He got someone pregnant before we met and says he wants to stick by her but doesn't want to lose me!
Q. hiya.. ive been in a relationship 4 some time now, and recently found out that my boyfriend made somebody pregnant.. which isnt a big deal as it was before i met him..he was only recently told himself and has made the desicion 2 stick by her..again ...
A. 13 June 2007: His plan is nuts. Keeping you separate? He is moving them into his place for the first two weeks? Just plain nuts. Tell him to stick it, you should not tolerate being kept in the shadows.... (read in full...)
Suspicious phone calls are coming in for him but he swears he knows nothing! Any advice?
Q. my boyfriend is accusing me of being jealous and crazy. We spend evenings together up until a certain time then he rushes out at the same time every night or I leave. Well I was getting suspicious so I overstayed a few nights last week and sure ...
A. 11 June 2007: I'm afraid it certainly sounds like he's up to no good. The question is what are you going to do about it? If he adamantly denies it then all you can do is believe him or do some more investigating.... (read in full...)
Do I leave my husband of 40 years (who I love but don't fancy) for my new kinky lover?
Q. I suppose I am quite old to have a question like this (I'm 60). But here goes! I have been married for 40 years to a man who adores me, and who I am very fond of. Trouble is I just dont fancy him any more. I have started an affair with a man who ...
A. 11 June 2007: Give him up and make the best of what you've got. I think the kinky stuff will get old very fast. A 40 year old marriage to a guy who adores you is certainly very hard to come by these days. ... (read in full...)
I hate my girlfriend's tats!
Q. My girlfriend has two tattoos, both of which i hate, and she has plans for more. i dont know if i will be able to cope with them. Has anybody got any suggestions? ...
A. 11 June 2007: Love'em or leave her.... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from analysis paralysis... have so many thoughts I have no idea how I feel.. !
Q. I've been dating a co-worker for 9 months and he's great! But lately, for some odd reason, I've been over analyzing everything! Now I have so many thoughts I have no idea how I feel. The thought of not being with him makes me so sad. I used to know ...
A. 11 June 2007: Whoa slow down there Ginger. Take a couple deep breaths. I think if you just ease up on the analysing you will be able to think more clearly. Sometimes people just need to slow down and smell the roses for awhile. Just have fun with your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...
A. 11 June 2007: You don't want what to end...the beatings? Because I can assure you that you will get a never-ending supply of those if you stay around this guy. And trust me, you don't love the guy as much as you say if you cheated on him. Move on...there is ... (read in full...)
Seven months, we're in love and I bought the ring to pop the question! Should I wait or do it?
Q. I have a 20 y.o girlfriend and i am 25 y.o we have been together now for 7mths we both are very much in love and talk seriously about marriage and spending the rest of our lives together, do you think it is right for me to pop the question yet is ...
A. 11 June 2007: I personally think that 20 is too young to get married but she may be ready. But what is the rush? Why can't you just sit back and enjoy yourself for awhile yet. Your relationship will only be stronger for it.... (read in full...)
He says to me "I wish you were dead"... !
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs calls me names like schizo, stupid, and sometimes when he really tempers up he says " I wish you were dead". He had agression and anger problems, and it flares up on me because I dont stand up for myself and I keep it all ...
A. 11 June 2007: What do you do? You run like hell and never look back. This guy will end up doing something far worse than squeezing your hand too hard or name call. He needs serious therapy. Get as far away from him as you can get. Make sure your friends and ... (read in full...)
Am I too desperate?
Q. my name is max and i love sex but i can'nt find any who is fit and how want to have sex with me i would love to have sex with some one and you could be in my beb tonight or you could give me someones name for me to have sex with so pllease help me ...
A. 11 June 2007: I'll pass.... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but a relationship with my step brother, trouble mes..any views?
Q. OK this is what happened to me. When I was 15 years old, my first time was with my brother from my dad's side (my parents never got married and we are from different moms). He took my virginity by playing a game with me ( he didnt take advantage ...
A. 11 June 2007: You definitely DON'T want to know what I think. So I will let the other kinder and gentler aunts address this mess. I can only hope that Rhythmandblues gives you her now famous line of advice.... (read in full...)
Can't stand my daughter's boyfriend... !
Q. I can't stand the sight or sound of my daughter's new boyfriend. She is 23, he is 21. How should I handle it with my daughter without pushing her into his life?...
A. 11 June 2007: You know to keep your opinion to yourself or you will push her in the wrong direction. Just wait it out, if she decides to dump him you can breathe a sigh of relief. However if she decides she loves him and he's the one then you'll just have to ... (read in full...)
I love my fiance, but I cannot be monogamous!
Q. Am I a terrible person? I feel crazy. Crazy woman is an oxy moron, isn't it? I am engaged and set to be married in 5 weeks. I love my fiance, but I cannot be monogamous. I want to feel terrible but I don't. Everyone is telling me not t...
