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writes:hey guys,basically i'm a student, i left school and went to college for 2 years to study health care, i am now in my first year at uni. the thing is, i am only doing nursing because it's what everyone wants. well.. my dad has always sort of pushed me into it. i know he just wants whats best for me, but seriously, he would have a fit if i left, but i don't want to do it anymore! i do enjoy it, but i don't want to do it anymore, i want to go into the police! what do i do? do i continue this for everyone or do what i want? he's so proud of me with what am doing, he'll resent me if i leave it. after 3 years of studying it, people are saying aw you've come so far to just stop now! i have even got a lecturer picking on me, she is always giving me into bother for nothing, i want away from her aswel. everythings getting at me! any advice? x Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Do what you want to do. Be true to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Do what you want to do. Your dad may resent you if you do quit it and change career path, but if you carry on with nursing after uni when you don't want to, then you may end up resenting your dad because you felt he pushed you into it. As birdy said, I think it's a good idea to carry on with the degree, because it would be a waste of all the hard work you've put into this. Maybe there's a job in which you can combine nursing and police work? You can always go into police training after university if you still want to do that. About the lecturer...You could approach her and ask her why she's giving you aggro. Good luck with what you decide...And your dad will be proud of you whatever you choose to do :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Think very well what path you will choose. Before you think about quitting the nursing school, make sure you know the reasons why you wish to switch to the police school. It may be just a caprice, a way to rise above your parents' orders, to defy their authority because you have been feeling too protected, too sheltered, etc. If this is the case, it's not the wisest move. It's very risky to be playing around with your future. You probably have excellent grades in nursing school, that is why you dad is proud of you. Besides, you say you enjoy this school. Many people don't like what they study, you do say you are enjoying it so why then would you want to quit? I don't understand this. This is what makes me think it's rather an act of rebellion. If you decide to start from scrath nevertheless, make sure there is a way to "freeze" the year in your current school so you could go back to it if you later decide so... don't discard this possibility, especially that you're so irresolute. Make sure also that you are very well informed about what goes on in the police school, maybe participate to some of the classes there in case you are allowed to, or talk to students attending this school and ask them to give you an insight into how life is there. Finally, if you are convinced this is what you wish to do, inform your parents and tell them you have to choose your own way, but be patient with them, allow them the time to get used to the idea and also... to advise you, to persuade you, to show you the path they deem fair, it's only normal they would be preoccupied and try to help. Best wishes.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Well, I'm coming from the other end of things. It's one thing to not follow your chosen degree, but it's such a waste of time to NOT get that degree after spending time and money on it. The degree will always be on your CV and you can reinstate it and use it, with minimal training, if you change your mind in the future. A nursing degree is a very good thing to have and fall back on.
My brother didn't finish 2 degrees, and finally got one in his 30's, after marrying and having kids - that was much harder. AND he could have had 3!!! My parents were MORE upset about the money and time that he wasted!
There's no harm in not following your degree after you finish it - and it will prove to your parents that you have the will to follow things through to the end. If you quit every time you run in to a difficult person, then you are in for a lot of disappointment. Running away is only going to have you quitting a LOT! You are never going to be in a perfect situation, life is going to have bumps and difficulties, and people are not always going to be your best friends. You are going to learn more by your mistakes and failures than by choosing the easiest path. Having a nursing degree is probably compatible are a bonus on your police application. You can also look into your local police force requirements while you are studying, to make sure that you are an acceptable candidate to apply (not everyone gets in). In the meanwhile, I'd prove to may parents that I can finish what I started. You could even become a paramedic with your training. There are lots of ways to use that degree!
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Ok, ultimately you will not be happy in life if you don't do what you want to do. This is your career and college helps determine what you will be doing for the rest of your life and you will be miserable if you are doing something you dont love. Its tough because you are 3 years in but maybe you could get your degree in health care to fall back on and go for the police test afterwards. You just have to sit down with your parents and tell them that you are not happy with doing health care and you really want to go into the police. Ask them, "dont you want me to be happy? I am an adult now and I have to make my own decisions for my own career after school. I can't keep doing what you tell me to do." I hope everything works out and I helped you a little bit. Good Luck and remember you know whats best for you!
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reader, ellziebub +, writes (19 April 2009):
Hey hunni,you should always study what YOU want and whats best for YOU. your dad might be really disapointed and even angry at you, but if your not interested in doing health care, then you will be constanly wishing you had chosen a different path. If policing is what you want to do, do it! Face it, whats the worst your dad can do? eventually he will accept that you werent meant to be a nurse, and he will always love you no matter what you do. It dosent matter what people think of your decision, as long as its what you want to do.x
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