She just wants me to be her dirty little secret!!!!!
Q. Im in love with a girl who is already going out with a guy. she said she would break up with him for me but once her parents found out they forbid her from seeing me. her parents have spoken to alot of her friends and even a few of our teachers to ...
A. 10 May 2007: I'd throw all my effort into improving my school work and thus improving your record. Get your grades up, sign up for extra curricular activities...just get involved. When her mother notices the change then maybe she'll decide to let you see her ... (read in full...)
She just wants me to be her dirty little secret!!!!!
Q. Im in love with a girl who is already going out with a guy. she said she would break up with him for me but once her parents found out they forbid her from seeing me. her parents have spoken to alot of her friends and even a few of our teachers to ...
A. 9 May 2007: Why is it that her parents don't want you seeing their daughter?... (read in full...)
He hardly ever calls me, surely if he loved me he would be calling me ?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been seening eachother almost everyday; the thing is that the year is almost done and he doesn't call me. I know that long distance relationsips don't work but he's the kind of guy who makes thing work. I love him and I ...
A. 9 May 2007: If you see him every day then why don't you ask him to call you? Maybe he figures since he sees you almost every day then he doesn't need to call.... (read in full...)
In an affair and would love him to leave and be with me... how?
Q. hi this is crazy i got myself an affair...20 years age gap me being the young one. we are both very into each other but i dont know how much longer i can carry on. my feelings for him drive me crazy and snap for him. this was not planned or thought ...
A. 9 May 2007: I'm not going to give you advice on how to break up a happy family. Homewreckers piss me off. It's a shame he reproduced. You're right about one thing however, this definitely was NOT thought out.... (read in full...)
He was visiting gay sites...is he just curious or is he really gay?
Q. my partner of 5 years is everything in a man i have ever wanted, he has very endearing qualities and treats me like a princess.Then 3 weeks ago i found out he was flirting with another women at work and he stated he did not sleep with her and never ...
A. 8 May 2007: Well I think he is doing all he can to assuage your worries. Changing jobs and counseling, what more do you want him to do? I think maybe a little counseling will help you as well. Give it some time.... (read in full...)
My husband and another man, stripped and kissed each other at a party..I was so embarrassed! Is he actually gay?
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I really really need to get this off my chest. Recently we had a party at our house and there was alcohol supplied, good music and a lot of food. However, it got embarrassing when my husband and his friend b...
A. 8 May 2007: Counseling never hurts. I do have to wonder why he keeps bringing it up when he know it's upsetting to you. See if a counselor can help you put the right slant on it and proceed from there. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I'm introducing my younger sibling to these kind of games? Any views.
Q. To some this may seem out of wack ... but I'm 7 years older than my one of my siblings children and we play all those spin the bottle to the next level or strip spin the bottle kind of games with our own made up rules (no sex involved) with the...
A. 8 May 2007: What's the big deal? Why can't you just stop with the stupid games and do something more constructive?... (read in full...)
Seeing another lady as my marriage is soo unhappy! I need opinions on this letter I wrote to the 'other' woman...
Q. I have been unhappily married as I said in my last e mail I have been seeing someone else and this is a copy of the letter I have written to her. Please could you suggest what i should do next. Dear Lisa Just writing to you as I do nee...
A. 8 May 2007: Well it certainly sounds like a plan to me. What if your wife doesn't want a divorce and won't leave the house? Does she get half of the proceeds from the sale? She may be cantankerous enough to throw a monkey wrench into your plans. Make sure you ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I'm introducing my younger sibling to these kind of games? Any views.
Q. To some this may seem out of wack ... but I'm 7 years older than my one of my siblings children and we play all those spin the bottle to the next level or strip spin the bottle kind of games with our own made up rules (no sex involved) with the...
A. 8 May 2007: What's wrong with it is that you are their Aunt, any game with any kind of sexual overtones is way wacked. If they were acquaintances that would be one thing but we're talking about nieces and nephews here. I definitely think your family would think ... (read in full...)
We were married 18 years, split up, now she is contacting me again but is sleeping around!
Q. I'm a 42 year old guy, married for 18 years and split up for a year or so. We had problems for the last couple of years and we both decided instead of working things out, we split up. After I left she got a boyfriend instantly which told me sh...
A. 8 May 2007: I agree with aunts, she is using you for emotional security but isn't the slightest bit interested in a commitment. She may also want to play around but doesn't want you to move on and maybe find a new love. I think I would tell her that her ... (read in full...)
Is a 38DD bra size at 15 years old too big?
