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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I think I'm in love with my "friend with benefits" and I'm so depressed...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in a friends with benefits relationship with someone I dated for a few months. We see each about once a week to hang out and have sex. I've become secretly very attached to him. I can't eat, I can't sleep and I feel so sad most of the time because I know he doesn't want ... (177 words)

I can't avoid him, I can't have him and I can't let anybody have him other than me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear agony aunt, I am 26 years old... and I can't think like it. My best friend is a guy(D). We love each other and it's quite deep and we are physically intimate. We can't marry cuz we both belong to different religions. So the heart of the matter is that D started dating ... (169 words)

Opinions needed please... Should I just wait to see where things go? Or is this just a lost cause?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

- There's this guy that I've known for around 2 months now. For around the first few weeks we got along reeeally good and flirted a lot. We have like exactly the same personality. Then for a few weeks after that he started distancing himself and not really making an effort so I ... (223 words)

What is a sexy outfit to wear for a striptease/lapdance?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - What is a sexy outfit to wear for a striptease/lapdance? I was thinking a miniskirt, a mesh shrug top that ties in the middle, a black thong and some stockings? ... (30 words)

Abusive boyfriend!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Here I go again.. me and my abusive boyfriend of 4 years are done. I've given him opportunity's to change from being a cheater more than once and putting his hands on me.. the recent incident was Friday because he got upset for how I was speaking to him that he sort of slapped ... (251 words)

How does a separation work?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I want to ask my husband to move out. We have been having problems for a really long time, and I recently found out he went out of town with another women, and it seems like now would be a good time for him to leave. But how does it work? I'm a house wife/ student. How am I ... (202 words)

I have a huge crush on my best friend's brother!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I have this huge problem. Let's cut to the chase - I have a huge crush on my best friend's brother. My best friend has an older brother and I've known him for so many years, and I've never ever thought about him in a personal kind of way. He has seen me in every state po... (292 words)

I'm very unhappy with my partner just now...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm in a relationship 10 years, things have changed an awful lot recently and I'm very unhappy with my partner. I'm afraid to break up with him in case he is 'the one' and I'm throwing it all away. Please don't tell me to try talk to him about it, talking isn't his thing no ... (63 words)

How do I get my parents to quit controlling me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I get my parents to quit controlling me? Do not get me wrong, I do enjoy attending the Sunday school (I teach toddlers) and the worship service. But I hate going at night... it drives me crazy. I hate doing the same routine every Sunday. I just don't enjoy it. How ca... (138 words)

How come I would choose my ex over anyone?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How come I would choose my ex over anyone? Like if he wanted to come back... well he has a girlfriend and he tried getting back with me but I didn't really tell him how I felt so now he's back to her and he said he'll always love me, he just doesn't want to be with me because ... (102 words)

I don't know what happened do you think he's just making excuses or did he mean what he said?

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19 April 2009 (F) age 41-50 - There's this guy that I really like and I thought he liked me too but I don't know what happened. We've been really good friends for about five years; one day we were hanging out and we were kissing then all of a sudden he's pulling away, saying he can't get into that he has to ... (105 words)

Opinions needed here... I can't get him out of my head, am I obsessed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been really happy lately well since Ii got a NEW boyfriend. We've been dating for a month now and it's like I don't want to spend any second without him, I really don't know what to do because I never felt this way before about any of my boyfriends. I also really ... (121 words)

Do I sit this one out?

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19 April 2009 (F)

- Help. I do not know what to do. I am due to go on a day field trip. I am looking forward to it. Trouble is my ex is going to with his new girlfriend. I think I am ok with it and will ignore him but people have warned me it could be awkward, in fact downright hostile as she is ... (138 words)

I'm feeling really stressed out at the moment...

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I'm looking for any advice from anyone out there. I don't have a huge problem but I am really really really stressed out at the moment and I feel completely lost. I am almost finished my degree in college and I have exams in the next few weeks, I honestly don't know how I ... (156 words)

I don't know how to snog...