A. 11 June 2007: Wow, how can you even be contemplating marriage? You owe it to your fiancee to call off the wedding. You are no way ready for marriage. Play fair.... (read in full...)
Should I walk up to him, kiss him, then walk away. I am crazy on him!!!
Q. I am so crazy about this boy and i have been getting so stressed out about it, i am thinking about just walking straight up to him, kiss him,and walking away. Is this a good idea. ...
A. 10 June 2007: It's a bad idea. If you don't know whether he is the slightest bit interested, then it would only embarrass him as well as yourself. Unless a kiss is invited it would be harassment or even physical assault. Ease up Chickie and talk to the guy first.... (read in full...)
We didn't have actual intercourse but I'm terrified because my period is late.
Q. I know this might sound ridiculous, but its worrying me and that's why I'm asking for help. I have never had intercourse sex and just once my fiance and I just kinda made out...He rubbed his penis outside my vagina instead of having intercour...
A. 8 June 2007: You shouldn't be worried, in fact it probably is the worrying that is making your period late. But to alay your fears go buy a home pregnancy test at the drug store.... (read in full...)
I am due to go through a major event in my life and it's worrying me sick...
Q. I am due to go through a major event in my life, though most of you would think it is nothing if I said. I have been worrying about this event that I have blown everything out of proportion and gained a deep anxiety from it which has affected my ...
A. 8 June 2007: You must give more information if you want to get helpful responses. What event?... (read in full...)
Our 3 year old daughter walked in on us having sex.
Q. Our 3 year old daughter walked in on us having sex. She didn't know what we were doing but just stood there saying mummy, we realised almost straight away but she did ask her me what we were doing when i took her back to bed and i said nothing for ...
A. 8 June 2007: My daughter when she was 4 or so said to me one day in a very knowing way "I know what you and Daddy do in the bedroom." I of course was very taken back and said, "Oh really?" She responded, "Yep, you were playing tag cause I heard you laughing." ... (read in full...)
How to cope after a very close death???
Q. Hi Everyone, AskEve here. I just wanted to let everyone know I lost my wonderful partner 2 days ago so won't be on for a bit. He was over in Switzerland on business when he passed away. (I wasn't even with him...) I loved him terribly and now...
A. 8 June 2007: Sorry for your loss Eve. My one greatest fear is losing my husband or one of my children. I have lost both parents and I know that pain. Time DID help dull the pain, it doesn't remove it but I think you will be alright. You have strength I can tell. ... (read in full...)
I found out he cheated...because he gave me an STD!! Can I ever trust him again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend nine years. Recently found out he has cheated. Only found out as we ended up with a std due to him playing away. He then went on trying to tell me we must of had it all this time. Got the truth in the end but i don't fe...
A. 7 June 2007: If you look at my ratings you'll see they are already in the toilet! Not a problem, I just hope things go well for you.... (read in full...)
I try to make him so happy but one minute we get on so well then other days it feels like he don't want to be in the same room with me. What's happening?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend 4 month and it just seems i can't do anything right. I'm 21 been in a 5 yr relationship a while ago and have a 2yr old. My partner is hard work, one minute we get on so well then other days it feels like he don't wa...
A. 7 June 2007: He sounds like s spoiled brat, I'll bet your 2 yr old behaves better. Sit down with him and calmly discuss why his selfishness is harming your relationship. If he doesn't see it then you will have to decide whether putting up with his demands will ... (read in full...)
I found out he cheated...because he gave me an STD!! Can I ever trust him again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend nine years. Recently found out he has cheated. Only found out as we ended up with a std due to him playing away. He then went on trying to tell me we must of had it all this time. Got the truth in the end but i don't fe...
A. 7 June 2007: Trust is like an iron bar once it's bent, you can straighten it out but it will always have a weak spot. The fact that he didn't even use protection and passed a STD onto you is really bending the bar. I guess only you can decide if you can ... (read in full...)
Things with my fiance are going downhill, FAST. The wedding is paid for an guests invited, but should we still go through with it??
Q. Ok, here goes. I have been with my gf for the last 6 nearly 7 years and we are due to get married in August. I'm 25 and so is she. I always thought I would be older but that irrelevant. Recently she found pictures of girls I had chatted to o...
A. 7 June 2007: You should definitely NOT get married if you are feeling this way. Call off the wedding or at least postpone it until all this gets sorted out. If her personality changes when she drinks that is a classic sign of alcoholism or potential alcoholism. ... (read in full...)
Do people judge you on the type of house and family you have? The guy I'm seeing is tasteful and clean, but my house is ugly and messy!
