She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 10 July 2006: Well Vlad I agree...you should stay in the hospital for a while. And please stop pestering the kid.... (read in full...)
I broke the inherent trust of the group by asking one of its female members out!
Q. I’ve made a huge mistake. I’m an alcoholic undergoing treatment and am in recovery. I’m attending a 3 month (I attend 3 times per week) program and have made good friends with some of the others also attending. Before I started the program,...
A. 4 July 2006: Well actions speak louder...just act like a gentleman and be polite and friendly. That should assuage her doubts and concerns.... (read in full...)
I have his baby and he won't leave his wife for us. What should I do?
Q. hi everybody im so glad i found this website cause i need advice really bad ok it started in nov of 2004 i started seeing this married man see he told me from the beginning that they were planning on getting divorced so we started seeing each other ...
A. 3 July 2006: Well from your follow up I can only say not only is this guy a cheater he's also stupid. Get rid of him and take care of your son. Get going.... (read in full...)
I broke off my engagement because of a row with my boyfriend's Muslim father about religion!
Q. dear cupid, i am 34 yrs old and was engaged back in 2003 to the man of my dreams-we were together for almost 4 years. Unfortunatley i ended the engagment because his father (which i might add is Muslim)decided to TELL me that if I were to have ...
A. 2 July 2006: 3 years? This happened 3 years ago? Whew that's a long time to be dwelling on this. I guess since he's just seeing another woman you could contact him and see if he's still carrying the torch for you. That is if he's not truly involved with her. It ... (read in full...)
How can I get sticky-out nips?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy, in pretty good shape although I don't go to gym, I've got my flat abs my pecks although they are a lot more capable of looking even better, my question is, and I know this'll sound daft, but how can I make my nipples stick out more, ...
A. 2 July 2006: I would just go to places that have really cold air conditioning, it's lots cheaper!... (read in full...)
Should I believe his excuses?
Q. I have posted before( The guy i am seeing won't commit and disappears for months at a time) The last few times he has disappeared and not been in touch, i have contacted him and he has been really pleased to hear from me and each time he has told...
A. 2 July 2006: You are wasting valuable time on something that is going nowhere. Get out there and have some fun, stay busy, you'll meet the guy for you but you have make yourself visible. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I have his baby and he won't leave his wife for us. What should I do?
Q. hi everybody im so glad i found this website cause i need advice really bad ok it started in nov of 2004 i started seeing this married man see he told me from the beginning that they were planning on getting divorced so we started seeing each other ...
A. 2 July 2006: I always have zero sympathy for women or men that get involved with a married person. Their excuses and reasons are always very stupid and pathetic. Your case however is different because a child is involved. You have no rights coming to you but the ... (read in full...)
Thought I'd gotten over the guy I fancied, but then the feelings came back!
Q. I fancied this boy from school and didn't see him for 4 months cos he was on holiday. I got over him but as soon as I saw him again when he got back my feelings came back. :( Is this normal to fancy someone, then not fancy them anymore, then fan...
A. 1 July 2006: Out of sight..out of mind. Ask him out and see what happens. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I think the class flirt likes me... But when he tried to break up with his girl she cried for 4 days solild!
Q. Hey... There's this guy in my class, ok. He's really hot, and most of the girls in our class (and out of it) flirt with him. In class, he talks to me the most, and he's always like, turning round and borrowing my stuff. (when this hapnd once, th...
A. 1 July 2006: Did he tell you about his relationship problems or is this just gossip? If he's already talked to you about wanting to break up with his girlfriend then the next time you two talk together encourage him to try it again. But if you two have never ... (read in full...)
I broke the inherent trust of the group by asking one of its female members out!
Q. I’ve made a huge mistake. I’m an alcoholic undergoing treatment and am in recovery. I’m attending a 3 month (I attend 3 times per week) program and have made good friends with some of the others also attending. Before I started the program,...
A. 1 July 2006: I don't see that you did anything wrong. Why can't you ask someone from your group out? How is that a violation of trust? Don't apologise any further. Just be yourself, it really sounds like she's the one with some unresolved issues. Good luck to ... (read in full...)
I confessed all because he gave signals he felt the same, but he says hes already settled! How do I face him ?
Q. Arggghhh!!! I feel like banging my head against the computer screen, i feel so stupid! This goes back quiet a while. This guy who comes down the local pub is absolutely gorgeous, he's kind funny and has always been there for me. Once me...
A. 29 June 2006: He was drunk when he told you he loved you. Next time wait until the guy is sober before you believe what he says. Now all you can do is act like nothing happened and go back to the pub and have fun. Lesson learned. Good luck.... (read in full...)
