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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): What motivates such a feeling? Why would you want to shun him from sharing yourself with him?
The fact that you do not believe you can be open and honest with your husband is an indicator of bigger problems.
I say go to a marriage counsellor to help get your life and marriage back on track.
You should feel that you can turn to your husband for anything and in anytime.
Think about why you feel and think you can't. What can you do to change this? What are you willing to work on?
Hope we hear back from you in regards to this matter.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 Just tell him out straight that you don't want to have sex right now....
I don't think we need to know the ins and outs in order to advise you on this situation... The fact is that you feel uncomfortable having sex with him and that's that.
You need to be out right honest and explain to him what is bothering you and to also say that because of that you don't want to be sexually active right now. If he knows what the problem is (whatever it is) then he can work with you to resolve it.... or make you feel better.
It is not unusual for couples to go through this stage, married or not... and it is usually the women who doesn't want to feel violated at the moment. It's not weird or unheard of... I'm absolutely certain that there are many women who have also gone through phases where they didn't want to be sexually active...
In fact maybe it would be helpful if THOSE WOMEN spoke up and shared their experiences with you...
THAT'S A HINT TO ANY WOMEN WHO HAS FELT LIKE THIS BEFORE... Please let this lady know how you felt and what you done about it....
Surely it's better to be honest with him rather than just do it because you don't want to have that conversation. You'll feel better if you tell him.
Good luck love... Sexybum xox
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (6 August 2006):
 Well since what I've been thinkin has already been said, I'll go with trying to help...
How about say you got an infection and you cant have sex for two weeks? I think thats an average length for how long you can have them.
I got the info of tv so dont take it as completely accurate!
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reader, bonym +, writes (6 August 2006):
 What sort of a question is that, why do you want to avoid doing what is natural with your husband? Can you elaborate as to why you dont want to be intimate with him anymore please? Thanks. xXx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 August 2006):
 We need more details here in order to try and advise.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (6 August 2006):
 What seems to be the problem ? Theres not much to go on as to why you dont want to have sex with him, or how this is making you feel... Why do you feel you dont want sex with him ? Has he done something to upset you ? Do you just not feel in he mood ? If you can give a little more info will be able to assist you a little further. If you dont want sex with him for a while, maybe tell him the reason why and ask that he not pester you... have a chat and clear the air and let him know that your just not up to having sex at the moment and that you would rather he didnt try as your not feeling up to. Im assuming you still love him ? Not really sure the best way to avoid other than telling him why you feel like this and maybe he will understand.
Take care hun
x x
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reader, princess-gold-digger +, writes (6 August 2006):
 You havent exactly stated why you don't want to have sex with him?
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