The girl I like likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend that I've been liking for a few months now and she just recently broke up w/ her bf 2 weeks ago. Now I know not to rush her, but I'm confused, b/c I know she is attracted to me and she flirts w/ me a few times back in school but even ...
A. 6 June 2007: Well that doresn't change my advise. Just take things slowly. Stay friendly, when she is ready, she will let you know.... (read in full...)
He left me for an old meth addict who convinced him that our daughter is not his!! I'm still in love with him - what should I do??
Q. I seriously feel like my life could be the next headline for the Jerry Springer Show. Seriously. My high school sweetheart, the father of my child left me about 10 months ago for a meth addict who is about 10 to 15 years OLDER than him. She had 2 ...
A. 5 June 2007: Why on earth would you want that druggie back? Now is the time for you to move on to greener pastures with your lovely little girl. You have a bright future and can give both your daughter and yourself a wonderful life. Don't look back. Good luck ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a two way love affair?
Q. How do I deal with a two way love affair? I love both of them but both of them have their bad points. And one of them i have a child by. I don't know which one to talk to....
A. 5 June 2007: What are you asking? Which one to talk to??????... (read in full...)
Could you please tell me if my boyfriend hits me once would he do it again?
Q. Could you please tell me if my boyfriend hits me once would he do it again?...
A. 5 June 2007: As you can see all the aunts agree. He will hit you again and it will get worse. You must get away from him NOW, TODAY. Keep us posted. Good luck sweetie.... (read in full...)
He asked me to dress up nice for a surprise he is planning! Men - what could he be planning? How should I dress??
Q. Hey all, Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but my boyfriend wants me to dress up for our romantic night in. I have sorted, food, contapception and everything, but I dont know why he wants me to dress up. When i asked him, h...
A. 5 June 2007: Okay then, go with the cellophane.... (read in full...)
How can I tell if this girl really wants to go out with me? I don't want her to accept a date w/ me just to spare my feelings!
Q. i have been told to meet this girl i asked to meet after the exams. i really like her. shall i ask first after the exams? any hints or tips to catch if she dont wanna go. i dont want to push her but i realize girls have a hard time sayin no as they ...
A. 4 June 2007: Ask her, if she says yes because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings you'll find out on the date. What have you got to lose? Most girls will say no if they don't want to go out with someone or will give some lame excuse like "that's my night to ... (read in full...)
He asked me to dress up nice for a surprise he is planning! Men - what could he be planning? How should I dress??
Q. Hey all, Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but my boyfriend wants me to dress up for our romantic night in. I have sorted, food, contapception and everything, but I dont know why he wants me to dress up. When i asked him, h...
A. 4 June 2007: Unless you know for sure what he has planned just wear your sexiest outfit but one you could wear in public. In other words if say you decided to wear some cellophane wrap and only some cellophane and you answer the door to find a huge crowd coming ... (read in full...)
If I cannot enslave her, I cannot trust her for being a faithful spouse.
Q. My concept of getting engaged into an emotional tie with a girl has to do with getting over her ego and insulting her so as to destroy her self-esteem and establish prime supremacy over her emotions and feelings which cannot develop for anyone ...
A. 4 June 2007: What can you do? I'll quote a famous cat...Therapy and lots of it.... (read in full...)
He seems to only like me when he's drunk! Is he worth it or should I let him go?
Q. Hey hey, The guy that I have been seeing for 7 months only lets himself go when he's drinking. When he's sober, he doesn't speak to me as often. And it's almost like he only likes me when he's drunk. He said from the beginning that he's not a bi...
A. 4 June 2007: Drop him like a hot potato. He's just using you. Why would you even want to be around a guy like that? He's only affectionate when he's drunk? What a slap in the face! Run.... (read in full...)
I like him and he likes me, but he's in a relationship! Is it wrong to still flirt with each other?
Q. Hiya, I've fallen for a close mate of mine, but the problem is he has a girlfirend who he's been with for two years! He's told me that he's fallen for me too. But the thing is I dont think he will end it with his girlfriend for me. Is it wro...
A. 4 June 2007: Knock off the flirting, it just puts you in a bad light. He's in a relationship, go look for an unattached guy to date. Like Rhythm said, he come after you if he's interested but make sure he's ditched the girlfriend first. Now get out there and ... (read in full...)
My ex bf's marriage is unhappy and he wants me back. How do I handle this?
Q. My ex boyfriend have been confiding telling me he still loves me but the only thing is that he's married now. He regrets being married to her because of the what she's put him thru. The use of drugs, physical and verbal abuse, living from house to ...
A. 4 June 2007: You have to be very careful here. Is he the only source of information on his situation? Could be bull crap. If he is so miserable why hasn't he left her? You said he wants to get back together, back together with you? Obsolutely not a good sign. If ... (read in full...)
