My question is will I wait for him to call or should I be the one to make the move first?
Q. Just last night I had a fight with my boyfriend, for I did ask him about something and he did answer me but for my curiosity I asked him again and again, it's about a male friend of his who wanted to borrow money.... I accepted the fact that I did ...
A. 2 July 2007: If it was his money you really should not have butted in or questioned him. So call and apologise. But if it was your money too then he should have talked to you about lending it out to the friend. Then I'd wait for him to call.... (read in full...)
How can I help my partner through her bereavement?
Q. Hi, you know when your partner is going through grief of losing a close family member what sort of things can you do to help? By this I mean are there any sorts of activites we could do together to try and take her mind off it? How can I show her ...
A. 2 July 2007: Other than being there when she needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on, there is nothing you can do. She will need to go through it herself, but it will be easier on her knowing you are there for her. You sound like a very kind person, she is lucky ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me...how do I not hurt him now?
Q. My boyfriend of six months just broke up with me. I'm heartbroken. This stupid part of me still loves him, and I'm actually so much more worried about his broken heart than mine (He still loves me too). What should I do to ease the pain for bot...
A. 2 July 2007: Why on earth did he break up with you if he still loves you so much?... (read in full...)
He lied and said he wouldnt look at porn anymore!! But what else has he lied about!?
Q. My boyfriend promised me something that he wouldn't do again, which was look at this NASTY site with a bunch of porn on it. I let him know the first time it kind of made me feel that I wasn't good enough for him. I wasn't even looking for anything ...
A. 20 June 2007: Of course it hurt when he broke his promise to you. Some people will make promises that they don't know whether they can keep. Poor judgement or lack of integrity hard to say but the bottom line is that if they break promises often then trusting ... (read in full...)
The father of my baby tells me I do everything wrong when dealing with her when he's the one not feeding, playing or bathing her!
Q. do i break up with my partner of 3 years and the father to my 6 mth old daughter? b4 the baby was born things were tough he alwsys seems to manage to put me down. Call me stupid and a liar (i am defo not a liar but maybe stupid sometimes, but n...
A. 20 June 2007: Tell him you need for him to go stay with his family for awhile. Once he is out of your house you will be able to really think about where you see this relationship heading. Also if he's with his family and going to the pub every night they will see ... (read in full...)
I have a massive crush on my maybe married teacher!!!
Q. I have a MASSIVE crush on a male teacher at my school, he's like the fittest person ever, however this is the cause of uncontrollable consequences... For starters, recently i've noticed that whenever i stare at him he looks back - I love this eye...
A. 20 June 2007: Time is the only cure for what ails you. Your crush will fade over time. In the meantime try and keep your mouth shut and bite your tongue when you feel like making with the smart-ass comments about the female teacher.... (read in full...)
He cheats on his wife including with me, would I really be able to trust him if I gave up my husband for him ?
Q. hi im married with 2 kids i love my husband and trust him100%. a yr and half ago i saw a bloke at work and made a beeline 4 him and iv totally fell inlove with him. we see each other and text each other several times a day, i see him about 3 times a ...
A. 20 June 2007: Humm let's see, shall I wear the red dress or the blue one, maybe I should wear my pink shirt, maybe should I destroy my loving family, yes definitely the blue dress, Now which shoes to wear...... (read in full...)
He wont divorce his wife depsite us being together 11 years!!!!
Q. My partner of 11 years has never divorced his wife despite me asking and asking. We used to live together and he maintained that he was doing me a favour not divorcing as if he divorced his wife then he would be entitled to half my assets. We f...
A. 20 June 2007: So you are "uncomfortable" with his living with and being married to his wife, yeah that would bug me too but then I would not have wasted 11 years on a married guy to begin with. He will never leave his wife, accept it or move on. If you stay in ... (read in full...)
Gay pride..what are your views?
Q. do you believe in gay pride? jw...
A. 20 June 2007: Can't type, meant "My sexuality doesn't define me as a person and I don't think it should define anybody else either."... (read in full...)
My husband wants more sex than I can handle!
Q. My husband wants to have sex twice a day and I am not able to comply. I feel so sad. What should I do? ...
A. 20 June 2007: Twice a day, EVERY day? Sheesh! Show him where the shower is and how to turn it to cold. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to cheat, but I want other men!
Q. I have been with my husband for 10 years. Before I met him I was very sexually active with many different partners. When I got with my husband and fell in love I thought I would change but over the last year or so I have wanted to look elsewhere. I ...
