My paramour told my husband that he used me for sex. I am now trying to rebuild my marriage but how can I get over the pain of this affair?
Q. My affair ended 7 weeks ago when my husband caught me out. I have been married for 25 years,my marraige had been going through a very bad patch for about 3 years and i decided to attend an evening class where this guy was the teacher. At first we...
A. 28 September 2011: Rely on Karma but you then must turn away from it and let that high-riding bitch do her stuff. It's been 3 years Mae, time to let go. If you really can't then you need a professional, it certainly will be money well spent.... (read in full...)
I want to get a tattoo in memory of my grandmother, any suggestions about the place so that it isn't quite noticeable?
Q. My grandmother recently passed away and I was considering gettinga tattoo to remember her by. My family motto is "vil god i zal" which basically means with god you can do anything. My families heritage was a big part of our family and in my ...
A. 16 October 2008: Please don't mar that beautiful body that the Lord gave you. I'm sure it scandalize your grandmother. And trust me when you get to be my age "vil god i zal" might start looking like "godzilla" or something, what with all the wrinkles and sags one ... (read in full...)
He wants me, we've both got partners in the same company...
Q. WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN?? He wants me but his g/f won't let him go. She gets out of control when she sees his interest in me, like she's a psychotic wacko. I really want this guy - there's a mutual attraction between us and has been for at least 6 ...
A. 16 October 2008: Right on Fade! Dear poster you sound like the wacko in this post. Dump the boyfriend, he deserves much better. And this other guy would do the same to his girlfriend IF he was as interested in you as seem to think. How old are you anyway?... (read in full...)
Help me please .... Am I pregnant ?????
Q. Hello , I am 21 years old and I am virgin before 3 days I did anal sex with my boyfriend and he ejaculated in my anus. my period is coming every 28 days and at the 15 we had sex. From that day tell now I feel nauseous and if I eat anything I w...
A. 16 October 2008: Pregnancy symptoms usually start appearing at around 3 months along. If all you had was anal sex it unlikely that you can be pregnant. However if you are responsible enough to have sex you should be responsible enough to have birth control. Also ... (read in full...)
Revenge is sweet... or not???
Q. REVENGE... a powerful word.. Has anyone tried it yet? Is it true that it makes you forget the pain? (I just want him to feel the same way I am feeling).. any comments?...
A. 16 October 2008: Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.... (read in full...)
He can't enter me... am I too tight?
Q. Every time I try to have sex, the guy can't seem to enter me :( I don't know if it's because I'm too tight, or he doesn't get hard enough, but it's happened with more than one guy, so I'm guessing I'm the problem. What can I do? How can I make it ...
A. 16 October 2008: Some women have industrial strength hymens. A quick procdure at the doctor's office can fix it. But maybe it's God telling you that you are just not ready for sex yet.... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship with him, just sex!
Q. I am in love with a guy whom I hardly know, we go to the same university. He is also interested in me but all I want from him is not a relationship with with him but just sex. How am I going to explain this to him when he asks me out for a ...
A. 16 October 2008: You love him but you don't want a relationship? Why is that?... (read in full...)
What makes a man unable to keep an erection, could it be nerves?
Q. What makes a man unable to keep an erection, could it be nerves?...
A. 16 October 2008: Could be nerves, could be erectile dysfunction, could be medication he's taking. He should be checked by a doctor so you can rule out the variables.... (read in full...)
My paramour told my husband that he used me for sex. I am now trying to rebuild my marriage but how can I get over the pain of this affair?
Q. My affair ended 7 weeks ago when my husband caught me out. I have been married for 25 years,my marraige had been going through a very bad patch for about 3 years and i decided to attend an evening class where this guy was the teacher. At first we...
A. 16 October 2008: Mae, I think you could do a lot of good if you respond to the cheating female postings on this site. They almost always want responses from women who have been in their shoes.... (read in full...)
What is sex?
Q. What is sex?...
A. 15 October 2008: Most schools offer this information around your age. Your sophomore year you'll have biology, that should clear some of this up. Or you could ask one or both of your parents.... (read in full...)
What does a guy mean when he says he is "chicken" in getting together with me?
Q. dear cupid, We are both married and I asked him if he wants to get together? He said, we would have to be discreet. I was like good he likes me.. but when the time came, he told me he is "chicken" and didn't want to get caught! What does he mea...
A. 15 October 2008: At least he a chicken with honor and integrity, where's your by the way?... (read in full...)
My family has always picked on me and I have had enough. What can I do?
