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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is it wrong of me to want her ex gone from our lives?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5066 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Okay so..I have run out of options and need advice. This might be long so sorry ahead of time. My gf and i have been together for a year and 4 months. Now the problem is that my gf is moving to a new place and her ex is her friend that is moving in with my gf, mainly becau... (386 words)

Where can I take her on a first date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Well, I recently asked out a girl, who to my surprise said yes. It feels a bit stupid to ask her where she wants to go on a first date...so I want to take the initiative and want to make it something good and memorable. Any ideas...? Thanks!... (65 words)

I want his friends to like me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. He knows i'm very shy, and tomorrow we're going out with his best friend and his best friends girlfriend. I've met them before but i haven't talked to them much. I don't know how to start a conversation, and i want them to ... (71 words)

About to have my period, but still want to make HIM happy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - This is going to sound weird. But im supposed to be going to my boyfriends tomorrow for the weekend. And i was not expecting my period until the 11th...So i was wonderin.. 1. What ways can i please my boyfriend, while im on my period? 2. (for guys) Can guys still get alot o... (89 words)

Should I stay in contact with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I was seeing a guy i really really liked. But it ended when i found out he was a player. I cut off all contact. Which was hard to do, as i missed him so much, (even though he didn't treat me right). Then after a month i got a call from him out of the blue. I then saw him out... (213 words)

I wonder what's causing this ?.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Last week,my period was really heavy for the first couple of days,then for the last three days there was a little bit of blood,then it stopped abit,then there was just abit of blood again.And during the first couple of days,i noticed blood on the toilet paper when i wiped ... (154 words)

I took the morning after pill

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5678 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I took the morning after pill on the third day of my period. Is it normal for a heavy period that usually lasts for around 5 days to completely disappear after taking the morning after on the third day?... (39 words)

My heart is broken, how do I get him back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in complete love with my ex boyfriend. He is my everything. But he hates me and I have no idea why. I no what your thinking ask him why. I have he shrugs and says I dunno I dont. I have two really really close friends one is pissed becuz I talk about him alot. The others in ... (104 words)

I am not high on his priority list

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5629 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend is good man,gives me lots of affection. yet i can't help but feel that i'm one of the lower priorites in his life.whenever i wanna do something,go somwhere,ask him to do somthing,it's always wait,i'm tired or i have plans with my daughter. on the other hand when ... (296 words)

Vacation troubles

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30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Should I just let him go on his own or join him for half of the trip? My boyfriend and I had talked about taking a trip together. The problem is I only get a week paid on vacation leave. He gets (2) weeks..since he didn't use his week last year, he's planning on just saving i... (281 words)

What do I do about a best friend, who no longer wants to be in contact with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - If your best friend wasn't very good at keeping in contact before she left for uni and now she is even worse. When I text her she says she has to have space and she'll text you when she's ready. Which she never text first before anyways. What does this mean? Bear in mind we ... (71 words)

I really like her, but she gets on my nerves! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I like this one girl named "Emily" but I just cant stand her. I mean that I am in love with her but sometimes she can get on my nerves. I dont think that she likes me though. I have had a crush on her for about a month. She is a straight as a line and that is my problem. And ... (77 words)

I feel like I"m one one his lower priorities

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

My best friend likes me..I feel weird

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I feel weird around my best friend because he likes me he was my BFF since kindergarden but now where not best friends cause he is jealous of every boy I like a boy whose girlfriend is her cousin so what should I do?... (44 words)

Could I be pregnant

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a 19 year old female.I jus want to kno if my boyfriend cum on my belly...and i use the same cloth that he uses and wipe the cum,and i accidently wipe my vagina with the same cloth right after,would i get pregnant? ... (46 words)

I'm not pretty, will anyone ever love me?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4209 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok i am going to be 100% honest and realistic about my situation however sad it sounds! Recently i fell in love with a guy. The first time i have ever fell in love. I don't think he felt the same way but he gave me a taste of how amazing it is to feel love! I was heartbroken ... (191 words)

Waiting for marriage for intercourse.. already done everything else will I be disappointed?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years, and it has always been important to us to wait for marriage to have sex. After being together for a little over a year, we started to be sexual. After a while, it got to the point where we just decided that, "okay, it's ... (219 words)

How can you know if a guy indeed likes you or just wanted to make fun of you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - how can you know if a guy indeed likes you or just wanted to make fun of you from the first time he started talking to you? if he showed almost all the possible signs he's into you,let you insult him and kinda put him down in front of his best friend and other people more than ... (76 words)

