My girlfriend is done having kids, but I dont have any yet, and I really want one
Q. Im 29 and living with my girlfriend, 34, and her two boys 10 and 12. We have been together over a year now and i realise now that she doesnt want any more children and i do. She has had her boys and now want some time of her own, which i underst...
A. 10 July 2007: This is a very tough situation. I assure you that if you truly want to have a child and she refuses, then you will resent her for it down the road. If after you discuss openly and honestly about another child and she still says that she doesn't want ... (read in full...)
He buys me everything I want but then verbally abuses me. Should I get out?
Q. i have a boy friend that i have been with for 3 1/2 years . now we are having problems he started saying things to me like "your lazy, Bitch, the reason we are together is because i cant get rid of you. If we broke up my life would be easier since ...
A. 10 July 2007: There is no relationship here, he doesn't love you or really even like you if he can be this mean. You won't be losing a thing by moving on, except the gifts but that is small payment for being a doormat isn't it?!... (read in full...)
A woman has made it known she wants sex with my boyfriend!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating six years. recently he became attracted to a woman in his apartment building. she is attracted to him and all he does is talk about her. He told me in a round about way that she was interested in him sexually. ...
A. 10 July 2007: There is every red flag possible in this situation you are in. I'd monitor it very very closely. Good luck with this, maybe nothing will come of this but keep your eyeswideopen.... (read in full...)
My husband completedly overreacted, but how do I make this better?
Q. My husband is on stress overload because of a bully at work. I try to listen,help and understand. Then out of the blue he freaks out over my loading a program. Starts yelling/screaming/jumping up and down/throwing chairs. He then proceeds to give me ...
A. 10 July 2007: Eddie's right, we need more info. What was the program you were loading onto your computer? Was it something that would be that upsetting that he would throw a hissy fit?... (read in full...)
We're using the "pull out method" and I have some worries...
Q. ok me and my bf have sex alot and we havent been using condoms lately. he pulls out instead. well when i go to wipe his semen off of me i noticed i acidently used the toilet paper i wiped it off with and wiped my "area" soon after. can you get ...
A. 10 July 2007: Well just so you know, that was the birth control method used in the Medieval Ages. In the US you can get free birth control, there is no excuse here for unplanned babies.... (read in full...)
My social worked told me to stay away from my 13 year old girlfriend
Q. iam 17 years old and i will be 18 in nov. I met this girl that is 13 years old and we were going out until my social worker found out and told me if i didnt quit seeing her that they would move me to a different home long ways away and register me ...
A. 10 July 2007: You need to face the truth. People do not believe that a 17 year old guy is just seeing a 13 year old just for companionship. You are looking for a world of hurt if you continue to see the child. Look her up in 5 years. You do not want to live the ... (read in full...)
He wants me to kick my son out of the house!
Q. I have been going to marriage counseling with my husband for the past few months and things have been going pretty smoothly. now he has told me that he does not want my 14year old son in the house because of behavior issues. he has giving me a ...
A. 10 July 2007: What a jerk, I'd tell him where he can stick an ultimatum like that. Your son is more important. Take the kids and go, I'll bet your son's behavior improves immediately.... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend wont leave his wife for me and so I hate HER!
Q. I need your help once again! Not too long ago, I had doubts concerning a married guy that I was with. I wasn't sure about whether he'd leave his wife or not. Now, I am sure that he won't leave her because everything that wasn't "working" between ...
A. 10 July 2007: You ARE the other girl and so you shall remain. You obviously didn't like the advice you got the last time so why do you come back here? You are beating a dead horse. You know you have no rights to this guy, you don't even have a right to hate his ... (read in full...)
I'm already on the pill but we use condoms too... can we use anything else instead of condoms to still be safer?
Q. Hi. I'm on birth control pills and up until recently always used condoms just for extra protection against pregnancies. My Bf and i have no stds and stopped using condoms because to be honest it just feels better. I know that the pill is almost 100% ...
A. 10 July 2007: Unless you know FOR SURE that your boyfriend is STD free and is not having sex with anyone else then you should keep on using the condoms. Unfortunately in today's world there are so many different STD's it simply is not worth the risk. However to ... (read in full...)
The skin on my lips were peeled there may be some blood because there were chapped. Is there a high rate that I could get diseases?
Q. My sister talked/laughed and I felt some of her saliva landed on my chapped lips. The skin on my lips were peeled there may be some blood because there were chapped. Is there a high rate that I could get diseases? My sister never had sex and she is ...
A. 10 July 2007: Highly unlikely that you caught anything from your sister's spit. Buy some lip balm or chapstick until your lips heal up so you don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
Is running the best for weight loss and overall toning for the body?
