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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a friend and she is great. She makes me happy just to be around her. She knows exactly how to make me smile. We work in the same store and she is a manager now and I'm a regular employee. She used to be a specialist wich means when the managers aren't around she is the boss. That's when I met her. We were both seeing other people at the time. The girl broke my heart and left me. I went into a state of who gives a fuck I didn't care about anything or anyone. This girl I worked with let's call her d, she just came up to me one day and said let's go to lunch. D never before said more than three words to me so I figured what the hell. I went to lunch with her. She drove me out I bought. She told me her entire life story. She's been in a lot of abusive relationships. The relationship she was in was going nowhere. The guy had no idea what he had and just used. I became her shoulder to cry on. One night she invited me over and introduced me to her daughter. The kid is beautiful and smart as hell. That night we got a little drunk and I kissed her. We began making out. I continued for hours into the night just kissing. I actually felt nervous when I kissed her. I've been in countless relationships and wouldn't exactly consider myself an expert but I have been through all kinds of relationships so I know a great deal. I really felt nervous kissing her. Then she stopped and started to cry, calling herself a cheater, breaking down. I picked her up and told her you are not a horrible person. I made a choice to kiss you, you are a great person, woman and mother and this guy is the luckiest man alive to have you. I then carried her to bed tucked her in and slept on the couch. She invited me into her bed and I went in. We listened to her ipod. I waited till she fell asleep then I tucked her in and slept on the couch. I continued to take her out to lunch. Then one day she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. From then on every time we hung out we ended up kissing or making out. One night we had sex. We both were a little intoxicated. After that night we stopped hanging out for a while. We went to the gym about every other week but we no longer drank together. After a couple more weeks she got the promotion. Then I told her we couldn't really be together like we used to. I didn't want her to lose her job. We continued to text and talk. Then one night I got completely drunk and drunkenly text her. I told her everything. She told me about it the next day. I was ashamed and tried to play it off. Months go by and we continue our "friendship" over the phone. One night she comes by my house. We sit in her car and just talk for hours. I gave her the inside piece to my dead uncle's cross while I kept the outside. She wears every day. I tell her that we cannot drink any more because I didn't want to become the reason she lost her one source of income. Sorry about the novel but I feel to get a better answer it's better for you to know me better. Now my question is: I'm leaving my job for the military. What do I do? If I ship out I'm gonna lose her but if I stay I can't have her. How can I be with her in the position I'm in? We are really great friends and yet I'm in love. Do I leave her and move on? Do I tell her? Do I quit my job and try to find another in these hard times? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): hey man i know what you mean and i think you should stay with her because u sound really into her!!! you guys have been into a lot and you should talk to her and tell her how you feel!!!! love can beat anything trust me!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
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