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writes: is there something wrong with me? whenever i get involved with a guy he can turn me on like hell for a while but after a while what he does loses its affect and does little to nothing for me when it used to do loads. Is there something wrong with me or is this what happens to everyone. If we leave it for a while though then go back to it.. its gr8 again. will i just have to keep doing this and is it normal or is there a way to overcome it or is there something wrong with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, sam12345 +, writes (11 August 2006):
sam12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your help. I feel a lot better now noing im normal lol and thanks for helping me out amthyst your answer really helped me and my partner thank you very much :)
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Also, try a variety! Tell him to try to be unpredictable with turn ons. Like, if you're turned on by someone blowing in your ear, eventually, if done enough, it'll fade. But, if he does other things, so as to not always do the same things over and over, it'll spice it up a bit, and the spark won't fade so easily.
And a lot of people go through that. I can't personally say I'm one of them though... but I know a lot of people who are! ^^
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reader, sam12345 +, writes (10 August 2006):
sam12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think you've got the wrong idea i don't go from man to man trying to get the sexual excitement back i do have none sexual relationships and i dont like relationships based souly around sex its just any relationship of mine that does turn sexual this happens and i was just woondering if this was normal lol thanks for yoour help i now feel a lot beeter about it and relieved to no that im normal lol
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 When you say 'turn on', I'm taking that to mean sexually, is that right? Id say that this is normal. Everything is interesting and exciting at first, isn't it? And if it doesn't materialise into anything more, then it slowly fizzles out and, to feed this need, you find someone else who is new and exciting.
Maybe if you fall in love with the guy and try to have a bond with them on another level other than a sexual one, it would end up being different. There's only so many times you can have meaningless sex with a person and be completely turned on. The whole idea is that it's new and unusual! Once it becomes the norm: no fun anymore!!!
I think you need to enjoy the fun you're having now but be careful not to throw to the wayside the guys who could turn into something more than just a sexual relationship. Why not try meeting guys and not sleeping with them, seeing if it turns into a proper relationship? If you have sex later in a relationship, instead of first, maybe things will be more successful for you and you won't go off the men so fast.
Good luck and I hope I understood you right!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Nah there's nothing wrong with you, you just haven't found the right guy yet. You will tho' and probably when you least expect it. Good luck!
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