Is it the 'mid-life crisis' or does he actually have feelings as it has gone on for so long?
Q. Hi, One of my male colleagues has shown that he is interested for the last year and a half. He is married with children and in his early fifties. I find him attractive but never wanted to pursue it as he is married. Since I have not been pursuing...
A. 13 July 2007: Who cares if he has "feelings"? Stay away. Whether it's a mid-life crisis or whatever...it's certainly no business of yours. Let everything he says go in one ear and out the other.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 15 years older than me with 2 kids and my parents dont approve
Q. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for nearly a year now and we really love each other. The problem is that we havent been honest with my parent in terms of his age and the fact that he has 2 kids. He is 37 and i am 22. ive become very ...
A. 12 July 2007: I can understand where your parents are coming from but really the only thing that matters is that both of you really love each other. However with such a huge age difference there can problems, like: Do you want children and is he willing to start ... (read in full...)
I am paranoid about getting an STD
Q. Whats the difference between HIV and an STD, I know there are no cures for hiv or aids but can an std be cured and how does someone know if they have it? I've kissed someone passionately and asked them if they were 100% clean of any health risks...
A. 12 July 2007: HIV and AIDS are the same disease and it's not curable. Most STD's respond to antibiotics and are curable but the Herpes strains are not although most can be controlled somewhat. As far as your boyfriend is concerned I'd ask to see the test results ... (read in full...)
What turns a guy on?
Q. Guys what turns you on? How can a girl make sex better for you?...
A. 12 July 2007: I'm thinking mere opportunity.... (read in full...)
Will I bleed when I lose my virginity?
Q. I bled when I was fingered and it was a bit sore. Does that mean my hymen was broken? Does that mean I will not bleed when I have sex for the first time?...
A. 12 July 2007: Hard to say. If you are that concerned, schedule a pelvic exam with your doctor and he will tell you.... (read in full...)
I have been married 2 years, but I am still a virgin!
Q. I am in need of urgent help. I am almost 28 years old and married since last two years now. it was a love marriage and we both love each other a lot. But i am still a virgin. I am just so scared of the pain even before we start kissing that i do not ...
A. 12 July 2007: See your doctor, sometimes they can break your hymen surgically and painlessly. Then you can relax and enjoy your first time. It really doesn't hurt all that much if you use lubricants and proceed nice and slowly.... (read in full...)
I want my guy to go down on me
Q. What can you all use to have your guy go down on you? Guys what do you like?...
A. 12 July 2007: Well you could use a 45 but that might be a bit drastic ;o... (read in full...)
Do I break my fiancee's heart and ask him to move out, desperately try to find a way to pay for it, and tell my ex that we can once again be together?
Q. I am in love with my ex-boyfriend and I know he loves me back, but I am engaged to another man. My ex and I met a couple years ago and dated for nearly a year and a half. He moved to another city after he finished college and I started working....
A. 12 July 2007: You need to tell your fiancee that you can't marry him after all and that you are moving on with your life. Sell the house and get whatever money back that you put into it. Some promises should be broken, marrying someone because you promised is ... (read in full...)
He says he's not 'taking any of my crap' when he's the one that's acting ridiculous
Q. I am pretty sure that my boyfriend and I had the fight that has totally ended our relationship last night. Now I sit here wondering where I went wrong. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and have been living with him for the past year. ...
A. 12 July 2007: He's trying to control you. Everything has to be his way or the highway. He must have very low self-esteem. I'll bet if you don't try to contact him, he'll come sniffing around very soon. What you need to do is take this time and really think about ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to her without all these feelings returning?
Q. Hi, well here goes, hoping for some sound advice to lead me in the right direction. Will try and keep this as short as possible... My best friend for the past 5 years is/was a work colleague called Julie. I'm married, she's in a long term relation...
A. 11 July 2007: Keep up the job search, Steve. You need to distance yourself from Julie. So far so good but you really need to get away from her. Try to focus on your wife whenever Julie is around. It's better that Julie gets offended than your wife gets hurt.... (read in full...)
I have a problem, the boy I like doesn't notice me, what can I do?
Q. hi, I have a problem, the boy I like doesn't notice me, what can I do and please give me good tips, I really need them fast and if you's have a problem just tell me and I can help you if you help me, I really need good tips and it's not a joke if ...
A. 11 July 2007: He's probably not noticing you because he's a child like yourself and not interested in girls yet. If he's older than you you don't want him to be interested, trust me.... (read in full...)
