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writes: Hello-I have been seeing "Luke" for about a month now. He was my first kiss back in the 6th grade. Now we are both 20 years old. In this past month we have hung out a lot, going to movies, beach etc. Within the first week of us seeing each other, he told me he couldn't have a relationship right now because he just got out of a really awful one (the girl stole money from him) and he wants to get all his crap together (he is living with his grandmother right now, wants own house). So I told him that we should just remain friends and not become physical. From here he started telling me all these really nice things about myself and even saying he is falling in love with me. I just couldn't believe that. I eventually broke the no physical contact and that's when it got more and more confusing. His actions to me were everything relationship, public display of affection, introducing me to his parents and friends, and always calling and wanting to be around me, but he wouldn't commit. The other night, I told him I want to give him space and that we shouldn't hang out so much because it is becoming really difficult for me and that I would hate to see him go off with some other girl. His response to all this was, "But I do want to be with you." Then he kept telling me he is falling in love with me and that i am his future wife etc. I told him to stop saying that stuff because if that were true then he wouldn't risk me being available for some other guy. He didn't have much to say about that. So basically he doesn't want to be with me right now, but he wants to be friends who do everything relationshipy but no strings attached. That night ended in anger, he got mad and basically ignored me until i got out of the car, refused to walk me to the door, called me later to apologize which ended with him hanging up on me because I didn't want to hang out with him the next day. My good friend thinks I should dump him. He has called a lot already apologizing, but i have continued to ignore his calls. When he calls today I am going to stick to what I want. I will tell him to give me a call when he is willing to fulfill that. What is everyone else's opinion on this. There is a lot more to this whole story, but I didn't want to make this too long. What is your interpretation of this all?Thanks!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 August 2006):
 There are no guarentees that any relationship will last. Just enjoy yourself now and don't worry about what "might" happen. Good luck.
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reader, suntulip +, writes (8 August 2006):
suntulip is verified as being by the original poster of the question****UPDATE****
Last night we talked on the phone and I went over to his house, where he ended up telling me he wants to be with me and he wants me to be his girlfriend. The reasons why he was stalling, was because of his past girlfriend and was afraid he would get hurt again. Now I got what i wanted and we are both together, but I have an anxiety over if this is gonna last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): Dearie... let him go. Dump him... he is playing games with you. He doesn't mean the stuff he is saying... he is only saying them to get what he wants from you. I hope you see through him... he just wants what he wants from you... he doesn't care about you. good luck.
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