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*aceyRay50
writes:Ok guys heres the deal. After reading this you may think I'm being silly and overreacting. But I need some honest, genuine answers. I have recently began driving lessons with a very handsome 30 year old man. I am 17 and have only had 6 lessons with him so far. I am extremely attracted to him and I often feel asthough he feels the same way. Tell tale signs MAY include:*When I mentioned I went to a concert with a family member, he probed the question by asking who else I went with*If i accidentally touch his leg changing gear he does not move it away*He always laughs at my jokes and tries to make me laugh*He mentions conversations we have had in the past within future conversations*When we were talking about my friend calling her baby a funny name, he asked me what I would call my baby if I had one right now*He's really friendly*When he wrote on my appointment card, he handed it to me, but before I could retrieve it he took it back playfully saying,,'you were in a rush to get that back'*He maintains eye contact and he sometimes blushes if I look at him and make him laugh.*He always starts conversations with me and asks me questions about the conversation we had even if it had ended ten minutes agoThe age gap is no big deal to me. Please tell me, from what I have told you, what you honestly think. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Well, of course. The age difference isn't supposed to be a big deal to YOU right now.
Most younger girls are at least sort of attracted to older guys regardless of whether it's a good idea to do anything about it or not. And most older guys are attracted to younger girls whether it's good or not. There's no particular maturity or immaturity about either side here, it's just normal physical attractions.
It's mostly HIM that stands to suffer from the rest of the world if this continues into a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): First of all, if you go for it then i think you should wait until you're 18 so that you don't get him inany sort of trouble.
Poeple can't help the way they feel, regaurdless of age. In the name of love, there isn't anything wrong with being far apart in age, but several will probably be a little sickened seeing it in public anyway. Are you willing to deal with the stares and judgement of other people? And do you think he would be willing? Poeple will probably look down on him heavily for it too. Don't take this thing you ahve with him to a level that you don't think you and him can handle in the future. I don't see anything wrong with it, but just be prepared, because a lot of people will.
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reader, princess_sweety  +, writes (19 April 2009):
that is quite flirty, but i wouldn't get your hopes up. Have you asked him questions about his family? Like if he's married or anything? You can subtly do so by asking how he spent his weekend, and with who.
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reader, healingprocess  +, writes (19 April 2009):
I believe age is just a number also, but at 17 and him being 30 I think that gap is just a bit to big, but love works in many ways and you can't control who you love and also most men don't start maturing until their 30's anyway. So if you think it feels right then hay go for it, first ask your mothers opinion on it, don't tell her who it is and see what she says then you will know forsure if it can work (meaning you don't want to start something and then you can never bring the man home to meet your parents)it will cause alot of strain on you home life.
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