2 and a half years without sex and we're married!!!
Q. I have been married for 8 years and for the past 2 and half years my wife and I have not had sex, or had any kind of physical contact or intimacy. We have 2 boys, 7 and 2. The last time we had sex was when the last child was conceived. I have tried ...
A. 13 November 2008: Listen Chris I think you need to separate from her as soon as possible. It might be a wake up call for her but even if it's not this is no way for you to live. Your children will be fine, kids can feel the tension. And like I said before perhaps ... (read in full...)
2 and a half years without sex and we're married!!!
Q. I have been married for 8 years and for the past 2 and half years my wife and I have not had sex, or had any kind of physical contact or intimacy. We have 2 boys, 7 and 2. The last time we had sex was when the last child was conceived. I have tried ...
A. 5 November 2008: I think you are doing the right thing and I hope you find a place real soon. You deserve some happiness especially after what your wife has put you through.... (read in full...)
Help...jealous daughters!!
Q. Okay, I am a 37 year old woman who is engaged to a 47 year old man. We both have been divorced 2wice, so If we marry, it will be our 3rd time. He has 2 daughters, by 2 different mothers. One is 28 and lives far away, married with kids, the other is ...
A. 20 October 2008: I'm afraid you really need to develop a tough skin and be willing to "suck" up quite a bit if you want to keep this relationship viable. Hopefully given enough time his daughters will come around and accept the situation maybe even find a friend in ... (read in full...)
My wife has asked for forgiveness re her affair but I have so many questions...
Q. My wife and I have been married 25 years and have three children She cheated on me about three years ago with a very close friend of mine. I had noticed that a couple of times she had gone out and did not come back till late and also very early in ...
A. 20 October 2008: I think marriage counseling is an excellent idea, it will answer many of your question and point your marriage in the right direction.... (read in full...)
He's been distant the last couple of days - is it the divorce? the kids? or me?
Q. Ok, first off I do not want to be slandered on here, I am truely asking for an opinion. My husband and I have been apart for almost 5 months. We filed for divorce last week. During the first 3.5 months I done everything in my power to get him back. ...
A. 20 October 2008: You need to slow down a tad. Your divorce isn't finalized and his is just as unfinished. Take your time, don't start nagging or pressing him to talk, just take a deep breath and SLOW DOWN. In tumultuous times it very important to stay calm and ... (read in full...)
Cheating and text messaging...
Q. My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for almost a year. I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before the wedding. We are 21 (me) and 23 (him). We both felt ready for marriage but the baby came as quite the surprise. An accident ...
A. 20 October 2008: Is he getting medical treatment for his depression?... (read in full...)
Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the perfect model type in most porn?
Q. Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the model perfect type in most porn. I mean do they really prefer a mommy body with scars and sags (not overweight)as they say, over the scarless pre baby bodies on playboy and ...
A. 20 October 2008: I'm sure your husband prefers having sex with you vs masturbating to porn. He can't feel the warmth from a magazine page, he can't feel those lovely curves, he can't get the sweet intimacy, he can't....you get the idea. He views porn for a quick ... (read in full...)
A new employee came in under my employ, and started to text me, with stalking, personal messages, how do I stop this?
Q. I've recently acquired a bit of a phone stalker... problem is, it's someone who really should respecy my position in the workplace as their boss. I try to mainatain a good relationships with everyone who works for me in my work - I try to be a fr...
A. 20 October 2008: So report him already...... (read in full...)
He wants to make another go of it with his ex!
Q. Hi people Having just got off the phone to my ex we split on Thursday he said he's gone back to his ex, the mother of his daughter, she already has a daughter from a another ex and he said to me that he would like to stay mates she won't let him ...
A. 20 October 2008: Your "allowed" to ring him on your break?! Give ME a break! This guy is breaking up with you but has the balls to tell YOU what you can or can't do. If I were you I'd call him on your next break to tell him to drop dead and then start your life ... (read in full...)
What is the reason people give hickies/lovebites?
Q. Hello everybody, just a small question for you all. How do people give hickies/lovebites and what is the purpose of them? I was just wondering because I haven't come up with a good reason myself as to why people give hickies except for leaving a ...
A. 20 October 2008: It's something young teens do, to prove they are sexually active I guess. I think hickeys look stupid.... (read in full...)
Should I date this married woman knowing that she'll never leave her husband?
Q. Alright around 4 months ago I met this girl and her husband. Both very good people I was going through a rough time. She helped me through a lot of it and we became very good friends in the process. Well early on in the friendship I fou...