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 14 and the guy I like is 16 and I really want to meet up with him and I don't know what to do. It's going to be my first time to kiss someone and I don't know how to snog. Please can anyone help! plzsss... help me! I'll be looking for your answer.... (60 words)

I love him but I don't know why!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5675 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I know why I love boyfriend, because of the great man I see in him. I fell in love because of that but at the beginning, I asked myself why I love him and I replied to myself, I don't know, I just know I do. That's just how I feel. That was the only thing I can come up with. ... (79 words)

Please teach me how to speak rude while having sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend asks me to speak rude while having sex, while i really have no idea how to and what is sutable or not and of course internet search did not show any realy example how to.... (37 words)

I'm gay but I have to hide it because of where I live!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I have a big problem 'thank God I found this site today 'My story is a painful one and I need a help here wish I can. I'm from part of Africa where gay people were regarded as evil spirits and outcast from the community or from the region, in my traditio... (399 words)

Am I his muse?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I had a talk with my boyfriend and he has told just how he has been doing some thinking lately about everything, and he figure the struggle he goes through he doesn't even have to go through it,he let it happen to him. I told him how much i missed him not around and my love... (123 words)

I just found out the man I've been seeing is married!

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19 April 2009 (?) age 30-35 - I cant believe im in this situation right now and im so hurt and upset and confused. can someone please tell me what do here?! Ive only ever had one boyfriend, we dated almost two years, he broke my heart and walked away. since the break up i worked on myself, tried to put all ... (591 words)

Why the sudden change, after 2 years together and almost planning a summer wedding?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - i've been engaged to a girl for almost 2 years now and we we're supposed to get married this summer... about a month ago she tells me she doesn't want to get married and that she's afraid it's not the right time. Later on she says she's afraid I'm not the right one. along ... (236 words)

Mood swings...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm a 14 year old boy turning 15... and lately it's been kinda wierd, I don't know, I think I have mood swings or something, like one minute I could be really happy, two hours later I feely all crappy and depressee or just extremely angry. I've noticed lately every single l... (62 words)

Is this anxiety normal after a breakup?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I am currently dealing with anxiety and depression after a five year break up. It's really getting me down because I don't feel myself at all. My head will think things that I don't feel inside, and it's really upsetting me because I'm afraid that they'll become my real... (82 words)

Is it necessary to set boundaries and categories for male friends?.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My confidence has been in the toilet for like longer than I can remember and have ran from almost every relationship I have come across because I want to be settled in my own life and fairly happy before I enter into anything with anyone.. does that make me..weird, b... (340 words)

This economy is putting a strain in my relationship with my parents and boyfriend. Help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my life is so messed up i don't know where to start. I am 18 years old. I paid for my car but my parents refuse to put it in my phone. I'm not allowed to see my bf, the man I love, they don't like him just because, its tearing our relationship apart. I make almost 700 dolars a... (107 words)

I want my ex back! Any ideas for getting her back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - OK so I want my ex back! Yes I have thought about it long and hard. We broke up in December and since then we have talked a bit, not to often though, sometimes we have fought over the past, sometimes just talk about how she is doing, she is seeing someone else at the mome... (150 words)

Pimples around my pubic area .. STIs or just acne? I'm a 14 yo virgin

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - are there other ways than beying sexually active to catch sti's and std's...becuase im a virgin and i didnt think i can have one of those.... but i m 14 and i have like some pimples around my pubic region and they can really hurt sometimes..... is it an std/sti or is it just ... (64 words)

Why am I always more "enthusiastic"?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I started going out with my first boyfriend 3 months ago. Im embarrassed because i always seem more enthusiastic when we're making out and i get excited kinda easily. Is this because i've never had a boyfriend but he's had three girlfriends? We've already gone farther then the... (69 words)

After 3 years together, do you think we are drifting apart?