A. 20 June 2007: Separate. Your husband and children need to move on and perhaps they will be able to find a nice unselfish, MATURE woman to give them the attention they deserve.... (read in full...)
Gay pride..what are your views?
Q. do you believe in gay pride? jw...
A. 20 June 2007: Do you mean do I support Gay Pride? No. I don't feel the need to support gays, bi's or any other sexual orientation. I don't feel any pride in being heterosexual why should a gay person feel especially proud being gay? My sexually doesn't define me ... (read in full...)
Theres a new girl in school and I want her to join my group of friends
Q. Hi this is quite complicated so if any of you can help that would be great, i wopuld like some different opions on this please+ sorry if its really long. Ok well im 15 and theres this girl that has just moved to the area and my school. I met her ...
A. 19 June 2007: Wow, where were you when I was 15?! You are one of a kind, she may not know it yet but she is about to be one lucky girl! And just as Flowergirl said, gaining her trust may take some time but it'll happen as long as you keep showing her your ... (read in full...)
Why would he do all these nice things with me when he's interacting with another married woman?
Q. why would a man introduce you to his kids, mother tell you he loves you every single day, spend time with you every night and all weekend, make plans for the future and the whole time he's decieving you by interacting with a married woman he works ...
A. 19 June 2007: He was doing to because he thought he could get away with stringing both of you along. Best of both worlds kind of thing. Unfortunatley he got caught. When men think with their willies this is what happens. You are better off, trust me.... (read in full...)
We had a fling and now everyone knows about it and is being nasty! What should I do?
Q. i had a fling with a guy i knew through work, it was supposed to be descrete, now i find he has told people things we did and its got back to some relatives and people at work who are being unpleasant, i said its lies but they're being really nasty ...
A. 19 June 2007: Ignore the unpleasantness and those mean people. If they don't get any kind of reaction from you they will quit with this nonsense sooner or later. Hold your head high and don't let them bring you down.... (read in full...)
She has 3 nipples and it is freaking me out!
Q. me and my girlfriend have just started going out and we recently slept together, but when she took her top off i could clearly see that she has three nipples, two on one breast. i have tried to ignor it, but it is really freaking me out and i dont ...
A. 19 June 2007: Why do you need to talk to her about it? What exactly are you planning to say? Like I said to guy who hated his girlfriend's tatoos: Love 'em or leave her.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me like a maid
Q. Hi. my boyfriend and i have been together for one year now even though we have been friends for close to ten years. The problem is that he he feels a woman place is in the kitchen. He does support my career aspiration but bluntly refuses to help ...
A. 19 June 2007: All I can say is that the sex had better be out of this world. Still in all, if it were me, I'd leave this neanderthal in the dust.... (read in full...)
The pregnancy scare has left me feeling broody! Help!
Q. in the last month iv had unprotected sex with my bf of a few yrs, we never discussed it, we just ran out of condoms and he went to stop and i said its ok, as we were already very into it. it was stupid but it happened agian 4 or 5 times during my ...
A. 19 June 2007: You have a wonderful relationship with your boyfriend. Focus on that and just look forward to motherhood. Knowing you will have children in the future can allow you to just enjoy each other in the present. Now go have some fun.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I am only 14?
Q. me and one of my really good guy friends have been talking about having sex..because we feel there is something between us...but i am only 14..should i consider having sex w/ him?...
A. 19 June 2007: Whenever anybody asks this question the answer is NO.... (read in full...)
He'd rather look at porn than have real sex with me
Q. I don't know what to do anymore? I am 26 years old i have been with my husband 8 years (married for 2) He has a had a problem with porn, internet, movies, magizines. He would be on the computer for hours at night or when I was at work, but hardly...
A. 19 June 2007: This is a relatively new marriage problem thanks to the Internet. It has produced another addiction, just as bad as alcoholism, gambling, drugs etc...for destroying marriages. The treatment is also the same, first the addict has to realize they have ... (read in full...)
I want to be friends, he wants 'benifits' He wont talk to me now. Did he just want me for sex?
Q. If a guy says he's not ready for a relationship but wants to carry on seeing you as a 'friend with benefits'(he didn't use those words exactly but that's how it was), and then that doesn't work out from the girl's point of view as she wants a proper ...
A. 19 June 2007: He was using you for sex, move on and don't give him another moment of your life. You'll be just fine, trust me.... (read in full...)
I dont want my Mom to date, but I dont want her to be unhappy either
Q. hi, my mum was married twice and divroced twice.. ever since it was perfect! now she is dating a new guy.. and i hate him! not that he is bad.. i just dont like him.. or maybe im not used to it.. and he is trying to bribe me into liking him too, ...