Am I in a hurry to pursue a relationship or is this normal? We have known each other for 2 months.
Q. I recently met a man on a dating site, he said that he would love to talk to me if I am interested then I said yes I am. We hit it off from there. I have been on the site for 4 months, he for one year and I was going over other sites, I found out ...
A. 4 June 2007: How positive are you that he isn't married? Some married men lurk around on the online dating sites looking for their next bit on the side. Be careful, be very, very careful.... (read in full...)
The girl I like likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend that I've been liking for a few months now and she just recently broke up w/ her bf 2 weeks ago. Now I know not to rush her, but I'm confused, b/c I know she is attracted to me and she flirts w/ me a few times back in school but even ...
A. 4 June 2007: Stay friendly and have fun, if she is interested and is ready she'll let you know. Right now just have fun with no pressure.... (read in full...)
We've been separated from our past partners for years, but how can I tell my parents that we're moving in together?
Q. im separated for 6yrs. and my bf is separated for 10 yrs. we planned to live together but i dont know how to tell my conservative parents bout this coz we are not annuled.please help. ...
A. 4 June 2007: You are old enough to do whatever you please. Just be upfront and honest and tell them. Why haven't you had your marriage annulled or have gotten a divorce after 6 years?... (read in full...)
Anyone who doesn't grovel at my feet is not worth my time. How do I get over my ego??
Q. I find it joyful to see someone beg down to me and ask for mercy so that I can then decide as to what I should do with that person. Basically I can only relate with someone who can surrender to my ego. If they don't, I just ignore them or can't ...
A. 4 June 2007: lol rhythm. To the poster, Therapy and lots of it.... (read in full...)
My bf physically abuses me bc of anger issues! How do I get the courage to leave him?
Q. i feel as i am in the same cycle as my mom was. my mom was with my dad (whom was an alcholic) and has put up with abuse from him degrading her to beating her. one day, she managed to be brave enough and walk away with having nothing except taking t...
A. 4 June 2007: First of all he is your boyfriend not your husband that makes it easier to walk away there are no legal ties. Figure out where you can stay, get your bags packed and just walk out the door. He may seriously injure you or worse next time. If your Mom ... (read in full...)
We don't get to see each other that much, but I still really like him! How can this relationship work?
Q. I recently met a man on a dating site, he said that he would love to talk to me if I am interested then I said yes I am. We hit it off from there. I have been on the site for 4 months, he for one year and I was going over other sites, I found out ...
A. 4 June 2007: He may be married. Be very careful. Married guys play around on the online dating sites. How sure are you that he is single?... (read in full...)
She bullys me all the time. She made me start cutting myself because I'm small and ugly and now i feal like crying my eyes out.
Q. My friend is flirting with the guy I like. What do I do I love him so much.The girl who is flirting with him is really prettty and she sent me to hospital when I was in primary. She bullys me all the time. She made me start cutting myself because ...
A. 4 June 2007: Whoa, she isn't making you do anything, YOU are allowing her to bully you. You need to get yourself to the school counselor. He/she can help see that you get the help that you so desperately need. Once you start feeling in control of your own life, ... (read in full...)
He likes BDSM porn, and has invitations in his email to meet others in this group.
Q. Married for nearly 8 years. I have never cheated, but he did. He doesn't know I know. He likes BDSM porn, and has invitations in his email to meet others in this group. I was totally at a loss for that end of the spectrum, because I had never ...
A. 4 June 2007: You never say in your post that you love him. If there is no love there then you need to leave. He obviously doesn't give a rip about how you feel. You are right about the chatting thing by the way. Like you say, he is robbing you, you need to get ... (read in full...)
I don't want to commit because I don't think I'll be able to stay faithful. Are these fears genuine?
Q. I am afraid of commiting myself to my partner because i fear that i may not be able to remain faithful to her for the entire life. Also i feel i will lose my freedom to look at and appreciate other beautiful women around. Are these fears genuine? ...
A. 4 June 2007: Yes they are genuine. Don't get married. You obviously are not ready for marriage. When you are truly ready for marriage, you won't be having ANY of those worries.... (read in full...)
We're having an affair - he only talks about my physical aspects! Am I being used?
Q. i have been having an affair for 1 year with a man who has a partner he tells me he loves her but, what does the but mean. also he says one thing but his actions show me something else, he has told me he is smitten with me he also cannot keep his ...
A. 4 June 2007: To answer your question, yes you are being used. I wish you had asked whether you were doing something wrong, or what you should do about your immense guilt and shame, or how to act honorably towards your husband, or whether you should dump the ... (read in full...)
People are telling my husband that I am lying to him! Why are they saying these things?!
Q. im at a lost me and my husband are having problems alot of people keep telling him things that arent true about me and i have no idea why there sayin this stuff hes deployed and guyz over there are tellin him ive been sleepin around on him and im ...