I'm still attracted to him I just have no sex drive, and now there is a Sailor involved!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Q1, ok so heres the thing my husband and i have been together 2 years and my sex drive has gone down a lot.... he is lucky if i want to have sex once a month. when we first got together it was like 2 or 3 times a day i dont know what happend i give him oral but still not as ... (421 words)

My girlfriend won't let me take her to climax

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I can't get my current girlfriend to cum. i dont think my method is to blame as she says she has never climaxed with anyone and i have never had this problem with other girls. i always make sure to spend alot of time on foreplay alot of kissing, touching etc i ... (173 words)

What can I do. Any mantras I can repeat or something. Maybe garlic and a holy cross?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (M)

- Things didn't work out after I dated a girl in my class. She says she's crazy about me but chose to go out with another dude. As if she expected me to believe that messed up logic. Forget friendship, I'm not wasting my time siting on her back burner. Problem is my ... (162 words)

I have Social Phobia and am paranoid about my boyfriend cheating

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5680 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - First off, I have Social Phobia - i'm scared of people, I can't leave my house alone. Now, my partner's aunt's anniversary is coming up soon and they're having a big party for it, mainly punk music, you know. All his family and some of their friends are going. I can'... (274 words)

Is there any hope here or am I just waiting (alone) and wasting my time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - First let me say, thank you all for reading this and helping me out the best you can. Here is the situation I am facing: My ex fiancee and I were together for almost 4 years. We have a child in common. He has lied and cheated on me quite a bit. I have lied to him, I am no... (571 words)

Why doesn't he ever learn?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - When my boyfriend's plans change, he never ever tells me, and always waits until I ask him. The other week, we were supposed to see each other on the saturday, but he went to stay with his Dad on friday at the last minute, but didn't tell me until I asked him the next day at ... (224 words)

He provides everything for me, apartment, money and everything I ask him for, I do not work. He thinks I depend on him too much, is this true?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (?) age 36-40 - My bofriend thinks i depend on him too much, i don't think so. he provide everything for me, apartment, money and every thing i ask him for, i do not work, when we just started out he said he wants to spoil me, and he is doing just that. i don't know what i'm doing wrong.i am ... (111 words)

When should I see him again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently spent 4 solid days with a guy i met off the net. he is 18 yrs my senior ...no comments on age difference please as it is really not relevant to either of us ...we are very aware of how we could eb perceived etc and our interests span the difference anyway. we got ... (273 words)

Mind playing games?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i had unprotected sex 3 times in one day (april 13, 2009) with my partner. im am on the pill, however i missed my pill for that day. ive noticed sum symptoms but it could jus be my mind playing into the situation. it has been 17 days since the sex? is it too soon 2 take a ... (60 words)

Another chance? OR forget it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

30 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - hey, i know this girl likes me very much but before i talked to her and things went ok then i sent her message on holiday and she said that i have a boyfriend and i dont want you as a friend and she hasnt any boyfriend so i said ok it was my fault that i gave you respect and ... (186 words)

Stay at home mom..I need help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi im a 20 year old stay at home mom for my boyfriend of 2 years daughter. i have been raising her for a year and a half. pretty much by myself. i dropped out of school and do not have a permanent job. to top it all off we have moved to the country last summer away from all my ... (166 words)

Like me? View me as a good friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hullo... I'm single and im just curious if this girl likes me... I only recently (3-4 months ago) broke up with my first girlfriend of a year and have no idea who i like yet. A very nice friend of mine gave me her number at a BBQ because although we 'd known eachother f... (249 words)

Help.....Why???

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5678 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age - Hi...after 3 years of dating, I feel lost. I don't exactly know what I want from my ex who broke up with me a month ago. This was so sudden that I am so hurt. We have had problems, but I have been the one trying to cater to his ego. He is a very closed person, and when he ... (1094 words)

Too much wetness ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I produce way too much discharge my mum thinks that my system is working too fast, it smelled for a bit but then the smell went away .. what could it be HELP PLEASE x... (38 words)

Said no, but now feel guilty

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys i still talk 2 my ex but the other day he said he may need 2 borrow my car 2 take him,his gf, and his child out for the day and i said no But now i feel really guilty that i said no, i dont really have a problam with it its just that i feel a bit strange that she... (91 words)

New Colleague keeps inviting herself along to everything we do!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I need some advice with how to deal with a new work collegaue. She has only joined the team for 3 weeks and already she is making everyones business hers...she is very cocky,and nosey and the worst thing is that she keeps inviting herself along to things we planned. For exam... (215 words)

