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*wen321
writes:My girlfriend has two tattoos, both of which i hate, and she has plans for more. i dont know if i will be able to cope with them. Has anybody got any suggestions?
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reader, moocow1969 +, writes (17 August 2008):
 Kaden is right in asking - why do you hate the tattoo? My girl has a tattoo that I hate. She had it done through pressure from an ex and to impress/fit in with the crowd she was in then. Apart from being in a destructive relationship, she was suffering from depression and going through a low point in her life. The design was picked with other people in mind and is in no way a reflection of her own personality or character.
So, my reason for disliking my girls tattoo so much is that horrible time of her life is permently marked on her back. The design is not her own expression but the influence of somebody that we both would rather forget. Sometimes its because you love someone so much, a tattoo with a dark meaning can be very distressing.
Finally, ask your self - do you really hate them or are you using this 'hate' as a means of control?
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reader, owen321 +, writes (12 June 2007):
owen321 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much to those people who replyed, it was a big help. I am now sure i have over reacted about her tattoos, i just want her to really want what she gets done this time, because the last two she just picked out at the last min without any thought. i will try to be more understanding and less controling.
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reader, Dojha +, writes (12 June 2007):
 The thing is she's your girlfriend and you must like her to be with her. so have a nice chat about this, trust me communication does a lot of good. she probably doesnt know how you feel.another thing is most tattoos are for showing off so its not guaranteed that she will cover them up for your convenience so you might just have to deal with it.if you cant, easy. get a new girlfriend that suits you.Tk cr, Dojha
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reader, babydoll0713  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Tell her how you feel. If you have never stated to her that you don't like her tatoos then maybe you could approach it a little differently. Tell her you just wouldn't like anymore. My boyfriend has 3, one on his neck and two on his arms. He always talks about getting more but I tell him I don't want him to because I feel he has enough. He respects that and hasn't gone and gotten one. Every once and awhile he will ask if I like a tatoo he'd like to have but for now I don't think he should get any. Explain to her WHY you don't want them. Don't just say because you don't, but have everything ready when you bring this up. I'm sure she'll understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Why do people do this? Find something so trivial to complain about? What about her other qualities that encompass who for who she is. Tattoos are part of who 'she is'..it's a way she expresses herself. Look, she had tatoos when you met her. The tatoos are on her body for a lifetime. Either accept her the way she is...or bail. Your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): You hate both the tattoos ? Just ask yourself if it is theme of the tattoos or the tattooed body-part that is causing trouble. Jubbaloo's suggestion is excellent. I think the best way is to talk to your girlfriend about this. An open-minded discussion on this may reveal the core-values you and your girl-friend share which will make your decision much easier.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 im sure there are things about you that bug her but she just takes them as your flaws - most ppl do. if u really cant cope with them then its not meant to be but i wonder why u got with her in the first place if they annoy u so much.
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reader, kaden +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Basically, on top of what everyone else has already said, you have to ask yourself why you hate them. Do you hate the design or the fact that they are tattoos? As a person having plenty of tattoos, I can tell you now it's just a form of self expression, and sometimes it can be a love it or hate it type of thing. But really when it comes down to it, that self expression is a big part of who she is. And you have to ask yourself if you love her body or if you love her. If something small like a tattoo is giving you this much trouble maybe she's just not the right girl for you.
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reader, kenny +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Basically as eyeswideopen says love em or leave her. If you can't stand the two she has got already surely if she gets another one will be too much for you to cope with. I guess it all boils down to how much you love her really.
Good luck
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reader, Jubbaloo +, writes (11 June 2007):
 It seems like you have three brutal options, deal with it cope, tell her about it see if she will change her mind. Or leave.
I wouldnt reccomend the last. Tatoos are a way of expressing yourself, some people write, somepeople draw, somepeople get tatoos. You cant really get annoyed at someone for that.
Read up on them, see if there is one you would like her to have, then suggest it. Best of both worlds
I hope this helps
http://www.tattoofashion.com/
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Love'em or leave her.
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