A. 4 June 2007: Ignore the idiots, live your life with honesty and integrity. You don't have to lie to your husband to protect his feelings, in fact it just makes things worse. Tell him the truth and if he chooses not to believe it that's his problem. If you want ... (read in full...)
After the divorce I turned into a slob that smokes too much and gains weight like crazy! How can I pull my act together?!
Q. Hi All; It's not a dangerous problem like many i read here but it bothers me and it's affecting my life. Got a divorce about a year ago (it was a relief and i had been the one striving for it for years)but since then i feel i've lost my will p...
A. 4 June 2007: I'd first visit my doctor, you sound like you have symptoms of depression. He/she may be able to help you with a referral for counseling or medication. I think once you are feeling better about things your will power and motivation will return. You ... (read in full...)
She called me weak and said I grovelled. Then she said she was joking! I broke up w/ her - is this what she really wanted?
Q. Sorry for posting this again but I'd hoped to get a better response. I'm struggling to get over this and maybe someone out there can help me out. I need to know if I was wrong here. I went out with a girl for 6 months, during the first 3-4, s...
A. 1 June 2007: Some people are just into playing games. Some people just like to piss people off. Some people are just immature and never do grow up. She sounds like all of the above. Like I said before you should be glad to be rid of her.... (read in full...)
Had an affair..am I doing the right thing by ignoring him?
Q. i had an affair with a married man but recently i refused to accept his calls and even i acted so rude to him cuz i want to get out of his life.But i know he loves me.Am i doing the right thing by ignoring him? ...
A. 1 June 2007: Yes you are.... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling my husband may be cheating on me...
Q. i need some advice i normally wouldnt do this but i have no idea what to think!i think my husband is sending me lil signals that hes cheating on me or that he has cheated on me. Well lets see hes in iraq and he use to call me like all the time and ...
A. 31 May 2007: These kind of separations are as hard on the soldier's families as it is on the soldiers. Hang in there sweetie. You know how fast summers fly by, then November is right around the corner. What a glorious Holiday Season you have to look forward to!... (read in full...)
She always wants her own way and throws tantrums.
Q. I'm writing to ask what I should do in my current situation with my girlfriend. We have been together 3 months now and it's all been pretty much fantastic. Since our first date we have been with each other everyday since and apart from the odd ...
A. 31 May 2007: She's a spoiled brat is what she is. Whether she knows it or not, but I personally think she knows exactly what she is doing. Next time she pulls a hissy just ignore her, when she sees that the hissy fits or silent treatments don't affect you, ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my ex boyfriend still likes me?
Q. Dear Cupid how do i know if my ex-boyfriends still likes me?...
A. 31 May 2007: Ask him.... (read in full...)
Why do I seem to worry over small things and not bigger things?
Q. dear cupid i need major help, i keep on getting worried over smaller things, e.g one of the post about my neck, i been to counselling and its not helping me in any sort, y am i getting worried over smaller things and not bigger things like my m...
A. 31 May 2007: Listen honey, the neck thing is just the tip of the iceberg. There is no one here at this forum that can help you. You need Professional help and you need to keep at until you find someone who can truly help you sort yourself out. Do not give up and ... (read in full...)
I have never had a female talk to me the way she does without having deep feelings for me. HELP!!!!
Q. I am in love with a friend of mine. We are both in our late 40's or so. I would have bet my life on the fact that she was falling in love with me as well. Our flirting was so obvious that some people noticed it and said things. However in January I ...
A. 31 May 2007: Your "friend" is married. End of story. Do not try to take it up to any higher level than friendship. If she does decide to end her marriage then you can maybe hook up but at the moment stop with any confessions of love. You do not want to be ... (read in full...)
Ever since returning from France, my life has totally sucked. What can I do??
Q. this thing called life....kinda sucks when not in europe so recently i have come back from one of the greatest experiences of my life. i spent 4 full months in france studying abroad and although i hated it at first, i soon after found i loved...
A. 31 May 2007: You I think have reached the age where the saying "You can't go home again" comes to mind. I know that the first time I returned home after I'd left for college, it felt totally different. I suddenly felt like a visitor. It was that way up until I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to get a nude/topless photo of myself done professionally so that he can put it up in his house.
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice. My boyfriend wants me to get a nude/topless photo of myself done professionally so that he can put it up in his house. I'm not sure because I don't know why he came up with the idea. He said he would do one for me in ...
A. 31 May 2007: A good professional photographer may be able to take a very sexy nude picture of you that doesn't really reveal all the much. That would be art not porn.... (read in full...)
Do you really do things you don't want to when you're drunk?
Q. I guess this is more of a poll than a question. Do you really do things you don't want to when you're drunk? I say no. We commonly hear "I only did it because I was drunk", but I think it's just an excuse. From what I have seen with others and expe...
