Turkish lover... But now he's getting married.
Q. Hi there. I went to turkey four years ago and met a turkish guy who lives there and owns a club. As soon as we laid eyes on one another there was some sort of connection. Up close I didn't think he was that good looking, but after chatting t...
A. 21 August 2006: Well I still advise that you wait until his divorce has been granted ( or least in the works) before you pursue this any further. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I am not a sexual person so can those relationships work?
Q. I think this question might be a bit BIG to ask here, but I only ever think it to myself so it's nice to know that other people can finally know my thoughts [on relationships]. Ok... I am young[ish] (i'm 24) and although I've had sexual relations...
A. 20 August 2006: Well I would advise you had better be upfront with the no sex thing. Most guys will turn and run. If you get anybody to stick around then you've got a start on a relationship. I believe there is someone for everybody so I guess you just have to ... (read in full...)
Is she too attached to her dad???
Q. Hi. I've been dating this lovely man for about two years now. However his adult daughter seems not to think much of me. She's been cold to me for as long as I've known her. On the other hand I'm wondering if my boyfriends relationship with his ...
A. 19 August 2006: What happened to the mother? Did he raise her on his own? She sounds very dependent on her father but I can't say it's excessive. If this is her only parent then it even makes more sense to me. She'll pull away a bit when she gets into a ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my sister in law...
Q. I love my siste in law what can I do? I was married 7 years ago and I am 30 now I have a son and love my wife. But I have 3 sisters in law but I feel love to one of them she is 22 now. I find this love when I feel her watching me and every t...
A. 18 August 2006: You ask "Is it ok I start any relation with her" the answer is NO. Now go take a nice long cold shower.... (read in full...)
I had an affair now my marriage has changed and my daughter was there...
Q. I was just beginning to get a normal happy life back and for some odd reason I wanted an affair one day. I had sex with another guy and destroyed my marriage. My husband does not know yet and it was only a week ago, but I can already tell my ...
A. 18 August 2006: "some odd reason" indeed! But to answer the questions...no don't tell your husband the guy's name when you admit your affair, and don't tell him your daughter was there unless you want to lose custody, but maybe she'd be better off if you did lose ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my Turkish lover... But now he's getting married.
Q. Hi there. I went to turkey four years ago and met a turkish guy who lives there and owns a club. As soon as we laid eyes on one another there was some sort of connection. Up close I didn't think he was that good looking, but after chatting t...
A. 18 August 2006: I would not pursue this any further. I would reconsider purchasing a house near to him. You will be setting yourself up as "the other woman". Are you ready to play second fiddle? The guy is married, enough said. Go find a guy who can be totally ... (read in full...)
How can I help my wife overcome my cheating and lying?
Q. My wife and I have been married for ten years. This last year I had an affair for one year and lied to my wife. I want to fix everything I have destroyed with my wife because I truly love her. We both want to start over again. How can I help my wife ...
A. 18 August 2006: Time is your only friend here. Stay faithful, supportive, and loving and eventually all the good feelings will replace the bad. Trust takes time to develop and only a second to destroy. Actions speak louder than words so just stay the course. Good ... (read in full...)
I love my friends husband!!
Q. I'm struggling with the same thing as before...My attraction to my friend's husband. I have tried to avoid him like the plague, but we still end up seeing each other coincidentally, our kids are very good friends,etc. I have no problem seeing him, ...
A. 18 August 2006: Do NOT tell him how you feel, try not to see him but if you must then only see him with his wife present, keep ignoring the attraction as it will certainly fade anyway, focus on your family and that should do it. This is just a momentary crush if ... (read in full...)
He left me for this other girl, came back to me, then left me for her again! Why?!
Q. Our relationship was so perfect and other couples were so envious because we were so good together. But one day when we went to a house party my boyfriend got chatting to this other girl and from then on our troubles started. I found out that he ...
A. 18 August 2006: How about you focus on losing some weight, get outside and start jogging, maybe even join a gym. Your self-esteem will return and you may even meet people. It also will take your mind off the jerk. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
We have been together 5 years, she tells me her heart is with her ex husband and stays with me for security!
Q. Her heart is with her ex husband,she says she is with me for security ,we have been together for 5 years and nothing has changed. She apparently stays on his couch once in a while when I am out of town. should I run or stay ?...