Q. Is running the best for weight loss and overall toning for the body?...
A. 9 July 2007: Running is a great workout as long as you do your stretches first. Make sure you vary your route so you don't get bored and for safety reasons. Sometimes it's best to have a running partner for safety as well as inspiration and conversation.... (read in full...)
He wants to take us to the next level by having me meet his parents! I'm scared! What do I do?
Q. hi thanks for your advice and it helped a lot, my boyfriend wants to take our relationship to the next level, he wants me to meet the parents, i'm scared what do i do? i've been putting him off for so long is this guy serious about us?...
A. 9 July 2007: Nothing to be afraid of, if they were able to raise the son you love then they must be a nice couple who you'll like as well. Relax and just be yourself, you'll be fine.... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to kiss me on the lips! When I try, he turns his head. Is he losing interest in our marriage?
Q. Hi, I've been married for nearly two years and have given birth to a beautiful baby boy 6 mths ago. Recently, my husband has been refusing to kiss me on my lips. Our sex life hasn't decreased but he will not touch my lips. Everytime I try,...
A. 9 July 2007: Just ask him. Have a nice calm chat, communication is so very vital in a marriage.... (read in full...)
Should I trust this member of staff at my school with my problem?
Q. I met a member of staff about 7 years ago at the school I go to. We know each other very well and are close but I've fallen in love with him. I know this is wrong and he is married. I know I dont stand a chance due to the compications involved but ...
A. 9 July 2007: Stay as far away from him as you can get. I'm sure you can find a couselor if you try, there are free clinics, a friend's parent, pastor, etc. Just how tramatic was this thing that happened to you?... (read in full...)
I really want to see us back together and make things work again.
Q. Hi, I am was in a 7 years relationship and my gf broke of with me for 8 months, she has no feelings for me anymore. She said stuff like she wants to find herself back as in this pass relationship we have made many mistake. I still love her alot an...
A. 9 July 2007: Why on earth did she accept your proposal if she doesn't have any feelings for you? Whatever you do DO NOT GET MARRIED! You can't MAKE her feelings change, but she may come around in time. BUT do not tie the knot unless both of you are absolutely, ... (read in full...)
I need passion in my life, I want it desperately!!!
Q. ok here is my position/dilemma I moved abroad 9 years ago and almost immmediately fell pregnant and married a friend of many years. Within the first 2 years I suspected he was cheating which was indeed a wake up call that prompted me to attain ...
A. 9 July 2007: Divorce your husband immediately. Try to act like a class act for the sake of your son.... (read in full...)
I cannot get my girlfriends number of sex partners out of my mind
Q. Well, firstly this is a great forum. Hi, My problem is that I cannot get my girlfriends number of sex partners out of my mind..:( I Try though.. I would appreciate very much answers from women and don't be ruff on me. I know I shouldn't care,...
A. 9 July 2007: From the many previous postings from people having trouble accepting their partner's past sex lives, I can only say that this problem you are having does not bode well for your relationship. If you can't let the past stay in the past then it will ... (read in full...)
Should I trust this member of staff at my school with my problem?
Q. I met a member of staff about 7 years ago at the school I go to. We know each other very well and are close but I've fallen in love with him. I know this is wrong and he is married. I know I dont stand a chance due to the compications involved but ...
A. 9 July 2007: He is married, that is the end of that story. Now as far as counseling goes, surely your needs will be met much better by one of the school's couselors? Not the Network Manager. I mean if someone needed brain surgery would you ask a plumber to do ... (read in full...)
He's been phoning prostitutes but says he wouldn't meet them, it just gives him a thrill... is this acceptable?
Q. I recently discovered that my partner has been phoning prostitutes and asking them what they offer. I inadvertently found that he had been looking at websites for local massage parlours on his PC and so checked his phone, and he had a number for a ...
A. 9 July 2007: No it's not acceptable. He is feeling out the waters, and I'll bet he will eventually go for a swim. I'd worry about STD's if I were you. Don't let this affect your self-esteem sweetie, he is the one with the problem. Tell him to knock this crap off ... (read in full...)
She's 11, and I'm 15! Is this age gap wrong?
Q. Hi.. I'm 15 and I like this girl 5 years younger than me but she's about to turn 11. Well, I know that relationships with an age gap of even 10 years are often accepted, but still I can't seem to decide on what I should do. What I know is, we're ...
A. 6 July 2007: A 10 year old? Are you crazy? She's a baby! Leave her alone, how's that for a straight answer?... (read in full...)
