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writes:hiya.. ive been in a relationship 4 some time now, and recently found out that my boyfriend made somebody pregnant.. which isnt a big deal as it was before i met him..he was only recently told himself and has made the desicion 2 stick by her..again which isnt a problem as he has told me that they dont want 2 get bk 2gether they both just want 2 be friends..the problem is that when this baby arrives he doesnt want me involved/introduced or anything for the first year wants 2 keep me completly seperate..he has told me he is moving them in 4 the 1st 2 weeks after the baby is born so that he can help out.whos to say he will let them go after these 2 weeks.. he tells me he loves me and doesnt want 2 lose me...am i being a mug??????? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): You obviously care a lot for this guy. But i dont understand how he says he loves you but he wont commit to you. this is one way to prove to you how he really feels and just how committed he is. i dont understand why he wont let you in. you need to be frank with him and play him at his own game, if he wants to make demands then so can you girl. tell him what YOU want from the realtionship dont let him think he has the upper hand you are far better than that and deserve so much more. if he cant see that then you are way too good for him.
I hope you sort things out hun x
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reader, Dojha +, writes (13 June 2007):
 your boyfriend is an utter dissappointment to the male race. he is totally SELFISH and not taking your feelings into consideration. he wants to have his way and his way only. his plan makes no sense at all.
making such riduculous rules shows that he intends to control you life not only your present but your future too. i think it would be wise to speak up and let him know that his decisions dont suit you. if he tells you more of his STUPID plans, i think you should think twice about being with him.
to him, he comes first. so to you, maybe you should come first too. dont let him rule your life.
lets know what happens or wot you decide.
tk cr
Dojha
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 His plan is nuts. Keeping you separate? He is moving them into his place for the first two weeks? Just plain nuts. Tell him to stick it, you should not tolerate being kept in the shadows.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (12 June 2007):
 hmmmmmm that's a toughie. Part of me thinks maybe this guy is playing you, but then there is a part that says maybe he's just doing what he thinks is right.
If he doesnt want to loose you he would want you to be a part of the child's life, not a complete outsider. And why cant you meet the child for a year??? That's just like odd.
If you really feel like he's playing you along then tell him how you feel or cut ties because you cant let him mess you about until the child is born as it'll drive you crazy!
xxxxx
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