A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:OK this is what happened to me. When I was 15 years old, my first time was with my brother from my dad's side (my parents never got married and we are from different moms). He took my virginity by playing a game with me ( he didnt take advantage from me. I think we were kinda young and didn't know about the whole thing yet. But we both liked it and we kept a secret relationship for like 3 months. I decided to get it over bc it started to be too *Obvious* and people started reacting about us. Well, we didn't spoke to each other for a long time and we lost contact. Nowadays, we were talking again and We decided to go for a walk and eat something and we both felt horny about each other and we ended up having sex again. IT was sooooo good we had been doing it like for 3 weeks now. Every weekend we've been dating and doing it over and over. It's soo crazy I know but it feels soo good and I feel so comfortable with him. I'm engaged and I know this is not supposed to be happening but I have my LDR (long distance relationship) and I'm gonna get married. I love my fiance but this happened and thats it. I dont want to stop it cuz i love my brother too but things just can't work between us, It would be super outrageous I think. What can I do? I know I can be in trouble ( big one) if my bf knows about this. But we take care pretty well. My brother says that he wants the best for me even If he loves me and would love to be with me. What do you think?
View related questions:
engaged, fiance, horny Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Well, if he is only your stepbrother, there's nothing wrong with dating or having sex with him, except that you are cheating on your fiance! I think you should decide which of these young men you love more, your fiance or your stepbrother. Despite what others say here, it is NOT wrong to date, have sex with, or even marry your stepbrother, as long as you do not have a common blood ancestor (like you both don't have the same biological mom or dad). It would not be good to marry your fiance and keep having a secret affair with your stepbrother, cuz that would be cheating. If you want to continue your relationship with both of them, you need to be honest with your fiance about it. Then you would have to talk to your fiance and see if he would be interested in having a three-way relationship with you and your stepbrother. But don't keep cheating on your fiance. I mean, how would you feel if he was having sex with his stepsister, cousin or other female relative?
A
male
reader, sparky2107  +, writes (11 June 2007):
Sounds like you got love and lust mixed up here, he's your brother and it's right to love him, he's also a male and it's normal to have sex, but both together is a big problem, no matter how 'good' it feels, playing a game to take your virginity is very regretful and i'll bet that if this original incident is left hidden and you try to forget it you'll both have unhappy relationships, both with each other and with future partners. What you have experienced is not new and healing can come to you both but you need to be honest and completely open, get some help from professionals, your doctor would be a good place to start
...............................
A
female
reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 June 2007):
 He is your step-brother and what you are doing is illegal and immoral. Lets suppose as a consequence of your fooling around you got pregnant by him - there is a much increased risk of pregnancy complications because of the blood-connection and the incidence of abnormalities in children arising from such a union is much higher than average. This is so wrong on so many levels and you really shouldn't be getting married to anyone right now. If you were cheating with anyone it would be a great big smoke signal that your marriage is doomed. The fact that you cheat with a close relative makes matters all the worse because it really messes with your head, and can cause all sorts of chaos in your family. You pair need to stay away from each other and you need to get specialist counselling to come to terms with what has happened so that you can try to establish normal relationships in the future. What happened at 15 is sexual abuse whether you consented or not because in most places you cannot legally give your consent to sex at such an age. You need to leave your boyfriend for his own sake before you enter a commitment of marriage. You are still young and you have the time to learn from this terrible mistake and move on with your life.
...............................
A
female
reader, love-him +, writes (11 June 2007):
 ummm ok, rite uve got a fiance and u are having sex with your half brother?? you say it was soooo good.. think about how many people on here and worldwide will be thinking what you are doing is soooo wrong.. he is in one way actualy blood related to you, as you both have the same dads. im not gona tell u its wrong cos u know that, thats y u wrote the question but honestly, you are supposed to love your fiance but are cheating with your brother! you need to either face up to the fact you are a cheater and tell the fiance or, you keep it a secret and let it haunt you for the duration you are with the fiance.. suffering the pain of the secret. sorry it seems harsh but you asked, ''what do you think?''
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 June 2007):
 You definitely DON'T want to know what I think. So I will let the other kinder and gentler aunts address this mess. I can only hope that Rhythmandblues gives you her now famous line of advice.
...............................
|