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I can't help deciding what to do. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, and over the last 3 months, things with us have not been great. we don't argue, but we don't talk either. I can't help but feel that we are driting apart. I went out with a group of friends ... (138 words)

It sounds like he likes me, but I'm not completely sure. What do you think?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy about a month ago,and I bumped into him last week. I went round his house, we were talking, and then we kissed. But I'm confused as to how he feels. We're not going out, but we're more than friends. He asked me why I was single, so I replied that no one at coll... (118 words)

He said it's just a bit of flirting. Should I continue with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hi was just wondering if anyone could maybe help or if they have any suggestions i would be very grateful thanks. ok well what it is ive just recently started a new job and one of the guys who comes in has been flirting with me e.g winking smiling trying to make any conv... (308 words)

I lied about my age to my boyfriend! Is he mad at me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5100 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so i lied to my boyfriend that i was 15 and he is 15 turning 16 in May but i'm really 14 turning 15 next year so i told him my real age on AIM but he was offline and he hasn't txted me or anything.... Is he mad at me, does he still love me....I just didn't want to lie to h... (93 words)

We just broke up. She was my life! Help me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my girlfriend just broke up. We are 15 people say thats too young but i dont think so. She said we are very different and she has exams soon and it will be too difficult. I dont know what to do, she was my life. ... (47 words)

First time sex for virgins: do we still need to get checked for STDs beforehand?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I know this sounds absurd but I still really appreciate some help... My boyfriend and I are over the legal age to have sex and lately we have been getting extremely intimate and have started talking about making love. We're both virgins and everything we have done so far h... (144 words)

Follow up: Thoughts about going to and working in Spain

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My heart is breaking a little, but I'm not in love with a man, but in love with another culture and another country. I would like to know if any of you have heard of someone like me (a North American with no European roots) who was able to live in Spain for a substantial am... (417 words)

Do I keep my job and miss out on the volunteering experience or do the volunteering but miss out on £500 a month!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5693 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I need help! I am currently at university studying health care. I want to be a social worker in order for me to this and I need to do a postgraduate degree in social work but to apply for the social work degree I need at least 6 months voluntary work in a social work ... (238 words)

He never has time for me...Please help me!!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating this guy for 6months who has two kids. He works away most nights and could be away from week to week. We used to see each other everyday because we couldn't bare being apart and now I hardly see him I know it's because of his job and I know that but when he d... (465 words)

I have sexual feelings for my cousin's sister

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - i am 24 year working guy. from last one month i have feelings for my cousin sister (my father's sister daughter). she is 22 studying in college.i want to do oral sex with her.we talked on phone frankly as a friend. i dont know what she think abt me.what should i do???????? i am ... (67 words)

How can I tell my b/f his kissing technique needs to be improved?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend is a little crazy with the kissing. B/c its all over my face, and soo much slobber. I started it a week go to where i would use my tongue more, but i was really mellow about it, and didn't push it. But his tongue is about to choke the living hell out of me! Ever ... (177 words)

Should I call it quits or hang in there a little longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I need some good advice! Ive been dating this guy for 4 months. The first 3 months were great! He text me all the time, called me, spent lots of time with me and the sex was great. But the last month his text and calls have been less and less. I haven't seen him as much eith... (192 words)

He's not a good kisser

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now and well when we make out he really doesnt know what to do.... and also thats all he really wants to do but hes not really good at it what should i do because i cant tell him that he doesnt know how to kiss how can u he... (64 words)

15 and feeling a bit behind in my sexual or sexuality development in my peer group.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5693 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a 15 years old and while the other girls in my class are getting sexually active, i am just not feeling it. I had struggled with my sexuality in the past and was wondering whether this sort of non responsive state was normal or acceptable at my age. Please if you can help... (64 words)

Longtime boyfriend doesn't propose

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am together with my boyfriend for 6 years now. We live together for 5 years and we match well together. We have had hard times, but now we have grown together, have many things in common. The thing is that he claims he is "free bird", never had longtime girlfriend, now feel... (246 words)

