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anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend have known each other for 4 years and have been dating for a year now..Were happy with each other but the problem is her parents don't approve of it..The problem is she is kurdish and im black so the problem they have is that traditionally they would pick a guy for her of the same race and background.. up until recently they didn't know about me and she told them and went crazy and said no we cant be together but we stayed together anyway..Just last week her mom found out were still together it was the samething again... We want to be together but don't know what to do or what to tell them.. Help needed Reply to this Question
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reader, ellziebub  +, writes (19 April 2009):
Hi,You should ask your girlfriend what she wants, its got to be pretty hard for her too. If you two are both madly in love and you both agree you want to be together no matter what, you should both explain to her parents about your decision. tell them that you are going to care for their daughter just as well as someone from their race. if thier daughter loves you for who you are (regardless of skin tone etc) then you should tell that to the parents. what ever you do, dont do it behind the parents back. this will make them feel really bad and they'll probably be even more angry and wounded then before. race should not affect your relationship
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reader, tea.petal +, writes (19 April 2009):
 The fact that you can't be together because of something a superficial as race is ridiculous. There needs to be a confrontation with the parents exhibiting racism. Explain how to them much you love this girl. Gain their trust, if possible, and show them that there is much more to you than can be judged by a skin color.
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