We have been struggling for a while now, he says hes had enough and wont give it another shot, but I know it can work!!
Q. Hi ppl, me and my bf were together for 11 months. we vowed to stay together forever no matter wot problems occured. we had been engaged for the last six months. things have been quite hard between us recently and we were constantly arguing! But now ...
A. 29 June 2006: Well it looks like you may have to play the waiting game and see if he decides he misses you too. He sounds pretty much fed up so I wouldn't try to talk him into another chance just yet. He may truly be done with the relationship so I would busy ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to contract an STD without having sex ?
Q. Can you get a STD without having Sex?...
A. 29 June 2006: As far as I know, crabs is not considered to be a STD per say, unlike these others:
Chlamydia
Gonorrhea
Syphilis
Trichomoniasis
Vaginal infections
Genital Herpes
Genital Warts (HPV)
Hepatitis B
HIV/AIDS
Most often you need t... (read in full...)
Married with kid, but need to leave? Help me!!
Q. Hi there I am an agony aunt on here with some strong opinions and I could do without being judged - which is unfortunate as I know this is going to happen anyway! I am in a marriage/relationship of 8 years and throughout I have had to literally beg...
A. 28 June 2006: Children are more negatively affected by unhappy parents than they are with happy separated parents. Since you say you've tried everything to get your marriage on course, you need to divorce your husband immediately. Put your new relationship on ... (read in full...)
What age to wean a baby off her pacifier/dummy?
Q. At what age should a baby be weaned off her pacifier? Is there any harm in leaving her on it too long? Any advice from mom's who've been through this?...
A. 27 June 2006: I'd do it around 1 year old, most babies are capable of comforting themselves at that point. It can cause speech problems in older babies. Learning to talk is hard enough without having to talk around a plug in your mouth! I have also heard that in ... (read in full...)
I've remarried, but still want to get back together with my ex-husband...
Q. I have been recently chatting to my ex husband and we have spoken about meeting each other to possibly get back together. He cheated on me but I still love him and he has feelings for me. The only problem is that I'm married again with kids. I ...
A. 27 June 2006: You need a reality check here. You are married with children. Sorry but husband and children first. The ex should stay ex, you are better off anyway since he's a cheater and obviously has no respect for marriage since he's sniffing around a married ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to date, mum doesnt approve, I want to date but im scared mum will find out!
Q. Im only 13 and Im going out with my best friend.My mum says im too young for a boyfriend,I don't feel this way,everyone I know has had at least 1 boyfriend even people younger than me!I want to go out with him but Im afraid that my mum will find ...
A. 27 June 2006: You should listen to your mother. She has your best interests at heart. Trust your mother's instincts. I know you will not like my advice, but there it is. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My friend is so clingy and boring, its very annoying, I dont know what to do!
Q. This isnt really a love question,but anyway:My friend is such a pain!She is so boring and clingy,I only made friends with her because shes a loner and grew to like her,but then she changed.She bacame boring and clingy!Shes always copying me too!She ...
A. 27 June 2006: Don't be mean but rather be subtle. Start hanging out with other people. Don't tell her of your plans. Invite others to come over to your house. Eventually she will be forced to make plans and friends of her own. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My online fiance has suddenly disappeared! Help!
Q. I have been dating a guy online for 5 months. He lives in another country so we email every day and talk on the phone every weekend. He is so wonderful. I went to meet him (in the other country) around our 4 month anniversary. We had already t...
A. 26 June 2006: Well I guess all you can do is hurry up and wait for him to contact you. The ball is in his court. It is a very shoddy way to handle things and I'm sorry you have been treated this way. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 26 June 2006: Not all men react to porn the way you do. Some men get so addicted that they ignore their partners needs in favor of "wacking off" to porn instead. That's when the problems begin. Plus many women feel threatened by the unrealistic perfection of the ... (read in full...)
I am in love with a married man
Q. iam 18 years old,attractive, intelligent girl and my problem is that i think in love with a married man with two kids one year and four year children. he is living with his wife the only time i see him is the weekends when his wife is at work. to be ...
A. 26 June 2006: Show just how intelligent you are...dump the married guy. There is no future there, just misery and sloppy seconds. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with your life, you won't regret it. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Feeling depressed and having marriage problems!
Q. A have a big problem that maybe someone can give me advice! I have been married for 10 years and it seems that my life together with my husband is not going anywhere. I am now suffering of depression and sadness. Since 2002 we have been renting a ...