Q. I am 41 years old, and i have been picked on by my mother and one of my sisters. it is like if they think they are more supirior. they will pick on every little thing possible, from the way i talk to my dog, to the way i walk , to the way i raise my ...
A. 15 October 2008: I guess I'd make it clear to your mother that you will stop attending family gatherings unless they start acting like adults and stop this nonsense. It isn't good for your children to hear such disrespect from their grandmother and aunt. Let them ... (read in full...)
My husband left me, had me arrested and now I have a restraining order on me and he has a new love!
Q. my husband left me 2 weeks ago.he has his own place that he never gave up the entire 2 years of our realtionship.anyway,i went over and went in without permission and although i didn't find proof of infidelity,i found out he had a pay increase by 4k ...
A. 15 October 2008: I guess you are SOL. You may still love him but he sure has made it clear where he stands. Make sure you get a really good divorce lawyer, things are going to get ugly.... (read in full...)
What does he mean by 'you reap what you sow'
Q. Hi my problem is with my dad he has lost his job again just like he did when he worked down the mines. Yet this time mum says he seems happier, he keeps saying to folks you 'reap what you sow'. What does he mean....
A. 15 October 2008: If you reap corn if you sow corn. You reap happiness if you sow(give)happiness. You reap kindness if you sow kindness. You reap pain if you sow pain. I got a million of 'em....... (read in full...)
My family has always picked on me and I have had enough. What can I do?
Q. I am 41 years old, and i have been picked on by my mother and one of my sisters. it is like if they think they are more supirior. they will pick on every little thing possible, from the way i talk to my dog, to the way i walk , to the way i raise my ...
A. 15 October 2008: Are they living in your house?... (read in full...)
How do you make people fancy you?
Q. How do you make people fancy you? ...
A. 15 October 2008: Don't be silly, you can't MAKE anybody fancy you. Either they will or they won't.... (read in full...)
Does he love me back?
Q. I am in love with my (male) teacher. I think he loves me back but I'm not sure can somebody help me find out? thank you ...
A. 15 October 2008: No he doesn't love you back. You are a student to him and a very young one at that. You have a crush on him so you most likely aren't looking at this clearly. He has and will have many school girls mooning over him and he has been taught to expect ... (read in full...)
Revenge is sweet... or not???
Q. REVENGE... a powerful word.. Has anyone tried it yet? Is it true that it makes you forget the pain? (I just want him to feel the same way I am feeling).. any comments?...
A. 15 October 2008: It's self-preservation. Do you touch a hot iron over and over again?... (read in full...)
Where can I find information on the web about learning to drive?
Q. I need to find a website that does driver's book info thingy online. Do you know any websites? I'm 16 and I want to get my driver's permit. I want my licence before I turn 18. I need something that's easy to understand, I get upset ...
A. 15 October 2008: Don't they have drivers training at your high school?... (read in full...)
Girls, what do you when..you like a boy but your impatient?
Q. Girls what do you do when..you fancy a boy but doughts he will ever ask you out? not because your minging just coz well..i duno? Thanx for all opinions..do you just leave it because your the girl or what? ive texted him..then my m8s decided to tell ...
A. 15 October 2008: I answered your previous post about this.... (read in full...)
Guys, I need honest input! Does he think I'm desperate and does he even like me??
Q. Boys how would you feel or act like if.. u was talking to a girl u knew from primary! you gave her your number, she text you like 4 days later,then that weekend, her mates decided to ring you up and tell you she really likes you and ask if you fancy ...
A. 15 October 2008: I guess he just isn't all the interested in you. If you keep pursuing him he will start thinking you are desperate. I'd just move on and if he contacts you then fine but don't wait around for him. If it happens it happens.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my 'too-close-for-comfort' neighbour?
Q. I have a menyally ill neighbor, that is stalking me, she is obessed with me because i rejected her friendship. she had five cats in her apartment and i complained about them because they crawled on my fire escape. also she would put the cat liter in ...
A. 15 October 2008: Move.... (read in full...)
Revenge is sweet... or not???
Q. REVENGE... a powerful word.. Has anyone tried it yet? Is it true that it makes you forget the pain? (I just want him to feel the same way I am feeling).. any comments?...
A. 15 October 2008: How did you management to allow him to break your heart over and over again? Get rid and move on.... (read in full...)
I want another baby but my partner doesn't. Am I wrong to want her to have another?
Q. I'm 32 she's 48, we have 6 year old daughter and I want one more with her. She doesn't! In fact, when ever I ask, we end up having a huge fight. I know I'm partly wrong for asking, but is it unfair that I want another one before it's too late. I ...