Q. i am 15 and a 38 DD is that normal. i think i'm to big for my age?? hElP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 8 May 2007: Once you reach your twenties and if your breasts cause you any discomfort you can get a breast reduction done. Some insurance companies will cover a reduction if the doctor can prove patient discomfort.... (read in full...)
why do I get a headache after drinking?
Q. Everytime i drink, i get a really bad headache about 3 hours after, and i have to make myself throw up to get it to stop. Do you have any idea causing this?...
A. 8 May 2007: "Doctor, it hurts when I do this". (raises arm)
"Well stop doing that and the pain will go away".... (read in full...)
My parents have told me if I go back with her they will disown me!!!
Q. me and my girlfriend broke up a month a go i am 19 and she is 20 i told my parents about the break up and they said i could do better well 2 weeks later and my girl got back i tried to tell my parents but they said that if i go back to her they will ...
A. 8 May 2007: What's the reason for your parent's humongous dislike of this girl? If you can, calmly sit down with your parents and try to alay their concerns. If you cannot then you simply must make the decision that makes you the most comfortable. I doubt very ... (read in full...)
My BF is so vain and spends too much time looking at himself in the mirror!
Q. Dear cupid How do you deal with a boyfriend who you feel very self conscious about his look. He doesn't like to eat anything fat, always keep things very healthy and working out. I have no problem with that, except whenever we have to go out, ...
A. 8 May 2007: I don't see this as a real biggie. Maybe he's not so much vain but more insecure about his looks. Anyway it still is just an annoyance but if you love him it certainly can easily be overlooked.... (read in full...)
Married 24 years, now separated but we still have sex! Is this okay?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 24 years. We are separated but we still see each other and are still having sex. Is this ok? ...
A. 8 May 2007: I guess you are certainly old enough to decide whether it's OK or not. If you want to live separately but still have a sexual relationship then go for it. What's the problem?... (read in full...)
I'm scared for my BF, as his mum is really abusive and horrible to him!
Q. I dont know who to turn to for this, im actually scared! My bf has an abusive mum, just this morning his mum found out that he missed 4 of his lessons from his school. And wen he arrived home she grounded him for 2 months. She is making him pay ...
A. 8 May 2007: You indicated that you are 18-21 years old. If he is 18 or over then he can legally move out and be on his own. If he stays in the parent's home then he has to follow their rules. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my much older neighbour to like me?
Q. I'm in love with my neighbor. He's way older than me and I'm only 16. I've hung out at his house, but nothing has happened yet. He's touched me, but never kissed me. I like him alot! What should I do? should I keep doing this or should I stop it?...
A. 8 May 2007: You know exactly what you should do. What nonsense, where are your parents?... (read in full...)
I'm 13 years and smart, does nobody like me?
Q. I am 13 years old and am one of the smartest girls in my classes. To most guys I'm just a nerd but random people come up to me sometimes to tell me I'm pretty, but this doesn't happen at school. Am I a threat to them, Are the guys that like me ...
A. 8 May 2007: Aww sweetie I'm sure you are a living doll. At 13 you are just beginning to bloom into the lovely rose you'll become. Relax and enjoy the ride and keep up those grades, smart girls are always the most attractive.... (read in full...)
I'm together with an amazing woman, but I don't fancy her. What shall I do?
Q. I am in a relationship with an absolutely amazing woman. She is kind, caring and everything I could ever hope for. But I just don't fancy her. I am waiting for something to 'click in', but it isn't. I fall asleep with her at night feeling guilty and ...
A. 8 May 2007: Your last sentence says it all. Let he go so she can find the man who looks at her and says "My God, You're gorgeous".... (read in full...)
Am I being emotionally abused?
Q. Is this emotional abuse?? hey, im 16 and in a relaionship with a 25 year old guy. but thats not the problem. We've had our fair share of problems, especially with other people trying to get in the way. A lot of his friends don't think I'm ...
A. 8 May 2007: Run. He's not going to "end it all", it's a ploy. This is emotional blackmail. Don't buy it go find a guy that doesn't need to use such cheap tricks to keep you.... (read in full...)
how to get the guy to notice you!!
Q. hey girls and guys ever wanted to know if there is some secret to getting guys to notice you well ta da there is and im gonna tell you it: step1. make yourself noticed, don't be too obvious make him wanna come over to you. step2. if and when h...
A. 8 May 2007: Yeah, umm thanks for the tip.... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for staying with him when he doesn't see a future for us?
Q. My boyfriends has just told me that he doesn't see me in his future and that our relationship is going to end one day. When i told him that we should end it now he said that he didn't want to as he still loves me and wants to be with me. He says he ...
