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writes:i just wanted to know what men truly think of strech marks?? i had my second child 6weeks ago, my first child is 15months, as you can see i didnt hang about, and from having two 9lb babies close together and a miscarriage in between them , i have now got stech marks on my belly, my husband tells me everyday im perfect and couldnt be more sexy and beautiful, but i cant help but think hes just saying that to make me feel better!! apart from these few marks i feel and look great,im back to my normal size(12). i just want to hear from the men what they think of strech marks and from the women who have strech marks aswell how do you get over the disappointment of getting them and what you can do to keep your man intrested! please help, its really getting me down. thanks!xx
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reader, sweetwondrousmoments  +, writes (15 October 2009):
I am 34 with two kids and my husband and i have been married for 11 years. I've always been "the natural" woman, never wore makeup and dressed in some way to look a certain way. Ever since we met my husband has found that confident and natural look of mine very attractive. Now i weigh about 60 lbs more (after two pregnancies) and my breasts sag and i have very visible stretch marks on my breasts/tum/hips etc. But guess what, my husband still adores my body and kisses every mark on my belly when we make love. I am lucky to have a man who loves a real woman and phaps i did a good job at finding one, by not trying to be someone i was not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): hiya
i know exactly how you feel about stretch marks as i have them on my tummy after having my son 15 years ago,at the time i hated taking my clothes off infront of my husband because before i had my son i hadnt got a blemish on my skin it is really difficult for us women to come to terms with the changes our bodies through and unfortunately no matter what anyone tells us even if it is your husband its how you feel inside and if your like me when i look in the mirror when naked i dont focus on my lovely boobs or my great legs i focus on my streth marks "for all you men reading this "sorry! its a woman thing"I do think though the majority of men if they love you and fancy you put your stockings and suspenders on the sexier the better they wont even notice your stretch marks.
have fun xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): If your husband tells you he loves you for you and that he thinks the world of you; I don't understand why you wouldn't be happy with his statements?
I am self concious about my stretch marks and have a hard time wearing a bathing suit out in public but then I think of my beautiful children and I say "it was worth it". It also helps to know that my boyfriend sees me as beauiful too. He says my skin is soft, my smile is captivating, my eyes are amazing, I am an amazing woman...and the stretch marks seem so insignificant.
Trust in your husband and in his love for you.
You are still in that funk after having a baby and of course you would feel uncomfortable with your body image as of now. You are not suffering post partum depression are you?
Time and getting out when you can and being active will lessen your apprehension about your self image. They fade.
*hugs*
Congratulations on the new arrival.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 You go through life, and LIVE it...You EARNT every little mark, sag and wrinkle. They are part of who you are, and unique to YOU.. No-one stays visually beautiful till the day they die, unless they die young - which way would YOU choose - to die young and beautiful, and tragically before your time, like Marilyn Munroe, or live to a great age having contributed to mankind, gaining love and respect along the way, in making the world a better place - i.e. Mother Teresa - it really does'nt matter on the surface when you look at it like that. Every one of us, after all is said and done, are just specks of dust in the universe! So what do a few 'grot spots' matter?? (sorry to sound so terribly 'deep', by the way!) ;o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): My husband doesn't care. He thinks I am perfect the way I am. I have stretch marks on my tummy, boobs, arms and legs. I gained a lot of weight fast and I have no children. My stretch marks are just a part of life. Would I like to get rid of them? Sure am I worried about them? No. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): I wouldn't care about them. They are the result of having children or getting majorly overweight, or weight training... [ponders] Anyway, I like what Eyeswideopen's hubby calls them "battle scars". 8]
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 July 2006):
 My husband calls my stretch marks my battle scars. I don't think most men give a rat's ass about them and if they do they should be reminded that they help make them happen. They do fade with time. Every time you feel bad about them look at your beautiful children and you'll forget about a few marks. Wear them with pride my dear!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 July 2006):
My husband call My stretch marks my battle scars. I don't think most men give a rat's ass about them and if they do they should be reminded that they help make them happen. They do fade with time. Every time you feel bad about them look at your beautiful children and you'll forget about a few marks. Wear them with pride my dear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): It's so funny, i have the same problem. The difference is that it is because I had gain a lot of weight fast and now loosing it. Would a guy be repulsed?
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