A. 26 June 2006: If your income is factored into the buying of a house then you'd best leave him BEFORE the house is bought. You need to find a place of your own and find a therapist to help with your depression. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What clues would suggest my husband might be gay?
Q. Are there signs that could tell me if my husband is gay?...
A. 26 June 2006: Is his sock drawer organized and does he do it himself?... (read in full...)
Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 26 June 2006: Thanks for the laugh 'Happylife', wow my stomach actually hurts!... (read in full...)
This counsellor isn't helping our marital problems, so would choosing another one help?
Q. My wife and I are seperated, but going to counselling to try to sort things out. She has found the last two sessions very upsetting, and will not go back to that counsellor. The upsets are more to do with herself,(ie how she sees things/reacts to ...
A. 26 June 2006: It sounds like that counselor needs a counselor! Definitely look for another one. Counselors/therapists are people and therefore do not mesh with everybody. Good luck with your next one!... (read in full...)
She dumped me by telephone after 5 years together, it hurts and now she has someone else its driving me crazy!
Q. Help !! Basically I got dumped after 5 years. It was done over the phone and it was the worst thing that evey happened to me in my life. Its been 6 months and it was starting to get better, but the other day I found out that she has someone e...
A. 26 June 2006: It takes a big heart in order to feel that much pain. You'll be hurting for a awhile, but trust me, with your big heart and capacity for love it will be worth the wait when you do find your true love. She'll be the luckiest girl in the world and ... (read in full...)
What shall I do about my marriage???
Q. I have been married for 7 years and we have split up twice as I feel that we want different things from life. We are now trying again for the 3rd time. We have a lovely house together, 2 dogs (no children) and my husband is trying really hard to ...
A. 26 June 2006: No you aren't doing the right thing. Tell your husband the truth, it will hurt him less than if he finds out the hard way. Move out and into the rented room and start your divorce proceedings. Just as with your marriage, you'll find that you will be ... (read in full...)
What does the term "gay" actually mean ?
Q. What is the actual meaning of gay. Is it fancying men (if your a man) and vice versa for women, or is it something else?...
A. 26 June 2006: Pronunciation: 'gA
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English, from Middle French gai
1 a : happily excited : MERRY b : keenly alive and exuberant : having or inducing high spirits
2 a : BRIGHT, LIVELY gay sunny meadows b : brilliant in col... (read in full...)
She dumped me by telephone after 5 years together, it hurts and now she has someone else its driving me crazy!
Q. Help !! Basically I got dumped after 5 years. It was done over the phone and it was the worst thing that evey happened to me in my life. Its been 6 months and it was starting to get better, but the other day I found out that she has someone e...
A. 26 June 2006: Over the phone? Boy, she sure sounds like a real class act! People that insensitive always end up getting a payback sooner or later, have patience and keeping moving on with your life. Good luck, Buddy.... (read in full...)
My Husband as advertised on a sex site, is he bored of me ?
Q. I recently found out that my husband has posted himself on a website for finding adult friends for sex/relationships etc. I have been cheated on before and am going paranoid. He says he's never cheated but has lied to me before about pornographic ...
A. 26 June 2006: Why don't you answer his post and see if you can arrange a meeting. Then have your chat with him (rolling pin optional). At least then you'll have the proof you need and be on the upper ground. Good luck!... (read in full...)
He says our relationship is now a "trial"... Is this worse than just breaking up?!
Q. Me and my boyfriend of over a year have recently had a big argument and now he is saying that he will stay with me but we are on trial to see if i can make him happy. Is this acctually worse than breakin up and is it making me look needy by waiting ...
A. 23 June 2006: Sheesh what about making YOU happy? Dump his arrogant ass and move on...there are much greener pastures ahead!... (read in full...)
Is ten times a day too much sex?
Q. I have sex 8-10 times a day with my husband and it's starting to hurt but I still enjoy it should I take it down a notch or what? ...
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Married for 8 years to a man I love as a "friend".. now I find that my first true love has divorced and is asking after me!
Q. I have been married for 8 years now. I love my husband in the way you would love a very deer fried, but we have two children so I have tried to stick it out. But lately I have been thinking alot about my ex who was and still is my true love. I have ...
A. 22 June 2006: Well I guess in light of what you have told me you will just have to decide whether you want to divorce your husband in order to pursue the old boyfriend. If you do not want to work on your marriage then end it before you begin a new relationship. ... (read in full...)
Married for 8 years to a man I love as a "friend".. now I find that my first true love has divorced and is asking after me!
Q. I have been married for 8 years now. I love my husband in the way you would love a very deer fried, but we have two children so I have tried to stick it out. But lately I have been thinking alot about my ex who was and still is my true love. I have ...