A. 20 October 2008: If you go ahead with the affair, I feel very confident we will be hearing from you again in a couple months. Very confident.... (read in full...)
I just can't stand not knowing why my married lover doesn't return my calls, should I send him a card?
Q. I desperately need help. For the last 3 months I have been having an affair with a client of mine who is married and has been for 23 years (he has no kids). I have been married for 7 years and have a baby girl of 1 year. neither of us set out ...
A. 20 October 2008: Keep watch over your shoulder, it looks like Karma is coming around the corner and heading in your direction.... (read in full...)
Should I meet up to put "closure" on things like he's asking?
Q. Hi all.. I posted this question a few weeks ago http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-you-think-i-can-make-things-work.html Well now, thing is that my (ex) lover and I had a very productive conversation recently (over the phone) and we go...
A. 20 October 2008: I'm in total agreement, don't risk it. Your phone call is closure enough and will have to suffice. No way is it a good idea to meet up, nope, nada, nix.... (read in full...)
What if he wants to get back with me... should I say yes?
Q. Hi all Bit of help please, me and my boyfriend split last week. He's saying he still had strong fellings for his ex, and that he liked me but didn't love me after 9 months together, thing is she's still with her current boyfriend. My ex and her ...
A. 20 October 2008: I agree with Emily, do not settle for being a second best choice. Don't let him use you. Look forward and never back and you'll find the guy for you.... (read in full...)
I called my girlfriend fat, I apologized, she won't talk to me, will we get back together?
Q. My girlfriend (shes 18 and im 19) is through this phase thinking shes fat (trust me shes not). And because of it she wont let me see her naked anymore. We do make do but she lets got to the point where I cant control myself. We have been fighting a ...
A. 20 October 2008: Boy oh boy, you blew it big time. That was vicious and you purposely hit her below the belt, you knew that was sore spot. I think you can kiss this relationship goodbye, not because you told her she was fat but because you purposely went for her ... (read in full...)
Saucy text messages on my bf's phone, but he won't tell me what's going on!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a lot of years and we have children. We have been having problems such as arguing about petty things but have tried to sort them out which I thought we had. A few weeks ago he went out drinking with some mates an...
A. 20 October 2008: Since this post is 3yrs, 8mos, and 7days old I certainly hope she's worked things out by now.... (read in full...)
A new employee came in under my employ, and started to text me, with stalking, personal messages, how do I stop this?
Q. I've recently acquired a bit of a phone stalker... problem is, it's someone who really should respecy my position in the workplace as their boss. I try to mainatain a good relationships with everyone who works for me in my work - I try to be a fr...
A. 20 October 2008: If you have a Human Resources dept. then go discuss this situation with them, this is harassment. If you don't have a HR dept. then discuss this with your own boss. This is serious. Keep us posted.... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 20 October 2008: I don't think you want advice on how to get over your unrequited love at all, I think you want to entertain yourself and dwell on it. Good luck, this post bores me now.... (read in full...)
I want to make my wife listen to me, without her knowing that it is me...
Q. my wife wants to leave me because i have been looking at sites with women who have big butts. I would like to send her messages without her knowing it is me. I want to save my marriage and i know i can do it, if i can send her messages without her ...
A. 17 October 2008: We did have a post from a woman who was upset about her husband going to big butt porn sites just recently, tried to find it but I can't...Poster if that was your wife, prepare to be busted.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated again with my so called friend. I need your advice!
Q. My boyfriend of a year keeps cheatin on me. I found it in my heart to forgive him but he has cheated again with a my so called "friend". I love him dearly. He is the only boy I really loved. We are broken up but somethin inside of me wants him back. ...
A. 17 October 2008: He is cheating on you because he doesn't love YOU dearly. Why would you want him back? He will do it again and again. Dump the loser and find someone worthy of you. Oh and dump this so called friend while you are at it.... (read in full...)
How can I call him without his partner answering?
Q. Should I just ring him? I am totally besotted with a man who got on great with me but had a partner! Nevertheless - I gave him my number and we were going to meet up but circumstances meant we missed each other on the day! - However, he never ...
A. 17 October 2008: He will contact you if he has the slightest interest, however, if he does, you should make sure he is not attached to his partner any longer. Cheating is cheating whether it is a marriage or a partnership. Like I said show some class here.... (read in full...)
My current relationship isn't going too well, I suspect this is due in part to me being in love with someone else. What to do?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy in my early 30's and I'm in love with my business partner. I took over the business that we both worked for shortly after she joined. I didn't start having feelings for her for a year or so, but when she split up with her partn...