Needs translation: what is he getting at here?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - If a guy from my work and I were emailing and he told me he had wonders what it would be like to kiss me, does that mean he wants to? He asks me if I thought his wondering was wrong. What is he getting at? ... (48 words)

I want to change my studies but mydad is so proud of me!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hey guys, basically i'm a student, i left school and went to college for 2 years to study health care, i am now in my first year at uni. the thing is, i am only doing nursing because it's what everyone wants. well.. my dad has always sort of pushed me into it. i know he just ... (180 words)

Boyfriend falling out of love

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel that my boyfriend is falling out of love . He tells me that he loves me and misses me but Im not sure. He calls others girls and he hardly calls me. We have been together for a year or so. How can I make him fall back in love with me. Should I start talking to other g... (93 words)

I like my friends brother, does he like me?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I like my best friends older brother (he is 16 and im 14) she knows i like him too. ive been going to her house a lot, usually when she has family there. Everytime he talks out in general, he always flashes hes eyes at me. i noticed he only does that with me, and nobody else. ... (93 words)

Am I being paranoid or do you think something is wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay, so it's eatser break and my boyfriend is at his Dad's for 2 weeks. We were speaking online most of the time, we usually do anyway when we're not together. But gradually he's been speaking less and less. I was fine with it and first since he's always busy (most watching tv ... (176 words)

I found underwear that was not mine. Should I forgive him or forget him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend (23) and I (20) have been together for three and a half years. We've lived together for six months of that. Well, last night I found underwear that was not mine and confronted my boyfriend about it. He ultimately didn't have an answer, so I kicked him out for the ... (171 words)

How do I convince a married woman to sleep with me?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - if a marreid woman likes a man and she gives him some sexual signs every now and then does,that mean that she has some sexual fantaseis about him? , and does he has a chance to get laid ?? and what is the way to seduce her ?? if i wanted to??... (56 words)

My boyfriend loves to hold my hand a lot is this good?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend loves to hold my hand a lot is this good?... (12 words)

In Love with my Mum's Boyfriend's Son! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - about a year ago my mum broke up with my step dad and got with someone else, he is really nice and i like him alot. i don't live with my mum and him but will be in the summer. but i met his son at christmas who doesn't live with them either and after 4 days we did everythi... (208 words)

Should I be worried that my Boyfriend is acting strangly after coming back from his holidays?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been going out for a couple of years now. He's amazing and we're so happy together. However, last week he went on holiday with his brother and some friends and ever since he's come back he's been acting weird. Yesterday I was at his house and we were ... (108 words)

I don't want to hurt my Muslim Parents, but I also love my boyfriend. What should I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, my parents are strict muslims and are against the idea of having a boyfriend. ive had a boyfriend for 4 years now, and i love him a lot. i cant break up with him. My dad cares about me and has done a lot for me so he doesnt force me like other muslim parents like sending ... (131 words)

Why doesn't he text me back straight away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my friend who is a boy talk but when I text him and he texts me its only for a short while then he doesn't. I hate asking him questions and him not answering. People tell me that he's not right for me but I like him and have strong feelings for him. What should I do? E... (191 words)

Is my Aunty dating my ex?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My aunt had sex with my ex-boyfriend(he was my boyfriend until they had sex, but I dumped him) and he's 17 and she's 32. They talk on the phone and go places together like they are a couple which they claim they are not and she is walking around here like she did not do ... (65 words)

How easily can a guy get an erection?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. So this is a general question to everyone so all you guys and girls out there please feel free to go ahead and answer. So this subject intrigues me and i want to understand it more. So guys my age 14-15, how easily can they get an erection. Can they get one from see... (93 words)

Husband always cheating and then askingfor forgiveness!!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, my husband and I, weve been married for 6 years but b4 we get married we are boyfriend and girlfriend for 9 years. It was started since when some of his cousins (girls and boys) living with their house for how many years. Since then ive noticed that one of his girl cousins ... (234 words)

