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writes: hi... im a teenager and wanna know, y would teenage guys want a tall, thin blonde girl to go out with? Wouldnt they prefer someone who is shorter than them?Cos my boy mates all always say "oh theres this really fit girl, she's tall and blonde yum". y do they like that?im completly the opposite :( its getting me down cos i have dark brown hair, quite small, thin and a naturally very curvy body.
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reader, neilevans  +, writes (1 March 2007):
There is a general tendency for the media to promote certain types of men and women as being the beautiful people, but in fact, there is a much wider variety of tastes amongst men and women than we are led to believe. Taste are based on experience and experience will be haevily affected by the fact that everybody isn`t the same.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 Teenage boys like any girl they can get their little hands on. Be careful 'cause they don't start shaping up until mid-twenties, just walking testosterone! God love 'em!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): First off Harley Quinn your advice was just abuse aimed at male's in general and of really no help to anyone. If you have issues you had best leave them elsewhere as people on here are looking for help not insults.
As for the problem in hand many guys prefer many types of girl. Everyone is different. But that is not to say that they wont consider someone who is a different description to who they may normally find attractive. And if they dont talk about a certain type iof girl it doesnt mean that they dont find them good looking. And besides they just have some growing up to do thats all. They're, like you still teenagers and just starting the whole dating thing so I wouldnt worry. Most people grow with experience and become broader minded taking more than looks into consideration. And the final fact is not all guys either go for one type or just focused on the physical. I never was. And talking of personal experience I've always been broad minded about these things. My ex girlfreind was over weight but I loved her to bits as that wasnt even a fault in my eyes. We split because it didnt work out, pure and simple so dont loose heart. Teenages still have growing up to do that's all.
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reader, harley_quinn +, writes (23 September 2006):
 GUYS SUCK - REMEMBER THAT. THEY ONLY WANT ONE THING FROM US WOMEN. DON'T GIVE IN TO THEM AND THEN THEY WILL RESPECT YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2006): Just think about this -
Think of the last guy you had a crush on. Now answer these questions:
Was he perfect in every way?
Would you have still liked him if he had different hair?
If he was mean, boring or made you miserable, would you still date him 'cos he was hot?
Besides, if one guy doesn't like the way you look, it's not the end of the world. If ypu're independant and fun to be with, he'll still like you. And anyway, you'll find someone somewhere that loves your look AND your personality! No one's perfect, and no one's expecting you to be!
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (16 September 2006):
 hey, well im 16, and i did go through the fase of seeing a tall blonde bird and being like PHWORE LOOK AT THAT! but now i prefer smaller curvy girls such as your self (hair colour isnt important) because basicly curvy = sexy. i would say most guys do prefer smaller curvey girls to tall skinny ones. feel good about yourself, dont be down because a few people would prefer a tall blonde girl, its all to do with individual tastes. also as i was saying about curvey = sexy, when guys start getting a bit older alot of them will become alot more attracted to curvey girls because of the sex appeal (not saying tall skinny girls arnt a turn on aswell).
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reader, confussed jane +, writes (16 September 2006):
all guys are diffrent, dont let them get you down you will find a guy someday who likes you for you.dont worry yourself
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reader, xAngeliquex +, writes (16 September 2006):
 I suppose it is just down to the type of girl they are attracted to. It's not like EVERY guy you meet will always opt for the blonde, stick-thin girls. xxxsoulsistaxxx is spot on with what she said, guys have different preferences. It also could be down to their age that they think the perfect girl has to be blonde and anorexic looking to be attractive, which is how the media sometimes portrays it.
Also in my experience, I've seen that guys tend to go for the more curvaceous girls, whatever the hair color. My ex actually doesn't like blondes at all. It varies. I'm a brunette, with a 36-26-36 body and guys love my curves. Just remember this, love. Don't think that because they prefer blondes right now, that every guy thinks the same. We are all different, and there IS someone out there for everybody.
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reader, Amethyst +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Your friends are shallow, to be quite honest. But don't let that get you down, not all guys are! And even still, some have different preferences!
Take me for example, I have a guy who thinks I'm perfect for him, and I'm the polar opposite of those girls as well... just about. Granted, I am pretty tall, I have DARK brown hair, near black, glasses (contacts are too large for my small eyes), I may be curvy where it supposidly counts... but I'm not skinny, I have a naturally large frame... like, you know, thick bones... hmm...
So yeah, enough about that. Fact is, I'm living proof that there is a guy out there who'll prefer you, and if not, he'll love you for who you are personality wise. So, don't let it get you down to much! Also, try being outgoing (if you're shy too), that helps... A LOT! Because guys, especially teenage guys, aren't interested in a girl who is too shy to speak to them, or they just don't show that they're interested if they're unsure if the girl cares about dating at all!
Besides, you don't HAVE to be with someone. It's actually better if you're the independant type for you not to be tied down, unless there are strong feelings involved. So, don't think that just because you're a teenager you're obligated to have a boyfriend, because you're not!
Good luck with everything! Hope this helped at least a little.
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reader, sjd +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Teenage boys often don't make any sense, just like many men! hehehe....but then again the could say the same thing about us! It is my experience that different guys do like different things. But I can give you a hint....it worked for me at least. Guys like girls that are confident in themselves. I was never confident of myself when I was younger and I had the worst trouble with guys. I was always worried that because I wasn't like everyone else....they had no interest in me. I have been 5 foot tall, 98 lbs, with a size 32 chest since I was in the 7th grade....I'm now 22 and hardly anything has changed about my physical appearance!! However, around my junior/ senior year of high school...I decided I didn't care what anyone else thought that people were going to accept me for me or move on! Well...the guys started pouring in. People I had always been afraid to talk to started talking to me. It really worked once I got outta h.s. My first year of college, people just loved my I am me and won't change for anyone attitude. Every guy I have ever dated, told me they loved that about me. It's really a good attitude to have because it eliminates so much stress in your life, and people start to flock to you. You can even make crazy little jokes, "i'm cute so i can get away with it." People know you are kidding so it's just really funny to them.
Everyone is beautiful in there own way and it just depends on the guys you meet. You said you are small, curvy, and dark hair....my guys friends love small dark haired girls...they say they look exotic. Don't be scared to admit you are beautiful. Once you can admit it and show it, you will have plenty of guys begging for your number. You'll have to start handing out the rejection hotline...no don't do that hahaha! Try not to compare yourself to other people....they probably think the same thing about you. Good Luck!
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reader, bonym +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Every guy is different, some like petite, curvy girls, others like tall, catwalk model girls, it just depends on the individual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2006): Don't be getting down about this. Like you say, they're teenage guys so tall blondes are just a fantasy. Guys like different things in girls.
Some guys might like girls with big boobs and others will find big boobs a turn off. Be happy how you are. They'll be people that like everything about you. Trust me :) x
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (16 September 2006):
 Guys all like different things, just like we do. Some will like the skinny body, but it is my experience that men prefer a curvy woman to a skinny one. A woman with any colour hair or body shape can be attractive, there is no set of rules saying what is attractive and what isn't.
Guys often say what they think their mates want to hear. Blonde hair is just one of them things men like and often notice a blonde girl, even if she's not that good looking. I find that brunettes are more popular though, with guys I know!
So don't worry honey, we're all different and that's what makes us all special. You don't want to be a carbon copy of someone else, you just want to be you and someone to love you for being you. Whoever you are and whatever you look like, someone will find you beatiful and fall in love with you. Men like to talk rubbish a lot of the time, when they really aren't that picky when it comes down to it!!!
Keep your head up, girl, you're beautiful. Good luck.
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