A. 14 October 2008: Well Greg, 48 is pretty old to start over with a new baby. See it from her stand point, when the baby is 10 she'll be pushing 60. I think you should just be happy with the lovely daughter she's given you already. Shower both of them with love.... (read in full...)
I'm not pressurised into sex but I'm worried he will cheat on me if I'm not good in bed...
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now, and we are both over 16 + virgins. we done nearly everything, like hand jobs and blowjobs ect, but im scared to have sex.. i feel im ready to and im not being pressurised into it, but im ...
A. 14 October 2008: Just by your post I can tell you aren't ready to part with your virginity. Hold onto it awhile longer. Any guy 16-17 who isn't happy just getting blow-jobs is nuts.... (read in full...)
We each feel rejected by the other so neither of us want to make the first move verbally. Should I say something?
Q. I was the victim of a "player". That's how it started out. Then he got another girlfriend, and I was hurt. Instead of allowing myself to continue the hurt, I decided to play him back and did back to him all the rotten things he did to me. Like, ...
A. 14 October 2008: You are using your new boyfriend in a most despicable way. Show him a little respect and break up. He's a person not a pawn.... (read in full...)
What can I say to make her feel comfortable enough to send me some sexy pictures?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years now, we don't live together and we are like two peas in a pod. We are greatly in love and have everything in common. Now the problem... Recently I was forced to go on a business trip in ...
A. 14 October 2008: If you mean sending the pictures via the internet then she is being very wise. She probably is afraid of them falling into the wrong hands. I'm with her on this one. Do what Sugarcookie said, use your imagination for your "release".... (read in full...)
I was wondering..is it far too soon to move in with my bf?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, and our planning to move in together. We are still in college, and marriage is no where coming soon ( i dont want it too). I love him very much, and I know we have had our ups and our ...
A. 14 October 2008: If you do move in together make sure you keep your finances separate. No combined bank accounts or combined purchases of big ticket items. ... (read in full...)
Found birth control pills in my wife's drawers....is there a way to confirm if she is taking them?
Q. I found various birth control pills in my wife’s drawer. I had no idea she was taking them. I have wanted to have a baby for some time now. Is there a way to medically confirm she is indeed on the pill? Any other way? She won’t admit she took them. ...
A. 14 October 2008: If your wife says she isn't taking them then drop it. If she is lying to you it's because you sound like a control freak and she knows you will get freaked out. What were you doing going through her drawers anyway, looking for trouble? Maybe she ... (read in full...)
He's a great guy and very very good to me.. but I need someone who wants to be close to me physically. I feel so unsatisfied. Should I give up on this relationship?
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with a guy who's got a pantyhose (tights) fetish. I'm totally fine with it and wear tights regularly to turn him on. In fact it really turns me on knowing what gets him going. I've got my own fetishy aspects that I am open ...
A. 14 October 2008: Have a nice long chat with him, if he still refuses to attend to your needs then, yes, you need to end it. You deserve true happiness and fulfillment.... (read in full...)
Revenge is sweet... or not???
Q. REVENGE... a powerful word.. Has anyone tried it yet? Is it true that it makes you forget the pain? (I just want him to feel the same way I am feeling).. any comments?...
A. 14 October 2008: Yep, Uncle Phil's right. Moving on and having a wonderful life is the sweetest revenge. Doing something nasty to somebody usually comes around and bites you in the butt.... (read in full...)
She only ever gives me oral, and has stopped penetrative sex...
Q. Hi, I have an issue with my girl, as the title says she will give me oral all the time but we will not have sex. She will let me give her oral as well but nothing else. She just says she is not in the mood, and has been like this for over 8 month...
A. 14 October 2008: Perhaps she is saving herself for marriage but says she isn't in the mood so you don't think she's pressuring you to commit.... (read in full...)
I so want to have sex with my boyfriend but am frightened in case I've caught anything from previous boyfriends!
Q. Recently I went through a real slutty stage and had 4 one night stands for the fun of it. The trouble was each of these times I had unprotected sex. My dilemma is that I want to have sex with my now boyfriend but im putting it off (even sex with a c...
A. 14 October 2008: Good girl. I hope you come through with flying colors, let us know.... (read in full...)
He left me because he wasn't able to commit just yet, should I stay in touch till he's ready?
Q. hey, I really need some help. I am a 15 year old gay boy and my boyfriend of two years left me a couple of weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend where incredibly close. We liked the same things, we hAd the same sense of humor and we where totaly on love, ...