He's angry because I have a boyfriend.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i have a bit of a problem with a mate. I was with my new boyf and i was holding hands with him walking down a road. In one of the passing cars one of my friends who saw me. He hasnt talked to me since and storms past me whenever he sees me. I've asked him what was bothering him ... (155 words)

I know I can't trust him now.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We share a computer, and whilst looking through chat logs to find a phone number, I stumbled across some rather shocking information. I found a conversation between him and a guy, 7 months ago, showing me that they had... (226 words)

He never spends time with me anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age - My mate stays gone all day but sleep home everynight. He doesnt have much time for me if any time. I feel he is seeing someone else but he says he isnt. Am i being foolish or is he trying to let me know he is cheating? (but doesnt know which one he wants to be with) Or is he ... (79 words)

Tempted by another man...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my Boyfriend have been together 4 years off and on, im sure i love him i know he loves me, but ive been talking to another guy and met up with once, im 23 and im not sure if its being with him from such a young age....now im tempted to experiment, but if i loved my ... (73 words)

Please help me I feel so torn

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - 2 months ago I met a man online that lived a few hours from me. We ended up talking on the phone every day. He told me was single at first but a few weeks later I found out he had a baby girl and I asked him if he was married but he told me he was seperated. He came to m... (268 words)

I think he is crossing the line by talking to these other women but he just tells me I am sick!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a problem my husband e-mails his ex and visa versa, always wanting to help her either fix her apt. or anything else its ridiculis the way he goes about it, he tells her if there is anything you need done let me know. I am a jelous person we've been married for seven ... (170 words)

Does he want to give up on us?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been hanging out with this guy off and on for 5 months. I text him and ask,Can we try and have a relationship? He says,i will have to think about the whole relationship thing. A day went by and i still had not heard anything from him. I decided to text him and say,If you ... (153 words)

We have liked each other for 5 years but now after telling me he loves me he is being off with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been in love with a guy for about 5 years,(lets call him x) we didnt go out but confessed that we liked each other 5 years ago, i had work things going on and my friend liked him aswell so nothing came of it. As that was happening i met another boy who i started to ... (202 words)

Was he telling the truth when he was drunk or was he not thinking stright?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am so confused. Last week a guy at my work who I have liked for a long time bumped into me on a night out, he bought me a couple of drinks and invited me and my friends to come along with him for the rest of the night. While I am at the toilets he confides in my friend t... (266 words)

She lied about having cancer but I feel like I want to be back on speaking terms with her again!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi I was wondering if you could help me as I am at the end of my tether and tearing up inside. I had a massive fall out with a friend 3 years ago, and have heard nothing from her in all the years then out of the blue I get a text message from her last week saying that s... (292 words)

We only have sex about once a month but I want more!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi,iv been with my bf for nearly four years now and living together for 2. I love being with him cos we have loads in commen and everything but he just doesnt get intimate with me much at all anymore,it hurts when we go to bed at night and he wont even touch me. we have sex ... (98 words)

I think we are still in love but he is getting married! Help please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have a question that I really need help answering. I have been in love with this man for almost 4 years, we dated for about 2 years and then we broke it off and decided to remain best friends. Trouble is I am still in love with him and I think he is in love with me to ... (355 words)

I feel he is cheating but I need to be sure before I confront him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age - my mate leaves real early every morning and stays gone for 10 to 12 hours a day he is retired when he comes home he goes to sleep and he phone is ringing for awhile but he wont answer it he shower shaves and smell good but dont pay me any attention hardly speaks to me he also ... (105 words)

Is he just using me to get back at his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My friend didn't talk to me for about a year, when he was having trouble with his relationship he started talking to me again. then he broke up with his girlfriend, 2 weeks later we slept together, and have been ever since, but not in a relationship way. He has always known ... (84 words)

I think I am a little slow on the up-take...does this guy like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. I am 24 and have only had two boyfriends and those i met through school and college. Now i have gone one step further and met a guy at work. Now i am feeling a little rusty, since it has been 2 years since my last relationship broke up and i have been single ever since. ... (361 words)

I am unsure of how to come to terms with my good friend being gay

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

30 April 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have just met up with a very close friend who I havent seen in many years. I found out the reason we fell out is because she is gay and she could not tell me as we were so close she didnt want me to feel like she fancied me. We had seen each other naked, slept in the same bed ... (121 words)