A. 17 August 2006: You have allowed yourself to be just a meal ticket to her. Stop it now. Show her the door.... (read in full...)
We have been together 2 years, hes just found his "lettesr box" but wont let me see.. I feel put out!!
Q. Hi there, I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He had four previous relationships, each only lasting 10 months, but pretty intense I think. The first of these, in particular, was very full on, although they were both young at the time ( it...
A. 17 August 2006: It's none of your beeswax. Put it out of your mind.... (read in full...)
He had an affair and hasnt broken off contact with her, what should I do ?
Q. my husband has had a affair which I have forgiven but he cannot seem to break off contact with her, advice please....
A. 17 August 2006: Looks like you jumped the gun on the forgiveness. Show the man the door. He's only going to make you miserable. You won't regret starting a new life, I promise. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My good friends are backing away from me because I don't look that cool. What should I do?
Q. i have a bunch of really good friends at school..im 15 by the way. But recently we are not that close anymore and they dont really want to go anywhere with me..i think it is because they want me to look a bit "cooler" in public ..please help! ...
A. 17 August 2006: Obviously they aren't "really good friends" if your appearance embarrasses them in anyway. Best go find some new friends. Good luck and remember it have a friend you need to be a friend.... (read in full...)
Caught him with his pants down, was it more to it?
Q. hi, my bf and i have been together 3 years, about 10months ago i saw my bf doing something which i have always qestioned in my mind. im 20 his 25. one day i was coming home afer school early , i opened our front door and walked in and saw my bf st...
A. 17 August 2006: I think you may be in for a lot of heartache with this guy. Your choice if you want to keep forgiving him. I got to admit tho' he makes up great stories, "showing his scar"...snort... (read in full...)
Is he after an affair?
Q. A married man keeps winking at me and telling me i've seen his 'nice side'.... do you think hes after an affair?...
A. 17 August 2006: Why are asking this question? Why do you care?... (read in full...)
Hes still seeing the ex and is VERY much in contact! Should I stay or walk away ?
Q. I have known my partner as a friend for 4 years. We became an item on New Years Eve then at the end of January he called it off to go back to his ex. he was back in feb and we gave it another go. We were happy and got engaged in June, then went ...
A. 16 August 2006: Walk away. He's not worth the crap he's putting down. You were right on about getting those cold feet! Breathe a sigh of relief that you didn't tie the knot! You deserve much better than this, go get it! Good luck!... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking that a threesome would ruin us?
Q. is a 3 sum out of the question??? my boyfriend has recently admitted he wants to see me with another girl, at 1st i was unsure but sed i would consider it. now he says he wants a 3 sum where he can join in. this has made me insecure as i fe...
A. 16 August 2006: You are afraid he'll go behind your back if you don't give him a threesome? Wow! Doesn't that set off the bells for you? Not only is a threesome a rotten idea for you, I think this relationship may turn out to be rotten as well. Your self-esteem ... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my ex, and I don't know what it means!
Q. My ex and I recently broke up. I was heartbroken and wanted him back bad. He told me he cares about me but just cant be in a relationship right now. He said he wants me in his life and wants me to be a close friend. So, i tried to do as he wants. I ...
A. 16 August 2006: I'm afraid he's just not into commitment. Sounds like he enjoys playing the field. If you want total commitment then you're going to be facing disappointment big time with this guy. Probably best to find someone else. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He wants the other woman. But he wants to hang out here until she gets back from her holiday. Kick him out now or what?
Q. Just to give you an update on what's been happening over the last week. The last time I wrote I told you I was confused about my ex who I had just got back with after nearly 4 years apart. He was acting very suspicious and sneaking around with the ...
A. 15 August 2006: Jeez Louise, get a backbone here! It's your home, kick him out. There is no future for you with this guy. Get rid of the loser. Be tough and good luck.... (read in full...)
If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?
Q. Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...
A. 15 August 2006: Ask him.... (read in full...)
Is he after an affair?
Q. A married man keeps winking at me and telling me i've seen his 'nice side'.... do you think hes after an affair?...
A. 15 August 2006: Why are YOU after an affair? Do you consider married men fair game?... (read in full...)
She has asked for space... but I know she needs support right now... Im really worried, whats happening!?
Q. Hi. I could really do with some advice. my girl friend has said she wants some space and has removed me from her home. she was married some 4 years ago. to cut the story down, she and her first daugter ( 3 at the time of divorce) were a...