After splitting up do you still have a soft spot for that person?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - when you split with people, do u always have some sort of soft spot for them after uve split with them, I still have for my ex after we split in october and im not sure if it was normal, I no i still talk 2 him even tho he has a gf And i was just wondering if he could... (77 words)

I'm bi, but I'd like to try a relationship with a man without hurting him

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - i consider myself bi, but like girls better. since 13 i thought i was gay, but part of me still like guys. but im ALWAYS mean towards guys im interested in. whenever im attracted to a guy, i'd be nice and sweet to him but when he falls for me i'd walk away immediately. then i ... (243 words)

Issues with sister..can anyone else relate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

- Hoping for some help here and thank those who reply. I am in my forties and am seven years older than my sister. I have an older brother and am the middle child. Long ago, I accepted the fact that my sister and I would probably never be friends. We are different. From how I ... (294 words)

Love square - so complicated!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I need help i fancy a girl but she fancies another guy the problem is another girl fancies me but the guy the girl i fancy, fancies the girl who fancies me. please help... (40 words)

How to flirt someone in person?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone I see a lot of Caucasian girls in Bangkok especially in the shopping mall. some of them look cute and I really want to start talking to them. But the problems are that someone comes with their parents and I'm afraid to talk to them because of their parents. And... (235 words)

Senior problems regarding ejaculation!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age - I have just started a new relationship, we are both in our 60s. We are deeply in love and extremely passionate, however, he can't ejaculate. He is on mediction for hight blood pressure. So when we make love we just go on an on because nothing happens. He has all the build up... (117 words)

I need your help and advice! How can I get out of this situation and resolve it peacefully?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - When I was at the supermarket in the queue a few days ago, an elderly lady pulled me up and said "We need to go somewhere to talk. It's some news about your son" I thought this was odd, but went anyway when I'd done my shopping. The woman told me she'd heard "tittle-tattle" ... (290 words)

He said, "I want to make love to you"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - A few days ago, for the first time, I got naked with the guy who I was seeing. He got really horny and whispered, "I want to make love to you." I thought he was just horny so I didn't respond to it. 30 minutes later, he asked me if I wanted to make love. I said no. (because... (357 words)

Just as I finally get over him he starts talking to me again but he has a girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5693 days ago

19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Last March my 2 year relationship ended by him. He broke my heart, he was seeing someone else. I found this really hard to deal with because this was my first proper relationship. I finally was nearly over it by October time. Then he all of a sudden he starts to talk to me ... (140 words)

If I ship out I'm gonna lose her but if I stay I can't have her.

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a friend and she is great. She makes me happy just to be around her. She knows exactly how to make me smile. We work in the same store and she is a manager now and I'm a regular employee. She used to be a specialist wich means when the managers aren't around she is the ... (703 words)

I have a crush on my boyfriend's best friend!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I think I have been in love with his best friend for almost three years. It's so hard to explain, but I met his best friend a few months after my bf and I started dating and for some reason, I had a crush on him ... (344 words)

How can I be with her in the position I'm in? We are really great friends and yet I'm in love.

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a friend she is great. She makes me happy just to be around her. Sshe knows exactly how to make me smile. We work in the same store and she is a manager now and I'm a regular employee. She used to be a specialist which means when the managers aren't around she is the ... (702 words)

Follow up: It's all so confusing for me part 2

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - This is a follow up to a question I put on here on the 17 April under the title. "It's all so confusing for me" http://www.dearcupid.org/question/its-all-so-confusing-for-me.html. Since the post I have made things worse I went and got drunk and the guy she keeps texting was ... (297 words)

Unleashing an animal

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok so the boy I'm in lust with right now has fairly animalistic tendencies when he is aroused and he's afraid that he'll hurt me. So he pulls away. And I need some help on tips to get him... fired up and riled up so that he won't worry so much about hurting me. Can anyone help... (58 words)

Do white girls like tanned-Dominican boys?

