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writes:I'm 5'2" and 97 lbs. My boyfriend of four years is 5'7" and 185 lbs. I constantly feel overweight, though. I feel like I want to lose at least ten pounds! My boyfriend tells me I'm crazy for thinking that. That I'm stunningly beautiful the way I am now and I should consider GAINING ten pounds.What should I believe? My boyfriend or my brain?
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reader, jerblaine +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Believe your boyfriend!! He wants you to have more cushion for his pushin. You are not fat. You are a tiny person. You will look great if you gain 10 pounds!! You will look so healthy and happy!!
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reader, Blondy +, writes (21 April 2009):
 I am 5'4", I weigh 106 pounds and the guy I am with absolutely hates overweight people. If there is anyone in the world who would come out and say someone is too fat, it would be him. I weigh 9 pounds more than than you and we've been together for almost 2 years. YOU'RE NOT FAT!Believe me there are tons of gils who would probably love to be your size, be happy with what you have and if your man loves you, what's the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Honestly, I also think you should gain 10 pounds.Youre too skinny already and u dont want to become aneroxic. Trust me. So just stay as you are, or gain. Donot go on a diet. YOu'll just get hungry for nothing. Cheers
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Have a look at your own BMI and BMR, and as long as you are in the healthy zone, you should not worry about your weight and shape.
Calculators http://www.bmi-calculator.net/
Calories Burned, BMI, BMR & RMR Calculator http://www.caloriesperhour.com/index_burn.php
A Healthy Diet http://www.weightlossobesity.com/diet-plans/healthy-diet.html
If you want to get into the good habit of eating healthy food, you should also consult with a medical nutritionist in your area, for the best well balanced diet plan that is specifically tailored for you or your age group. A good nutritionist/dietitian is always happy to provide consultations to health conscious clients/patients.
Food Combining Diet http://www.diethealthclub.com/askquestion/1100/food-combining-diet-can-someone-educate-me-on-food.html
http://www.caloriesperhour.com/
http://www.1is2fat.com/basal_metabolic_rate_calculator.htm
http://www.linear-software.com/bmr_bmi.html
http://handheld.softpedia.com/get/Health/Calculator/BMI-BMR-Calculator-BlackBerry-63188.shtml
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-determine-if-im-destined-to.html
You can find some more information and good/responsible " how-to" information on the web when you google something like "healthy natural diet" combined with "weight loss" and bmi and bmr. Look for sites that are maintained by responsible people or organizations (support groups, or clinics, or doctors)
A good healthy diet normally means having a good healthy balanced diet. No pills, no surgery. With exercise, you will even look glam with your slim built, because you will be so toned!
If you wanted to know what your genes will dictate when you get older, just look at your parents and your relatives. If they are slim as you are now, you will probably be remain slim 20-40 years from now. But if you see some of them overweight, then observe what they eat. Which means, your healthy eating habit should start from now. And when you are 50, young men will think you are still in your early 30s! Woohoo! lol
Be beautiful, inside out!
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): I'm very slim and I find I have 'fat' (not actually fat but just a state of mind) days when I feel bloated or some clothes don't fit properly. I think you might be over analysing yourself. The fact your boyfriend thinks you look amazing should really boost your confidence - but its not. Try and see if you can go for a few days without worrying about your weight. If you struggle with this I would say you may need to seek help with self-perception or esteem issues because you are certainly not overweight.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Using a few online body mass indicators, they say you are underweight. So certainly you are not overweight! Since your perception is clearly not in line with reality, you should believe your boyfriend. And if you find that impossible, then I recommend talking to a therapist.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (19 April 2009):
 For 5.2 you are at your ideal weight if not under weight. I think you have a disorder, you should seek professional help. Take care of the problem now.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): It really depends on your frame. I'm 5'3 and weigh right under 100 lbs but I'm small boned and my doctor says I'm at a good weight. I can't imagine you'd need to lose wieght at all. If you are larger boned, you may be underweight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Your boyfriend. I'm also 5'2". I'm 34 and most of my life have weighted below 100 pounds too (86-95 pounds). It wasn't until I could afford to buy lactose tablets and I could tolerate milk and dairy that I started to gain and maintain a little weight. Maybe because you are very young it doesn't look that bad and you fell OK being so thin but I've struggled all my life with lots and lots of rejection because I was "too skinny". I had a very low self esteem and did everything to gain weight but nothing worked. Today I fluctuate between 106-110 pounds and I look much much better. I find clothes more easily and I look more like a woman. I really wish I could do something to stay in at least 115 pounds forever without efforts. I suggest you to gain some weight of you can. Or at least understand that you cannot be right thinking that at 5'2" weighting only 97 pounds you are too fat. It's not true and it doesn't make any logical sense. Some people could think you are some kind of anorexic or something so stop believing that at 97 pounds and adult could be too fat.
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