A. 22 June 2006: What caused you to split up with your "true love" years ago? Did you love your husband more than "a very deer friend" when you married him? If not, why did you marry him? How do you know that the guy from you past still loves you if all he has done ... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 22 June 2006: Vladimer Nabokov...is that you?... (read in full...)
Why do some women feel so jealous over their sons!!!?
Q. Why do some women get jealous if their son has a girlfriend? I mean isn't that sort of wierd. I could probably understand her getting jealous if her son had a close relationship with his step-mom, she may feel replaced. But his wife? I mean how...
A. 21 June 2006: My mother-in-law was overjoyed at my marriage to her son. I now know why.... (read in full...)
He may be going back to his ex, but stills wants me if things don't work out!
Q. I met this guy about 3 months ago and we immediatly hit it off, we went out at least 3 times a week and he told me how strongly he felt about me and about our relationship..a few weeks later I got a call from a girl sayin that she is his ex of 3 ...
A. 21 June 2006: If you can settle for being his "plan B" then wait around for him, but I for one would cut him totally loose and get busy with my own life. Good luck whichever you decide.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his funny ideas!
Q. My boyfriend that I've been with about a year recently started talking about his fantasy of seeing me with another woman. I personally don't find the idea appealing, I can imagine having an emotional relationship with another woman but not a sexual ...
A. 18 June 2006: You need to really think about your relationship. It doesn't sound like you are getting the fair end of the stick here. I'd be very straight forward about it with him. Tell him "You alone turn me on and if I'm not enough for you then don't let the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his funny ideas!
Q. My boyfriend that I've been with about a year recently started talking about his fantasy of seeing me with another woman. I personally don't find the idea appealing, I can imagine having an emotional relationship with another woman but not a sexual ...
A. 18 June 2006: You need to really think about your relationship. It doesn't sound like you are getting the fair end of the stick here. I'd be very straight forward about it with him. Tell him "You alone turn me on and if I'm not enough for you then don't let the ... (read in full...)
My sister is always making a play for my boyfriends!
Q. My younger sister always makes plays for my boyfriends. She is now 22 and about to get engaged, but whenever I bring a date or guy I am seeing around she gets all googly-eyed and starts flirting with him like crazy. She even hooked up with one of ...
A. 18 June 2006: Yeah, any guy you think who might be "the one" have him pass the sister test. Don't let her antics get you down, have some fun with it. Maybe even get a guy to help you set her up one time just for laughs, you know, really act outrageous when she ... (read in full...)
I have a strange fetish, im now worried I wont find a like minded female.
Q. i have a dirty underwear fetish, not so much the smelling of dirty underwear which seems more common but nothing turns me on more than girlfriends wearing the same underwear for several days and nights on end. I have just split with the first and ...
A. 18 June 2006: Why don't you try buying female underwear and wearing them till they're nice and rank then you won't have to worry about finding a skank. Now that's poetry.... (read in full...)
Is chatting to other woman on the net cheating on my wife?
Q. How do I win my wifes trust back again? We have been married since 1992 have 3 children and a pretty good marriage. Recently we have had more downs than ups, thus leading me to start chatting to other women on the internet - nothing too serious but ...
A. 18 June 2006: If it's no big deal to you then just knock it off. If you love your wife and family you would do it for them. If you feel that your internet women are more important to you then divorce your wife so she can get on with her life (in the real world) ... (read in full...)
I am trying to end my affair with a married man
Q. Eventually i thought of ending my affair with this married man. I did not reply his sms and answering his call n did not want to see him as well for three weeks already but the true is i still miss him deeply. Pls advice, i am already suffer ...
A. 18 June 2006: You have taken the first step in the right direction. If you cave in and take the dog back when he comes sniffing around you'll be right back in the soup again. There is no future happiness in this relationship only misery and loneliness. It may ... (read in full...)
I'm married and attracted to someone else, even though I know it's wrong!
Q. Falling In Love With Someone I Should Not I am married and have a child. I love both of them. I am a Christian and know what is right and wrong. I know that having an affair would only hurt everyone involved, but... I can not stop thinking a...
A. 17 June 2006: I agree with the rabbit, if you are coming here for approval, you won't be getting it. Turn all that energy towards your family.... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 7 June 2006: What a good Daddy you are!... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 6 June 2006: You should leave the kid alone for 4 more years. In the mean time, divorce your wife so she doesn't waste any more time on you and can get on with her life. Then take up a hobby to keep yourself busy for the next 4 years. If it is the true love that ... (read in full...)
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