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writes:Dear agony aunt, I am 26 years old... and I can't think like it. My best friend is a guy(D). We love each other and it's quite deep and we are physically intimate. We can't marry cuz we both belong to different religions. So the heart of the matter is that D started dating this girl(Y) I've known... and then D and I became too open with our feelings for each other... but now I can't stand Y, who keeps creeping on me.. even though D has sworn he loves me but I feel broken.. cuz it's getting out of my hands.. and I don't want to impose myself on him and I don't want to give him a me-or-her situation... but I feel betrayed that he won't quit with her... and it hurts... D is my best friend.. I can't avoid him, I can't have him and I can't let anybody have him other than me... what should I do... it's unfair for both of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): I'm sorry, but how is it YOUR religion that you cannot be with your best friend and the love of your life?
Its your RELIGION not to be with the one you love??
Or are you just inheriting SOMEONE ELSE'S belief system?
And where is the truth, integrity and self-respect in that?
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 Let him go. Maybe become friends with someone who is part of your religion? Idk if you can or not, depending on your religion.
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reader, bootyboot +, writes (20 April 2009):
if you definitely can't have him, then i think you have to let him go. if you take a break from him and quietly dissapear for a bit, you will find out his true intentions. either he will dump Y and come for you, or you'll lose touch and then move on.
i know it is extremely painful to be in love with someone you can't have. but it happens so often to people. it's unfortunate that you can't be together because of religion, that i don't understand. why does your religion keep you apart?
i think you need to quit this guy if he's dating someone else. just find a new hobby to immerse yourself in to distract from him.
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reader, ButterflyKisses +, writes (19 April 2009):
If you can't have him and you do love him, I would put his happiness first. Good luck.
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