Q. Hey, this is going to sound really superficial and awful of me, but do people judge you on the type of house and family you have? and is it normal to feel scared of being judged on because of this? I'm going out with this guy and i've been to his...
A. 7 June 2007: Messy and unfit...your parents must have done something right to turn out such a loving and caring daughter. You will be just fine having your boyfriend over. If you show him your room make sure it's clean okay? Don't sweat the small stuff sweetie.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife that I had sex with my sister in law? She wouldn't handle it well! What do I do??
Q. I have had feelings for my sister in law for five years and last week we had sex. Im very confused. We both agreed that it was a once off and it would never happen again. We are both married and very happy in our relationship but have been flirting ...
A. 7 June 2007: Cheating on your wife is bad enough, but her sister?!!! If you don't tell your wife, the sister-in-law may spill her guts, maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but some day. Guilt can gnaw away at a person until they have to confess to find a little ... (read in full...)
She asked my bf to walk her home...can I trust her?
Q. Hi..What should I think when a girl asks my boyfriend if he wants to walk her home? This girl is one of our close friends' girlfriend and we spent about 3 nights out with them since march...and while we know the guy very well, we're not so close to...
A. 7 June 2007: Looks like you might not be able to trust her but it also looks like you can trust your boyfriend which more important. ... (read in full...)
I care so much for her! How do I ask her to choose either him or I?
Q. i would like to explain this from the begining if i may. i was in, and still am in the military. i meet a lady a few years back. we started out just talking to one and other pretty often. and to be honest i have no idea when it went to us being ...
A. 7 June 2007: She has very low self-esteem if she is staying in a relationship where there is abuse. But if that is where she wants to be then there is little you can do about it. It is so sad when a woman feels she actually deserves to get the crap beat out of ... (read in full...)
I cheated and he's not sure he'll ever trust me again! How do I earn his trust back?
Q. Help, Please!! I am trying to gain the trust back in a relationship. I was with a guy for a year. We were engaged and found out we are expecting a baby. But we are not together right now. This is where the problem comes in. I love him and want to ...
A. 7 June 2007: Please tell me that you click the wrong age bracket.... (read in full...)
I don't want kids in my future but cannot get sterilization' surgery because of my age.I fear getting into relationships because I don't want a pregnancy. What can I do?
Q. katie Absintence cause problems? Hello- I am a 21 year old with a history of sex abuse. I really want a boyfriend and companionship and I would like to have sex but I absolutely do not ever ever ever ever want a kid, I have done soul searching a...
A. 6 June 2007: I know they won't sterilze you at your age but like Stina said an IUD may work for you. Make sure when you do find a partner that you are upfront at the get-go that children are out of the picture. Some guys are not going to stick around if they ... (read in full...)
Social services is charging my baby's father - my boyfriend - with sexual assault!! Can we get the charges dropped??
Q. i been with my boyfriend for 3 years now we just had a baby in february 07. social services are charging him with sexual assault because he is 29 years old and i'm 17 years old. do i have a chance to drop that charge? ...
A. 6 June 2007: Probably not dropped because it's the law. However the judge may take the fact that you had a baby and that you are still together (assuming that you guys are still together) into consideration when he passes the sentence. You do need to talk to a ... (read in full...)
He's 4 years older and wants sex with me..should I agree or not?
Q. ive known this guy for ages and were really close. weve been messin round for ages and now he wants sex the thing is hes 4yrs older than me. should i sleep with him or say no?? plz help xx ...
A. 6 June 2007: Say no, casual sex is meaningless. If you have to ask this question the answer is always NO.... (read in full...)
The married guy at the office uses the same lines on other females he used on me! Should I warn them aboout him?
Q. I work with a very charming and married man who plays around on his wife. I am not proud to say it but I was one of his conquests. I was upset for awhile but have moved on from it now and am in another relationship. It is hard to see him using all ...
A. 6 June 2007: I agree with Flower, dummy up and let the chips fall where they may. It's not your job to protect the world from this cheater.... (read in full...)
I love my mistress but I love my wife and kids, too! What should I do?
Q. Hi im 36 yrs old male and i have been married for 17 years.I have also been cheating on my wife for 6 years with a wonderful women aged 26 we have a great relationship and i love her like mad. Trouble is i love my wife as well.I dont know which way ...
A. 6 June 2007: Awwww poor you. You are about to destroy 4 people's lives and you are expecting sympathy? You know exactly what you should do, if you don't then you are a total sociopath. Straighten up and fly right. My deepest sympathy to your lovely wife and ... (read in full...)
Upset and confused about my feelings for my sister's bf! Any advice?
Q. Ok, im a 13 year old girl and i have two half sisters ( 32 and 36) and im extremly close with them. I love them very much and dont see them very often, But this weekend they came to my dads birthday party with their boyfriends, which i love ...