A. 19 June 2007: Don't tell her you dislike him. Try your best to find something about him that you do like and focus on that. In time you may decide that you DO like him. Try to give your MOM a break here. Good luck honey.... (read in full...)
I might have an affair because my wife and I argue so much
Q. Hello people, i have a problem that i would like you to help solve.I was recently married and now we are bleby an 11months old boy. for the last 2months my relationship has been having its rocky parts.we been arguing and at times the arguments he...
A. 19 June 2007: Let me make sure I understand this. Just because you and your wife are having arguments you told your wife you feel entitled to screw around. Is that just about the gist of it? Why the heck did you get married to begin with? Since you do have a ... (read in full...)
He told me he has a new baby and I'm not sure if we should be together
Q. Hi, feeling really confused and full of frustration, let me start at the beginning and maybe someone can shed some light on the situation for me.... I met this guy at my AA meetings and we became pretty good friends, i enjoy doing sweat lodges a...
A. 19 June 2007: I wouldn't try telling him how you feel just yet. Give your friendship time to grow. Relax and enjoy the time you have together, it won't help him in his confusion to put any pressure on him at this point.... (read in full...)
He's told me if I don't sleep with him, he'll do something nasty!! Help!
Q. my boyfriend asked me if i wanted sex i told him i didnt not right now weve only been going out for 3 months. he said if i didn't have it soon then he will do something nasty! i've tried to tell my mum and his mm but they won't help! can you h...
A. 18 June 2007: I can't believe your mom won't help, talk to her again and explain it very clearly what is going on. I don't know how old your boyfriend is but he can get into a lot of legal trouble about this. He is conveying threats. I certainly hope you have ... (read in full...)
I'm 58 and I'm with a 19 year old polish waitress. Am I just a silly old fool, and if so, should I call it a day?
Q. Last Christmas when I was out eating with friends they dared me to ask out a young Polish waitress. Now I'm 58(and Single) and I was amazed when she said yes.I later found out she is 19. We had a tremendous time and I've been seeing her ever since. ...
A. 18 June 2007: As long as she isn't using you then go have fun but watch the purse strings.... (read in full...)
I haven't had my period in 3-5 months and I haven't been sexually active! What could be wrong?
Q. Hi plz can u help me i am really scared my period hasn't started 4 nearly 3-5 months now and i haven't done anythin if u know wot i mean,and is this normal plz plz can u help me out thanx ...
A. 18 June 2007: I just what to add that if you are very active and into sports, that can cause a lapse in periods. When my daughter was running track and cross country her periods would stop for months at a time.... (read in full...)
He lies to me about where he goes and gets mad when I confront him!!!
Q. My Husband and I have been married for 12 years. 4 years ago he had an affair. we stayed together and got past that. He for some reason has continued to lie to me about where he goes, he gets angry when i confront him and turns in on me. This has ...
A. 18 June 2007: Sounds like he is still cheating. A husband who refuses to tell his wife where he's been or where he is going is hiding something, especially if he turns on you when you ask. I'd tell him to leave. ... (read in full...)
He abuses me all the time, especially when I don't respond to the names he calls me. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
Q. I fell for one of my close friends a while ago and he realised this and forced me to admit it to him (which i did). Before he knew for sure, we used to joke and have fun. Since then so much has changed and he abuses me all the time. I'm not sure ...
A. 18 June 2007: The guy is a nut case. He certainly has a screw loose somewhere. This relationship will never get better. Time for you to leave. Tell the "MWAA" (men who are assholes) to take a hike. You will never regret it I promise.... (read in full...)
Obsessed with taking my wife's 17 year old sister to bed!
Q. I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do?...
A. 18 June 2007: It doesn't matter what the aunts advise you, you are on a path for self-destruction anyway. My only hope is that you don't ruin too many lives in the process.... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight? Everything I try is just not working!
Q. i am 18, i have been on a diet for about 3 months now! i eat under a 1000 calories a day! run about an hour each day and do light weights, sit up etc..(well not eveyday i do miss a few) but i dont seem to have lost any weight!!..i realy would like ...
A. 14 June 2007: Sometimes your body will put up a pretty good fight against a diet and 3 months is not surprising. Keep at it eventually the pounds will start to fall off. You might step up the exercise a bit maybe that will jump start the weight loss. Good luck, ... (read in full...)
Concerned what his family will think when they find out I'm dating their son...he's 14..I'm 17! Any views?
Q. I'm 17 and just started going out a few with one of my friend's brothers - Who is 14. He hasn't told anyone as far as I know, and I've just told two very close friends, (neither his sister) but it's not really because we're ashamed of each ...
