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writes:Should I just ring him?I am totally besotted with a man who got on great with me but had a partner! Nevertheless - I gave him my number and we were going to meet up but circumstances meant we missed each other on the day! - However, he never rang me or gave me his number to contact him (probably because of his partner being there) but I just can't stop thinking about him!! I LOVE HIM!!Anyway, to cut a long story short - I think I have now managed to find his number without him knowing and would like to call him and talk to him - just to see how he feels! - But I'm scared his partner may answer or I may cause problems for him!!Is there a subtle way I can do this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Hi again! just read your follow up post on the right.The difference between a married man and JUST A PARTNER is such a small minded way to veiw relationships. I in your eyes am JUST A PARTNER who happens to..love my partner greatlyhave changed his colostomy bag every daybeen with him fighting bowel cancerWe are fighting MRSA nowHe was there for me with my three breast biopsiesWe nearly died on our motor bikeWe travel the worldWe sleep together We do many things togetherYou have not got a clue what you are on about and your attitude is shabby and low... you can be married and seperate, unmarried but TOGETHER so your EXCUSE IS PATHETIC, GET YOUR OWN LIFE.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 He will contact you if he has the slightest interest, however, if he does, you should make sure he is not attached to his partner any longer. Cheating is cheating whether it is a marriage or a partnership. Like I said show some class here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI hear what you are saying - but I would just like some sort of closure - coming from him! This guy is NOT MARRIED by the way!! - There is a difference between someone being married and someone just having a partner! - I don't chase married men!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Just follow your instincts: If he didn't give you his number, then that means HE doesn't want you to call him. If you do call him without him giving you his number, he's going to think you're some kind of nutty stalker and make it his business to avoid you at all costs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Ha ha ha ha! maybe just maybe a way to do it subtle. Wait until he is single, wait until he gives you his number, wait until he tells you he loves you, or just wait for the right man. Don't do something that you know damn well will cause trouble for all of you. Not a good idea and worrying that you believe this to be love. You sound desperate to me and i think you can do better than this and you know this as well.
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reader, youloveit  +, writes (16 October 2008):
well you do know your just a booty call obvioulsy right?he calls you when he wants, talk to you when he wants.. and your left to suck itup all by yourself can you really imagine havinf a relationship like that ? think about what it says about who that man is? it is probably not him you feel yourself attrcted to its the idea of him.. that mr.right coming around sweeping you off your feet.. not to be too blunt but MR.RIGHT is def not gonna be a cheater.. unles syour down with that? lol i dunno.. but if he does leave his partner for you.. what makes you think he wont do it to you.. behind your back.. youll have crazy insecurities the whole time.. so look past right now.. and think about later..
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reader, xelax +, writes (16 October 2008):
How about you put yourself in his wife's shoes... how would you feel if your husband was doing that to you... you wouldnt like it would you, unless he seperates from his wife you have no right to ruin a marriage even though it takes two to tango, you should ask him if he's prepared to lose everything for you, if the answer is no then forget about him. You knew he was married and you still let yourself fall for him, that's the lowest of the low!
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reader, eddie +, writes (16 October 2008):
 You say no cheating is going on but you wonder about a future for the two of you, you had plans to meet up....that would be cheating. Feelings do not entitle you to do what you want, nor him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Pepper 27 - your words are very kind and true -although I still can't help having such deep feelings for this man!!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Hi Hunny
To be honest and truthfull no sweetheart, You say you love him, He has a partner love. Whatever the circumstances that you missed your meeting he has your number hunny and he would have got intouch..He has probably thought about things and realises he does not want to loose his partner. So you getting intouch would really be a bad thing for him, You may have got on great sweetheart but it is obvious he just wants to leave it, I dont want to sound cruel as Im not in the least just honest...If you do love this man then dont phone hunny Im sorry if I sound harsh, Im just being realistic this could cause alot of heartbreak and hurt for alot of people..You if he wished you to no his number he would have given it love and he could get very upset to say the least if his g/f did find out as nothing happened and this would make things hard for him to explain..His g/f probably wanting to no who you are and thinking the very worst..And him for not knowing how to explain that yea you got on well there was a chance meeting which didnt take place and no he didnt give you his number...Im sorry if your hurting but no please dont ring him hun TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 October 2008):
There is never a subtle was to behave like raving lunatic. Let it go and try to behave like a person with a modicum of class. Women like yourself piss me off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut no cheating or sex is going on!! - We just get on well and I'd like to know if there would be a future for us that's all!!
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reader, eddie +, writes (16 October 2008):
You should really just leave married people alone.
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