A. 31 May 2007: I agree completely with you, Doc. It the same with hypnotizing someone you cannot make them act like a chicken if they don't want to. One tiny doubt is alcoholics that can do all kinds of stuff in a total blackout not sure about that situation. ... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling my husband may be cheating on me...
Q. i need some advice i normally wouldnt do this but i have no idea what to think!i think my husband is sending me lil signals that hes cheating on me or that he has cheated on me. Well lets see hes in iraq and he use to call me like all the time and ...
A. 31 May 2007: He's not cheating on you, he's over seas fighting busying fighting for his country. Be loving and supportive. I hope he comes home soon.... (read in full...)
She lied about her age but her reason was valid...I think? What do I do now?
Q. Hi, I'v been dating a girl for almost 5 months, but recently she has told me her true age :( I initially met her in a night club (pub) hence didnt query her age when she told me she was 18. Plus she looked 18, and the staff of the club must ha...
A. 31 May 2007: "but then as she says, how can 6 months make such a difference?" Great she in agreement, wait 6 month before you guys start dating again. These laws are not arbitrary they were created for a reason. Breaking this one is simply not worth the risk.... (read in full...)
Mom found a condom wrapper in my bedroom. She now says my bf and I are not allowed to be alone together, here! Is she being unreasonable? or is she right?
Q. Right this is a long one so i need to find a place to start. Well im 15. Have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 5 months. i was moving my room around with my mum nd she found a condom wrapper. She at first was pretty ok about it, but then she ...
A. 31 May 2007: Your mom is right as rain. I would never allow my daughters to have a guy in their rooms...ever. I would never allow them to "stay over" at a boyfriend's house either. And visa versa for my son. My house my rules. And can you imagine this...all ... (read in full...)
Should I forget them or concentrate on being a friend to them both?
Q. I'm like these two guys who both like me too. They have both asked me out but I don't know who I like more. It's weird because they are both not my usual type but I have fallen for them. I know that if I go out with one I don't want to lose the ...
A. 31 May 2007: It's not mean to date both of them as long as you are upfront about it. It's called playing the field and most guys can respect that. Nobody has to commit to one person at a time as long as they behave with honor and integrity. This way you can get ... (read in full...)
He has two of us girls, chasing him. Will he text me while the other gf is visiting him?
Q. He rings me to go out for a drink, he walks me home after, kisses and heavy pets me, but I wont go all the way. he has another female friend who he met the same time as me, she is staying with him for 1 weeks holiday, and he has just spent the last ...
A. 31 May 2007: He's just playing the field not playing you. It is just a wait and see situation. Sorry about the knots in your stomach but it's all part of the dating game. And since you've been behaving with such class at least you know that you have his respect. ... (read in full...)
It bothers me when he spends a lot of time with his sisters and not me.
Q. i am in a relationship with someone for 3 months and my problem is he spends alot of time with his sisters and brother in laws. i dont have a problem with it but when he starts to be with me too much they call constantly. every holiday he spends ...
A. 31 May 2007: You've only been together for 3 months. I wouldn't worry too much at this point. Next time ask to be included at the family get together so you can get to know his family. He should be ok with this, if not then you may have something to worry about.... (read in full...)
We had an argument and now my bf won't return my calls! What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i quarrelled just this monday and he refuses to return my calls what should i do?...
A. 31 May 2007: Wait for him to call you back, I guess. Was the argument your fault or are both of you at fault?... (read in full...)
I get really emotional over my body - help!
Q. I really need to talk to someone who understands how it feels to get really emotional over their bodies. Can someone talk to me, please? ...
A. 31 May 2007: Yeah I know how you feel, I'm pretty attached to my body too. ;0. All kidding aside what do you mean emotional do you mean you don't feel your body is good enough, not attractive to guys? or what? Need to give a bit more info here.... (read in full...)
My wife's dad died last night, how can I help my wife through this?
Q. ok i hope you can help me out here. i'm 33 and my wife is 32. She lost her dad last night and it very upset. I know she's grieving and everything but I've really never seen her like this before. last night when we got back from the hospital we went ...
A. 31 May 2007: You don't need any help from the aunts, you are doing everything that should be done. You are her rock. Keep up the good work. I've lost both of my parents and know the pain very well. Time is her friend and it does get easier. She will have good ... (read in full...)
She called me weak and said I grovelled. Then she said she was joking! I broke up w/ her - is this what she really wanted?
Q. Sorry for posting this again but I'd hoped to get a better response. I'm struggling to get over this and maybe someone out there can help me out. I need to know if I was wrong here. I went out with a girl for 6 months, during the first 3-4, s...
A. 30 May 2007: Good Lord, aren't you guys just a tad too old to be playing these kind of games? By the sounds of things I think you are lucky to be rid of her. Give yourself some more time, you'll be able to move on. And quit letting the "mouse" and "grovel" crap ... (read in full...)
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