We have so many problems; should I move on?
Q. I'm a 20 something year old with a 49yr old man. When he met me I partied very hard and I wore very little clothing. Now I wear covering up clothing which I love cause it leaves imagintion to the people, but makes him made to see people still ...
A. 6 July 2007: You are 20 and have been with this old fart since you were 15? He should be sitting in jail. You are wasting your youth on grandpa. Get out and start enjoying life. ... (read in full...)
Can anybody give me some advice to as why my ex abusive partner does not approach me when we split up and apologize even when he knows that he was in the wrong?
Q. Can anybody give me some advice to as why my ex abusive partner does not approach me when we split up and apologize even when he knows that he was in the wrong? We have had a stormy realationship for many years and he has been emotionally and ...
A. 5 July 2007: Only people with honor and integrity can offer up a sincere apology. You'll never get one from an abusive lout.... (read in full...)
We don't choose to be attracted to people. It just happens. When it does, should we just dismiss these feelings under the aegis of "respect"?
Q. I recently posted regarding my problem, that is, I have very strong feelings for a married female co-worker. I got the expected responses (i.e. stay away from her!!!) but my feelings persist. I simply cannot stop thinking about her. I won't bore ...
A. 5 July 2007: I don't think you have an option here. I stand by my previous advice...leave your job find another. You will only drive yourself crazy by seeing her all the time. The only way for you to find any relief from this deadend obsession is distance. Of ... (read in full...)
I am feeling shut out from my daughter because of the boy she is dating
Q. I am a married woman with a 20 year old daughter. In the past few months she has been seeing a boy who we have not met and they have become very close. He is also 20 and is her first boyfriend and I have just found out that their relationship has ...
A. 5 July 2007: As a mother of three grown children, I certainly understand how you feel. However from my experience I found my daughters would tell me certain things and withhold others. I always let them choose what we discuss. I never pry into their lives. Since ... (read in full...)
He can never make up his mind, it's driving me nuts!
Q. My boyfriend is the type of person who will take forever to make up his mind about something and lately it has gotten much worst and that really drives me nuts!I have tried everything from reverse psycology to threats to pressuring him and nothing ...
A. 4 July 2007: Okay with this new info I would have to say that you are just wasting your time. He is just stringing you along. Tell him to look you up when he's made up his mind but you are going to move on with your life. Get busy and be out there, there are ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love?
Q. Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love? This is the longer version for those willing to read: While attending the birthday party of my best friend's little brother, I met a two girl...
A. 3 July 2007: Knock knock...answer your door. You'd better hope it's the cops and not the outraged father of a nine year old daughter, you'll get treated far better. What hell are you thinking?... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a female star from Wimbledon, so I friended her on Myspace. Is this considered stalking?
Q. i have been watching wimbledon and i have developed a crush on a particular female star. i went onto myspace to see if she was on it (it was set to private) and i asked to be her friend (those who have myspace will understand the procedure). the pr...
A. 3 July 2007: As long as you leave where it is right now, then it's not stalking.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a married co-worker. I know I need to forget about her, but it's tearing me up inside! What do I do?
Q. I have strong feelings for a married female co-worker. She has no idea how I feel, and I don't think she knows how I feel. I just don't know how to deal with this. The feelings are so strong that I can't concentrate. She's always on my mind, the way ...
A. 3 July 2007: Well if you can't control your feeling then you'd best go find another job. She's off limits.... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex w/ the guy I've been seeing. I want to ask about his sexual past as I'm worried about STDs, but how? It's so awkward!
Q. I feel uncomfortable asking people how many people they have slept with and if they are 'clean'. I have recently been hooking up with this guy and we do like each other but are not ready for a serious relationship quite yet. I feel that I have a ...
A. 3 July 2007: You don't need to ask him anything, get yourself to a doctor and get checked out. You alone can be trusted to protect yourself against STD's. Ask him to do the same just to be on the safe side before you have sex again. Make sure he always uses a ... (read in full...)
I used to like to have sex with fat girls, but now I want to move on
Q. I'm a cute guy but I hung out with FAT chicks and I invested so much on them to have sex with them and my question is: how do I get rid of them and find new friends?...
A. 3 July 2007: I don't think you are so cute, I think you will have a really tough future ahead unless you start building some character, right now you are a pretty shallow pool Buddy.... (read in full...)
He can never make up his mind, it's driving me nuts!
Q. My boyfriend is the type of person who will take forever to make up his mind about something and lately it has gotten much worst and that really drives me nuts!I have tried everything from reverse psycology to threats to pressuring him and nothing ...