How can I stop my boyfriend continually asking me questions about my past boyfriends?
Q. Okau I have a couple of questions so please try to answer them!!! THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION - I told my boyfriend that I've had sex with a lot of guys when I was younger (and I have) but he really don't like it and I don't want him thinking...
A. 11 July 2007: It's just a shame to hear that a child of 12 or younger HAS a past. Please consider my advice.... (read in full...)
I think I want to break up with my boyfriend, but we have the same friendship group and I'm sure it would make things awkward.
Q. I think I want to break up with my boyfriend, but we have the same friendship group and I'm sure it would make things awkward. He ended up losing his best friend by going out with me, and has recently ditched most of his other friends and spends all ...
A. 11 July 2007: Well you can't stay with him just because it might be awkward within your circle of friends. At your age boyfriends come and go and so do friends. Be nice when you break up with him and hopefully no one will have hard feelings and life will go on ... (read in full...)
The new guy I'm seeing is amazing! The problem is my friends - they say he's too ugly for me and that I'll end up hurting him!
Q. i have being seeing a guy who i think is amazing. We seem to get on so well, and have such a connection. All the past guys i have dated have all been boring and i he just makes me laugh so much. I love spending time with him, but problem is none of ...
A. 11 July 2007: A guy who makes you laugh, a guy you love spending time with, a guy you may be falling in love with...tell your friends to put it sock in it. You don't have to prove anything to your friends and if they are truly friends then they would be happy ... (read in full...)
Back to square one in getting over my ex after listening to a song she told me to listen to.
Q. I have a problem regarding my ex, basically the backstory is we were together for 7 years, lived together for 2 and two months ago i proposed to her in paris as we had talked about it for years and i felt ready to pop the question, she accepted and ...
A. 11 July 2007: Dang! Right when you were on the verge of recovery too! I guess if you are willing to risk the pain again I would go ahead and meet up with her and see what's on her agenda. She may just be on the rebound from her last boyfriend. She may honestly ... (read in full...)
I can't control my anger when it comes to my boyfriend! He's cheated on me six times, but I still want to be with him!
Q. My boyfriend and I had a quarrel. I don't know if i love him still, because i sometimes realize that i've been harsh on him, and i always regret what i've done everytime we're not together. Sometimes I think it's because of the pain he gave me ...
A. 11 July 2007: Sounds to me that you haven't forgiven him for cheating on you. You get angry about something little but what you really are doing is punishing him for cheating on you. You will have to forgive and forget his unfaithfulness or it will destroy the ... (read in full...)
I'm lonely. All I do is work, then come home to an empty flat, watch tv, read and go to sleep
Q. I'm lonely. All I do is work, then come home to an empty flat, watch tv, read and go to sleep. Day after day after day. What worries me is that I'm getting used to it. I still miss my family and friends (all of them thousand of miles away) but I ...
A. 11 July 2007: I think you need to do some volunteer work. Just a few hours a week. You will be out there doing something good for society and you will be thinking about other people instead of dwelling on yourself. Once a week go to a nice restaurant and then a ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but we have feelings for each other. He kissed me, too. Is this considered cheating? Is he using me?
Q. Thers's this guy i know who works in at my local gym. He's 25 and I'm 16 but i really have feelings for him and he has for me. He has a girlfriend but the other day we kissed. Is this regarded as cheating? Or should i be worried that he is using me ...
A. 11 July 2007: Yes it's cheating and yes he is using you. Knock this crap off immediately. He is trouble.... (read in full...)
My husband treats me and our kids with no respect. Counseling has only made things worse and I can't afford to leave! Now what??
Q. I have been married to my husband for 13 yrs. Many people say oh it has been wonderful yrs for themselves, I cannot. It has been hard. I have no desire for him sexually, he is very short fused, w/ me and our 3 children. he calls them names, that you...
A. 11 July 2007: I don't think you can afford to stay. There is always a way. Check with any local women's agency and get all the information they have to offer women in your situation. Your husband is not going to make any changes to accommodate your feelings. If ... (read in full...)
I had a sexual relationship w/ him before he started dating my relative. He comes onto me and when I tell him to stop, she laughs! What do I do?
Q. A close relative of mine has a boyfriend that I had a sex relationship with before they got involved. He still comes on to me in front of her. Why does he do this? How do I know if it is bothering her and does this mean he is still interested in ...
A. 11 July 2007: Stay away from them. He's just teasing you, if it bothers you then stay away.... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 11 July 2007: Ditto... (read in full...)
