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writes:hi everybody, I am writing this so I can have advice about things I don't know.I've just get married lately and I was virgin but the problem is when I had sex with my husband he says that I have big vagina and he hardly feels me. Even although that was the 1st time I have had sex in my life.I want to know if that can happen, if I really can have large vagina like he says. He says it is like I had babies before. I have never heard about this, I want to know if really women can have large vaginas even if she has just had sex for the first time? That's why I need your advice and help.thank you
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reader, lena1 +, writes (3 November 2008):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank every one for the help
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (3 November 2008):
 Nothing wrong with wetness! As I said earlier, the answer is exercising and getting control of those muscles!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Hey!
there isnt a solution for wetness, no. But if its causing you problems, try having sex or starting to have sex before you get really really aroused... less foreplay!
Either that or have a towel handy and physically dry yourself out from time to time.
Also certain contraceptive pills will alter the amount and consistency of then fluids you produce. I dont know if you are trying for a baby, but if not, you could try going on the pill and find one that helps!
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reader, lena1 +, writes (30 October 2008):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionis there any sollution for wetness?
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reader, lena1 +, writes (27 October 2008):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes,i have never seen man penis before.his penis is the 1st one i have ever seen.
and i really get so wet down there .i think uncle phill find me teh answer.
and when he is not waring condom he feels me litlle bit and when he wars it he stop feeling me.but i dont think i have big virgina as he says because i cant put it in easily and also i get hurt and i was bleeding lot every time we have sex at 1st.
so may be this pbm because i get so wet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Have you seen any man's penis other than your husbands? If not, you only have his word for it that he has a large one!
If that's the case, then the problem lies with the size of him and not the size of you. Another thought - if you were really wet and slippery down there, sensation for him would be reduced a little. Put the two together and you have your answer.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (22 October 2008):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni thank every one for his help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Don't ever let ANY man make you feel bad about your anatomy. I'm certain there is nothing wrong with your vagina. It sounds like you both are very young and kudos to you for being virtuous. Even if he has some experience before you, I'm certain all he did was "get on, get in, & get off." It takes a man longer than a woman to become a good lover.
Have you ever heard the saying that a man wants a lady in public and a whore in bed? Show him what you've got sister. Brush up on your skills and satisfy him in ways that he never dreamed possible. Show him exactly what he'd be missing out on if your vagina was in somebody else's bed. I'll bet that he will think twice about making hurtful comments about you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 Here's your link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise.
Also,
http://www.icame.com/female-sexuality/female-sexual-anatomy-vagina-size/all-about-kegel-exercises
However, this sounds to me like a little too excessive. I have the feeling that your hubby is using that old principle, "attack is the best defense". I mean, he's saying the problem is with you because he has one.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (17 October 2008):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhich exercice i can do .if you have any link give it to me.
by the way my husband is not too young he is old enough and he had lot of wemen in his life.
and what bother me is that he says i have virgina like i has baby before .he says i am born like that which i have never heard of it.i thought all women are tight when they 1st time have sex.
but now i see other thing.and that really bothering me.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (17 October 2008):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the answers.my husband has a large penis and thats what bother me.because when we have sex he says i have big virgina even its the 1st time i have it with him.this is really irritating me .
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (16 October 2008):
I have the feeling that he doesn't know much about vaginas yet. Maybe he feels that a vagina should feel as tight as his hand during masturbation? Once I heard a person say that "he who doesn't dance well blames the floor for it".
You may indeed be big, but I wonder what "big" means in this case. "Big" as in "big labia" does not mean "not tight".
Once I met a lady who had twelve children. You would guess that she, em, would not be too tight. Yet, since she kept having children, I have the feeling that her husband did ejaculate. She was a poor peasant and had all of her children in traditional deliveries. No C-sections.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 October 2008):
 I'm with the Sandman, I'm betting that hubby's a little on teeny side. Google Kegel exercises. They really help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): You definitely could have a large vagina or even a loser non-muscular vagina. You are both young so you might as well address this. There are a number of surgical procedures that you could avail yourself of if it comes to that. However you should start with muscular exercises.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Genetically, it is possible that you have a large vagina.
When you say large, what you are talking about is the area inside the vagina. Like Maid Marian said, women are very different. Some women have very tight vaginas while other women may not. It is not a direct reflection of your virginity but of your genetics.
The other problem could be that your husband has a relatively small penis. If he has a small penis, and you have a large vagina then there might be issues with feeling and tightness during sex.
But there are things you can do. You can do some exercises to help strengthen and tighten your vaginal muscles. By doing this, the vagina will feel tighter when your husband penetrates you. It also gives you the ability to tighten your vagina while having sex to give extra pressure on his penis while inside you.
There is a trick yo can try. Message me privately if you would like to hear it.
Hope this helps.
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reader, oldfool +, writes (16 October 2008):
I suspect the problem is not one of size but of tightness. My feeling is that you should do exercises to strengthen the muscles of your vagina. He will definitely appreciate it once your muscles are stronger and you can physically "squeeze" his penis with your vagina! This may also help your vagina to react more when you become excited, that is, when your muscles learn to move, your vaginal reaction will get better too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Hey!
Every woman is different. I was tiny, my bf could barely get a finger in me to start with, and even now he needs to warm me up before he can fit in me, and we've been having sex for 2 years!
But women are genetically different, so you probably jsut ahve a genetically large vagina, or your husband has a very small penis. That could be the problem too, if he is very small, then you would not feel so tight around him.
Also, did he actually penetrate you? My friend had "sex" for months, with her bf but because her hymen was quite strong, it didnt break and he was just inside her vaginal lips. Could this be the case? Did you feel him inside you?
Hope this helps! Message me privately if you want to chat more!
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