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writes:My bf and i have been together almost 3 years, the problems is not with our relationship (its great) the problem is with my bf's male friend.my bf's friend has stayed at our home countless times in the past and my bf has recently told me some things that his friend has said about me when im not around them.his friend has said things like that he would like me to go to his home and make out with him, he has gone into great detail about my underware and told this to a group of male friend including my bf, he also says he had watched me in the shower.im totally freaked out about this guy what do i do? i dont want him in my home anymore? Reply to this Question
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reader, lisa_01 +, writes (10 August 2006):
lisa_01 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks all for everyone's thoughs, I think keeping away from his friend is the best idea, it makes me feel so awkard and embrrassed. and i think davidLewis and snowbird have a good point about the threesome thing because a couple of days after he told me what his friend had been saying that stuff ,we where making love and he started to try and convince me that he would like us to experience a threesome with another guy but i was not sure, but he caught me at a venerable time and i agreed to a threesome but now i sorta regret saying yes. but i did not even think that him wanting a threesome would have anything to do with his friends comments,its defiantly given me something to think about.thanks
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 I think your boyfriend is hoping for the right moment to suggest a 3some.
He seems to be wanting to guage your reaction.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 I'm shocked and surprised that your boyfriend has sat there and listened to his friend speak about you in such a disrespectful way, drunk or not!!...Consider also that the 'friend' has had the confidence to confide in your boyfriend.. It could just be me being bad-minded, so do correct me if I am wrong, but it seems to me to resemble a kind of ploy to fulfil many a man's fantasies about three-somes..could be that your boyfriend is in on this, and didn't like to ask you himself, for fear of what you might say, but wanted to see your reaction, and act on it accordingly...??
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 All I can say is that I would not allow this "friend" to stay at your place in the future and to definitely make sure you are never alone in his company. Good luck.
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reader, lisa_01 +, writes (9 August 2006):
lisa_01 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not my bf making anything up, i know this because one of my other boyfriends friends told me at a seperate time he also herd ths guy say things about my underware and went into great detail about it to him and a large group of males. i did ask my bf what he though about the comments, he said he was really mad but he also said that his friend may have only been saying these things because 1 he was really drunk each time he said the comments and he did tell him off on one occasion, he says he has not herd his friend say anymore stuff like that about me but i still feel concerned
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 August 2006):
This simply doesn't jell. Your boyfriend sounds like a nut case if what he's telling you is true. Why hasn't he punched the friend's lights out? My guess is that your boyfriend has made it all up. Time for a long chat and maybe issuing some walking papers.
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reader, camille +, writes (8 August 2006):
 Either insist that he is no longer welcome in your home, or confront the lowlife and ask him outright what he thinks he's playing at. I'm quite sure he'll be shocked as he almost vertainly won't be aware that you know. Oh and get a lock on the bathroom door, not sure why you wouldn't be extra vigilant and make sure you're not seen when there's a man in the house anyway.
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reader, IzzyStradlin +, writes (8 August 2006):
hey thereare you sure your boyfriend isnt making some of this up? maybe he's jealous and wants to put an end to this friend and you being friends and him staying round.Or maybe this friens likes you, has confided this in your boyfriends and he wants you not to like this friend. I see it as if this friend really did say all this, if your boyfriend cared, he would have done something about it. my advice is steer clear of your boyriend what ever the outcomehope i helped
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