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - ok, I'm a Hispanic dude, born in the US to Dominican parents, but I do not consider myself Dominican at all. I do not behave like your average Dominican and I definitely do not talk or write like your average Dominican. You see, that I do not care about at all. I see myse... (174 words)

Want to do a vid for Army b/f -- how?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Recently my boyfriend deployed to Iraq, since he has been gone, he as been asking me for nude photos and a video. I have no problem in taking the pictures for him! My biggest problem is doing the video. How do I do one without looking like a complete idiot? I am so worried ... (98 words)

Hate needles -- best time to have one?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Not a relatioship problem but a health one, do women have a higher or lower pain threshold on their period or not? The reason I want to know is because I have to have a blood test and I hate needles so I want to know the best time to go and have it done without feeling too ill ... (64 words)

Money, Mother in-law and Me!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a problem, my partner who I have only been with a short time now, have joined our finances. It was going well until we had a spat, and I told him I wanted my own account again. He hasnt been honest with me in the past, especially about money, now I find out from his... (164 words)

In love - long distance relationship she's not... maybe...???

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19 April 2009 (?) age 36-40 - When you're in love with someone and know they're not in love with you, what do you do then? I've fallen for her..(we are in a non commited long distance relationship). I fell in love with her over the years of knowing her but I know she is not in love with me and any minut... (141 words)

Are Pisces and Virgos compatible?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok, for those of you who know astrology well, I'd appreciate if you would shed some insight on my situation. First of all, I haven't been on the dating scene in awhile because my last relationship lasted 5 years...it was also my first so this is all still new to me. I jus... (187 words)

Love him, but it's against my faith

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in a relationship with a guy who is 5 years older than me for about a year. Due to our age difference we were never verbally intimate. We also indulged in sex about 5 months ago and since then whenever we are together alone we have sex. I know he loves me and I to... (145 words)

Married 24 years, no affection left

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19 April 2009 (F) age - Please let me know how do you feel about this? Married for 24 years,3 kids together.. -kids ,are grown up but needy -husband totally cold,but says he loves me -we have no sex life -we fight a lot,on working too much,and lack of affection -I feel terrible in this marr... (135 words)

B/f says no other girl, but still texting ...

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19 April 2009 (?) age 41-50 - I learned two months ago that my boyfriend has another girlfriend whom he met 2 months after we started our relationship. He kept this from me for 8 months. I nearly died to have learned this.I have no idea what he is doing with this girl as she leaves in another city and he is ... (404 words)

Should I go and visit my online b/f in the USA?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i meet my online boyfriend 2 years and half ago. untill now we are still regularly communicating. chatting, texting but he doesnt call me cos he always worry about his phone bill. i insist him to come and visit so we could meet but he always want me come to the US where he live... (110 words)

He doesn't text me anymore - is it over?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now, he is the sweetest thing and I am really happy when we meet up and I know I love him but he cancels on me a lot, he doesn't txt me anymore and I just spend most of the time wishing he were here and crying. How can I get him to ... (145 words)

How about sex positions on the stairs/banister?

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19 April 2009 (F) age 36-40 - Are the stairs a good location for sex? Did you do it on the steps or the banister? What positions did you use and enjoy? Was it a fun location for sex?... (32 words)

I told her how I felt, and she is shocked. Any advice?

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19 April 2009 (M) age - I often go to the same region of Spain for holidays,i know people there,2 years ago i met an amazing English lady there, we embark on a mad 6 months relationship,it moved very fast,then suddenly without any warning she ended it,said it had no future,i was devastated,made the ... (215 words)

She is giving me mixed signals

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I think I am getting mixed signals, or she is playing games with me. Well, there is a girl in my Clinical Psychology class who sits right next to me, she seems to give signs that she might be interested in me; such as she always leans in to whisper something to me in clas... (228 words)

Can sex with a younger man be a good experience?

