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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hello I am very confused here, my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, he is really amazing with me, he treats me like a queen all the time. He is a very shy guy, it is impresive how shy he is, I surpriced myself everyday about this, but well, the point is that he is not very good expressing himself, I know he loves me because of his actions, but latelly he has been making comments like this:First commentThe other day i was telling him that i am a firmly believer than parents should talk about sex with his children because sexual education is important for a young addult well being. The he said that he is not going to do that when he has children, he said that I will be the one doing that kind of job for him because he will be embarazed. ( So he is implying here that we are going to have children togete)Second commenthe always is talking about how are we going to go to the beach next summerThird commentOne day I told him that in my culture ( I am hispanic) women doesn't aquire the lastnames of their husbands and children has 2 lastnames, then he asked me if I wouldn't acquire his last name, I reply no because it is my culture, and I also say that I can't aquire a lastname that I can't pronounce ( he has a very complicated eastern european lastname), so he said that I shouldn't worry about that because I will get used to that.With this kind of comments I don't know that he is thinking in a of a commitment in a future, I know that now that is not a possibility 8 months in a relationship is too soon for marriage. But when he say this kinds of comments I get surpriced and i don't know how to react, because I have always been told that don't say anything about marriage to a gay because he will freak out. So he is making this coments now.To give you a little bit of background of our relationship, we normally see eachother 3 times a week, we have very bussy schedules, he is going to college and works, sometimes he comes to visit me and then when he leaves at 1am or 2am he comes back home to keep working. he has gave up time with his friends to be able to be with me, and everytime I tellhim that there is something that I don't like in the relationship he tries to improve. The sex is extremelly great, all the times he comes to see me we have sex, I have been his only one steady/serious girlfriend, he has told me that this is the first time he has the kind of feelings he has for someones, he say he hasn't like anyone like he likes me( I have always been told that I am very attractive). So some light to those comments that he is making, please
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Sounds like he definitely sees marriage and children in your future and a nice trip to the beach next summer. Enjoy your blossoming romance!
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