A. 14 June 2007: I'm sorry but you could get in very serious trouble whether you're a girl or a guy, dating someone with that age difference won't matter in a few years but it sure does when you are talking about 14 and 17, even 15 and 18. Be prepared for his ... (read in full...)
Married my husband but still in love with my soulmate!
Q. I have a problem. I am married to my husband but i'm in love with another man. I don't know what to do. The guy who had taken my virginity is who I am in love with even before I married my husband. I haven't seen or heard from that guy for 2 years ...
A. 14 June 2007: In all fairness you shouldn't have gotten married while you were still carrying the torch for someone else but that's water under the bridge at this point. Since there is no future with your "soulmate" (a term that makes me cringe)why are you still ... (read in full...)
I'm bored with my marriage, and there's this old flame...
Q. Hi, Having a dilemma, i have been married for sometime now, but feeling like i've lost all love that i had b4, feeling like this for quite sometime now. Recently i met an ex(from a long time ago) and having spent some time txting and talking i re...
A. 14 June 2007: You will have to talk to your husband. Every marriage goes through highs and lows but communication is vital. Timing is essential, pick a time when you both are rested and calmly discuss your relationship. You may benefit from marriage counseling as ... (read in full...)
I am 35 and my parents seem to resent my relationship..how do I talk to them about this?
Q. I am a divorced man for the last 4 years. now I have a Girlfriend and we have been together for a year. We have discussed our relation ship and would like to take it to the next level. But my parents are very against it. I am 35 and I am only ...
A. 13 June 2007: that's "explain".... (read in full...)
I am 35 and my parents seem to resent my relationship..how do I talk to them about this?
Q. I am a divorced man for the last 4 years. now I have a Girlfriend and we have been together for a year. We have discussed our relation ship and would like to take it to the next level. But my parents are very against it. I am 35 and I am only ...
A. 13 June 2007: Good lord man, you are 35! You don't have to expalin your actions to your parents!!!! You are a big boy now. If they don't like your girlfriends...tough.... (read in full...)
Is my husband making a mountain out of a molehill by complaining about these things?
Q. Been married for 5 years together for 7, I have a 19 1/2 year old son and a 171/2 year old daughter, their real dad (a lowlife but they love him) only lives 20 minutes away. My current husband, I feel targets my 20 year old constantly with tedious ...
A. 13 June 2007: You are totally right. Your husband is a control freak. He may even have an obsessive compulsive disorder. Whatever it is, he is making your life miserable. Has he always been like this? If he however doesn't recognize that his behavior is over the ... (read in full...)
Hooked up sex-wise with a guy on myspace... but it turns out he is married and has kids (his wife called me)!!!
Q. OKK, please dont label me as a homewrecker or a slut.. I recently got out of the army and i met this guy on myspace, i know pathetic, but he seemed really nice. In fact, he is better than nice, i think hes perfect(besides the whole cheating thing) ...
A. 13 June 2007: If you don't want to be labeled a homewrecker or slut then stop acting the part. Stop this nonsense immediately. It's a dead end with pain along the way.... (read in full...)
Lately, when I get drunk I transform in this other person which sometimes scares me and I don't know how to control myself.
Q. A couple of months ago I went out with some friends. We got drunk and so I asked for a ride home to this guy I thought was my friend. Everything was pretty normal at the time. When we got home he started saying things to me like: "I´ve always liked ...
A. 13 June 2007: If you "transform" into another person when you drink then it's not a "stage" it's a warning sign. You have a real danger of becoming an alcoholic. Some people just cannot tolerate alcohol so lay off the sauce and you will be fine.... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfirnd to pay more attention to me and not push me away all the time?
Q. How can I get my boyfirnd to pay more attention to me and not push me away all the time?...
A. 13 June 2007: If he isn't paying you enough attention and is pushing you away, then he isn't interested. Dump him and find someone who is. Boyfriends come and go at your age, and that's the way it should be. Not every relationship is meant to be. Enjoy your ... (read in full...)
He got someone pregnant before we met and says he wants to stick by her but doesn't want to lose me!
Q. hiya.. ive been in a relationship 4 some time now, and recently found out that my boyfriend made somebody pregnant.. which isnt a big deal as it was before i met him..he was only recently told himself and has made the desicion 2 stick by her..again ...
A. 13 June 2007: His plan is nuts. Keeping you separate? He is moving them into his place for the first two weeks? Just plain nuts. Tell him to stick it, you should not tolerate being kept in the shadows.... (read in full...)
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