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19 April 2009 (F) age 51-59 - I have been friends and seeing a younger man. We have a good time. I am considering the possibility of sex with him. Can sex with a man that is 10 to 15 years younger be a good idea? Can sex with a younger man be a good experience? What is good about the experience? ... (93 words)

Did I just lose my best friend?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and this guy had been talking for about 4 months now, almost everyday on the phone. I told him i liked him, something he already knew. He always told me he liked me but since i am scared of love and commitment i never responded. One day i told him that even tho i like him ... (337 words)

Could he just appear in to my class to see me?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, i have a crush on this guy for 3 years. The other day my crush came through the door of my last class. Everyone started yelling "Oowww, Nancy!" He just smiled at me. I was just trying to hide myself and tried to tell them to shut up but i was too embarrassed. Then the next... (126 words)

My new b/f is talking too seriously too quickly...how do I put a stop to this before I get too scared?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been friends with this guy for almost three years and for most of the time I knew him he was pretty much only interested in hooking up with girls or having really short relationships that were based purely on sex and as his friend, and only his friend, I was one of the ... (637 words)

What is up with my crush? What should I do?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've liked a guy for 26 months. In the 9th grade I had quite a few classes with him. We frequently made small verbal contact: he would ask for a pen, I would say hi, etc. He gradually became more receptive, I caught him staring at me and HE said hi to ME. In the 10th grade he w... (231 words)

I don't know if I love him, but I cant get over him.

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago, because my family moved to QLD. After we broke up, my ex slept with a few girls, and messed with my head, and treated me horribly. A few weeks ago, I moved back to Adelaide, And I hate to admit it after everything he has done to ... (130 words)

My g/f and I often broke up. Is it over this time?

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - well my gf and i broke up....again and well she broke up with me like usual and i think were really over. and we broke up cause we fight to much and stuff and we break up a lot and she always comes back and i let her. but not this time shes hurt me to much and i dont wanna be... (152 words)

How do I make him see that the girl he's been waiting for may be me?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - So there is this guy who I met the other day, and he is.... perfect. I don't know what else to say. I really like him. But there is a problem, he doesn't seem to care about me at all. We were hanging out in the park with a few other friends and even though I tried to flirt w... (151 words)

I don't want to choose sides so how do I handle this situation?

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I have two sisters one is 18 and one is 17. Harley is a great sister and has a 4.0 in school and Brandi is an alright sister too because I never see her, she's never home and she's doing really bad in school. Brandi lies all the time to my parents about where she is going she ... (242 words)

He's away at school -- normal to question my feelings?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - is it normal to have high and low feelings for my boyfriend while he is away at school?... (18 words)

Miserable, no social life -- Help!

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - ok, where should I begin... HELP!!!!! I have no life! I'm miserable. I mean, I'm a frikkin 20 yr old w/ no damn life! I have no social life whatsoever. the only socializing that I do is on my Playstation 3, I mean come on! I've never ever had a girlfriend, even though I've had ... (176 words)

Less sex after marriage -- why?

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19 April 2009 (?) age 30-35 - its a simple question really; why do couples sex become less frequent once they get married?... (16 words)

Too shy -- how to make his fantasies come true?

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19 April 2009 (?) age 30-35 - Hey, well, typical scenerio of the girl wanting to be the perfect gf, i want to fullfill my bf's sexual fantasies and make his mind explode. so one of his is a striptease, of all them its the one I'm am LEAST comfortabel with. like, im ok with roleplays and stuff like that, bu... (139 words)

I feel too fat, he says too thin ...