A. 14 August 2006: I guess at this point you just have to go with the flow. Be there went she asks for help but back off when she indicates she needs that. That can be very tricky and it may also cause you some pain as well. It is up to you to decide whether you can ... (read in full...)
She is 13...what to do!
Q. Hi, I need some advise! I'm a 21 year old lad who has fallen in love with a 13 year old girl (14 in December) and not know what to do? I love her more than anything in the world and have never felt this way before, I can’t stop thinking about her ...
A. 14 August 2006: Thank God there are laws protecting young girls from men like you. I hope the parents call the cops on you before you do any damage to the kid. ... (read in full...)
Should my abuser get away with it?
Q. Hey guys I would like to bring the man who raped and abused me 11 years ago to justice. This is the problem I found out through counselling that I was abused as a child after careful thought I have decided to bring my rapist to justice is that ...
A. 13 August 2006: You go girl! Even if the case is dismissed at least he'll have it on his record and the next time he gets charged (and ther WILL BE a next time)it won't go so nicely for him. You did nothing wrong so there is no shame on your part and you will be ... (read in full...)
Should I meet the MSN guy I've been chatting to?
Q. Hi, I have been talking to this guy for a few months now on msn and now he wants to meet. I have seen a picture of him and him of me on msn but I'm not sure. My friend says if I want to meet him she would go with me. What should I do??...
A. 13 August 2006: Bring more than one friend and (make one of them a guy) to that very public place.... (read in full...)
Im madly in love with My online girl, problem is shes younger and miles away plus her parents dont approve!
Q. I think I am going insane. I have been dating a girl who I met online, she is 16 and I am in my late 20s. Our problem is, we live 300 miles apart. She lives in Scotland and I live in England, yet I have travelled up to see her as often as possible...
A. 13 August 2006: You are obviously not posting here for any advice or guidance. You have made up your mind. You know in your heart what you are doing to this child is wrong and are just looking for approval. My deepest respect to her parents.... (read in full...)
What age do you know?
Q. When is a person/what age is a person ready for a true, intimate, maybe life-long relationship?...
A. 12 August 2006: It's exactly 25 years, 5 months, and 2 1/2 days...I'm pretty sure...I think :\... (read in full...)
He said he won't give me oral sex because I smell different to his ex-girlfriend!
Q. Dear cupid. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now and everything was going alright until i asked him why he had never attempted to give me oral sex when i have given it him. Basically he said it was because i smelt different from ...
A. 12 August 2006: If anyone deserved to taste the curb, this is the guy!... (read in full...)
I'm 14. Should I have sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 14 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for months and he wants to have sex. I would but I don't know if I will ruin my 1st time. Like I think I want to have sex now....
A. 12 August 2006: If you think of it as "having sex" and not making love then you really shouldn't do it just yet. I agree with the aunts who told you to hang on to your gift of virginity. At your age the guys are pretty fickle and he may dump you as soon as he gets ... (read in full...)
My partner says my pregnancy isn't his problem... or his responsibility!
Q. Hi I really need help... I found out about 3 1/2 Months ago that I'm pregnant. At first I was scared and thought I could count on my partner to support me, but lately he's been going out drinking a lot and refuses to talk about the fact that I'm...
A. 12 August 2006: He may deny responsibility but legally he does have responsibility. Read up on the child support laws and get that process ready to go. He is not obligated to support you (I take it you are not married) but he does have to contribute to the child's ... (read in full...)
Having feelings for my neighbor and we are both married!!!
Q. I'm married and I do love my husband,but there's a man that lives next door to me that I have been attracted to for a few years and just in the past months I have felt as though I would like for there to be more, I get vibes from him that he's ...
A. 10 August 2006: Whatever you do DO NOT GIVE INTO THOSE baser lusts. Take the high road and focus on your husband. If you don't I guarantee you'll regret it. When those feelings come over you, go take a cold shower then hunt up the hubby. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Guys I date turn me on for awhile..then I get 'turned off' quickly! Is this normal?
Q. is there something wrong with me? whenever i get involved with a guy he can turn me on like hell for a while but after a while what he does loses its affect and does little to nothing for me when it used to do loads. Is there something wrong with me ...
A. 10 August 2006: Nah there's nothing wrong with you, you just haven't found the right guy yet. You will tho' and probably when you least expect it. Good luck!... (read in full...)
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