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writes:How can I lose the reputation I have in my hometown as a crazy, drunk bunny boiler?I have for the past 5 years been a party animal, people are used to seeing me drunk than sober. Ive had great times but now, at 26 years old, I want to try and straighten myself out but I live in a small town and I am known by most as the crazy girl whose always up for a laugh. Ive just come back from a holiday I went on for a month with my family and did some serious thinking while I was there (I wasnt crazy cos my nana and grandad were on hols with me and it was difficut to party with them around) and I realised that while Im at home I dont care about my reputation. But when I had time to think I realised that it is really bad and I wont be able to find someone nice to settle down with as everyone knows who I am and what Im like!! Also, Ive been dumped a few times in the past and have a tendency to harass my exes afterwards which has made me look like a bunny boiler. Now Im home, Im meeting up with my friends tomorrow and I dont wanna be the one who gets wasted and becomes life and soul of the party, even tho my friends will expect me to. How can I change, and make people really believe that Ive calmed down?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I agree with the first posts to a degree.. but also please remember, it is not other peoples opinions that define you. Everyone (well mostly), go through a stage of maturing, and partying.. also remember that it isn't always greener on the otherside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Do what eyes has said to start. However, your reputation isn't going to change overnight. It took you 5 years to get the reputation that you have now. Don't be surprised if takes a couple of years or more to have a good reputation. If you straighten out for a while and then regress, it will take even longer to repair your reputation, as people will think that you will just keep changing back and forth.
The problem is that you can't have your cake and eat it too. You have eaten it and now it will take a lot of work to get it back. This is why I have said several times on this forum that there are consequences for past behavior. As many people say, it is a person's right to live their life the way they want. However, it is also anothers right to determine what they think of that person.
Many people have straightened out their lives after making mistakes and you can do the same if you are sincere about it and realize that it will take time and commitment to do so. Good luck and stick with what you are trying to accomplish.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 Stop drinking so much, stay sober and behave yourself. Keep it up and people will notice the improvement. The secret is consistency, if you slip up all will be for naught.
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