How can I stop my boyfriend continually asking me questions about my past boyfriends?
Q. Okau I have a couple of questions so please try to answer them!!! THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION - I told my boyfriend that I've had sex with a lot of guys when I was younger (and I have) but he really don't like it and I don't want him thinking...
A. 11 July 2007: You are 12 or younger, you shouldn't be dealing with all this stuff at your age. You WILL be branded a slut if you have sex at your age, not to mention the physical dangers you could inflict on your body. Who needs a boyfriend at your age, friends ... (read in full...)
I don't know what changed within me - I felt our relationship was a habit more than anything.
Q. My partner and I split up in February after just over 4 years of being together. I have a son (12) from my previous marriage and he has two sons 13 and 17). We didn't live together so the split wasn't messy. My feelings for him changed last summer ...
A. 11 July 2007: You have definitely done the right thing by moving on. Some relationships just aren't meant to be, they simply fall short of the mark. You now have the ability to meet the man of your dreams and I'm sure that you will. Good luck honey.... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 11 July 2007: You are definitely not open to debate. You want people to back you up with all this deceitful doo-doo (is that better?). You do not want honest opinions you want to hear from people who are also living a lie. For the sake of your husband and ... (read in full...)
Hi, recently i had sores in my mouth. i have alot of coldsores but usually on my lip and never thought you could get them in the mouth.
Q. Hi, recently i had sores in my mouth. i have alot of coldsores but usually on my lip and never thought you could get them in the mouth. I gave my partner oral sex and am quite confused about what happens. oral herpes is called HSv1 right? and ...
A. 10 July 2007: This is a prime example of why there are so many STD's in this world. People who have no business having sex because either:
1. they don't give a damn who gets infected
or
2. they have no clue about the human body and sexual reproduction... (read in full...)
My wife, 60, has been suffering from anxiety and agoraphobia... all she does all day is watch mindless TV and doesn't seem to want to help herself!
Q. hi - my wife. 60, of many years has been suffering from anxiety and agoraphobia. all she does all day iswatch mindless television and doent seem to want to help herself! She began to avoid being in bed and awake at the same time, eventually moving ...
A. 10 July 2007: Sorry but you didn't solve your problem by getting a girlfriend, just complicated things. Why would you feel guilty because your wife decided to give up on herself and expects you to be at her beck and call? You shouldn't have agreed to be in this ... (read in full...)
My ex turned to me when his heart was broken, but dropped me as soon as she wanted him back!
Q. Thanks to all who reply to this. My ex has been in regular contact with me since his girlfriend left him a couple of weeks ago. I was away for part of last week and he left messages on my cell phone to call him. I called him today and he informed me ...
A. 10 July 2007: He acted like an ass, be glad your through with him. Just keep on being the class act that you are and you've won the battle, Babycakes.... (read in full...)
I discreetly got DNA and the result shows I am not her biological father. I am stunned and do not know what to do.
Q. Just found out my 12 year old daughter is not mine, I was divorced recently and an old friend of my ex wife told me when she had a few drinks . I confronted my ex she said it was rubbish but it has been playing on my mind for months. I discreetly ...
A. 10 July 2007: Holy Cow! I guess because the daughter sees you as her father she would be utterly crushed if the truth came out. The savings in child support certainly wouldn't out weigh her feelings. Remember: ANY male can father a child but not EVERY male can be ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 10 July 2007: All you said was that you told him your feelings have changed, try telling him what you told us and see if he chooses to stay after that. And don't think you are doing your children any service by staying with your husband, the truth will come out ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 10 July 2007: Sorry Kandice, I've been following this thread and agree with everythng Eddie has written. You so obviously want validation for your emotional affair and that indicates guilt. You don't have much to say about your husband do you?... (read in full...)
If I meet one of her ex lovers, I get sick. She won't consider my feelings, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I`ve been goin out wit my girl for the last 6 months and she is 19, but before me she slept aith atleast 20 men, and now some of them contact her but everytime i meet someone she been with i get sick, as i imagine them together but she wont ...
A. 10 July 2007: She sounds like a brat to me, are you sure you want to be with such a selfish person?... (read in full...)
My ex and my friend are in a wonderful relationship together... I know because she brags about it! It's so painful, so what do I do?
Q. A close freind of mine is going out with my ex and we are in the same friendship group. Recently me and some girls friends went out, including her and she talked about him the whole time! Their relationship is going so well atm and because she was ...