A. 14 October 2008: Do not contact him, let him contact you first. Stay in therapy, stay busy. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I so want to have sex with my boyfriend but am frightened in case I've caught anything from previous boyfriends!
Q. Recently I went through a real slutty stage and had 4 one night stands for the fun of it. The trouble was each of these times I had unprotected sex. My dilemma is that I want to have sex with my now boyfriend but im putting it off (even sex with a c...
A. 14 October 2008: Pull that head out of the sand and go get checked. Ignoring or avoiding the situation is no solution. You probably are A-okay but if not you will need to take care of it sooner or later. It's private business and no one needs to know except ... (read in full...)
His wife gave him permission from day one to have sex outside their relationship... and it's with me. He says he loves me and we're friends. What do you think?
Q. So I am in an interesting situation. For the last 4 years I have been romatically involved with a man. We have absolutely amazing sex and we click so perfectly that people constantly wonder if we are married. Ok so now the catch, He has been in ...
A. 13 October 2008: Sorry I can't buy it, that she would talk to you about how many times in a month she and her husband have had sex is just bunk. Hogwash. And besides if you are so close to her how can you be doing this behind her back?
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His wife gave him permission from day one to have sex outside their relationship... and it's with me. He says he loves me and we're friends. What do you think?
Q. So I am in an interesting situation. For the last 4 years I have been romatically involved with a man. We have absolutely amazing sex and we click so perfectly that people constantly wonder if we are married. Ok so now the catch, He has been in ...
A. 13 October 2008: And of course the only way you know this is because HE TOLD YOU. Sheesh I've got a great deal for you on the Brooklyn Bridge, you interested?... (read in full...)
He wants to have a threesome with the other woman not touching him or be touched by him!?
Q. My boyfriend (28, I'm 24) of 6 months has been asking to have another woman join us in our 'bedroom time'. He says he will not touch and will not be touched by her, but that she will only touch me and I will be in control of the entire situation. ...
A. 13 October 2008: My bet is he sets all these "conditions" just so you'll go along with the idea. If he only wants to WATCH girl on girl action tell him to rent a video.... (read in full...)
His wife gave him permission from day one to have sex outside their relationship... and it's with me. He says he loves me and we're friends. What do you think?
Q. So I am in an interesting situation. For the last 4 years I have been romatically involved with a man. We have absolutely amazing sex and we click so perfectly that people constantly wonder if we are married. Ok so now the catch, He has been in ...
A. 13 October 2008: Well he certainly is sitting in the catbird seat now isn't he?! I'm sure after he's finished having sex with his wife, he thinks about when is the next time he can snag some off you. Of course it works the other way as well. Wham Bam thank you mamm, ... (read in full...)
I like her but she is engaged to another person, how should I tell her?
Q. hi im really in love with this girl i work with but just dont no how to tell her she is engaged to another person at work but i no theres something between us we talk all the time and look forward to seeing each other when we go shift i want to tell ...
A. 13 October 2008: I'd keep it to yourself. She is engaged, if she felt more than friendship for you I'm sure she would let you know. She may be happy to see you and enjoy your company but that doesn't mean she finds you to be boyfriend material. If you spill the ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl says "I like you a lot" during sex?
Q. Hey could anyone tell me what does it mean when a girl says 'I like you a lot' in bed? I don't know how to take it, Is it just a heat of the moment thing to say or is it a time when all the truth slips out?...
A. 13 October 2008: Why on earth would she be having sex with you if she DIDN'T like you a lot?... (read in full...)
His family hates me...
Q. Well, here I am again... I have been on here a number of times. Pretty soon you all will know me because I am the 65 year old woman that has been dating a 69 year old man for 3 years and 10 months with no engagement or marriage in the future. He ...
A. 13 October 2008: I think you should dump his wimpy ass and find a real man. This situation is apparently unfixable since he won't/can't stand up to his children. You are right he's become the child. I don't think you'll be able to find any real happiness with this ... (read in full...)
My paramour told my husband that he used me for sex. I am now trying to rebuild my marriage but how can I get over the pain of this affair?
Q. My affair ended 7 weeks ago when my husband caught me out. I have been married for 25 years,my marraige had been going through a very bad patch for about 3 years and i decided to attend an evening class where this guy was the teacher. At first we...
A. 18 September 2008: You played with fire and you got burnt. Just thank your lucky stars that your husband didn't decide to throw you to the wolves. A lot of men would have. Now you need to focus on that wonderful husband, and only him.... (read in full...)
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