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writes: I have been in my relationship now with my GF for over 8 months and I do love her. However whenever she talks about the future I cringe and don't like it. When she talks about 'in a few years' etc etc I don't like it. I have always been the type too go with the flow and not jump to any conclusions and I don't like too promise her things such as 'I will be with you forver' if that might not happen...etc...My girlfriend however is quite OTT and writes me texts such as 'I love you today, tommorow and everyday of my life until the day I die. I will always love you, no matter what happens, u will b forever in my thoughts and heart' and too me. How do I know this is true? Is it a difference between girls and boys etc? I am completley not like that etc etc.... confused :Sthanks for any replies...
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 Sorry, I can see what eyeswideopen means, but it obviously IS a 'biggy' to her, and ignoring it may cause her undue distress if she finds out at a later stage that it is not going to happen. Put her in the picture gently (she sounds rather a sweet sensitive type) i.e, you could say something such as "I love you and I am glad you are with me, but none of us knows what the future may or may not hold, it is early days just yet, so let's just take each day as it comes and enjoy the present for now".. Do not lead her up the garden path, only to dissapoint her. Tricky one, but hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh thanks for the replies :)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 She sounds very young and immature with a touch of insecurity thrown in. Ignore the forever promises and just enjoy the relationship. No biggy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): Well, that wouldn't freak me out, but it's quite excessive. I mean, once in awhile, just casually speaking about futures and stuff is fine, and the occasional "i love you" is okay too. To me, if she says stuff like that too much, I would feel she's either A) pretentious, B) insecure, or C) have no idea what love actually means to me.
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