A. 10 July 2007: She is hardly a friend if she flaunts her relationship in your face! Distance yourself as much as you can from her and your ex for that matter. Seeing them together will only postpone your healing. I know since you have mutual friends it can be ... (read in full...)
He is so paranoid about getting pregnant!
Q. I'll be 15 very soon and my bf will be 18 in a few months. We want to have sex before it's illegal but he's WAY too paranoid about getting pregnant, he wants to wear TWO condoms AND get on the pill! I know it's a good thing to be careful, but I just ...
A. 10 July 2007: Sounds like a very sensible guy to me. I would certainly appreciate him if I would you, many guys leave all birth control up to the women. However if you aren't 16 then I would just postpone intercourse until you are, upside is you won't have to ... (read in full...)
I think I caught her cheating, but she wont admit it
Q. Hi, For the last few weeks I have had a suspicion that my girlfriend is cheating on me. It started about 3-4 weeks ago when she started chatting to men she had met on hotornot. she became really secretive about what she was talkng about online...
A. 10 July 2007: Sorry but I'm thinking she is cheating too. Did you tell her that you know she has been to his house? It really irks me when cheaters try to turn the tables on their partners. Of course you can't trust her because she wasn't upfront about what she ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and I want to have sex with my boyfriend
Q. im 13 years old and im dating a boy who says he wants me marrie me :) and we have only been going out for 3 months. and we both love each other very much and we have been doing sex practices. not real sex but with our clothes on and it feels so good ...
A. 10 July 2007: You should keep on having your "sex practices" until you are older. 3 months is hardly long enough to really get to know someone. There is the whole rest of your life to have sex. What's the hurry? Read up on human sexuality, know all about ... (read in full...)
I have meltdowns about once a month and I'm pregnant! My husband gets mad at me and I'm also scared for the health of my baby! What can I do?
Q. And no I am not talking about meltdowns from a 2-year-old, I'm unfortunatley talking about meltdowns from myself. I'm 24-years-old and recovering from depression. I hold down a full-time job and got a bachelor's degree so I have not let it ...
A. 10 July 2007: Well honey, pregnancy can do this to anybody but it can be especially hard on a depressed personality. Since medication is out of the picture I really think talking with a therapist would be a huge help to you. He/she may have some techniques you ... (read in full...)
My wife has been getting really emotional recently and cries all the time. Is this normal? How can I help her?
Q. Hi i hope you understand me here because i'm finding it hard to understand myself. Well recently my wife has been getting a bit emotional and the first time i noticed she was feeling sad i asked her what was wrong and she said she doesn't know she...
A. 10 July 2007: She needs to see her doctor. He may be able to prescribe something to help with her PMS. She sounds like her hormones are slightly out of sync. Encourage her to go, she'll feel better once she gets checked out.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me because he says I am a failure
Q. How can I regain my self confidence be the confidence exuberant individual I once used to be? My boyfriend dumped me because he met someone else, not only has he cheated on me, but his reasons for wanting find someone else is because he thinks i...
A. 10 July 2007: Wow! I love the happy endings! Great advice LauraE!... (read in full...)
He is too overprotective and intense and it is making me unconfortable
Q. so ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 months. i love him, i really do. when i say that its not a lie. but he is so much more into it than i am. he talks about us being together after college (im gonna be a junior in hs and hes gonna be a senior ...
A. 10 July 2007: It's too bad you met this guy in the beginning of your life, he sounds like a great guy to settle down with. However since you really aren't ready to do that just yet, I think you will either need to talk to him and see if he will be willing to ... (read in full...)
My friend got naked at a party to show my husband what a great body she has
Q. I used to think my husband and i were quite strong and that he loved me but now i am not so sure we had a party and my friend came, she has lost a lot of weight and looks real good now i on the other hand am over weight i am trying to lose it ...
A. 10 July 2007: I certainly wouldn't sit down with the "friend" like the one aunt suggested, I'd slam the door in her face forever. As far as your husband is concerned I'd ask what exactly were his thoughts when he behaved this way towards you. He'd better be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is done having kids, but I dont have any yet, and I really want one
Q. Im 29 and living with my girlfriend, 34, and her two boys 10 and 12. We have been together over a year now and i realise now that she doesnt want any more children and i do. She has had her boys and now want some time of her own, which i underst...
A. 10 July 2007: This is a very tough situation. I assure you that if you truly want to have a child and she refuses, then you will resent her for it down the road. If after you discuss openly and honestly about another child and she still says that she doesn't want ... (read in full...)
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