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*azedbymaxxie
writes:I am a 15 years old and while the other girls in my class are getting sexually active, i am just not feeling it. I had struggled with my sexuality in the past and was wondering whether this sort of non responsive state was normal or acceptable at my age. Please if you can help do, I really really need to know. Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (20 April 2009):
 Every individual's growth is different. I was a late bloomer and a bit of a tomboy. In fact, I did not "fill up" physically until in my late 30s lol, then I really freaked out. I would say, my best years only started after college, but I enjoyed all my high school years immensely.
Please do not worry about your sexuality not being as "developed" as your friends are. With it, comes a lot of responsibilities, that frankly speaking, include tough decisions to make. Such as,
-- STD/STIs (some minor and easily cured by antibiotics, but some are potentially life threatening, e.g. HIV/AIDs),
-- pregnancy (healthy? ectopic? wanted? unwanted? abortion? adoption? etc),
-- broken heart (us women tend to link sex with emotional bonding with our male partners more than men with women, unfortunately)
Have a look at these, and see that you are just fine!
Teen Sexual Development Stages - Girls http://parentingteens.about.com/cs/pubertyingirls/l/blsexstagesgirl.htm
Teen Sexuality http://www.womenshealthcaretopics.com/teen_sexuality.htm
Sexual health for teens http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
Teen Sexuality and Dating http://www.education.com/topic/teen-sexuality-dating/
Sexual Development in Tweens & Teens http://www.kidsdevelopment.co.uk/sexual-development-tweens-teens.html
Adolescent Sexual Health http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/Newsletter/FPN_6_9.html
Enjoy your fun teen years. But remember, respect and integrity should be an important part of your fun years!
Cat
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Nothing is wrong with you. Stay true to yourself, and only have sex when YOU are ready. They think that by having sex they are being more grown-up, but really they are opening themselves up to a host of sexually transmitted diseases. Your life is just beginning, don't end it with a mistake that could give you a disease and/or hurt you.
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (19 April 2009):
 Hey, its completely normal. People at 15 really dont know what love is and they are not ready to take it to that level. I really wouldnt worry about it. Im 19 and a sophmore in college and I still dont have the urge to have sex and Im really not worried about it. You just have to wait until you find someone really special and make sure your responsible and wait a certain amount of time in a relationship before you do that because then it will make it more special and make sure you are not pressured by anyone. You have the power to say no. Hope this helps. Good luck!
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): no there not they just telling that to be cool.its lies .people told me that stuff when i was age.don,t believe every thing you hear or see.and no its acceptable for you age .may be in college level you experiment do sports instead.
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reader, playbunni +, writes (19 April 2009):
i dnt really understand the questions but sweetheart i was raped by my last boyfriend who i was with for a year when i was 14 and 15. its not worth it. they are active with people that dnt love them and dnt care about them and i can assure u u will regret it. the only advise i can give u dolly is please wait until YOU are ready and u are happy in a relationship with someone who loves u and u love them. hope this helps. best of luck...x
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