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writes:How come I would choose my ex over anyone? Like if he wanted to come back... well he has a girlfriend and he tried getting back with me but I didn't really tell him how I felt so now he's back to her and he said he'll always love me, he just doesn't want to be with me because I will leave him and the girl he's with now won't. Which isn't true... but just I miss him so much and I try so hard to get over him but I can't do it.. please help if you can thanks.x
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (20 April 2009):
 "I try so hard to get over him but I just can't do it." Rome wasn't built in a day! This might take longer than you want it to. Some people we probably never get over really. Just don't spend all of your time thinking about him. Go out and do fun things with your friends, and sometimes things by yourself.
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reader, lola16182  +, writes (19 April 2009):
Hunny you are so young!
Can I ask how long the 2 of you dated for? And how/who ended it? And how long ago did you break up?
It just gives a little more perspective of ways to help you deal. If this boy is saying things about how he loves you but won't be with you because he is convinced you will leave him, I may be wrong but it sounds like an excuse. I may be wrong & he might be telling the truth...but from past experience an ex-boyfriend telling you he loves you but is dating someone else is sort of their way of keeping you as a "back-burner" which is basically he wants to keep you on hold and within his reach so that if things don't work out with his current girlfriend he can come crawling back to you. If he is around the same age as you...you guys are so young and have your whole lives ahead. He is too young to settle down and probably wants to "play the field" to see what else is out there.
Another question, are you two stil in contact (through phone, internet or in person?) This can be a big barrier to getting over him. The best way is to cut contact because you can adjust to life without him, but then if you go see him or call him you lose any progress you made because your heart will go back to thinking how you wanted to be with him. You need to keep busy. Do you work or play any sports? Hang out with friends more. Anything you have of his (gifts, pictures etc.) you should put into a box and store out of site to avoid any reminders.
Hope this helps, good luck!
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