A. 17 October 2008: There is only time and staying busy to help one get over unrequited love. Sometimes people NEVER get over it. You may meet someone who will leave this object of your affection in the dust, who knows?! However what you must do is cut your girlfriend ... (read in full...)
I want to make my wife listen to me, without her knowing that it is me...
Q. my wife wants to leave me because i have been looking at sites with women who have big butts. I would like to send her messages without her knowing it is me. I want to save my marriage and i know i can do it, if i can send her messages without her ...
A. 17 October 2008: You mean you want to be an aunt on this site? Did you see that she wrote in here for advice? Is that why it says you are a female 36-40?... (read in full...)
I've been a party animal for the past years, but I want to change. How can I do so, and make people see it?
Q. How can I lose the reputation I have in my hometown as a crazy, drunk bunny boiler? I have for the past 5 years been a party animal, people are used to seeing me drunk than sober. Ive had great times but now, at 26 years old, I want to try and ...
A. 17 October 2008: Stop drinking so much, stay sober and behave yourself. Keep it up and people will notice the improvement. The secret is consistency, if you slip up all will be for naught.... (read in full...)
I'm now ready to have sex with my boyfriend, how do I ask?
Q. I want to have sex, but I don't know how to make my boyfriend get horny or turned on? Any suggestions?...
A. 17 October 2008: No sex suggestions for someone as young as you.... (read in full...)
It's like we say "I love you' out of habit now. I don't want to hurt her - which is worse, staying in this comfortable but sparkless relationship or leaving?
Q. Ok so here goes. I've been in a relationship for the past 8 years with a wonderful woman. She is sweet, kind, funny, smart, all the things you could possibly want in a mate, but for some reason the spark is all but gone. I'm just not physically ...
A. 17 October 2008: Sit down and have a nice heart to heart with her. I think the spark can be rekindled in your case, it will always peter out if you don't pay attention in any relationship. After 8 years don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Best of luck and ... (read in full...)
I recently discovered a 4 month (daily phone/text) relationship my husband of 11 years has been having with a mutual friend.
Q. I recently discovered a 4 month (daily phone/text) relationship my husband of 11 years has been having with a mutual friend. My question at this point is how can I see this other person the same when I now know there has been, what I feel, is an ...
A. 17 October 2008: I think when Mrs. A. comes back into town, you both need to keep your distance from her. There is no reason you need her "friendship" anymore and I think she will completely understand why. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I have a complex about my nose being too long, any suggestions?
Q. My nose is very long and it looks like a pakoda therefore I felt very upset so please solve my problem my name is gurpreet I am 17 years old. ...
A. 17 October 2008: Barbra Streisand was once asked why she never got a nose job done since hers is so large and she said she was told that a change in her nose might greatly affect her singing and she didn't want to ruin what God had given her. When she sings nobody ... (read in full...)
Mom won't let me date a 30 year old guy!
Q. my mom wont let me date a 30year old. I am 16 years old...
A. 17 October 2008: Hugs to Mom!... (read in full...)
I was in love with a married woman who works in my office...
Q. I was in love with the married women, who is working in my office. We were having a good relationship for the last 4 years and treating her like my wife. For the last eight months we were not having physical relations, as I was told by some pri...
A. 17 October 2008: Okay....what?... (read in full...)
What to make of increase porn use and behavior changes
Q. I'm feeling a little "uneasy" and was looking for some feedback. My fiance over the past few weeks has been coming home and propping himself up in the living room where I cannot see the computer screen (which takes effort on his part) and lookin...
A. 17 October 2008: Lady if I were you I'd keep mum on the subject and just enjoy all the sex and attention. I don't see a problem here. 4 times in one day...zowie.... (read in full...)
Why don't guys like me?! Is it my fault?!
Q. i don't know what's wrong with me??? i'm becoming crazy! cuz i can't have a seriuosly relationship with some guy! .. i don't know why??? ... i'm a model in my free time! thus I'm pretty but they don't love me! as i wanna it! .. What should i do??? ...
A. 17 October 2008: Uncle Phil you made my coffee come out my nose!... (read in full...)
What does he mean by saying "we are together but we're not"?
Q. Hi everyone Really need help here. I split with my boyfriend on Saturday just gone, his choice as he wants to go back to his ex and the mother of his 2 children after 8 months apart, it doesn't hurt that she was always phoning him, anyway we still...