A. 8 May 2007: Man I'd be out the door in a flash if I was told that by a boyfriend. He's just using you until he finds someone HE thinks is better. This is a slap in the face, I wouldn't put up with it if I were you.... (read in full...)
My husband has gone away for time to 'think' and I'm not sure if there is another affair going on...
Q. Today my partner packed an overnight bag and went off to "think". He says things between us aren't looking good but we could still stay together. He wont make love to me as he says it isn't appropriate at the moment. He also keeps singing REO spee...
A. 7 May 2007: You go girl! You will find a decent loving man and live happily ever after..believe it!... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay faithful
Q. I have been with my partner for nine years and we have a 4yr old together. I do love my partner, but i cant stay faithful. Whenever someone shows interest in me (which is usually his friends) and i feel attracted to them i cant say no. Im good when ...
A. 7 May 2007: You need to lay off the sauce first thing, my dear. It might just be the alcohol but I fear there is another issue underneath. It might be a number of things, low self-esteem, dissatisfaction with your marriage, etc... I would recommend seeking ... (read in full...)
My sister is missing and my family lies to keep her disappearance a secret.
Q. my sister is 19 and she left home without telling anyone. i was the last person to see her before she left and she didn't even say goodbye. i used to pick her up from work and on that particular day when i went to pick her up she just didn't show. i ...
A. 7 May 2007: Well for starters she is 19 so she is totally legal to be on her own. Since she hasn't had the common courtesy to at least call and tell you that she's okay I certainly don't blame your family for being angry as well as worried about her. Let your ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for 2 guys... what should I do?
Q. Well I have a problm. I'm friends with a guy, we'll call him J, and J is perfect amd amazing and deeply in love with me though we are currently not dating. I think this could really turn into something, but there's this other guy, C, whom I'm really ...
A. 7 May 2007: Does it have to be all or nothing? I mean can't you as a single woman go on dates with both of them? I mean after all it's not like you Have to have an exclusive relationship all the time. Also it would a great way to get to know them better. I ... (read in full...)
My teacher kept me in for detention, kissed me and had sex with me on his desk.
Q. I need urgent help! I'm seeing my teacher during and after school. He gives me detension so I can see him at lunchtime. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met, so I don't want to end this. The other day at lunch we were kissing and had se...
A. 7 May 2007: I think someone is playing out a school girl fantasy here. Sex on the teacher's desk, at lunchtime no less?... (read in full...)
Will he mind that I'm actually not as toned as he thinks?
Q. ok im 20 and last when i was out in a club, i met a really nice guy who asked for my number and said he would call me this week to take me out. Problem is ... i was wearing stomach-holding-in pants so i looked really toned. im scared to meet him now ...
A. 7 May 2007: Well why don't you make a project of getting yourself in shape. If this guy goes in the opposite direction because you are heavier than he thought, then the next one certainly won't. Besides you'll feel better about yourself anyway.... (read in full...)
For 2 weeks out of every month my wife is a nightmare!
Q. I need help. I will keep this short. I love my wife very much. Things finacially are great. For 2 weeks out of the month she is just great. I mean we have a blast, taking trips, going out she is awesome (the old friend I grew up with). Then one day ...
A. 7 May 2007: She needs to be checked out by a medical doctor. If she hormones are out of wack then he/she can prescribe medication to get everything in sync. If she is okay physically then she may need to see a psychiatrist and see if he/she can figure out why ... (read in full...)
We had sex, with a condom and he didn't orgasm. Could I still be pregnant?
Q. HEY ALL! I'm almost 16 and I am just a little bit worried about something... i need advice and information please. here's the story... Over a month ago I was worried that I was pregnant from just rubbing against my boyfriend. I read som...
A. 7 May 2007: You're most likely not pregnant but since you worry about getting pregnant why don't you get on the pill so you know that you are safe? Also the home pregnancy tests are cheap and accurate so I'd keep a few on hand. Keep using the condoms to protect ... (read in full...)
He's married with a kid and I have fallen for him! How do I get out of this mess?
Q. Hi, i've got a bit of a dilemma because I have fallen for a guy who is older than me by 7 years, married and who has a kid. We both really like each other but I don't know whether to take this relationship further. We haven't actually done anything ...
A. 7 May 2007: You aren't really in a "situation"...yet. Stop the flirting and go about your business. Go out with friends and stay away from the guy. You have the ability to act like a class act and do the right thing here. Do it.... (read in full...)
We broke up, stayed friends..but I am so jealous that he wants to date other women! What should I do?
Q. Having a problem trying to cut the ties and somehow remain friends if possible with ex partner/boyfriend. We were in a 5 1/2 year relationships, alot of good memories, we had our ups and down, primarily due to him not satisfied with one woman. w...