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 5'2" and 97 lbs. My boyfriend of four years is 5'7" and 185 lbs. I constantly feel overweight, though. I feel like I want to lose at least ten pounds! My boyfriend tells me I'm crazy for thinking that. That I'm stunningly beautiful the way I am now and I should consider ... (68 words)

The sex is horrible - should I marry?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupid i have been with my bf/fiance for over a year now and the sex is horrible..we both know we have issues in that section but he always want to do it and i dont..today he wanted to do it and i said no..he like do you want me im like yes but i dont want to have sex//i a... (96 words)

Her parent's don't approve of interracial love

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend have known each other for 4 years and have been dating for a year now..Were happy with each other but the problem is her parents don't approve of it..The problem is she is kurdish and im black so the problem they have is that traditionally they would pick a ... (121 words)

Waiting for him to break up with a g/f?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age - Hi. Have any of you ladies out there ever waited for a guy to break up with his current g/f to be with you? If so, I'm wondering how you handled the waiting; did you still date other guys or stay faithful to him? Did you put pressure on him or just let him handle things in ... (102 words)

Tired of him being the only satisfied one!

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How many times do you need to have sex before you have an orgasm? I've had sex over 10 times and have come close but never been fully satisfied.I like knowing that I satisfied my partner but I'm tired of the guy being the only one who gets the happy ending. ... (51 words)

What do girls look for and want in a guy?

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I want all the females to reply to this one please. What can a guy do that sweeps you off your feet or what makes you really happy and wins your heart? What do girls look for and want in a guy? Thank you... (47 words)

Fiance is a jerk and she likes a better guy....

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ...Back again! Now, for another teacher question. This one's not really about me and a teacher relationship thingy (which broke off...um, 2 months ago i think) it's about another teacher. Ok, so the teacher I'm talking about is currently engaged and getting married on June ... (284 words)

I need to lose weight

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - hi i am overweight i want to lose weight but everything i try something stops me is there anything you think could help me lose weight any advice please thank you xP... (44 words)

Is it OK for me to date an almost 17 year old girl when I am 19?

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi I have known a girl since I was around 10 years old and have always been attracted to her and thought she was really cool. Today she told me that she has always felt the same way about me. She is turning 17 in July, and I am 19 right now but will be 20 in November. Is it ... (103 words)

Kissing disaster

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay well I've been thinking and I do love my boyfriend BUT... there's a problem - he has braces and in the next couple of months I'm getting braces too but I'm a little bit scared to kiss him just in case something goes wrong. Can we still kiss and not "get caught together" ... (58 words)

Should I do it? Why or why not?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - The other day a friend of mine asked me to be his first.I met him at school, we had a couple of classes together the past 2 years and he's a nice guy. I lost my virginity a couple of months ago and have and sex with a total of 3 guys with in the past 3months. The first wa... (153 words)

The age gap is no big deal to me. Please tell me, from what I have told you, what you honestly think.

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok guys heres the deal. After reading this you may think I'm being silly and overreacting. But I need some honest, genuine answers. I have recently began driving lessons with a very handsome 30 year old man. I am 17 and have only had 6 lessons with him so far. I am extremely ... (269 words)

Why is he coming in my dream constantly?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - This boy from my class who I know constantly appears in my dream, one day after the other, ok I fancied him once upon a time and then it ended up dragging to about 5 years liking him on and off but why now? Why is he coming in my dream constantly? Does it mean anything? It's ... (198 words)

What can I do to make sure I am 'tight' for our wedding night?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Eight and a bit years ago, I was 13 and raped by a stranger in a parking area. I'm now turning 22 and have not done sex any time after that. I'm engaged to a man I been with for 5 years. he knows about my being raped those many years ago and has been understanding of it. He ... (98 words)

I don't love or fancy my wife any more... Help!

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19 April 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I don't love or fancy my wife any more... Help!... (10 words)

Is it wrong that he constantly thinks about me being with women, or him being with other women and me at the same time?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - While my boyfriend and I were having sex one time, and I was on top, he said [Is it wrong that I can't wait to do this with another woman] Is there something wrong when you're with a guy for 2 and a half years and for the past 2 years, he's hounded you for a threesome? I am... (105 words)

Does that mean that I may have premature babies too?

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19 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My grandmother and mother both had premature babies (ranging from 2 weeks early to 5 weeks early) Does that mean that I may have premature babies, and if so what is the earliest you can have a baby without it having any major health problems?... (45 words)