A. 3 July 2007: Indecisive people usually have low self-esteem and doubt their ability to make good decisions. Maybe you should praise him when he does make a good decision. If he begins to trust his judgement then he will be able to make choices and decisions much ... (read in full...)
Been married for 20 years, but feel it's over....what can I do?
Q. i need help been married for 20yrs, and i feel like its over what do i do next?...
A. 3 July 2007: Not much info to go on here....have you talked to your husband and told him how you are feeling? Why do you feel your marriage is over?... (read in full...)
Could sperm survive from our first sexual encounter to our second 1/2 hour later?
Q. ok, here it is. yesturday me and my boyfriend had sex. we used a condom but then we did it adain no more than half an hour later. he didn't come out but could there still be sperm from the first time and would it still survive? is there a chance ...
A. 3 July 2007: Did you use a condom both times? If so then you should be okay as long as it didn't break. If I were you I would bet on some extra form of birth control as well as using condoms. If you think the morning after pill "irregulates" your body, just ... (read in full...)
Does he need to be dominated?
Q. Do british men like sex and bondage? i have dated a spanker but other than that he is a limp bisquit in bed. Could it be he wants to be dominated? What suggestions do you have? ...
A. 3 July 2007: "Limp Biscuit" dead give away.... (read in full...)
If women cheat on a man, could it be that something is missing in what he is able to give a relationship?
Q. If a man has had two women who he loved who cheated on him would you assume something is missing in what he is able to give to a relationship? This guy seems so emotionally detached....
A. 3 July 2007: Usually it is something missing in the cheater not the "cheatee", something like integrity, honor, integrity, or just plain moral fiber. How do you know he loved either of these two cheating women? If the guy is emotionally detached it's because he ... (read in full...)
How do you overcome a deep obsession with an ex?
Q. HOW DO YOU OVERCOME A DEEP OBSSESSION WITH AN EX??? Please dont tell me to move on; thats the point, I want and need to so desperately but cant seem to do it. How do I stop spying on him and his new girlfriend via myspace, looking at all her ...
A. 3 July 2007: YOU need to force yourself to quit spying, asking questions about them, and reminiscing about the past. Every time you start to do it, go for a walk, turn on TV, just do anything else to get your mind off them. YOU are the only one who can beat this ... (read in full...)
My Mom wants me to intervene in her fight with Dad, but I am afraid I will make it worse
Q. Im sorry this is a kinda long qiestion, my parents have been together for over 30 yrs, but a few weeks ago my father created an argument and walked out on us, my mother wants me to speak to him as she has tried but to no avail. Im not a child, I...
A. 3 July 2007: Your mother is wrong to ask you to intervene in their relationship problems. Whether your father is in the wrong or not, it is up to the two of them to sort it all out. She has no right to get you stuck in the middle. By all means stay in contact ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to get random erections... or not?
Q. Is it ok to get an erection at random times? I've always had a prblem gettting erections at random times. is this normal...
A. 2 July 2007: Totally normal. Pull your shirt out of your pants to cover it, or wear loose fitting pants, or carry a book at all times. Your erections will be more predictable as you get older.... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty about leaving my vulnerable partner???
Q. My wife of many years has a drink problem that has seriously damaged our lives in many ways and caused our only child aged 19 to leave home. I also left and have now fallen for a widowed old friend, we make each other very happy. Divorce is on the ...
A. 2 July 2007: Have you discussed your unhappiness with your wife? Have you done all you can to save this marriage? If so then you should feel no guilt. It may even be the catalyst that causes your wife to clean up her act. Everyone deserves some happiness. You ... (read in full...)
I don't have the courage to ask her out as I feel unattractive
Q. HOw can guys that know that they are unatracticve, build up the courage to tell a girl how he feels about her? I want to tell this girl how ii feel about her, but I am not the best looking guy around. you can say I am one of those kids in highschool ...
A. 2 July 2007: I'm sure you not as unattractive as you feel you are. Besides most girls aren't that shallow and if they are then who gives a rip about them. Nothing ventured nothing gained, just go up and ask her out the worst thing that can happen is she says no, ... (read in full...)
My question is will I wait for him to call or should I be the one to make the move first?
Q. Just last night I had a fight with my boyfriend, for I did ask him about something and he did answer me but for my curiosity I asked him again and again, it's about a male friend of his who wanted to borrow money.... I accepted the fact that I did ...
A. 2 July 2007: If it was his money you really should not have butted in or questioned him. So call and apologise. But if it was your money too then he should have talked to you about lending it out to the friend. Then I'd wait for him to call.... (read in full...)
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