A. 7 May 2007: You obviously need to distance yourself if you want to find any happiness. Sometimes it just doesn't work out being friends with an ex. The only way I can see for you to move on is to stop seeing him completely. I think you will be much happier in ... (read in full...)
I have a cousin who is 17 and hotttttt!!! I want to have sex with her!
Q. hi, i have a cousin she is 17 and hott. i want to have sex with her. when i was 8 we kinda just rubbed and felt each other. I jack off to pictures of her. what do i do? please....
A. 7 May 2007: You need to take a cold shower. I'm sure you realize that just wanting to bonk someone doesn't mean you will or should bonk them. You'd be better off finding a non-family memeber to start a relationship with.... (read in full...)
I told my bf he could take my virginity but now I'm scared! Help!
Q. Im only 14 And im still a virgin. i told my boyfriend he could take my virginity but now im a little scared to let him take after all i am only 14. i really do like him and wuld do anything for him and i do want him to take my virginity but im not ...
A. 6 May 2007: You're a virgin at 14? As well you should be! Everyone should be a virgin at 14. Tell your boyfriend that you are not ready and if he doesn't like it show the loser the door. Value yourself because if you don't no one else will either.... (read in full...)
I'm 22 but attract older guys... how can I attract guys more my own age?
Q. hi guys.. i've got a problem because im 22 and single but i always seem to attract guys who are way older than me. like an example of this was on the weekend i went to a firends wedding party and there were these two guys who were chattin me up, but ...
A. 4 May 2007: You are definitely right to stay away from the married guys. I think you will just have to do what all young single girls have to do, weed out the losers and keep plugging along until you stumble on your prince. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs ... (read in full...)
Putting your soul first
Q. Love, arguably the most widely discussed and pondered subject in all the world, seems to be the greatest mystery to us as humans. Love makes us feel alive. It makes us feel whole inside. It gives us purpose. It fuels our hopes and dreams. It ...
A. 4 May 2007: Well said.... (read in full...)
I do not want to have sex with my husband. We have been married for 7 years. I actually dread it.
Q. I do not want to have sex with my husband. We have been married for 7 years. I actually dread it. I wait until he is asleep b4 i go to bed and try to get up b4 him. The sex is good, he always waits for me so we can climax together. What am I going ...
A. 4 May 2007: I think you need to get some professional counseling, honey. That is if sex is the only problem in your marriage. If you love your husband then get that counseling ASAP. Sometimes the lack of a sex drive is the symptom of another seemingly unrelated ... (read in full...)
We are both married but having an affair together and I think he is falling in love with me!
Q. About 4 months ago i started working at a strip club as an exotic dancer. This guy that works there started flirting with me like he did with all the other girls. I liked the attention so i flirted back. A few weeks into working there we started ...
A. 4 May 2007: The answer to your question is no and it's not going to happen either, I guarantee it. Hope you enjoy being a piece of meat because that's all you are to him.... (read in full...)
How do I confront my father about his affair?
Q. alright everyone... so i need a bit of advice. I would like to begin by giving you a bit of information... I am an adult in his early 20s. At the present time, I really have not talked to my family (specifically my father) for a bit over a year now ...
A. 4 May 2007: You do not need to confront your father with this. For your mother's sake leave it alone. She may already know about it anyway, wives quite often do and for their own reasons decide to turn a blind eye. If this confrontation you seek is payback for ... (read in full...)
How do you ask your girl to show some care and please you by nurturing your ego without going for sex directly?
Q. How do you ask your girl to show some care and please you by nurturing your ego without going for sex directly? ...
A. 4 May 2007: Say what? What exactly do you mean?... (read in full...)
She likes this lad but won't tell him. How do I convince her to just go and tell him?
Q. my best friend really likes this lad and she has to much pride to allow herself to go and tell him. ive tried making her but it doesnt work with her and shes a little cautious as hes of a different racial culture to her! what can i do to convince ...
A. 3 May 2007: Playing matchmaker is like playing with matches, you can get burned. Let the two of them find their own way.... (read in full...)
He has no time for me any more and lies about his porn on the PC
Q. hi there dont know what to do got a bit of a problem what would you think if your partner was downloading porn on the computer you told him you didnt like it the first time and how it hurt you espicially when he said he didnt until you showed him ...
A. 3 May 2007: If you aren't married and have no children, then I'd show him the door and move on. If there are children or you are married then it's more complicated but I'd still go for a separation to sort out all the details. He sounds like an insensitive ... (read in full...)
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