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writes: My girlfriend (shes 18 and im 19) is through this phase thinking shes fat (trust me shes not). And because of it she wont let me see her naked anymore. We do make do but she lets got to the point where I cant control myself. We have been fighting a lot about of this issue.(this may make me sound a jerk) during one of our fights I call her fat. She was upset she left in tears. She wont answer my calls and she slam the door on my face when I to apologize to her. Is she going break with me?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (22 October 2008):
your stupid comment has really ended it for you. let it be a lesson to you and all men, DO NOT EVER CALL A GIRL FAT!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 October 2008):
I think you need to just back off this girl. You have heart her really badly and she's still to angry to even think about accepting an appology.
Leave her alone and let her be the one to contact you. You may have to face the fact you have lost her though.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI went to her place with flowers. But when I gave them to her she attck me with them. Then call me an asshole, that deserves dye alone. She slam the door behind her and I heard could her crying
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Boy oh boy, you blew it big time. That was vicious and you purposely hit her below the belt, you knew that was sore spot. I think you can kiss this relationship goodbye, not because you told her she was fat but because you purposely went for her jugular. Tisk Tisk shame on you.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (20 October 2008):
wow another man does it again. you guys really need to learn that calling a girl fat is the same as a girl telling you, you have a small penis and can't find her clit. seriously!
all you can do now is grovel, but to be honest if my bf called me fat i would show him the door! she obviously has insecurities about herself and you have probably just made them worse, so even if you do get back on track with her she will now be even more insecure about being naked around you. so to be honest the situation has been made a whole lot worse by you calling her fat. all i can say is good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 October 2008):
You basically just told her "all those times I said you weren't fat, and every time I said you were beautiful... well they were all lies."Send her flowers - roses - and grovel. If she won't speak to you then you will have to do it through letters and flower delivery men.Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsychicDove  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Telling a GIRL she is fat is similar to telling a MAN he is no man. Hmmm, just send her roses a day perhaps? :P Or perhaps you could eat some chocolates and get fat and tell her, 'Look am fat too! It's even now and I am sorry!' LOL
Okay kidding. She is a teenager so criticisms are not a good idea. Next time when she lets you make love, just be sweetly aggressive in sex, let there not be any moment when her mind begins to think about anything other than the heat. Even if it lasts for 10 minutes make sure she feels conquered, that should take her mind off such a silly thing as fat, or cuddly her fleshy areas MORE and let her feel that, 'Wow he likes my flesh a lot, he was so passionate!' :P
Good Luck and Best Wishes
~PsychicDove
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reader, porkchop.xo  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Well that was stupid! the girl is clearly having issues about her weight, and you go and call her fat! Good one!
You did the right thing by appologizing, but I think you need to make more of an effort to help her realize that she is not fat, and you like her just the way she is.
Why would you call her fat if she is not? I think maybe you need to compliment her more often and tell her she is beauiful. If she honestly thinks she is fat, maybe join a gym with her and engage in activites together that will help her get in shape. Overall you should never have told her she was fat, even if you were frustrated, it only made the problem worse. You made her fears real when you said that. She wouldn't let you see her naked, because she felt you would think she was fat, and then you go and say she is fat, you just made it a reality.
Though you probably didn't mean it, I understand that but don't give up. Go over to her place with flowers or something and explain to her your frustration and tell her that you think she is gorgeous and you did not mean what you said!
Hope everything works out for you :)
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