A. 17 October 2008: You need to be very careful here. I assume that by "mates" he just means you are to be a friend but there will be no sex involved? He may be telling you the truth that they aren't really together but that line is used all the time by men looking to ... (read in full...)
Sometimes when we're kissing he has his eyes closed, which is very odd to me.
Q. I've been dating a guy for about four months now and I really care about him a lot. He tells me he loves me and I tell him I love him. He's eleven years older than me but I don't think that really matters. I love him. I do have a concern though. ...
A. 17 October 2008: EyeswideCLOSED when kissing, otherwise it would make me cross eyed.... (read in full...)
How can I call him without his partner answering?
Q. Should I just ring him? I am totally besotted with a man who got on great with me but had a partner! Nevertheless - I gave him my number and we were going to meet up but circumstances meant we missed each other on the day! - However, he never ...
A. 16 October 2008: There is never a subtle was to behave like raving lunatic. Let it go and try to behave like a person with a modicum of class. Women like yourself piss me off.... (read in full...)
I do love her but I don't want to marry or commit to one woman all the time.
Q. Have been with my girlfriend for 7 years. She is very pretty, sexy, funny, loving the list goes on. But I know she wants more. I don't want to lose her. Every time she gets tired of dealing with my issues and tries to move on I beg her back making ...
A. 16 October 2008: Piss or get off the pot, Buddy. If you truly love her as much as you say you do, you will cut her loose to find the committed, exclusive relationship she seeks. Some people do no thrive in an open relationship, sounds like she's one of them. Don't ... (read in full...)
People say I have an "angry" face expression when I am just thinking. How can I change that?
Q. Hi guys!! Often times, my friends have asked me "Are you mad or something?" when I am just sitting there and thinking. I guess I always have a serious facial expression but I really cant help it. I also think this is why guys dont usually approach ...
A. 16 October 2008: Frowning causes deeper wrinkles than smiling. I think a person sitting quietly and smiling is sweet and makes ME smile.... (read in full...)
What do his comments mean? I'm too surprised and don't usually know how to react to them?
Q. hello I am very confused here, my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, he is really amazing with me, he treats me like a queen all the time. He is a very shy guy, it is impresive how shy he is, I surpriced myself everyday about this, but ...
A. 16 October 2008: Sounds like he definitely sees marriage and children in your future and a nice trip to the beach next summer. Enjoy your blossoming romance!... (read in full...)
He gets very angry and agressive... and I just get upset.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and a half, and are very much in love. The only issue is that when he is, or we both are drunk we end up falling out. He gets very angry and agressive, although has never been physically ...
A. 16 October 2008: Lay off the sauce for a while and see if your relationship improves. ... (read in full...)
2 and a half years without sex and we're married!!!
Q. I have been married for 8 years and for the past 2 and half years my wife and I have not had sex, or had any kind of physical contact or intimacy. We have 2 boys, 7 and 2. The last time we had sex was when the last child was conceived. I have tried ...
A. 16 October 2008: Awww Buddy, you are right this is no marriage. That fact that she doesn't even let you discuss it with her is a really bad sign. See if she will agree to go to marriage counseling with you, but if not I'm afraid you will have to split the blanket. ... (read in full...)
I am having a real problem stopping myself from beating myself up over a stupid mistake I have made.
Q. I am having a real problem stopping myself from beating myself up over a stupid mistake I have made. I have had time to think about my actions and have soul searched long and hard to understand why I did what I did which I fully understand now, but ...
A. 16 October 2008: Definitely need specifics. Did this mistake hurt someone besides yourself? I make stupid mistakes all the time but what kind of scale are we talking about here?... (read in full...)
He said I have a big vagina yet he's the first man I've ever slept with!
Q. hi everybody, I am writing this so I can have advice about things I don't know. I've just get married lately and I was virgin but the problem is when I had sex with my husband he says that I have big vagina and he hardly feels me. Even although...
A. 16 October 2008: I'm with the Sandman, I'm betting that hubby's a little on teeny side. Google Kegel exercises. They really help.... (read in full...)
I want to get a tattoo in memory of my grandmother, any suggestions about the place so that it isn't quite noticeable?
Q. My grandmother recently passed away and I was considering gettinga tattoo to remember her by. My family motto is "vil god i zal" which basically means with god you can do anything. My families heritage was a big part of our family and in my ...
A. 16 October 2008: Please don't mar that beautiful body that the Lord gave you. I'm sure it scandalize your grandmother. And trust me when you get to be my age "vil god i zal" might start looking like "godzilla" or something, what with all the wrinkles and sags one ... (read in full...)
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