A. 6 June 2007: You have a crush on him. Very common especially during your teenage years. It will pass with time, don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
The girl I like likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend that I've been liking for a few months now and she just recently broke up w/ her bf 2 weeks ago. Now I know not to rush her, but I'm confused, b/c I know she is attracted to me and she flirts w/ me a few times back in school but even ...
A. 6 June 2007: Well that doresn't change my advise. Just take things slowly. Stay friendly, when she is ready, she will let you know.... (read in full...)
I must increase my bust!
Q. Right - I'm 18 and I have such small boobs - a 34A - but even some bras seem loose. It always really upsets me! I would just like to go up a size, but I could never consider a boob job! Is there anything I can do? pills?, exercises etc......
A. 5 June 2007: Other than surgery there is no cream or magic potion. There are products out there that claim they will enlarge your breasts but that's all snake oil and smoke screens so don't sucker for them. We get breast size question a lot and the guys almost ... (read in full...)
He compliments other girls and expects it not to bother me! Am I wrong to feel upset?
Q. I'm dating this guy, but there an age difference between us, he loves me and I love him very much we've been together for a year and a half, he has a problem complimenting other girls and expects it not to bother me...am I in the wrong for getting ...
A. 5 June 2007: I wouldn't get upset over this UNLESS he never compliments you. Also if the compliments are friendly and in good taste then I wouldn't mind. But if he is embarrassing or never tells you how nice you look, then you have every right to clean his ... (read in full...)
I told my friend's sister that I was very fond of her, but she shot me down! I'm feeling a bit low now - what can I do?
Q. Hi, I am in love with my friends sister who I also have a great relationship with, however on saturday nite I finally told her I was very fond of her, her reply was we will allways be friends but nothing more, I now feel a bit depressed how do I ...
A. 5 June 2007: Well nothing ventured nothing gained. Be a rubber ball and bounce back. You sound like a nice guy, you'll be just fine. Keep your chin up Buddy.... (read in full...)
I'm not into online dating, so how can I get back into the dating scene?
Q. Hi, I've been single for a year and a half now. I'm interested in getting back into the dating scene and I'm not sure how to go about this. I work hard and socialise with my friends (most of them guys). I have tried the online thing and its really ...
A. 5 June 2007: Do some volunteer work at the local hospital, join a gym, go to community events, go to anything that gives you high visability, and most important be very patient Emma, I'm sure he's right around the corner. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I really want to seperate from my husband, but he's in a terrible physical and emotional state! I don't know if I can do it!
Q. I have been married for 28 years, I fell out of love 10 years ago but haven't left as my husband has always been so dependent on me. Over the years he has got severe back problems and suffers with depression. I have just found the courage to sell ...
A. 5 June 2007: After being married so long, of course it is sad to see your husband suffer. But in all honesty, his back would still hurt him whether you are there or not and depression can be a chronic condition. You can't see yourself going back and living with ... (read in full...)
My gf stays over so late that it's affecting my ability to work! She promised to leave early, but doesn't and gets hurt when I have to ask her to go!
Q. It's a bit late right now, so I'll go ahead and cut to the chase. I've got a job that requires me to be up early, 3:30 am early, as I start at 5 am. My girlfriend and I, we made this promise that she wouldn't stay over past 9-9:30 on days when I ...
A. 5 June 2007: Yep talk to her. Tell her you're exhausted and she needs to let you get a good night's sleep on work nights. If she truly cares about you she will make sure you get it.... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my nerdy geeky personality?
Q. How do I get rid of my nerdy geeky personality? i know its a big part of me but i hate being always referred to as a loser. Oh and I'm 20 and not some teenager in high school....
A. 5 June 2007: Bill Gates is called nerdy ALL THE WAY TO THE BANK. Think about it. Also his wife Melinda is a cutie-patooty.... (read in full...)
He left me for an old meth addict who convinced him that our daughter is not his!! I'm still in love with him - what should I do??
Q. I seriously feel like my life could be the next headline for the Jerry Springer Show. Seriously. My high school sweetheart, the father of my child left me about 10 months ago for a meth addict who is about 10 to 15 years OLDER than him. She had 2 ...
A. 5 June 2007: Why on earth would you want that druggie back? Now is the time for you to move on to greener pastures with your lovely little girl. You have a bright future and can give both your daughter and yourself a wonderful life. Don't look back. Good luck ... (read in full...)
The girl I like likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend that I've been liking for a few months now and she just recently broke up w/ her bf 2 weeks ago. Now I know not to rush her, but I'm confused, b/c I know she is attracted to me and she flirts w/ me a few times back in school but even ...
A. 4 June 2007: Stay friendly and have fun, if she is interested and is ready she'll let you know. Right now just have fun with no pressure.... (read in full...)
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